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HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!
i sure hope you can help me. heres my story... ok me and this boy named zach used to go out like a yr. ago! and when we went out it didnt last long. now me and him are starting to talk again and we are getting along great. we are talking about getting to know each other more and then thinking about getting back together.
some how me and him started talking about sex! he wants to have sex with me cause he likes me alot! and i like him so i cant turn him down! im scared though.its not cause im still a virgin its because im afraid ill get pregnant! i know alot of teens loose there virginity and most of them dont get pregnant the first time. but im afraid beacuse if i get pregnant then my parents will kill me. i dont want to make another mistake because i ahppen to make alot of those! so can u please help me choose what to do? and what condom is the best? and if i do have sex with him with a condom what the percent chance i can get pregnant! thanx so much i hope u can help me! i rate high
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its very unlikly tht u will get pregnant the first time. but being a virgin only comes once in a lifetime so dont just give it away!! make sure its someone that in 5 years will still b standing at your side.hope i helped XoXo
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okay well ive been in this situation before and now ive grown up and realized that guys dont care about your feelings no matter how much they say they do. and my advice comes from God and im telling you that he doesnt want you to just give yourself up to anybody. I used to scared of sex to, but now i know why.. its because its not right. And just say you did get pregnent, you know that boy aint gonna be with you forever and you'll get stuck with a child. Or say you dont get pregnent but you have sex and he leaves you, wont you feel dumb? Because i feel dumb because i came so close to doin it so many times and i feel like waisted something good on a boy whos defeitnly not worth it. Well just think about it and im praying for you!
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Just tell him you arent comfortable with it and he wshould understand if he doesnt i wouldnt hang out with him nemore...if you really want to then use protection
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Firstly this... "4. Lol i think this is funny but have your boyfriend drink like a whole 2-liter of Mountain Dew (it kills sperm) right before you have intercourse so you can also be extra sure"... is completely untrue.
Secondly... I was 14 when I first had sex. Three months later (at 15) I was pregnant. I liked the boy, I had a child with that boy that I liked, that boy I liked has had no contact with his child in about 5 years now. Like is not, in my opinion, a strong enough emotion on which to base a decision that will, in one way or another, change your life.
If this boy respects you and cares for you, he will wait until you are sure of what you want to do and will wait for you without trying to pressure you into a decision. If he doesn't, then it's up to you to respect and care enough for yourself to wait until you are ready.
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My personal opinion, guys should respect girls and their body parts. Yes I'm a guy and I'm straight, but he shouldn't be pressuring you into sex. Don't let him take advantage of you, if he does something sexually that you're uncomfortable with, slap him gently. If he starts to get aggressive, kick his balls. He shouldn't treat you like an object. You should save sex for when you're married anyways, or at least before u turn 18. Don't have sex. Cause you could get pregnant, have a child, and ruin your whole future. Everything you worked hard for in school..gone..hope i helped!
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If he really liked you he would understand that you don't feel ready for sex. If he likes you just to get in your pants he's not worth it.
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I dont think you are ready to have sex though. You are having seconds thoughts on what might happen and you have to be 100% sure that you are ready and that nether of you will regret this later. The best condom is Trojan.. There is always a posibility that you can get pregnant with any condom because it can break. But Trojan is one of the best and its rarely that it will break. Just dont worry too much. You could also go on birth control if you wanted but just relax. && make sure you do it when you are 100% ready. Oh.. and also make sure that he isnt using you for this. Go back out first and see how it is. Dont just have sex because he wants you too and of the things he says. He has to mean them. Good luck!
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ok, you are right to be worried about having sex with him, not just because of the pregnancy risk.
I'd wait a while first, if you become boyfriend and girlfriend wait quite a long time (especially if you are underage as you are not ready for it emotionally, mentaly and physicaly)) just to make sure that its going to last with you two and that your relationship wont end soon after you've had sex.
if he gets bored with waiting or tries to put pressure on you then you know he's only after sex and he isnt worth it, dont let him use you.
Also, you have to makie sure that you are 100% certain that it is what you both want and wont regret it after.
make sure you love eachother, if its just sex then its going to be horrible, make sure you "make love", sex and especially your virginity is a special thing, so dont rust into anything, keep your virginity for someone special because you cant ever get it back and many young girls regret losing their virginity at such a young age and to someone that didnt love them.
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hEy kayla..i*m in the EXACT same situation..first off i dont know your age but im 13 and ready to have sex so i*m not going to judge you on that. Anyways, virgintiy is something you own and make sure you give it away to a person you really care about. If i were you i would give it a while to make sure this is someone you love very muxh. If you plan to have sex, here are some ways that help to make sure you don*t get pregnet
1. USE A CONDOM (trojan or lifestyle and get it with spermcide* that kills the sperm when he cums)
2. GET ON BIRTHCONTROL- you can get this from planned parenthood
3. Pull out before it comes out- if you now what i mean..just to be extra sure
4. Lol i think this is funny but have your boyfriend drink like a whole 2-liter of Mountain Dew (it kills sperm) right before you have intercourse so you can also be extra sure
lOl..so about the percentage of condoms..i think trojans are 97-99% chance that you will not get pregnet..i really have no clue about the others and I don*t want to lie to you :)
Also, if you do get pregnet go to planned parenthood and get THE MORNING AFTER PILL...i*M not sure exact how much it cost but its suppose to kill the egg :)
hOpe i helped..i*m me sometime blueyesfiddler@aol.com
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