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17/f... so there's this kid and we like each other and he says he's gonna ask me out soon. but the thing is, I honestly don't think he likes me anymore and it's getting me down. like, when he first told me he liked me, he'd be all happy to see me and compliment me all the time and always want to be with me. but now, it's like he just doesn't care anymore. plus, his ex-girlfriend is still in love with him and he talks to her about 75% more than me. I've talked to him about this twice already and my friends (without me asking them to) have confronted him mulitple times as well. I just don't understand why the hell he promises he likes me and tells me all the time but never ACTS like it. it would hurt alot less if he just stopped leading me on and just told me WHY he's been acting this way. I don't even know what to do anymore; I like him alot and he claims he likes me, but he is always with his ex, who he claims he has absolutely no feelings for. is it worth it to still pursue him? Should I just act like I don't care and see how it goes, or keep persistenly asking him about it? Please help; I'm seeing him all day tomorrow (and his exgirlfriend is gonna be there, too. =( eh.) (link)
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Don't pretend like you don't care because after reading your question I seems like it bothers you a lot. You have to ask him to make a decision between you or her and if he doesn't make a decision than you are better off without him. It's not a bad thing that he talks with his ex sometimes but if he talks with her a lot, then that seems a little odd and strange. As for the him-maybe-not-like-you part, if his feelings have changed for you, then his feelings have changed for you. Sorry but I mean there's nothing you can really do about that. Tell him that if he wants to be with you that he's running out of time because hearts change and so does your mind.
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Alright well I've been seeing my boyfriend for four months now, and he is in the army. We are very much in love, and he has asked me to marry him, but we don't really consider ourselves engaged yet, we probably will in December when we are going to tell everyone we want to get married. Anyway, he dated his ex for almost two years, and she cheated on him twice while he was at basic training. They broke up a few weeks before he met me. Well we'd been dating for about a month before she started problems. She started telling people they were still together, threatening me, leaving me messages, etc. She told me he always calls her and tells her that he can't wait to come home for Christmas and see her and make love to her. I know none of this is true because his phone is turned off, and plus, she lives in West Virginia where his dad is and there's a good chance that he won't be going to West Virginia for Christmas, he'll be coming straight here to Pennsylvania. Anyway, I confronted him on the things she'd been saying last night, and he freaked out, thinking I'd been messing with her. He said that she doesn't just drag stuff out... but the thing is, neither do I. I have not said anything to her that she has not asked for. I never threatened her, called her names, or anything. I simply told her that it was pissing me off what she was doing, and that she should stop. It made me a little upset that he stuck up for her though. His best friends wife said it's because they dated for so long and he doesn't want to be mean to her and it would just make things harder when he goes home if he were to flip out, and I'm sure that's true. I'm just confused. What should I do about this? (link)
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I have an ex who I'm still very protective of. Even though i have no feelings for her, I had a really deep and meaningful relationship with her that meant something to me and always will, no matter what. Don't blame him for protecting her, as long as it doesn't go too far. We all have a past that pops up every now and then. You should try to give him the benefit of the doubt. I'm sure his ex is just having a hard time letting go. It happens and you just have to give her time to get over your boyfriend. If it bothers you enough though you should have another talk with your boyfriend and ask him to do something about it. Because sooner or later we all have to stop looking at our past constantly and prepare ahead for our future.
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i like this kid a lot and whenever we talk he always says something and it's exactly what i'm thinking. we have a lot of the same opinions on things. he's not really "my type" and my parents wouldn't like him but i don't care. ok here's the problem though. his ex-girlfriend cheated on him and now he wants to be single for a while. they went out for like 4 or 5 months and they broke up at the begining of the summer. i really like him and i want to show him that i'm worth trying a relationship for because all of my past relationships have lasted more than 6 months. how do i do this? (link)
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Let him know you're interested in him. Just let your friends know you think he's cute or whatever and let the gossip flow back to him so he just think it's a crush. You don't want to come on too strong because he's needing space right now. If you think he's worth the wait, then wait for him. I got out of a serious relationship and then rushed into another relationship too soon and so I was never too passionate over my new girlfriend. If he needs space, give him some, and let him know you're still there for him if he needs you. But don't be upset with if his reaction is negative because if he knows he's made you unhappy than that's just going to make him more closed up.
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I'm not allowed to date....but i have a boyfriend..but if my dad finds out he will like kill me!!! i dont know what to do!!!!!!!! (link)
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Just keep it down low. That's what I'm doing. If they find out just tell them that all y'all did was hold hands and hug. But if you're really scared then you should respect your parents and don't go out. But hey, you could always be friends with benefits cuz I bet they never said you couldnt have any friends with benefits ;-)
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okay well there is this guy that asked me out last year && i saw no. but now i regret it..because i guess i like him now..but now he is going out with my friend && everybody is like saying they are PERFECT for each other..&& i heard that he brought her a ring from jared`s && now i can`t stop thinking that it could have been me. but i`m not sure if i tell him he likes me he might reject me && me && my friend may not like me anymore.. (link)
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He seems deep for this girl. But no relationship lasts forever right? You just need to be there for him when he needs you. Just be a good friend. And whenever they break up you can be there for him. Even if you're still a friend to him or if you're more than that. Girlfriends come and go but friends stay forever. Don't lead him on. Just wait for him and support him.
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there is this guy that i have liked for liek ever!! && i always thought that he liked me back..&& this was like 2 or 3 years ago in the summer time.. && he like IMed me && was like do you like me? && i said i don`t know..but i knew i did but i don`t know why i was saying no..anyways he kept on asking me && i kept on saying that..until my cousin wrote no..&& now he won`t talk or even look at me anymore. i tried to talk to him but he just blows me off..&& then he told this girl the he was gonna ask me out but i becuase soo "white-washed".. its kinda dumb but i still like him. one time i asked him if liked my && he said no..but i`m not sure if he is lying or not.
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He might be still lying but nothing is for certain. Think you should just be straightforward with him and tell him that you still like him and then ask if he still likes you. Tell him what you just typed. If you just told the whole wide world, you could tell one guy. I know that's easier said than done but honesty is the best and most important part of a relationship.
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okay well this boy that i like is going to the dance this friday and i've been meaning to ask him if i should give up on him.. or if he is going to give me another chance... how does this sound to you...
(i'm gonna ask him to dance and he will say yes if i go up and ask him myself... ) then while were dancing i'm going to say to him " okay i need to ask you a question but you have to give me a straight answer and a truthful one or else it will be useless for me to even ask you =] so .. i wanted to know if you are going to give me another chance soon like in the next month or should i move on and not wait for you to come around" is that good.. should i switch anything around?
thanks in advance =] i always give 5's for a try =] (link)
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Don't tell him that your willing to move on because that'll show him that you're not willing to give it your all for him. Just ask him if he's going anywhere with this and how he still feels about you. Most people aren't very forgiving these days so whatever you did, you need to show him it was a mistake and that you're desperate for him.
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I kinda liked/like this guy in my class. He's so nice and were deff like really close friends were always laughing and joking and I thought I just liked him as a friend, but he's such a good guy I can totally see myself being more then friends with him. We talk everyday, he leaves me myspace comments, messages me, texts me, and we have a bunch of jokes together.
Well, turns out, my step brother heard about me sorta liking this guy, and he asked him about me. My bro said when he asked him he was like smiling and stuff and that he might like me, but he wasn't sure so not to get my hopes up.
Soooo, what? Just best friends? or What? (link)
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He's either trying to lead you on or he's not sure. Keep your distance but not too big of a distance. Have a light touch. Just try to act the same way you have been acting, cept it'll be a little bit harder now that truths are known. Give him some time to come around but like you said, don't give your hopes up. He's probably just thinking it over or waiting for you to make the first move if he's a shy guy.
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i'm going out with this guy and like people are starting to know..... but alot of people are making fun of me telling me i'm desperate! but im not i love this guy but its soo annoying that these people think this..what should i do?
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If you really love that guy then it wouldn't matter what people say to you. Sometimes they're really just jealous. If you were really desperate you'd be like slutty dressing and acting it. If you just keep yourself commited to one guy, you won't come off as a slut. You're not desperate because you see something in him no one else sees.
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i sure hope you can help me. heres my story... ok me and this boy named zach used to go out like a yr. ago! and when we went out it didnt last long. now me and him are starting to talk again and we are getting along great. we are talking about getting to know each other more and then thinking about getting back together.
some how me and him started talking about sex! he wants to have sex with me cause he likes me alot! and i like him so i cant turn him down! im scared though.its not cause im still a virgin its because im afraid ill get pregnant! i know alot of teens loose there virginity and most of them dont get pregnant the first time. but im afraid beacuse if i get pregnant then my parents will kill me. i dont want to make another mistake because i ahppen to make alot of those! so can u please help me choose what to do? and what condom is the best? and if i do have sex with him with a condom what the percent chance i can get pregnant! thanx so much i hope u can help me! i rate high
IM me on xoxokaylaoxox91 always kayla (link)
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My personal opinion, guys should respect girls and their body parts. Yes I'm a guy and I'm straight, but he shouldn't be pressuring you into sex. Don't let him take advantage of you, if he does something sexually that you're uncomfortable with, slap him gently. If he starts to get aggressive, kick his balls. He shouldn't treat you like an object. You should save sex for when you're married anyways, or at least before u turn 18. Don't have sex. Cause you could get pregnant, have a child, and ruin your whole future. Everything you worked hard for in school..gone..hope i helped!
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Hey I'm 13/f, and I've been going out with someone for about 7 months now. I've become madly in love with him, too. So far things have not been going really bad, but the thing is he's not a big romantic person, nothing eventful in our relationship has happened yet. I'm scared of telling him, and the thing is I don't think he'll take it too seriously, and probably think I'm too demanding cause I prolly have complained alot to him anyways. So what should I do? I don't want to leave him, and I actually told him that I love him, but as expected, he really hasn't said much yet and pretends that nothing has happened. (link)
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You should tell him how you feel. Relationships are only meaninful as long as they're open. If you don't love him anymore, you should tell him that. Don't let him think you still love him. Even if it doesn't mean that much to him. If he's hurt than it means he cares. If you want something to happen, you should make something happen, and don't wait for something to happen. Be proactive. If he's not romantic, don't make him be romantic. Let him be himself. Don't try to change him intentionally. Don't be scared to tell him anything. It's not healthy for the relationship. And lots of girls complain to guys, truth is if they really care about you, you can complain as much as you want. Some guys actually find it cute sometimes. If you don't want to leave him, then don't. You shouldn't do anything you don't want to. Maybe he's holding stuff back too cause he's scared. You'll never know til y'all are straightforward with each other. Hope I helped!
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My best friend told me that my boyfriend was flirting with one of my friends. I dont know who to believe.. my boyfriend said nothing happened but he might just be trying to not hurt me. But then again i think my best friend is trying to break us up. Who should i believe? My best friend or my boyfriend? PLease help. (link)
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You should talk to the girl she said he was flurting with.
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Im am 16 year old female and my 18 year old boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now. A week ago i said i didnt trust him because i heard he was flirting with his friend.I was hurt up until i heard it was part of there relationship. I really do trust my boyfriend and didnt mean to say that i didnt. I have told him a million times i didnt mean it but things havent gone back to normal. He says he still hurt by what i said. What should i do?? (link)
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Well you can't blame him because trust is very fragile. Takes time to build but is shattered in seconds. You're just going to have to build it back up with him. Apologizing only does so much. You need to show him you trust him. Don't just tell. Showing does much more than telling because anyone can tell anyone anything. It's not going to be easy. Trust is one of the most important things, if not the most, things in a relationship. If you think he's worth it,start trusting him. Let him borrow your stuff or whatever you need to do to show him that you trust him. Hope I helped. Good luck.
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f/13 im going out with this guy....lets call him bill. ok well i met bill at a convention thingy away from both of our hometowns. we got each others numbers and talked on the phone after we got back to our houses blah blah blah and now were going out. he lives about 2.5 hours away. now i was talking t this other guy who i recently went out with and ever since we broke up weve been pretty much best friends and talked on the phone all the time. he lives about 5 minutes away but he is moving about 30 minutes away(no biggie) lets call him fred. so im currently going out with bill right...and im was talking to fred on the phone and we still both love eachother more than anyone would believe and we got to talking about our relationship (i was thinking about dumping bill to go out with fred anyways) blah blah blah and i ended up asking fred out. of course he said yes and the problem now is that i have 2 boyfriends and ive never been the person that cheats. so what i want to know is how do i dump bill with out hurting his feelings and still be really good friends with him???? HeLp Me pLeAsE!!! ThAnX! (link)
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There's no easy way. Someone's going to get hurt already as it is. There's something in the bible about if someone serves two asters eventually they will turn on one. Or something like that. Let him down easy though. probably best if you don't tell him because it's of another guy because that'll just make it harder for him. Tell him that long distance relationships are just to hard for you, which they can be for some people.
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Okay- Ready?
I am going to make like a powerPoint for my boyfriend!
Like with all of our pictures, and little things offline that say stuff like "I Love You" and things like that. We have been together over a year. Do you guys think that that would be cool? like with all of the memories and stuff??
:)
What do you think?
or anything else i could do to it to make it even more AWESOME!!
*-KeLs-*
Thanks! (link)
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That's sweet. He should like it if he cares. And seeing as y'all have been together over a year he cares. It's nice to see highlights in a relationship. Memories are forever.
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The boy "C" I have been talking about is starting to talk to me again. Well not actually talking but I'll hit him and he'll hit me back and he'll sit next to me. Anyways a whole lot of people is telling me that they like him and they have way more better chances of going with him than me.But you see I really really like him. We havent actually had a serious conversation because of all those girls that always all up on him and if there not around then his little clique is around. I really need to know what to do around like 1:30 today it will help me a lot! (link)
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Tell him your feelings for him and if he sees past all those other girls then he'll see your the one he wants to be with. If your not y'all can still be good friends.
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This boy we call Pogo thinks I like him but I dont at least not anymore. At first he was all I thought about but now since I got a really good look at him he is ugly. I mean he has yellow teeth and he cant walk straight he smells funny and look so gay.I dont even want to be his friend anymore because he is so annoying. So what should I do? (link)
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Tell him you don;t want to be friends with him anymore. If your not comfortable with him you shouldn't be his friends. Friends are supposed make you feel good about yourself and someone you can talk to and be with. But if you don't feel that with Pogo then y'all aren't really friends.
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ohkay.. a few days ago i asked a question about how would a guy like a girl to make the first move as far as making out. i didnt get the kind of answer i was looking for. can anyone give me a detailed answer on a good SPECIFIC way to make a first move as far as making out? (link)
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Just kiss him and don't remove your lips. That's all there is to it.
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im 13/m...All of my friends say that i always flirt with this girl. she used to like me A LOT and then when i started going out with my g/f about 8 months ago, she like started yelling at me and we didnt talk. But now, we are friends again and we talk, but whenever we do, EVERYONE says that we flirt, nonstop. i try not to, but i just cant help it, i love my girlfriend and i mean that. what should i do pls help me......
PS.... how do you flirt? i barely know what that means (link)
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Flirting just happens on naturally. You don't think about it. You should stay loyal to your girlfriend but if you should tell her about the situation. If you just flurt with her but don't like her it just means your a lady's man.lol. But whichever makes you happy or happier is the one you should be with.
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Ok, theres this guy that went to my church last night and he was SOO cute and really funny! and his eyes are VERY pretty, they arent blue or green they are brown but SOO pretty! lol anyway, we have a youth group place and we went to the worship place and its where we like stand up, then sit down and then stand up ya know and when i looked at him he was staring at me! im only 13 and i guess i should know what that means but i dont! haha everytime i looked he was staring at me! and when he first did it, he like jerked his eyes away quick and i did the same but later on we would take like 2 seconds glances, like i dunno! what does that mean? does he like em or jsut think im cute! please i need advice before i make myself look stupid! haha (link)
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He's probably shy to admit his feelings to you. I think you should tell him he's cute and all those other things and she what happens between y'all.
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