Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) and we have known each other since he was 15! he is 19 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me?? (link)
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hmm this is tough..for 1 19 year olf wiht a 15 year old...if you are truthful..they will get really amd..unless they realy like him...then they might forgive you.
what are your paresnt like..super strict.
I would be freaked out..but later on..after 18..it is not so bad.
Only you know your parents...if they freak..you might have to hide this for awhile..i do NOT like to say that...but you are in a paickle.
I am osrry I didnt help...THIS IS A TOUCHY SUBJECT FOR MOST PARESNT.
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okay well i have been talking to this guy online and on the phone almost every night for about a year and 1/2 and even though i have never actually physically met him i think i have fallen in love with his personality. we only live about an hour away and i am friends with his cousin who lives near me, so its very possible that we could meet whenever we wanted to. well i do want to meet him to maybe try to start a relationship, but the problem is that i sent him a fake picture of me. not just one fake picture, but i have sent him websites..TONS of fake picures saying that they were me. so now he has this image of a beautiful girl in his mind. its not that im afraid he will think im ugly at this point, but i am afraid to admit that i sent him alllll those pictures. its extremely embarassing.. and i didnt do it just once, ive done it ALOT!!! i dont know what to do..if i never meet him then it will break my heart and i think i will be missing out on something really great...what should i do? i know this is pathetic..please dont be rude i just need help!! (link)
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oh....man..ok...how far way from the pic are you?? was this a model picture...i did that once..but it was an old picture to some freind(and I haad changed a lot!!)...so i feel for you.
Ok..fess up..but it may be that the cousin has said something..send a picture...have a friend take one..chin slightly up, flattering clothes good makeup..and tell him..that you just did not want to disappoint him..but you could not do this anymore...
did he send a picture to you?? If not he may not be the cover boy either(most guys in newspaper ads like about their looks too!)
so fess u..find a really good picture of you..and cross your fingers....have faith...ok..am totally hoping this all works out.
Ps lots of people do what you do..does not make it right..but really undertandable...
Pss i wuld never be rude..this is serious to YOU!
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how do you know if a girl is devirginized based on her physical outlook and socialization??
does it easily show?
thank you......... (link)
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ok..no offense..but why is it ANY of your business??Are you a guy and hoping to score..so let me tell you just becasue a girl is not a virgin does not make her easy.
So...NONE of your business..and no you cannot tell..
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i used to go out with this guy. he wasnt exactly a loser but some ppl thought he was. so i got really insecure about it and stupidly dumped him. this happened about 4 weeks ago. lately i have started to regret dumping him and i miss him so much!! should i tell him this? (link)
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Yes no matter if he takes you back..you owe it to him..to soothe his hurt feelings..that YOU let peer pressure rule you..that you are VERY sorry and even if he does not take you bakc..that you still care and are very sorry...DO it!!!NOW!!
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I love my boyfriend very much, and he is just the sweetest thing to me. I wouldn't trade him for anybody else. My parents don't think he's a good influence on me, and want us to break up. If he doesn't change soon they'll keep us from seing each other and talking.
He's 2 years older than me, in high school when I'm still just a middle schooler. I met him through my younger brother's theatre group, he is a wonderful actor and an even better singer. I knew who he was for almost a year, but never talked to him since he was older, and I wasn't even in the play. some time in september he noticed me at the theatre group. We began talking on the computer and on the phone for several weeks until he asked me out. my parents had been sorta skepetical about the whole thing with an older guy from the begining, but let me go out with him anyway.
There have been a few times that I couldn't do or go places with him because he was older, or because my parents didn't think I was ready to do things. He takes things rather personally and got really upset with them, being extremely rude about them in his online diary. Later, after the problems had been solved, my dad found the website, nad was really disappointed in what he saw. That was about 3 weeks ago. My parents have never let go of the fact that he and I made out in front of my little bro, something both of us will never do again. They also like to rub in my face that he is very emmotional, and materilistic and they point out all his bad traits. They fail to mention how sweet he is to me, how well we get along, how he calls me every day no matter what, and comes to watch me ride horses when any other guy would be bored to death.
Last friday one of our friends told him that I was cheating on him with my ex. Which so didn't and will never happen. I told him so on saturday, and he believed me until he talked to her again, and on sunday he was mad at me. I felt so bad, being accused of something that he knows that as a person, I would never do that. Anyways, he hugs all his friends that are girls. I told my mom, and she almost had be convienced to break up with him.
Yesterday, I was talking to him on the phone, and I told him he needed to be more respectful to my parents. He replied with "I dont give a what your parents think" I then told him that why my mom was letting me use the phone before I was finished with homeworkd and chores was because I was supposed to break up with him, but that I didn't want to. He got all upset and got off the phone.
I dont know what to do, I want him to be able to get along with my parents, and I want them to see all the good things I see in him. How should I let him know that my parents thnk he is a bad influence, emotional, rude in his diary ect. ect. without making it sound like thats how I feel, and that they still like him well enough as a person. I agree with a few of the things they say, and I want him to know and to fix those things, but I dont want to sound rude, or demanding. Sorry about the question being so long, thanks so much if you can help me! (link)
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ok..unitl you are older..yeah they are not going to like him..middle schooler high schooler..right now..i am like woahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
But...he does need to be respectful of your parents...see everytime he is ugly to them..he is making your paresnt say to themselve..see..i was right..dont you get it..paresnt LONG to be right..prove them wrong tell him to shape up..any guy sho is NOT respectful of your paresnt..in a few weeks, months or wahtever..will be DOGGING you too...
How would you like for YOUR middler schooler to be dating a rude older high school guy??(dont tell me you will be ok..for teh kids that give their paresnts the MOST troubl..become the STRICTEST paresnt..ever..lol trust me...an expert here)
So..here is the converation..you know.._____ you are making them REALLY not like you..so unless you are willing for them to forbid me to see you..fake BRING nice ok..love me..love my paresnt..
Come on..he can do this..ok..FOR YOU!!!
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ok i have been going out with a girl for quite a while now. we love each other both very much and we know what "love" is...but we have been thinking...about sex. we have already did a couple of things with each other already but other than that we are both still virgins but we are thinking about sex and we are going to go ahead and try it soon possibly even tomorrow or within this week...is this moving too fast...since we know each other and talked it through? and what should i do about this since its our both first time having sex? (we are using protection by the way) thanks for listening (link)
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is this how you want your first time to be?? I would think that the first time would be becasue the love that you sahre..makes you feel almost like dying when you are not wiht them.
you both will remeber this day for teh rest of your lives. Make it special..amke it worth while..if there is any dobut..wait..for in the end..you only get..one first time..
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I have an older sister who's absolutely gorgeous . and even though she's quite horrible to me , she always acts nice in front of everyone else . especially guys . recently , i realised that i liked this guy friend of mine , A LOT . more than friends . even though i'm quite cute and stuff , my sister always gets WAY more attention than me . especially with this guy . it hurts me when i see them sitting together , talking , my sister in her seductive voice , and him smiling .it hurts a LOT . WHAT SHOULD I DO ? (link)
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Your sister might be hot but she is WAY jealous of you..jeez..how crappy is that to come on to your sister bf?? See she is really insecure..
So if this guy really digs you...then NOTHING is going to get in his way..but if he does go after your sister..well she and your guys are bad news.
i ouwld be so casual about everything..see she wants you to get upset..if you do not..maybe she will go away.
Ps she needs some therapy..scamming on yor sis guys is way BAD!!
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Just when I finally get over my ex boyfriend he comes back into my life. He calls me out of nowhere saying that he wants to be a one woman man. I can not describe how I feel about him and I don't know why I have these feelings the way that I do. We broke up about three years ago for something that I did. We did attempt to try again several times but it was never the same because he's the type that has a problem about trusting females. I know that I really do want us to try again even though I know that he has so much drama with him. Last year I told him how I felt, but I honestly think that he didn't want to hear it at that time. He keeps giving me all these mixed signals and I am tired of it. He didn't call me and a week and who knows when the next time I'll hear from him. I just want to know what I should do about this situation because it seems as if fate keep bringing us together and he always looks at me as if he want to say something but he don't. It's alot more to the story but that's the main facts. (link)
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Honey..they ALL come bakc one time or another. I have yet to date..well I am married now..but when I was not..they ALL came bakc. Usually when I was dating someone else. See they get out in the REAL world..date tohers..then realize..huh she was a GOOd deal.
To me..you have your answer..any guy that you have to wait at least a week to hear from you..is just not that inot you..which by the way is a great book...wish I had had it when I was still dating..
You do NOT need any more dramam..this guy is bad news..so if he calls just cut him off quick..and move on...He is totally past history!
i know this is hard..i went back with one of my past historys..boy did i regret the time I spent on him..and he was one of those who never called(see while he was not calling me..he was seeing someone else!!)
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I met this guy about a few months ago that lives around my way. We started dating about three weeks after I met him. I thought he was someone that could just be someone to chill with time to time. Well all of a sudden he acts as if he's all into me. He have been telling me that he loves me and that he wants me to be his wife and that he don't want to ever let me go. I think he's a cool person to chill with, but I do not feel the same way that he do about me. The bad part is, is that I don't know how to tell him because I do not like to break people's hearts but I don't like to pretend either. I know that I have to tell him soon because Christmas is around the corner and I don't want him to get me nothing crazy. I just don't know how to tell him. (link)
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Woah anytime anyone gets that hot heavy all at once...i run..ok..see that is just plain crzy talk..
you have to tell him..for if you do not he could totally stalk you..ok..so say the words that YOU want to hear..if the roles were turned around..be nice..nbe kind..but do it soon!!!
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well ive been talking to this boi jeff for 3 weeks and my friend kathryn said that jeff said he don't like me..if he don't like me why does he alwayz want to come up n junk im so confussed he ignored me yesterday after the parade..i talked to him forlike 3 mins. n the band room cause i was with tara but he ignored me after that never did talk to me again...should i talk to jeff about this or believe kathryn and still ask jeff about it??
please i need help on this
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Kathryn needs to get a life..even if it were true..why would she say this to you. Yeah go around the MIDDLE girl and ask him.
Now he may not say what YOU want him too..but better out of his mouth than yours.
Ps kathryn..what is the deal??Does SHE like him??
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Okay, about two weeks ago, I told one of my really close guy friends that I liked him. I thought I did because I knew he liked me ALOT too.. He would do anything for me, etc, so I thought that I liked him too. So I told him. But now Im seeing that I really dont have those kind of feelings for him at all. I feel horrible because he seems so happy now because he thinks I like him back... I dont know what to do :-/ I really dont want to talk to him about it because its really messed up.. any advice on how to handle it without talking to him? Thanks in advice. (link)
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oh man..it is so eary to do what you did..somone likes you..it feels good..boom..then you get to really know them..and nada there.
You ahve to talk to himm..how are you going to break up...just blow him off..he will be more hurt by that..just say that you just do not like him the same way..yeah he will be hurt and mad...but in the end..he will remember that you were honest wiht him.
Please you HAVe to have a talk wiht him..the other options are..what keep dating him..make him hate you?/never return his calls...
Seems to me..a heart to heart talk ..is easier..
Good luck..will be thinking of you.
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Hi,
I don't know where to begin. At the moment I am in a state of flux, I seem to be either terribly depressed and generally fed up, or just downright angry. I've been with my partner for approx 8.5years, and like most we've had our ups and downs. He's a good deal older than me, however i've never saw that as an issue, apart from when his kids have tried to split us up. All his kids are now over 16, however he has one adult son, who's now 30, who for want of a better phrase is just a bad lot. He is periodically in and out of jail and until a few months ago, his father had little if no contact with him. However his girlfriend has just had a baby and it's all changed, again i seem to have been pushed aside and I resent it like hell, particularly when the baby has now been taken into care and the son has been proven to be up to his old tricks again. I can't cope with this, I just feel so unloved and miserable and constantly seem to be picking fights with my partner. It's stressing him out, it's stressing me out and I think I'm turning into an alcoholic to boot. I hate him (the son), it's irrational and nasty but i can't help it. He tried to split us up years ago and I just can't understand why his father can't see through him and understand how I feel. I try to tell him but just end up losing the plot, going off on one and then berate him (my partner) for even breathing. I think if he would just take me away for a few days and just get us out of this enviroment it might help, but it's like talking to a brick wall trying to get through to him. We don't even get 5mins alone at home as his 16 year old has moved in after getting into bother whilst living with his mum. I'm just sick of it all and realise I'm pushing my partner away but don't know what to do to stop myself from doing it. we've just had a noher fight and I've said some terrible things and to be honest I think this might actually be the last straw for him.
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You knw..no matter what about kids...the couple has to be first. Ok..now as this is a grandchild..that he is pushing you asdie for...no way..give me a break..seems to em..that you ahve put up wiht a TON of crap
Is he a dgood provider??good in bed..nice guy??
You come first..not the son..see the son is totally pulling the father's strings..but//and this is a big but..when paresnt split up...the kids sometimes never accept it.
You ahve to talk to your partner..tell him that you accept certain things if he puts you first. Which if he did..you would not care what he did wiht his son.
He may choose his son over you...a parent will never see their children thought anything but rose glasses...
You have to decide today..what YOu really want..him..wiht teh son..which will be forever..or not..but if you do..you are going to have to swallow a lot.
it might help if you two went to couples therapy ..the person might get him to see what he is doing to you..
good luck!!!
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Is it possible to change certain characteristics that you don't like about yourself? Recently there have been things that I've done that I normally wouldn't do that have made me and my bf get into fights. They're little fights, and we always end up resolving them, but in the end I feel like a complete idiot for making such a big deal out of certain things. I want to change the way I react to things, and the way I think about certain things. Do you think that's possible?? Any suggestions? (link)
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this is so me..it take a lot of hard work..you have to chaange how you think about things first..and then make an effort NOT to do them...
I real books about bad behavior and Dr. Phil has been really good. Take one thing at a time. I decided not to talk badly about people..and let me tell you..this has been hard..as everyone wants to do that.
About the fights..count to 50 girl..no way you can yell at someone if you count it off..or walk away..
remember when you yell..you actually are LOSING the argument..
I do the same thing about a big deal..now..i just keep my mouth shut..it is working..people are like..what has happened to you..takes a HUGE effort to keep it shut..but..it is worth it.
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my relationship of 5 years is going down the drain. we have a one and a half year old. today he got upset because he could not find me. he was at work and i went to school to do some papers. when he got off of work he called me a bitch and a whore and he did not believe me that i was at school. i was about to go back to school for class so he hid my makeup, messed up my hair, and threw laundry around the house. then he followed me to school with his bright head lights on. my son was crying and i told my boyfriend to change his diaper and put him to sleep while i go to school cuz he was fussy. his reply was he was not going to do shit. i am stuck as what to do. i do not work much cuz i am a college student. is it ever ok to tolerate this kind of behavior. it is becoming regular. what should i do and how can i do it? i am bad at making decisions, especially the right ones. thanks for listening. (link)
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You are not bad at making decisions..you have a child and are wondering how you will support it and whether you should leave him..for how he treat you.
Thsi guy si bad news...what happens whne he stops being nice..i mean he is stalking you and does nto trust you...he does not take care of HIS child too..and treats you like dirt.
can you move in with your parents until you either get a job or get child support.
But..please PLESE listen to me..do NOT tell him what you are planing..he will FLIP out..ok..make your decision..leave...w/o even giving him a clue...
Ok..i am very worried about you...
you spent 5 years..please give your child a better chance..ok...but BE CAREFUL!!!
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its the same guy from the other one that thought he was losing a frend...great advice we worked things out....well now i kinda like her and she can sometimes forget im even there...idk what to do i want her to awnser me but at the same time i dont wanna feel desperate. can u help? (link)
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sometimes people do ignore us...it is just they are starring in their own drama...you could play games like ignoring her or being real casual...like oh..hi...but that either works REALLY well or you totally lose the person...
I would be super casual..for some reason ...girls just like guys who are super cool (like INTO them..but NOT showing it)
I actually am really stinking on this one..i am sorry...when it comes to women...you just cannot win..so..play it casual..say hi..then talk to someone else(really good if it is a girl!!)
What is she doing when you say hi...is she wiht a group of girls?? That might be the reason too. Say hi to her alone if you can and see what she does...Peer pressure is a B***H!
Good luck...ps if you do figure this chick out..PLEASE post what YOU did!
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sorry this is so long but i REALLY need ALOT of help...please read it...=(
my friend told me that my boyfriend was cheating on me with TWO other girls..we dont go to the same school but we see eachother ALOT and her cousin goes to his school and said that he has other girlfriends. i love my boyfriend so much and just before she told me all this my boyfriend was on the phone telling me how much he loves me and stuff. i asked his friend about it because hes my really good friend too and he said he didnt know anything about it and he doesnt think my boyfriend would do something like that to me. i dont know. he wasnt home last night when i called so it kind of made me suspicious. i'm going to call him today and ask him about it but i dont know how to ask him. i dont know if i should believe him if he says no either. what if he is? i dont THINK my friend would lie to me, but i never even met her cousin. and lately my boyfriends kind of been blowing me off though to be honest. like hes too busy for me. so i dont know im really confused. i dont know like if he says no im not cheating on you if i should believe him because what if he is? but i dont think he would admit it if he was. not many guys would be like OH YEA I AM CHEATING! you know? please help me.. (link)
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ok..whether or not she would lie is not the point.
You are going to have to ask him..ok...
Are you sure that she does not have some other motve...like jealousy?
if not then maybe you can do some detective work on your own or talk to your b/f cousin and find out the names of the girls.
Has he shown any kind of behavior?
I think the first person you should ask is him.
Either you trust him..or you do not...
but in the end..it is YOUR call
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Okay....I've liked this guy for almost 3 months, we don't even go out and I had sex with him. I know that's bad but I let all the influence get to me. Well that same day, him and his friends was playin on my cell, and when me and my friend was walkin home, I was looking through my phone and his phone #'s were gone, so I my friend called his cell, and he gave us his "supposed" house number....well my friend called it the other day the number was wrong. I was sooo mad. Plus he told his friends what happened between us now they think they gonna get some from me and their not. It's like he used me for sex but he says he didn't. I like him for the better side of him cause I know it's there. But I'm a good person and most pplz say that he's not worth me, but it's always been hard for me to get a boyfriend. So I don't wether or not I should try to stick with him or not.... (link)
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ok..no no no...
you know sex is supposed to be a utual thing wiht somone WHO cares about you..not a booty call.
Then..you have gotten the wrong number...
I would LOSE this USER big time..and amke sure the next guy i GIVE the HONOR of my body too..deserves it.
Ps I am sorry for being so harsh..but LOSERS like this make for women everywhere not to know when a GREAT guy comes along....
It is not hard for you to find a boyfriend...you just need to look in other places...they are out there.
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Okay, this is kinda compicated. So theres this guy i like. hes a year younger than me, hes 16 im 17, but i couldnt care less about that. last year, at homecoming, two of our mutual friends decided that he and i should go out. so they convinced him to ask me to homecoming. he really liked me. but i was still in the process of getting over this really complicated relationship/non-relationship which it has taken me until a few months ago to get over. i did have some feelings for this guy (the first guy) but i wasnt ready and i felt cornered cuz our two mutual friends were pushing for this so when he asked me,... i reacted pretty badly. as in not good. rejected him. not gently.now, hes hung up on these two different girls, one is an exchange student from new zealand. shes really nice, but ive talked to her about her and him, and she says itll never happen. the other girl is not allowed to date. so there's no problem except that he likes them. sometimes i get signals from him that make me think he likes me, and then hell make a comment about one of the other girls and im really not so sure. but i really like him. but im going to college in less than a year and we wont be in the same school or even the same city. well be in the same state though. im so confused. please help. (link)
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hey..call him..explain to him..that you were in not place to date anyone..that you just were not ready...if he wants to do something wiht you he will...but..DO NOT let your friends set up your love life...theings just get all MIXED up when others do things that you may or may not like.
So call him or talkt to him..if he wants to ask you out ..he will..if now..well that happens..it all about timing...
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hi
i went out with guy like 2 months ago who i really really liked but then he dumped me and i found out that he had been 2 timing me but he just said he didnt and even if he did it wasnt like we were married or anything but iw as really hurt. then we became rfiends and he said he wanted to be really good friends but whenever i see him he just ignores me but i still really like him and i think he sought of still likes me but is trying not to show it. I would love it someone gave me some advice as this is really very important to me!
love stef
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ok..i am sorry..but i believe in NOT 2 timing in any realtionship..call me old fashioned..but why be a b/f or g/f is you want to date others?
If he still liked you..he would ask you out...
To me it sounds like he gets all of it..gets to date whomever he wants..and your worship which he REALLY wants.
Dump him totally..move on..find a REAL guy who will worship you and date ONLY you...there are lots of them out there.
This guy is only going to give you more pain...FACT
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Okay.. I'm in love with my best friend whom i've known since kindergarten..but my best friend is also in love with him and she doesnt know i love him too. and he's been giving me these signals..but i have no idea wut to do..i dont wanna tell my friend b/c she'll get all mad at me and stuff..but i dont wanna ruin my relationshop w/ the guy..wut should i do? (link)
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If she has not gone out with him..then you should do what you think is best. But you may lose here. Is this guy so awesome he is worth losing your friend??
Sounds to me like you have been in love with him a long time...
A real friend would get over the fact that youa re dating him..but she may not.
This is tough...you have to decide which one is more important...to you....true love ..or a best friend...wow..
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