|
My crush may have others
Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.
I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....
And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Okay, the first thing I think you need to do is take a deep breath, maybe some yoga lessons. They are very relaxing. No, I was not actually serious about going out for yoga but definately the deep breath. You sound like you have a million thoughts running through your head and wow I have been there. Once somebody has you um......I guess the word would be hooked.....it's hard to get them out of your mind and it kind of drives you crazy. From experience thats not so fun. I know, I know, get to the advice part. Last thing before I do I would like to thank you for not being one of those guys who judges bye "Oh, she's soooo hott." Them dudes need to get over it.
Okay, my advice starts with that I think yeah she does like you. I wouldn't go so far as to say she loves you just yet. I think you are reading a little too much into the "I'd love to go to the carnival with you." Yes she did say love but you also asked her to go as friends. I also think that you are right in assuming that her other boyfriends didn't love her. They didn't last very long so they must not have been too good.
Now I know you probably don't want to hear this and don't take offense, but you are 13. Love ~ I am still trying to figure out what it really is. I could go on and on about what people think it is, but that wouldn't get us anywhere. Love happens over a long time and its different for everybody. I love all my friends like I would jump in front of a car for them, but with someone you think is "the one" it is different. Think about whether or not you really do love her. I don't need to know the answer, I just want you to think about it.
Now to the part of how could you get her? Yes, the first kiss is special, but I don't think she would keep going back to somebody just because he was her first kiss, so that's one less thing you have to worry about. When you try to get her, mister not very flirtacious, talk to her when her friends aren't hanging out too. Call her when you know her parents aren't home. It makes it way easier to talk to someone. And don't bring your whole crew of your friends and/or family either. I'm pretty sure you would have guessed that already. Just get to know her a little better, make her laugh, make her realize what a sweet guy you are (give her compliments on the little things some people don't notice). You might not want to tell her how you don't want any other guy to have her and how you're worried about this a lot because that might freak her out a little bit. So just a tip. Then (I suggest you do this in person) tell her what you've liked about her since you've known her and ask her out. If after you do all this and have been completely awesome I would hope she doesn't turn you down. If she does you can throw a Coup D'etat and kick me out of my advice giving position. I don't mind your letter being insanely long, my answer is equally insane. I hope I made your hard time easier ~ MUAH! ~ Nina.
]
Hey there! The best thing to do is tell her exactly how you feel. Don't shy away and assume things, because the more you keep from not telling her how you feel, the more she might belieive that you don't care. Be honest with how you feel, because you may never know how she might react or she will never know how much of a great, caring guy you are. So go for it! I give you props for being that caring person that you are! Good luck!
]
omg i love you...your so sweet...if she doesn`t love you she HAS to be insane..i mean look at you...your worried about her, you care about her, its pretty noticable that u love her...most girls after havin exes and loosin there first kiss, think htat the GUY should make the first move...and on the carnival thing, the way she said i`d love to, is like a plus that she at LEAST has feelings for you, well i hope i helped and crap...if u need any other help well just ask...
You sound like a deticated guy and i love you...lol... well bii ♥ Michelle
]
Tell her exactly everything you've told me or...us. Tell her your worries, your fears, your ...love for her . Don't pressure her or anything and give her all the time that she needs but not TOO TOO much time . You also have to be prepared to accept all possibilities. That means accepting the possibility that she may decline your offer. What you have to understand is that you're 13. You're young, you're...in love, and everything feels...extraordinary and needful. But if she chooses not to accept your offer, then you have to realize that life goes on and that there are plenty of other girls out there waiting for the Mr.Nice Guy like you. Some will welcome you with open arms. And if she accepts, then you're embarking upon the most coveted thing in your present. Don't worry about her first kiss, which come on...really isn't a lot of experience although you may consider it as such. Just because she's went out with dudes and broken up with them makes her exactly...young and adventurous. She too is curious. IT doesn't at all make her ...experienced. Just go with the flow, even if you're not experienced. Take it easy and be cool and let her know that whatever decision she makes is what you respect although rather reluctantly. You have to. Perhaps for acceptance and perhaps for moving on: IF, and ONLY IF, she declines. There's always a risk in the game of love. Question is : are you daring enough to take the hike?
]
Wow. Most girls can only hope for someone as dedicated as you. I definetly don't think your chances are over in the least. Why don't you ask her out in person. I just think it might mean more since most guys can't handle that. Tell her you don't want to mess around with her.... tell her what she means to you, and that even though you feel like you don't have a good chance you just want a really good relationship that can last, and ask her out. I really have the feeling from the way she's acted that she's just waiting for you to say something. Maybe she has had her first kiss.... but remember .... it doesn't mean she's unkissable. Good luck!
]
we all have that one person we really want in life. They have other crushes and loves while we sit back and watch.... there's a chance that she'll come around... and again that she might not... just... be there for her when things are good or bad and be the best friend you can... that's what girls need the most.. a guy they can run to... if she means so much to you.... don't you want her to be happy? There's always a chance though... DOn't give up!
*probably not what you wanted to hear, sorry.
Good Luck :)
~aeromonkey
]
wow!
i know how you feel (except my crush is a guy im a girl)
I understant completely you feel like u cant live without her she is your life you cant get 2 sleep because you think about her, your heart is pounding when you see her in the halls....i guess thats more that a crush right?
but if u feel like she is really special just tell her how you feel
its sounds so simple yet itz very complicated
all you do is ask her how she feels about you and stuff then ask her out tell her how much you love her and things like that you just gt 2 fight for her(especially if her ex comes back)
she will like you cause you like her not just 4 good looks but 4 her personality...
i hope i helped and i know tons about relationships so stick 1 in my inbox if something comes up id love to help you.
<3 xoxoxM
by the way that is soooooooo sweet how you wrote her a song... i wish my crusher would do that ...id love to see it (im not trying to get into your business or anything so you dont have to...)
good luck
]
dude , trust me , ive ben in a sit. like this, you need to ask if she likes you , or if shell go out with you , and if you dont , you'll never forgive yourself, and dont be nervous , just remember if you lover her you need to take this chance
well i gtg, if you liked my advice , please rate me , good luck
]
just because shes already had her first kiss doesnt mean she wont like you-- plenty of my friends HATE the guys theyve kissed-- it means nothing until she says it meant everything. it sounds like she likes you so just ask her and im sure shell say yes
but it also sounds like she doesnt go out with people long so dont expect her to be your true love-- cause nobody's true love is EVER their first love
well i hope i helped!
<3<3 anne givings
]
God.
You know, I'd seriously love to have a guy like you...
Maybe get her a present for christmas, valentines day, or her birthday. In small steps, give her a clue that you REALLY like her. Or if you wanna take a direct approach, just ask her out when you know she's single. I'm 13 too, and I might get a little creeped out if a guy was stalking me (actually, one did), but you seem to be not a stalker, but you really like her.
If you ask her out and she rejects, maybe ask out a few other girls you like and then come back to her. Maybe she'll come to her senses. But I'm just telling you, any girl would love to have a caring, passionate guy like you.. so if things don't work out with her, there's a bunch of other girls out there that you will meet..
Best of luck!
<3Toast
]
If it was me i would vonfront her and tell her exacty how you feel about her. Tell her you are serious and aint gonna do her wrong. let her know that you see more in her other than whats on the outside.
]
Woah that must have taken awhile to type haha. Any ways if you really liek her liek you say.. Tell her. Go for it. ask her out. explain that she means the WORLD to you. If you havent already, show her the song you wrote about her. she will ~Love~ it no matter how horrible it is. girls liek that kind of stuff.
i dont really know whut else to say.. so i really hope i helped!!!♥
]
Look just because she had her first kiss doesn't mean that she is going to be with the one she had it with.Going insane won't solve anything you have to take this calmly at least try to.You should speak to her that why you diss her ex because why would he break up with such a wonderful girl like her.Do whatever it takes to have her.But I don't mean do something bad of course.Good luck!
]
More Questions: |