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What is something a girl could do to just make their boyfriend/guy just stop and go 'WOW'. Basically, what is the biggest PHYSICAL turn on? What could a girl physically to turn a guy on.

[Ex. Bite ears]

Well this type of question is one of those kinds that has many different answers. It varies to what the guy likes. Although, in general, most guys like: kissing/sucking on the neck/jawbone, kissing his chest and/or lightly rubbing his stomach or back, kind of tickling him, biting/sucking on their bottom lips, some guys like nibbling on their ears, hmm..rubbing the inside of their legs..that's about all I can think of right now, I hope I helped!


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My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.

Does this mean he doesn't like me?

Well that is a possibility- but don't jump to conclusions just yet, that's probably not the best way to go.It could just mean that he doesn't want to talk to your friends about that type of thing. Ask him yourself if you really want to know, maybe he'd rather tell you than your friends. Hope I helped!

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i have 2 questions...
1. what is the law about dating a person over 18 if your a minor? some people say its not illegal till u have sex some say its if you touch in any sexual way even kissing
2. i am 15 and the guy i like is 18 is that soo bad....

help if you can

okay well..I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 18 as well, so I know what you're going through. I've talked to my mom about this many times before..it is only illegal if you 2 were to have sex, any type of sex that is..oral, or full intercourse, doesn't matter. Kissing is perfectly fine, nothing wrong with that one. Although, in the newspaper awhile back, they said that if a person is 13-15 and their partner is 18-24, if he touches you on your butt or boobs or anywhere of the sort, it's a 1st degree felony. Now, in my opinion, age is just a number, not too much more than a simple number. It bugs me how people are so stereotypical by saying "if he's 18 and you're 15 he just wants sex" b/c that is most definately not always true. But back to the point- to be honest, I don't think higher authorities randomly go around asking the ages of couples if they see butt grabbing going on..I really don't think it's a big deal..but that's up to you to decide for yourself. If you 2 plan on having sex, just be careful on who you tell, if anyone at all..and be safe! I hope I helped, if you need anything else just drop me one in my inbox!

♥Amber

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i am 13 now and i've only kissed one guy which was a really crappy french kiss and now i wanna be able to kiss sumone and not be scared about kissing wrong or screwing up..what can i do?? thanks

well the best kiss is always going to be with the person you like the most..there is absolutely NO WAY to kiss wrong, so there's nothing there to worry about. I suggest to wait for a guy that you really like, and then give it a try with him. Hopefully you'll feel a better connection between the 2 of you, after all..you're only 13, you still have plenty of time :D Hope I helped!

♥Amber

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What are some things that turn on a guy whenever a girl does something?
[Example: Biting ear, kissing neck?]

try kissing his neck, chest, and jaw bone. biting their ears turns on some guys, but not all of them. also, rubbing/massaging a guys thigh will most likely turn them on. if you're hugging him or he's laying with you lift up his shirt and just lightly rub your fingers across his back, it kinda tickles, but feels great at the same time! I hope I helped, if you need anything else just drop one in my inbox!

♥Amber

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I talk to this other boy now hes 14 and we talk mostly on the computer. like the beginning of this month he iMed me and was like come over an said he likes me and he was gonna ask me out but he thought i was still in love with the boy i mentioned last time, so he waited. im not sure if he is for real tho bc hes got that reputation of being a player. so ive been to his house a couple times but whenever i go over there he wants me to give him head, or have sex. he says he loves me, and im his girl. i dont know wether to belive him or not. should i?

First off, no, I wouldn't believe him if I were you. I noticed you said he has a reputation of being a player..I understand everyone is entitled to have their own opinion on people, but when it's about something like being a player it's somewhat different. if he ASKS you to give him head or to have sex with him, then he's already not worth wasting your time on. Wait for a guy who will let things happen as they are meant to, not plan it out and ask you to do things for/with him everytime you go to his house. I don't mean to be harsh about this, but don't believe it when he tells you he loves you, if he honestly& truly loves you, he wouldn't ask you do sexual things with him. I hope I helped!

♥Amber

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what's a good love song that tells someone how much you love them and miss being with them! please help!

Natalie- Going Crazy
Mariah Carey- We Belong Together
if I think of more I'll add on, my brain isn't cooperating with me right now, sorry! Hope I helped some!

♥Amber

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im a 14/f and i was wondering exactly how do you make out? like what do you do with your hands and stuff like that? i now this might sound stupid but im kind of nerveous screwin up and doing something wrong lol...

confused child

Confused Child,

I've noticed quite a few people are nervous about this type of thing. The answer is always the same, there's no wrong way to make out/kiss. It really depends on the guy& how he makes out. Some guys use alot of tongue and others use alot less tongue, but you pretty much just move your tongue around in their mouth while kissing them, sounds gross I know, but it's not. Now as of your hands, you can put your arms around his neck like you're hugging him, or you can put your hands on his neck, his arms or wherever they are at the time, it doesn't really matter. Hope I helped! :D

♥Amber

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okay so me n my girlfriend have been going out for a while and shes moving faster than i want to weve done everything but sex...i dont want to be one of the young tenn fathers even if we use a condom it could still break... if you could answer this i would really appriciate it

if you're uncomfortable with what your girlfriend is trying to get you to do, then definately let her know! nobody has the right to pressure you into things like that. that is completely understandable that you don't want to end up being a teen father! tell her that you're worried about the things that could happen as a result of having sex& that it puts stress on you. as long as you explain to her that you're not ready to move so fast then she should respect that, I hope everything works out okay for you! :D

♥Amber

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hey, i had sex for the first time last night with my boyfriend of 6 months, we are with eachother alot so theres no problem that we did if overall. but we had unprotected sex, i know thats bed but, he pulled out a few minutes early..could i still get pregnate? thanks ♥.. oh yeah and i didnt ask for people to bitch at me about this

you will not get pregnant unless his semen got inside of you, but there is always precum..there's not as big of a chance of getting pregnant but there's still that small chance. make sure next time you use a condom, and maybe learn more about sex before engaging in it:D take care!

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i feel like everyone around me has a boyfriend. i feel so alone and i really want to have the feeling of a boyfriend again. i feel as if everyone around me is moving so fast...one of my friends just did third base wih a guy. i am 14 and still haven't gotten my first kiss. i wish i could just find a guy.. what is taking sooo long!

I was/am in the same situation. I noticed almost all my friends had boyfriends, and I didn't, but I do now..but I've been noticing that my friends are going further and further with their boyfriends than I am with mine. That is perfectly fine that you haven't had your first kiss, it just means that it will be more special to you because you have been waiting for it to happen. A few of my friends are freshmen/ sophmores in highschool and still haven't even had a boyfriend, or their first kiss. Trust me, you're NOT alone. I know you prolly have been hearing "the right guy will come, just stop looking for him" and you're most likely sick of hearing it, but it really is true. I sat there looking for a boyfriend, and that made the time go by slower, and so finally I gave up looking, and he came to me. The perfect guy will come around, holding your first kiss, and you will remember it for the rest of your life. I hope I helped you out some! :D

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ok so i have this problem.. i like this guy. i used to REALLY REALLY like him, but then i just thought he was kindda cute. Well, after i had settled to "he's just cute" i started liking this other guy, and he liked me too. We talked all the time, and i told him about the other guy that i liked. I told him "Yeah, I used to like him, but there wasnt a chance for us to get together so i kindda got over him." So he thought that,ya know, i didnt like the first guy. Well, wrong. sumthin happened the other day, i dunno what it just kindda clicked.. the first guy..omg i just...WHOooo I am totally diggin him!! anyways.. my problem is that i dont know if i should tell the other guy that i like the first guy.. i mean, we flirt and are friends, but im feelin like i dont like him THAT way anymore :/ he thought that i was over the first guy, and now i know that im am definately NOT over him, i am very much fallen for him!! i feel like i shouldnt tell guy2 that i like guy1 again b/c i told him i was over him.. ya know? i dont want him to be mad or something like that.. i dont know what to do im so confused..PLEASE HELP ME!!

~*torn n confused*~




I'm kinda in the same situation right now, and I told my guy2 that I didn't like guy1 except for whenever I see him..which is still the case, but I still think you should tell guy2 what you're feeling, because it sort of seems like you're just wanting him for the attention now that you don't like him anymore. You really can't help who you fall for and who you don't, so as hard as it will be, I think you SHOULD tell guy2 exactly what you told me..I really hope I helped in some way or another, that's a tough one :/ Goodluck hun! You can IM me if you need more help..or ya know, JUST TO TALK. :]

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amber...i have to ask you something extremely important.....

will you.....be my.....husband!??!?!?

you SHOULD know who i am...

husband? wow that was kinda mean don'tcha think? haha..but yes..I WILL be your husband:] Gladly Dianna..I love you!

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I want to have your children please give up ur virginity



this is not JR

Hey JR..nice one, is that all you could come up with? Wow, sorry..no can do :]

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ok thers this guy i went out with him like 3 months ago but he broke up with me...he was really really sweet at the dance and at church...he even pulled out my chair but when he was around his guy friends at the football game he ignored me and at the end of the game he had his friends come tell me it was over...i know that was really mean of him but i think like him again but he doesnt talk that much because hes really shy around girls and he goes to a different school and i only see him at church so what should i do to get him to like me agian

Sorry to say it, but you can't MAKE someone like you. It's obvious he's shy b/c he had to have his friends break up with you for him. Some guys end up like that, but sometimes you need to date a few different guys to realize they weren't the ones you really wanted to be with. Try thinking about other things to get your mind off him, unless you wanna find out if he likes you back. If that's the case, then talk to him& find out how he feels:] Hope I helped

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We're getting pretty close. But my best guy friend..who's slept over my house a lot and he's always calling me and always around me..well, now he says that he keeps getting tempted to kiss me and he wants to hook up even if he has to share me. i think its crazy. but i dunno what to tell him. hes really fun and ive had questions whether i like him or not. but i really like my boyfriend and i wanna be with him so bad. what should i tell my best friend?

Maybe you're just infatuated by your best friend& how he feels towards you..maybe you just like the attention? I know I've been that way a few times. Just tell your best friend that you're in a relationship right now& you don't want to mess things up between you& your boyfriend. You expect your boyfriend to be loyal& so I'm guessing he wants the same from you. In a nice way just tell your friend that maybe in the near future you two might have something but right now you're comitted to your boyfriend. Goodluck! :]

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Ok this happened a while ago so im preatty much not going to be able to act on it or anything but im still curious. I met this girl at a school function and we got talking and hit it off. there was a dance that day and neither of us had a date so i asked her and she said yes. after the dance she kissed me on the cheek told me she had a great time gave me her number and told me to call her. weird thing is everytime i called her after that she was busy, this continued for about a month with me calling her about twice a week give or take. i got a little suspicious and told her that if she didnt like me she should just tell me but she said that it was jsut becasue her mom was mean and kept not letting her go out. after another month or so i got tired of it and called her up with one last cahnce i knew she wasnt going to take. i said if you cant make anytime for me in this long then i dont think we should be going out she answered with "i think your a great guy but...yadayadayada typical blow off" i really dont know waht happened she didnt seem like the type of girl that would play a guy and she didnt get anything out of me so i really dont know. lets see i was 17 then and she was 14 so i dont know if that played anything into it. any help you could give would be appreciated, and i know you probably get this in 3/4 of the questions in your colum but youre totaly hot.

Okay well maybe she isn't allowed to date older guys but she didn't want to be embarassed so she didn't say anything to you about it? Either that or she found someone else, sorry if that was harsh. Some girls get so confused in what/who they want sometimes..I'd say just try not to worry about it& move on b/c you're right..it happened awhile back& you can't really act on it now. I hope I helped!
-Amber

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I broke up with my ex boyfriend because i had been hearing stuff like that he was all over other girls. But then when i broke up with him he cried infront of all of his friends and everything. I still love him a lot and want to be with him but we've gone out 5 times and i just dont know if this time he means it. He's also my best friend and he told me that he loved me and would do anything to get me back! So what should i do.. go back out with him, stay broken up or just take a break?

You had been HEARING rumors that he was all over girls. I say you should've maybe confronted him about it to find out if the rumors were true. Don't always believe what you hear! Although you& him have gone out 5 times already, if you honestly feel you can trust him then go ahead& give him one last chance. That's what I would do, only b/c I think those were just rumors that you were hearing, but definately talk to him. Tell him he has one last chance and he needs to think that over before he does something stupid to ruin his last chance. Hope everything works out! -Amber

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ok i have a big problem. ok heres the scoop: i just moved to kentucky from chicago. its been real tough. i met my best friend and now we are always together, we are inseperable. but in the beginning of october her brother asked me out. he said that he really liked me and he told every1 i was the one for him and that we were going to run off and get married so now i am like in luv with this guy. he has the religion though of a penticostal and one of their beleifs is abstinence. and well i was raped when i was younger so technically i am not a virgin. his cousin has a really big crush on me though and when he found out that i was with his cousin he decided he was gonna make up a whole bunch of crap about me. so he told him that i screwed 20 guys and he broke up with me not even hearing what i had to say. now he wants nothing to do with me and i told his sister the reason i was not a virgin and now hes still like he cares but its not the same. he still wont even look at me. i dunno what i did wrong we were so happy. Ive been crying over him for about a month now and 3 days ago i started going out with this guy that is my other best friends boyfriends cousin. ( if that makes sense). and today he told me that he likes me a lot and that he loves me. he dosent understand how much weight that puts on my shoulder. i like him but i dont now if im using him to get my ex off of my mind. i want the relationship im in to last because i dont wanna fall apart again and have a breakdown but i really dont know what i should do. and i dont want to break his heart b/c i know hes 4 real. but how do i express what im fellin? please just tell me what you think i should do i need an opinion from someone who knows the basics. thankyou for reading please help me out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
confused/tjlover

Wow that's a tough one :-/ I'm thinkin maybe you should try talking to your new b/f and telling him what happened. Tell him you do like him, but maybe not as strongly as he likes you. If you feel you need to, then tell him that you feel like you're not being fair to him b/c of the whole situation with your ex. That's really all I can think of, I hope that helped some! I'm really sorry that happened! Goodluck hun! -Amber

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do guys like it if girls ask them to dance or go out w/ them...ive always wondered. or does the guy have to do it all?

That's not always the case, some guys like it when girls take the initiative to ask the guy out instead. I've asked a guy out before, it's not THAT hard. Yeah, usaully the guys do it but hey there's a first time for everything! So really, some guys like it, some prefer to ask the girls out. Hope I helped! -Amber

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