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im so stupid..:-/
Okay, about two weeks ago, I told one of my really close guy friends that I liked him. I thought I did because I knew he liked me ALOT too.. He would do anything for me, etc, so I thought that I liked him too. So I told him. But now Im seeing that I really dont have those kind of feelings for him at all. I feel horrible because he seems so happy now because he thinks I like him back... I dont know what to do :-/ I really dont want to talk to him about it because its really messed up.. any advice on how to handle it without talking to him? Thanks in advice.
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Just tell him the truth as nice as possible and well your obviously gonna hurt his feelings becuz like u said he really like you but if thats the way you feel then just be straight with him. Hope he understands. Good luck!
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Well theres no way to avoid hurting his feelings. You have to be straight with him and tell him. If not it'll hurt him more in the end. Things like this sucks i know. But theres no way to escape this scenario. So just be honest and tell him about it. Other wise things could ge intense n ugly.
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okay i dont know exactly what to tell you but you just told him that you liked him. Now you dont know what to do about the situation because of the fact that you told him. Well...honestly i think that you should wait a little while longer because you never kno if those feelings will come back..see what im saying. :)
hope that i helped
~Sammie~
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Well babe.. I'm srry but the only way to get through this without hurting him really bad.. is just.. telling him the truth.. tell him you thought you had feelings for him.. but the feelings have gone away because you realized you don't wanna mess up your friendship.. be really nice about it and just be like.. I think it's better that we are friends.. and let's just ignore this and not let it interfere with our friendship and tell him not to act different around you at all.. things like that!! I hope I helped! Rate me high!! lol Please!
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I used to like my best friend guy a while back ago,but then i didnt. though i never told him until we decided that we didnt want to be friends ne more. I think that your friend will be fine with it just tell him that you see him more as a friend and not a guy friend ne more. And dont feel stupid!
~Brina~
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Screwed as hell you are. Salvaging your friendhip is an almost impossible task now. No matter what anyone said, a guy will have real trouble returning to how things were. Now you can handle it in three ways (all of which were mentioned by others- I however will tell you the effect). First you can start acting like you dont like him (effect- he will make some passes at you, which you will reject, he will feel confused, angry and rejected). Second you can let him know by some other means than talking- internet, another friend (effect- you will appear as a gutless and insensitive goat, which will be true, he will be confused, angry and probably hate you). Three, you talk to him directly. This is the hardest but also the only one that has a small chance of success. Let me also add that you owe him that much and if your friednship meant anything at all you wont disrespect him any further.
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If you don't like him anymore then you to should just like hang out and stuff but make it straight to him youdon't like him or anything just that you want friendship.If you are really his friend you would talk to him or you can just ignore him and he will get the point.
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I think you need to tell him how you feel. Yea, he will be totally crushed but, if he likes you the way you that way, he will understand. Its going tobe hard but write him a note. Call him. Whatever you want to do it will be ALL ok.
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Hey hunnie.. lol you got your self what i like to call a dilema.. well you can't really not talk to him otherwise that leads to being a bad friend because your leading him on.. just put yourself in his shoes and go from there but like what i would do is just right him a letter or maybe a email that way you dont know when he is reading the email and your not dreading it just explain that if you 2 ever went out you feel like you'd totally bomb the friendship and maybe when you get older you could go out just not know.. and that you just dont think it would work out because it'd be odd and you can't have a odd relationship because that leads to a breakup and a breakup that ends from oddness can lead to not being friends and trust me on that one because its happaned to me and i learned but i explained to him that im sorry so we are friends now which im fortunate but sometimes that luck doesnt always come so good luck and i hope everything works out!!
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well you going to have to talk to him no matter what....but just tell him, its better then leading him on....tell him you still love him as a friend but tell him you think that yall are better off friends....hope this helps!!!
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oh man..it is so eary to do what you did..somone likes you..it feels good..boom..then you get to really know them..and nada there.
You ahve to talk to himm..how are you going to break up...just blow him off..he will be more hurt by that..just say that you just do not like him the same way..yeah he will be hurt and mad...but in the end..he will remember that you were honest wiht him.
Please you HAVe to have a talk wiht him..the other options are..what keep dating him..make him hate you?/never return his calls...
Seems to me..a heart to heart talk ..is easier..
Good luck..will be thinking of you.
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I used to have those kinds of problems. One way to tell him you rather be friends JUST friends is through the internet or something liek that. And you can just tell him that you don't want to ruin you guy's friendship and your happier as just friends and stuff like and tell him that you love him more asjust a friend. Good Luck
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the same thing happened to me..except he had asked me to home coming..then he wuz like dont u miss the way we used to talk? and stuff like that..he decided he didnt wunna go to hcoming with me anymore..decided to go with my friend...she dumped him cuz he wuznt gunna get her a mum..then he got a gf and it wuz all over with..so go with that approach..just say like i miss the way we used to talk, and how we used to be(realllly close, etc.) hope i helped!! rOcKeR4GoD
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i don't know what to say! i think you should tell him that you guys are great friends and you don't want to ruin it. it'd be bad to ruin something like that. hope that helped!
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