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would it be a turn off for a guy if the girl he's dating has never been with anyone before. not even like a first kiss? because im a freshmen and im starting to date this junior and he's really cute and stuff and has been with other girls, but i've never been with a guy before. is that a major turn off, or would it be a turn on? thanks for your advice!

aww i was exactly in your position 2 years ago =] anyways, i was a freshman, dating a junior. although i did have my first kiss already, i was unexperienced with everything else. if the guy isn't a jerk, he will help you with stuff and find it cute. my ex helped me through kissing, oral, sex, and basically just tought me everything. (we dated for 2 years). anyways, if the guy REALLY cares about you and isn't in it just for sex.. then it shouldn't matter to him. not to mention.. guys like virgins because they seem "untouched".. and they basically want to be the first.

last nite i was in my friends house, hannah + rach and we were all lyin up against rach other and rach started kissin me and i got off with her (french kiss) and we done it several times later that nite but my other friend hannah and me started kissin aswell but rach was lyk tryin 2 get my shirt off and stuff lyk that after it but i also had a gf but i wen over 2 see rach 2day and we were watchin the end of a film and then we started 2 make out on her bed and we agreed that it would the only time we would do it but wen we had stopped and wen out 2 go in 4 hannah and we started kissin in the rain and we were kissin lyk every 15 steps but these r my questions oh and i got off with hannah last nite but by accident

im 13 and hannah and rach r 14

1. did i cheat
2. was wat i did rong
3. and should i ask rach out cause we hav been best friends 4 10yrs nearly

thanx

yes you cheated. yes you were wrong. yes just break up with your girlfriend and ask rachel out.

i've been goin out with my gf for nearly a month but i still havnt told my family and either has she wen should we tell them and how ? i'm nearly 14 and she is 13. And we still havnt kissed wen should i go 2 kiss her ?
hey

you need to tell them flat out. you'll just piss them off if you keep it a secret for longer. if you want to kiss her.. just do it! tilt your head a little bit.. and just kiss her. it's not too difficult, just make sure it's a good time.

hey! i have a really big problem. so i dated this guy jake over a year ago now for almost 2 months. he dated thisgirl i knew and then they broke up after 2 years and me n him dated. which was quite crazy. anyways, we ended up breaking up bcz he cheated on me with her and they got back 2gether n have been on n off for almost a year. well, now he is dating sum other girl that idont know n the other day i messaged him on myspace, i havent talked 2 him since last year n i asked him for directions 2 get this oneplace we went 2 last year when we dated. he messaged back sayin he has nothing againts me n he knows he did some bogus shit n to give him a call ormessage when we wanna hangout for old times sake... so idont know if im taking this too overboard but he was my first realll bf that i reallylikedn my friend's birthday is coming up this weekend, and he knew her, thats how we met n began dating bcz his x was friends with my best friend n because of allthis she hated us... well i really do have feelings 4 him n want to ask him 2 come by but is it 2 weird?? but thing is... he never said sorry... what should i write back? thank you somuch

don't be stupid. he's with another girl. respect that. if he cheated on you once.. he'll do it again. don't give him a second of your time, even if you do still like him. he has a girlfriend and he's wanting to hang out with you? i'm sure he's wanting to do a lot more than just hang out. if he cheats on her with you.. don't you think that he'll just turn around and cheat on you AGAIN..? sure you can always try being "just friends" but that never works out when you still have feelings for him. tell him that you're not over what happened and don't want to hang out with him since he has a girlfriend.

17/f
My boyfriend, Isaac, of 3 months, has been different lately. He doesn't call as often and he barely ever asks me to hang out .. i'm always the one asking him to hang out. (We see each other a few times a week.. but it keeps getting less and less.) My friend Nicolas was talking to Isaac (they are friends) and asking him how things were between me and Isaac. He asked Isaac if he was getting bored with me yet. Isaac said he wouldn't mind seeing me just once a week, and he didnt want Nicolas to think he was "pussy whipped." So Nicolas told me all of this. But the thing is, i dont know whether or not to believe it, because Nicolas also likes me and is jealous of me and Isaac. But I dont think he would lie, but its possible. But I'm going to assume it is the truth because it all makes sense. What should i do about Isaac? Should i just call him less and lay low for a while or what? Thanks, sorry it was long, i will rate high :)

Instead of Nicolas being the middle-man, go straight to isaac yourself. There's a chance your friend could be jealous, which could cause him to lie. So in order to be sure, you should really just ask your boyfriend to hang out, and then talk to him face to face. It's terrible to have serious conversations over the phone, because they could always be lying. That way, when you're in person with him you can see his facial reactions and see what he really means. It looks like this guy thinks more about what his friends think (referring to "pussy-whipped") rather than what he thinks.

16/f
Ok, so I caught my boyfriend (of 3 months) in a lie. But I haven't confronted him yet. See, on New Years, he came over, and told me he had to leave by 11:45 because his parents said he had to be home by 12 because it is illegal to drive past 12 if you are under 18. So I was sad because I couldnt be with him at midnight. A few days later, I found out that he actually went and spent the night at a friends house. Should I confront him about this lie? If so, how should I confront him? Should I act upset, or not? thanks.

well that sucks. since you're just starting out in your relationship (3 months isn't that long) you should confront him about it, but don't act mad. that can come off as immature, but if you're upset about it, tell him. you could say "hey so did you have fun at your friends on new years?" and he'd probably forget he lied and tell you about it. OR, he could say you were suspicious and be offended (even though you're right).. either way, you need to talk to him about it!

If I'm on my period, and I have a tampon in, what should I do if, while making out, my boyfriend starts to put his hand down my pants? Should I assume he is going to finger me, and immediately warn him that I have a tampon in? If so, what/how should I say it? OR should I let him do whatever he is going to do, and then IF he DOES begin to finger me, should I THEN tell him to stop? Thanks for your help.

if he sticks his hand in your pants, he will most likely start to rub you, or finger you. either way he will find out you have a tampon in, and you might want to warn him ahead of time so that it doesn't gross him out. i wouldn't wait until you are making out, just say "wow i've got really bad cramps, i hate being a girl!" or something along those lines and if he has a brain he'll figure it out. :) i wouldn't wait until you're making out because that may ruin the moment. if you have any other questions feel free to ask.

hey this is the same girl who asked about the situation with my boyfriend and the 2 girls.. thank you so much for your help. i was just wondering, what would you do if you were in my situation??

i'd probably make my boyfriend stay home. that way he wouldn't get in trouble for any reason, whether it be him being reckless while under the influence of marijuana, or possibly doing something with my friends.

I'm 17/f if that helps.. My friends Lisa and Rachel (who are friends with my boyfriend) asked my boyfriend Derek to get them some weed (cause hes got connections). Then they asked him to drive them somewhere like a park so that they can smoke it.. and my boyfriend wanted me to come along. I dont want to go because i dont wanna smoke weed.. but i dont want my boyfriend to go and get high alone with 2 girls either. He told me that he wouldnt go if i didnt want him to. But it seems like he wants to go and i dont want him to feel like im controlling him.. should i let him go or not?

well, if you trust your boyfriend alone with your friends, then you should let him go alone. or you can tag along with them, and not smoke, just keep an eye on them. if he says that he won't go if you don't want him to, he may mean that or he's trying to make you feel bad and let him go. if you trust your friends alone with your boyfriend, then you should let them go alone, but if it were me, i'd tag along; or tell him that i'd rather him stay home so that he doesn't get into any trouble. if you have any more questions don't be afraid to ask. :)

ok so me and my boyfriend were going out for exactly 2 and a half days. I thought our thing was going great untell the 2nd day. I went to fnl and the next morning I got a call from his X GIRLFRIEND saying he hated me and he did not wanna be with me and he needed a brake after two and a half days!! I cryed so much because i really liked him and i don't understand what i did to deserve this!! Please help me and this is the 4th time we have gone out is it over or wat?

you should talk to him yourself, to find out if he really does want to break up. if that's the case, find out why. if this is the fourth time you've gone out.. then you've most likely broken up for the same reason before.

if you date a person more than once, then whatever caused the breakup will probably cause it again.

I used to like this girl in my math class and she's always had a big crush on me. I'd always be nice to her and let her borrow things when she asked, perhaps too much. I drove her home a few times from school and friend even advised me to ask her out, but she also likes my best friend and only showed more interest in me when she got mad at him and she hates him now, but now she apparantly likes some stupid mexican named Juan at her friends work, she asked me if I'd drive her to her friend work and I said "sure" at first, then she was like "do you even know why??" then I got really mad. This was like at the end of class, now I'm completely giving up on her, I'm not giving her a chance and I'm going to be bitter/mean/not talk to her for a while. If she can't decide what she wants I'm not going to put up with it.

Is this a good thing to do?

it sounds like this girl is just using you, and keeping you around for a backup. maybe if you show her that you really aren't willing to stick around while she treats you like shit, she'll have a reality check. don't be bitter, because being bitter makes you seem extremely jealous. just try to avoid giving her rides, letting her borrow things, etc. maybe if she sees that you have lost your respect for her, she'll grow the fuck up and stop playing with your head.

hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachotehr?

talk to your friend about it. you should definitely ask him about it before you ask her. he could feel betrayed and would probably get realllllly pissed off if you did that behind his back.

ok i'm 13/f and i love this guy so much and we're really good friends but thats all he thinks about me and he has told my friends that he only wants to be friends but i don't think that i can do that.i know i shouyld get over him but i really do LOVE him and its killing me that he doesn't feel the same way. what should i do? i'll rate 5

it might hurt you if you stay friends with him. that would be a constant reminder of what you don't have. maybe you should tell him directly how you feel, and not have your friends talk to him for you. say that it's hurting you that he doesn't feel the same way, so he can choose to date you, or you're sorry that you can't be his friend anymore. if you need more help then drop one in my inbox.

I am almost 15 and i have only had one real relashonship with a guy. it lasted about a year.
all of my friend have great boyfiend relashonships. but i don't, the only advice they can give me.(is to be the one to move first.) well i gess im a old fashion girl. i like the guy to ask first.

you're still young. trust me, somebody is out there for you. as for the old fashion girl thing, don't ask the guy out, just ask him to hang out. then become friends.. blah blah.. whatever. just make sure he's interested and that he knows you are too. then leave it up to him.

Do you think its wrong to be bisexual?

nope.

*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much

i don't really know how this guy is feeling, but it sounds like he just wanted a hook-up. like, a one-night thing. if he's your first love and you guys dating.. and you haven't cuddled/kissed? that doesn't sound too promising. i don't know how old you are, but usually couples at least hug and cuddle and junk like that.

he is ignoring you. he's lying because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and most likely does not want a relationship. i don't think that he likes you and is afraid to admit it; i just think he doesn't like you that way.

it's best to move on from guys like that. it really sounds like he wanted in your pants for that night only. because he keeps ignoring you and he may feel awkward about what happened.

if you need more help, drop one in my inbox. hope i helped. good luck!

theres this really hot girl shes freaking amazing, to protect her identity lets just say her names mary. She lives like half an hour away though what am i supposed to do

(i hear talk shes crazy in bed)

buy her some damn donuts. or just buy her something really cool, fun, & cute.

I was at temple (weird place ofr this) and this girl was like flirting with all the boys. Shes so outgoing and I cold see it in the boys eyes that they liked what she was doing. She would like go up to them and say "How many girls want you?" things like that. I would never act like that and I was wondering why guys ONLY like girls who play with them? I wish boys would just flirt with me, then I would feel confident flirting back. So, BOYS out there...do you only like flirtacious girls??

the reason outgoing girls get more guys, is because if the girl is flirting with the guy, then she must have some attraction to him.

some guys just don't want to put themselves out there, so it's easier for the guy to go after the girl that shows him her attention.

will you be my mommy

hi nick. i won't be your mommy, but i will be your wife. let's fuck in the bathroom, k? :)

okay.. so me and my boyfriend went out for almost 3 years.. we broke up on september 23rd.. and like ive been upset ever since then.. like i just wanted to take a break .. and he got all mad.. and we broke up..., and he had 2 GIRLFRIENDS since then.. and we broke up on a friday and he went out with one girl the next.. i was so upset.. like maybe he didnt love me.. seems like it right? well he was my everything.. and i cant get him off my mind.. he was so sweet but now hes a total jerk.. i mean he use to cry over me how cute is that.. can you please give me some advice i need some real bad.. i know i didnt exactly have a question but can you tell me how i should take care of this and stop being so upset..!! THANKS SO MUCH!!!

he's probably on the rebound. he's an asshole if he's had 2 girlfriends since then, so that should be initiative enough to start getting over him. 3 years is a long time, so you still have feelings for him, of course. this guy doesn't deserve you if he's dating other girls.

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