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kayy well i was going out with a really cool guy and this girl that used to be my best friend asked him out when we just broke up and she told him she asked me that it was ok to go out with him but she never asked me. so im really mad at her. but now the guy wants to go out with me again but he doesnt like to say no to people like the other girl but i hate her now so i feel like getting back at her so this is the best thing i can think of. is it ok??? (link)
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dont go get revenge
you dont want an enemy like that
just be nice and maybe you will set a good example for her
hope i helped!!
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i'm 13 f and i've never had a boyfreind in my life. never had a guy ask me out. never had a guy kiss me. nothing. it's not that i'm ugly or anything, i'm pretty i guess but def not like gorgeous and i'm not mean really and yeah. i guess i'm just not guy material? :( but i really really want a boyfriend and a first kiss. like it's driving me insane i can't help it! and a lot of my friends have had boyfreinds and idk about the kissing part. what is wrong with me? how can i make myself feel better about myself/ please help!!!!! (link)
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boyfriends and kissing arent that big of a deal... im fourteen and ive never reallly kissed a guy but its fine with me and nobody really cares about that sort of thing. you dont have to have a boyfriend, just have guy friends and maybe one will like you and ask you out but you dont have to say yes just because you can say no. when you are thirteen it is hard to have a boyfriend cause you are completely dependant on other people if you want to see a movie or something cause your parents might not let you or something so wait til you're fifteen or sixteen to actually start worrying about that kind of thing!
hope i helped!
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all of my friends, even people younger than me have kissed a guy/girl. i havent! i only kissed little boys that i babysit. lol PATHETIC!!! dont be like "dont worry, my first kiss was when i was 20 or 14" or something. i want to know how i can make it happen soon to a cute guy nd dont say "it will happen when your both ready" cause that doenst help me! (link)
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well dont force it for one thing cause that just doesnt work....
if you are dating a guy go to the movies with him
something romantic....
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ok i like this guy and my friend asked him "do you have a gf?" and then his friend kept asking him "do you like her?(me)" but i never caught his answer... then his frined just blurts out will you go out with her?(me)" but once again i never caught the answer... so now i know he knows i like him... what do i do now ?
will rate 5s for good advice ! thanx ! (link)
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just be friends with him its not that big a deal if he knows cause he might like you too or something just be a friend and maybe you will realize you dont really like him or he will realize he really likes you
hope i helped
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I'm 13 female and i haven't kissed anyone yet...is this normal? Most of my friends have kissed someone but i want to wait until i find someone special. Most girls though have their first kiss when they are 12...am I abnormal? Or just plain 'ol me? (link)
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haha you are anything but abnormal i think its stupid to kiss someone JUST to kiss someone if you dont even really like them like that! i havent kissed anyone and im turning fifteen soon but im happy as a clam!
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Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.
I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....
And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time. (link)
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just because shes already had her first kiss doesnt mean she wont like you-- plenty of my friends HATE the guys theyve kissed-- it means nothing until she says it meant everything. it sounds like she likes you so just ask her and im sure shell say yes
but it also sounds like she doesnt go out with people long so dont expect her to be your true love-- cause nobody's true love is EVER their first love
well i hope i helped!
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so i really like this guy
like i cant stop thinking about him and stuff
but i know he doesnt like me
well i mean sure sometimes he flirts with me but he likes this other girl.
the thing is this guy is "not ment to be liked" if you know what i mean but i really really like him
16/f (link)
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well im not sure what you're asking but flirt alot and just be really good friends and if he considers you one of his best friends at some point he probably likes you
hope i helped!
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Okay, I'm sorry, but this is going to be REALLY long.
I was at summer camp last week, and i went with a bunch of my friends. We were having oodles of fun, and there was this guy there that i have liked for EVER! He lives near me and i see him alot, but he has never acted interested in me before. Now, at camp on...Tuesday, during the night game he sat next to me (on a loveseat) and started to poke my knee. So i poked him back. then he took his elbow and dug it into my hip so i jabbed him really hard in his side....it was kinda funny. Then he took his hand and kept putting it on my knee. I wasn't comfortable with that so i kept pushing it off but he wouldn't stop. Then on Wednesday he asked me to play tetherball with him, i so won. then we played pingpong, and i definitly lost. Then on Thursday it got REALLY weird. First I was in crafts and he was in pingpong. Those two games are in the same room. He lost in pingpong so he was sitting down. He called me over and told me too sit on his lap. I did not!!! Then I sat next to him in the chair next to him. He asked for my hand and i said "why" he said he wanted to see somthing. So i held out my hand. Then he just started holding onto my hand and stuff. I was really uncomfortable with this. After that my team and his team were assigned to go to the pool togeather. So while we were at the pool i did NOT want to go swimming. He kept splashing me and trying to push me in, and i was in my cloths! Then i got sick of it so i just jumped into the pool, cloths and all, and dunked him. Okay. He kept holding my hand all day and stuff and on friday, I was really uncomfortable with it. Then on friday everyone in camp catchs him making out with this girl!!!! Now i dont know what to think!!! I dont want to yell at him or anything, cause he is going through alot of problems and he has always been able to talk to me about them and no-one else. So i dont want him to think he cant. what should i do!!!!???? (link)
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go up to him (not infront of a bunch of people) and be like "youve been acting strange and i was wondering if something was wronge. if you dont wanna talk about it thats okay but if you do, im always here." if he wants to talk he will and if he doesnt dont make him cause that wont make it any better-- he probably feels insecure and needs somebody to talk to and you seem like you care about him so you would probably be the perfect person for him to talk to!
hope i helped!
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16/F (I'm a waitress..)
There's this guy from work that I like, and I'm not sure if he likes me as more than a friend, or just a friend.
I'm not sure, but I think he flirts with me. He'll steal a salt shaker from one of my tables, and won't give me it back unless I chase him around the kitchen for it. He shouts my name across the dining room, and risks getting fired for it. He talks to me a lot, and will usually even help me clear a table just to talk to me.. he does little things for me like that. If I'm carrying a tray, or something, he'll put his hand on my back and help guide me through the doors. I'm a pretty shy person, so I hate it when I talk to customers as I'm clearing a table, so usually he'll come over and talk to them for me...
But.. there's two other girls.. and they usually go up to him, and hug him. And they're pretty. And outgoing. And I don't know, I just don't think he likes me. How about you? (link)
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it sounds to me like he does like you and if you like him then just be upfront about it or whatever-- i cant say much cause im really shy myself, but no guy would risk getting fired unless he a)hated his job or b) really liked you
if he doesnt have a girlfriend, ask him how he knows those girls, just friendly conversation and maybe hell say school or something but if hes not going out with either of them and they are really flirty and pretty then he doesnt like them and he probably likes you!
hope i helped!
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ok i broke up with my bf (well he did with me but w/e) a month or so ago, and im over him so thats no prob.
but one of his friends asked me out. i dont know if i like him like that. my ex doesnt seem to happy about it.
the thing is i cant, literally cant say no to a guy who has asked me out and is being so sincere about it.
help me
cute and confused of texas (link)
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okay so if this guy is your ex's friend but your ex broke up with YOU then it is more than okay to go out with this guy cause its your exes problem not yours, BUT if you dont like him you shouldnt go out with him cause that would lead him to believe you like him more than you really do. just be blunt about it "im really sorry ______, cause youre really nice, but i would feel better if we were just friends." if ya think you need to, you could mention that it has nothing to do with your ex, that you just would "hate to ruin your friendship over this" or something like that
just be honest and dont go out with a guy you dont like or people will think your desperate
hope i helped!!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a short amount of two weeks, and only two weeks. Last time I saw him he tried to touch my chest as we were kissing and I pulled his hand away and I got extemely uncomfortable around him that night. He knew I was too. Here I am a week later and he tried to do the same thing again tonight. I let him for a second then just stopped kissing him and got very quiet after that and just continued to watch the movie. We kind of have this joke about how I don't like my stomach so he was laughing about it and he kind of pulled my shirt up just so you could see my stomach just a little bit. So I pulled my shirt back down, but he put his hand under it. I laughed cause he was tickleing me too, but then he moved his hand up. I pulled his hand out right away and luckily my mom came to pick me up after that happened.
I live off the moto- "forgive and forget" I'm forgiving him, but it makes me feel really degrated and small that he'd try that two weeks into this realationship. He's really sorry and he knows it made me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to act now. I want to show him it's alright, but I don't want him trying again... what do I do? Should I feel uncomfortable? (link)
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if it makes you feel uncomfortable then it is NOT okay-- its not even a month into the relationship and he expects that much from you then i would be a little worried-- the next time he does it just be like "ya im not okay with that so it needs to STOP" dont yell or anything but he should get the picture-- and if he doesnt or he dumps you then he was just using you and you deserve WAY better!
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please help if i am sneaking out of the house tonight to meet my boyfriend outside cuz he lives by me! my moms window is in the front! and mine is in the back and i have a back porch should i tell my boyfriend to meet me on my back porch?! give me tips on how to sneak out w/o my mom findin out (link)
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i would suggest not sneaking out, but i pretty much know how since one of my best friends does alot-- if you have a screen they usually come off and if they dont, scissors work and its usually not that obvious.... if you do decide to meet at your house make sure youre really quiet and the floorboards or whatever on your back porch dont creak. make sure its not too early and your parents arent light sleepers- if ya wanna make it easier go over to his house cause its always harder on the person whos parents are a few feet away.... make sure you close the window and the blinds/curtains, but dont lock it-- dont take anything that will get caught and make sure you can see and wont fall off the roof- thatll make for a perfect night, im sure
haha so ya i hope i helped!!
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ok, well my ex girlfriend and i just got done breaking up with each other cause we aggreed on it and stuff on saturday night, well today i was hangin with this girl and i really like her (ive only known her for 2 days, but theres somthin about her) and i dont know if i should go into a relationship with her, or if i should still think about it, cause really i dunno
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wait at least a week or two so nobody thinks youre just insecure or anything-- and give yourself time to figure out if you really like her or not
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im going into my freshman year of highschool and my bf reaseantly broke up with me and it hurt ALOT...but i did nothing to be meam or hurtful to him apart from say one thing , that i didnt even mean, and now he wont forgive me. Why does he need to forgive me? I should be the one trying to come to terms with the way he acted.
i could never feel the same way about him but still care about him.
What shall i do/say?
oh and i might go to the movies with a guy. Is that considered a date and is it ok to date someone after i have just got out of a fairly heavy, long-ish term relationship? (link)
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first Q: dont talk to him for a couple days, give him time to get over whatever you said that obviously hurt him. later, when he is alone, let him know how truly sorry you are and that you understand if he doesnt forgive you, but you wanted him to know just how much you really care about him, and you dont want him to be upset with you (thats only if he doesnt come talk to you in those two days) if you really wanna be mean rent "two can play that game" but its rated R if you arent allowed.... if he doesnt forgive you its okay just be nice and he will probably become a friend again even if he isnt your boyfriend anymore
second Q: no its not a date if you think hes nice and stuff and you like him. if your ex has a problem with it or something then just remind him that he dumped you and got mad at YOU, not visa versa... if you feel okay with going out with this guy its fine... i would just refrain from making out and such or people would say youre a slut-- im sure everything will be fine if you go out with him
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ok so, last night i went to a party and met this really cool guy. he's a friend of one of my ex's. he said it was a birthday party when he invited me so one of my friends wouldnt feel lonely. well i found out later that the party is for his girlfriend. but he really wants to end the relationship. she controls him all the time. and so idk i just kinda like him. and he called me up last night and we talked for a couple of hours and he asked me out on a date tonight so we can get better aquainted. it seems fine to me but im just not sure, hes 18 and im 16, which isnt bad because ive dated 18 yr olds before, like all last year. i just dont really kno what to do. is being interested in him wrong?
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definately not! if you like him thats awesome and if hes going to dump his girlfriend its all the better. just do what feels right
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thanks for your advice..im the same girl that is having problems with her bf and i got him a bracelet! but i just called him a little bit ago cause when we were talking on here my computer froze and when i got back on he was off! and i was crying and hes all like its gonna be ok sweetie, i love you sweetie, and ill call you later tonight..just dont give up on me, im not gonna move on, and all this other stuff! i just dont know what to think..it breaks my heart so much! please help me..could this mean n e thing? (link)
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he sounds really sweet and he obviously cares about you. it sounds to me like you dont have anything to worry about- i dont think that if he flirts with some other girl it will necessarily mean he's going to leave you. he probably cant help it but it seems like you are so much more important to him than anyone else right now. im not quite sure what you're asking, but hold your head high cause it sounds like some other girls are gonna be jealous that you have a guy who really cares about you- dont lose that!
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Would any of you agree with "a drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts"?
The other night, my friend, who had had a few, told me he liked me, he thinks it can work between us, even that im the girl he sees himself marrying. The next day I asked him about it. I asked if he remembered what he said and he said yes. So I asked him if he meant it, and he said yes. I really like him. but im scared to take it any further because I don't know it its true. (link)
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if you really like him then dont be scared cause he probably wouldnt say he liked you that much if he didnt mean it. take a chance, live a little!
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this is gonna be kinda long..sorry but me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month! and went out last year off and on for a while! but anyways..there was this girl that was suppose to be my "friend" over at my house the past 2 days! she has done nothing but bad mouth my boyfriend and say how he treats me like crap and i always have to tell her to stop and it got to the point we'd start screaming cause id get so mad! well then today she decides that she thinks its ok to sit there and send my boyfriend all these pics of her..and i would think if she was my friend she wouldnt! but i was upset and called my friend well she didnt answer..so she calls me back and was like whyd u sound upset and i told her because that girl was trying to send my bf her pic and i didnt like that! well i guess my "friend" that was here heard me and got all mad and started cussing at me like crazy! and telling me how she was leaving and how my bf treats me like crap and everything else! so we really got into it then and shes sitting there laughing going just wait im gonna mess up your relationship and make ur life miserable and lie and everything else! i told him about all this but the thing is im so scared that hes gonna believe her..i love him more then n e thing in this world and ive never felt like this before! and i wouldnt lie to him ever again ( ill admit i have in the past but i never would again) this girl is just sayin how shes goin to mess it up and have her friends say stuff to him when i know none of her friends cause they r all like 12-13 cause she got held back twice and i dont even go to the same school as her and im 16! my question is..what do i do about this? i dont wanna lose him and im so scared of it..does anybody have any idea on what i should do? i love him more then anything and i would never do n e thing to mess this up!! (link)
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omg wow thats not good
1. give him an exact copy of what you just asked me so he knows that when this girl or her friends start talking about you to him he will know not to believe anything
2. if she is still at your house, tell your mother or father so they can talk to her. if she goes to your school tell a counselor- it sounds like she needs help
3. i know it might be hard, but try to ignore it when she talks bad about him. if she says "he is such a gross eater! he doesnt even use a napkin! who would want to kiss HIM?" or something just plain rude, laugh it off, be like "oh i KNOW its such a bad habit." or something. it will be hard but it seems like she wants to steal him or something so dont let her get to you, cause she will know it when she does. if you are worried she might tell him, just be like "ya- you wanna piece of cake?" or whatever- cheange the subject and halfway ignore whatever rude thing she says
4. if she starts yelling at you DO NOT yell back it just brings you as low (if not lower for yelling at someone so low) as her. just nod and let her temper wear off and try not to argue cause it doesnt seem like its getting anywhere
5. just an idea- let your boyfriend know that you are going to go back-talk him a little but you dont mean it so you can get this girl off your case. then talk to her about how he flirts so much with other girls or always ignores you and is such a tv hog when a game is on. she might go tattling to him but if he knows whats up ahead of time it shouldnt hurt
6. also, maybe ask him to get another email address and use it ONLY to talk to you so that he will know its you and not this girl. delete the messages AS SOON AS you are done so she wont read them
7. lastly- if you have any mean IMs or emails or things she wrote about you show them to a parent, a counselor, but most importantly your guy so he knows that you really mean what you say about her
if all else fails, make sure you NEVER see this girl again and cut off any contact you may have with her cause she sounds really immature
just dont sink to her level or try to get even- it never works
i hope i helped!!!
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I am 12 and a half and 4 weeks ago I hooked up with a boy named Luke and I really like him. Although I am supposed to go out with him I am really scared because when my mum will pick me up if she sees him, that she will abandon me from seeing him. I am scared to tell her that I have a boyfriend because I am scared that she wont allow me to see him. Please help! (link)
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just be honest. if you tell her whats up BEFORE she finds out herself, she will trust you more. dont center your life around him or your mother wont think you are responsible enough. if you have a B average dont bring it down to a C because you're too busy talking to him on the phone. if she still says you cant have a boyfriend, i hate to say it but you can still go out with him just make sure that if youre going to the mall with him you bring a friend and HER boyfriend too, so you can say "hey mom can i go to the mall with Cathy?" or something like that and shell be like "sure, hun, ill drive you" or whatever shell say. just dont let her know hell be there to. i have a friend who had six boyfriends in the eighth grade even though she wasnt allowed and her mother never found out cause she kept her grades up and didnt talk on the phone with him too much.
hope i helped!
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ok well here is the thing. I have a xanga and everyone always leaves me coments saying that im so hott and all this stuff. i dont no any of these people at all but i love the comments. when it comes to school and stuff not one boy would ever look at me. I look the same in real like as i do in these pictures and all these boys what me there but i havent had one boy since ive been in hs. im a sophmore now and i really what the boys to notice me. i dont have to many guy friends and i dont want to just go up and talk to these guys i want them to come up to me. what do i do? (link)
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smile and just plain old be friendly. if you walk around smiling for no reason people will be friendly towards you (including the guys) and if a hott guy is sitting alone go and talk to him! he'll enjoy the company and may even notice you! they may not notice you alone.... they may need your help!
hope i helped
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