Girl you better get him before it's to late! This wednesday is your day to shine, YOU ask him out face to face, be completley open and honest. Exchange email and phone numbers.
Then later on maybey the next day or two if he doesn't call you CALL HIM. guys loose stuff such as numbers. (but don't call every minute) let him breathe a little. Lol Love is so amazing who knows maybey he's the one!

Well I'd have to go with break it off.
I'm not any relationship specialist, but I have dated people, and from MY experiences dating days breaking it off would be best. BECAUSE in the end you'll be the one with a broken heart if you keep this up.

Just flat out tell her to stop flirting with you if she isn't interested, and then if she does actually want to be with you she'll make it clear. and then you can choose if you still want to be with her.

BREAKUP with the current girl friend, that's FIRST TOP PRIORITY no girl deserves to date a guy when he's feeling for his ex.

THEN you might want to consider an nice email or call to the ex. To appologize. Then just see where you guys stand see what in the world is happening

Well Win back is a understaightment, I mean he's not a dog or anything, ( no offense).
I think the best thing to do in a tough situation like this is to be straight forward tell him how you feel and ask what in the world is going on. Then you'll know where you stand. Because if he IS flirting wiht you then somthing is going on in his mind when he does and it's most certainly not that other girl!


IF HE DOES say that your just friends, then well. YOUR just friends, at least for now, till he get's over the other girl. But if he does say just friends, no matter how disapointed don't shut him out or ignore him, then he's pretty much gone from your love life forever. Still be friends, just tell him you now have a NO FLIRTING POLICY atleast till he's free from the other girl!

It's not how much u spend that counts, a girl like a gift that has thought, that comes from the heart. Do you get where I am coming from. Try to think of what kind of girl she is. Girly girl tom boy. That kinda thing now...
1. Girly-Girl
Maybey you've smelt her wearing purfume . That would be a good gift. My bf bought me britney spears Secrect perfume. LOVE it/ lOVE hime.
Jewelry is a good gift, however it's commen really. But make sure her ears are peirced BEFORE you get her earing.
ALSO if she enjoys reading . OR a PURSE> or a Big teddy bear. Or a dvd that she's been longing for forever.

hope this helps u/ your gf out ,
a.m.l

I say let "R" be, if he's in jail you shouldn't be with him, your 16 and from what I can tell "N" is the guy for you.
For starters, You like N, i mean seriously if you kiss and all! and come one he has a girlfriend?
You need to set him straight tell him you don't wanna be the other women,and that you LIKE HIM> but to dump that other girl so you two can be together!

Dear ticked off,
It sounds like this guy might have a crush on you, a BIG one at that. But the thing is even though he is anoyinng and all you don't wanna break his heart, and you expecially DO NOT WANNA SEND HIM MIXED SIGNALS. Like whenever you danced with him, he probley thought "man she's danceing with me, she must like me or somethin."
you need to set him free. Talk to him, don't txt, it's just not the same. Tell him that you really arn't interested in him, that you would really appriciate it if he would just forget about his feelings for you and move on.
IF HE TRUELY likes you then he should understand, & leave you alone. He will still like you but he'll understand.

Hope this'll help,
-a.m.l

Well you can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try. But you can try to get her to like you atleast as a friend, then work your way up from there. It'll take some time for her to be attracted to you agin, she may already have another love intrest but you never know. Hang out with each other call each other email txt, ect. I know you probley arn't patciant, but if you want your girl you'll wait. Maybey she secretly still likes you. If you stay friennd for a week or two you may figure that out. who knows

-MEG

Okay well boys are ALWAYS confusing. And i am sorta like I've been crushing on the same guy for since about dec. But my advice to you is not to make it to obviouse just be chill about it. Be his bff, BEFORE hand. And always keep your options open! You can crush on more then 1 guy. Who knows maybey after he gets over the other girl you'll be his next crushee.
HOPE THIS HELPS

-meg

My last boy friend and me dated for two years aswell, But after it got boring in our relationship he discided to spark things up by cheating on me with my Best friend! I'll NEVER forive him.
So that's the LAST thing i'll ever suggest. to spice up your relationship statise, try giving a little more effort. SUCH as:
maybey calling him and talking about school, movies ect. But don't be to chatty, and make sure you have something to talk about so it doesn't get akward.
. you could ALSO hang out more. I don't know if your old enough to go on dates yet, but that'd be cool, movies dinner, bowling?!
but if you not old enough make it cashual invite a few friends out to eat or to a b-ball game.
. Send him flirty notes in his locker, or txt. (FLIRTY not dirty)
I REALLY hope this helps
-meg

Oh my gosh. the same thing is happening to me only I'm the girl in your story. That's so creapy, you just described my relationship with my bff only I'm the girl. Well you see if she's like me she doesn't know you like her, because you don't show it. She probley feels like you don't like her because you don't act that way back. What would make her day, Like it would mine. Is if you told her how you felt. Then see how she reacts

Hey what's your name, I really wanna add you . You sound SO familiar!

I'm from KY too. But I'm not going to tell you to forget him , if you like a guy of course you'll go after him. If I was in your shoes here's what I'd do.
I'd call him talk to him visit him when I'm there. I'd also make sure to flirt ALOT. Because players L-O-V-E that. But I wouldn't ask him out, let him ask you out, but make sure he's single first. Then your set. But Make sure sinnce it's long distannt that you comunicate often! That's the key. I hope it works out, but remember that players jump from girl to girl, so keep your eye out, and don't be shocked if it's over soonner then you think,
Wish you the best of luck
-meg

Dear Luver gurl,
Hey well I understand you problem. Guys come between friendships ALL the time, and the thing is it might take some time.
You have to descide if you want to be friends with her or be with the guy first. IF you just want to throw away your friendship and get the guy then go for it but I would'nt, cause chances are he will come and go.
If I was you Here is what I would do:
Change your away message, it's one thing that your friend knows you like him, but it's another to rub it in her face, (even if you don't mean to) Then you should talk to your friend. I would call her, but you can tell her in person or whatever is more comfortable.
But I would tell her that I was sorry that she got so upset but that I have feelings too. I would tell her that I wanna be her friends, but if that means she tells me who I can like or not then we have a problem. Try to comprimise so that your both happy.
Look at the situation from her point of view. Wouldn't you be upset too? I mean come on what if u liked him first and then she said she liked him. Don't just tell me you wouldn't care. OFCOURSE you would your a girl. GO figure, but your friend should've told you how she felt right off the bat.

It may take time for her wounds to heal but in the end it'll work out. Who knows whenever she gets over him, he'll be free for you.

hope this helps,
MEG

I dated a guy for 2 two years, and I started to get jelous alot at the end. Every girl he talked to I assumed he had a crush on. I would ask him he would say no. Apart of me knew he wasn't lieing but a BIGGER part of me was jelous because I thought maybey they liked him. But I can't control that.
Over the last few weeks of our relationship I was a jelous freak you could say. But turns out guys HATE that. He dumped me for my bff, and I was left with tears.
So my advice is to stop acting jelous it's one thing to be jelous but it's another to act on it. DON'T question him or ask around or confront the other girl. IF he is cheating you'll find out soon enough. But if you wanna keep this relationship STOP. Just be his bff/girlfriend. Go on dates and be flirty and you'll make it through his college years. Lol GOOD LUCK

-meg aka anniemaylane

STOP don't you dare go any farther. BIG turn-off is kissing a girl that doesn't like you. It's too soon. She may not like you that way, and by kissing her this soon she never will. I know you guys donn't want to hear this but it's the truth unless your a slut it's a BIG turn off for a guy you don't like to kiss you. We prefure flirts. then we'll let you know when you should kiss us.

(here maybey this will help)
She's in your head because she's the only one who hasn't "opened up to you" Try talking to her. Ask her why she doesn't like you. If she still won't open up I hate to tell you this but find another girl. Who knows it might make her jelous, or you might turn out to like the new girl more

Dear toubled,
You've quiet a handfull two guys. Your lucky no matter what happens. But here's my advice for you:
Okay First you need to clear the air with J.It sounds like he's getting on your nerves. So what I would do is call him, or tell him in person that what happened is in the past. You've moved on and now it's his turn. That you would love to stay friends but.. that is IT.
As for D I really don't know what to tell you. Guys are complitcated and if you flat out ask him then it might get awkward. So I don't advise that. If he flirts with you some more over the next few months but still just wants to be friends I WOULD ask him what his feelings are. But As I said it's complicated and I'm not in your shoes so, idk. But I hope you find out.

Okay first of all remember the saying Friends are forever boyfriends are whatever, it goes somethin like that. BUT anyways: You should be forward with this guy tell him to back off that he's dating my bff and it's not right to flirt with you. But make sure he likes you first. Then tell your friend everything your feelings, and if she's your TRUE friend she'll understand.
-ash

Boyfriend??? What Boyfriend tell his ex that he still has feelings for her? That's bologna (baloney)! I think you should dump him, and go out with the guy you truley like. I know it may be hard for you when your current boyfriend moves back next year, but the best thing to do is to still be friends afterwards. This way you can be with a guy who likes you for you, a guy who's close by, a guy who's NOT going to practically cheat on you. Now this is my opinion, But whatever you do NEVER EVER use this new guy to make your curent bf jelous OR the other way around.

Okay. This is a typical school day thing, and here's how to deal:
If you can answer these with all yes's then He's so deffinatly into you:
1. He seems intrested in you by the way he looks at you, or a certain way he talks.
2. He wants to spend time with you as much as you do with him. Such as dances, calling on the phone, leaving notes in each others lockers, ect.
3. MOST IMPORTANT! You feel that he WANTS to be with you, and he's not presured. Or ...desprate.

I hope this helps. atleast you have a boyfriend. I'm a single 7th grader. :( life sucks.

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