I am 5 feet tall and I love being short. I am extroverted so I rarely care what people think of me. The day somebody calls me a ho then I will care because that I am not. I have brown hair blue eyes and lots of freckles. Learned to love those. They make me me. Dancing is my favorite past-time. Don't care where I am I just dance. Eleven years of dance class baby. I also can't stop singing. People say I am pretty good at it so I choose to believe them. Do you? Eh...I don't give a poop. Me and my friends have been through a lot and they come to me all the time with their problems. I could help you with a lot I guess you could say. I like to listen to ppl and then help them. I don't know why I just do. And I won't feed you crap if I don't know what I'm talking about. I'll just tell you i don't know what I'm talking about and apologize. If you need help: PICK ME! PICK ME! I'm a tid-bit insane but I think that works to my advantage. Ask away!
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Hey. I'm 13/female. See, my mom just sent me to go live with my dad who.. well he hits me a lot, and sometimes he touches me in places that..ehh your father shouldn't go. And yes, my mom does know this, she just doesn't want me and my sister living with her full time. I cant tell the police because im the only person he does stuff to and it owuld kill my sister and step-family if he were put away... and the would all hate me. I'm thinking about just..ending everything but i don't want to hurt my friends. Can anyone help.. ? (link)
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Wow it must have taken a lot to tell this to a total stranger and I commend you on it. First thing I want you to do is DO NOT I repeat DO NOT just go and end it all. That is never the answer no matter how much it may seem to look like the best option. Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it. I don't know haw many times I could say that to you. If you need help with your suicidal thoughts you can call a suicide hotline. Here are two national hotlines and they are toll free. 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) and 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). If you want one thats in your state go to www.suicidehotlines.com.
As for the other part of that I believe (from what I have looked up) it is called sexual assault (Conduct of a sexual or indecent nature toward another person that is accompanied by actual or threatened physical force or that induces fear, shame, or mental suffering.). I can understand why you do not want to go to the police on this, but I strongly suggest you do. I don't think your sister and step-family would hate you for putting your father away if they knew what he was doing to you. One out of every three girls experience it before the age of 18 but that absolutely positively does not make it right. For saying this I mean no offense to your family, but I can not possibly understand why, if your mother knew this was going on, she would still send you to live with your dad. I get that she doesn't want two girls living with her full time I guess, but isn't that a rather high price to pay for your space? If you don't want to go to your local police, I still stress that you tell some kind of authority on this matter. There is a program called the Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN). They also have a hotline you can call and a website you can check out. http://www.rainn.org/ & 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673). The hotline is free and completely confidential so don't worry. Thats about the best I can do for you. I really would like for you to talk to some of these people. If you still want to talk to me ~ write me back with your e-mail address and I will e-mail you. If you no longer want to talk to me I strongly hope I helped and I wish you the best of luck with your problems ~ MUAH! ~ Nina
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Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.
I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....
And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time. (link)
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Okay, the first thing I think you need to do is take a deep breath, maybe some yoga lessons. They are very relaxing. No, I was not actually serious about going out for yoga but definately the deep breath. You sound like you have a million thoughts running through your head and wow I have been there. Once somebody has you um......I guess the word would be hooked.....it's hard to get them out of your mind and it kind of drives you crazy. From experience thats not so fun. I know, I know, get to the advice part. Last thing before I do I would like to thank you for not being one of those guys who judges bye "Oh, she's soooo hott." Them dudes need to get over it.
Okay, my advice starts with that I think yeah she does like you. I wouldn't go so far as to say she loves you just yet. I think you are reading a little too much into the "I'd love to go to the carnival with you." Yes she did say love but you also asked her to go as friends. I also think that you are right in assuming that her other boyfriends didn't love her. They didn't last very long so they must not have been too good.
Now I know you probably don't want to hear this and don't take offense, but you are 13. Love ~ I am still trying to figure out what it really is. I could go on and on about what people think it is, but that wouldn't get us anywhere. Love happens over a long time and its different for everybody. I love all my friends like I would jump in front of a car for them, but with someone you think is "the one" it is different. Think about whether or not you really do love her. I don't need to know the answer, I just want you to think about it.
Now to the part of how could you get her? Yes, the first kiss is special, but I don't think she would keep going back to somebody just because he was her first kiss, so that's one less thing you have to worry about. When you try to get her, mister not very flirtacious, talk to her when her friends aren't hanging out too. Call her when you know her parents aren't home. It makes it way easier to talk to someone. And don't bring your whole crew of your friends and/or family either. I'm pretty sure you would have guessed that already. Just get to know her a little better, make her laugh, make her realize what a sweet guy you are (give her compliments on the little things some people don't notice). You might not want to tell her how you don't want any other guy to have her and how you're worried about this a lot because that might freak her out a little bit. So just a tip. Then (I suggest you do this in person) tell her what you've liked about her since you've known her and ask her out. If after you do all this and have been completely awesome I would hope she doesn't turn you down. If she does you can throw a Coup D'etat and kick me out of my advice giving position. I don't mind your letter being insanely long, my answer is equally insane. I hope I made your hard time easier ~ MUAH! ~ Nina.
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There is this one guy I REALLY like and he likes me too. Part of me wants to just ask him out cause I KNOW i like him. But, Part of me wants him to ask me. We are BEST friends and right now I feel like I can tell him ANYTHING. So I'm kind of confused on if I want him to be more than we are? Or if I should just ask him out? Or how can I get him to ask me out? Or what do you guys think?
Thanx in advance (link)
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If you both really like each other I still think he should ask you out. Yes you can hint him along, but if he doesn't have the balls to ask you out what kind of a man is he? If you feel like you can tell him anything you can tell him that you like him as more than a friend and want to see where it could go (or you could just flirt lots because thats always fun :P). If he truly likes you that should give him the confidence to ask you out(cuz most guys don't like to be rejected and won't ask if they're unsure). I'm all for girl power, but I still think the guy should make the first move. Hope I helped ~ MUAH! ~ Nina
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