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Q: I am 13/f and am in the 8th grade. Im not really skinny but medium. I have never been asked out by a guy and I dont really want a bf but I want to be liked. I play sports and am kind uf tomboyish. Also usually I panick if I find out I guy just likes me a little and say something mean. How should I handle a guy that like me w/o bursting on him, is it bad ive never had a bf or been asked out, and should I be more girlish?

I think that every girl is liked by at least one guy... And i think that a guy should like you because of your personallity. I don't think you should turn more girly if you love the things you do now. I think that when i guy likes you and someone tell's you he does just smile and say "he's cool" or something like that... If you don't like him try to avoid saying something mean.. Just be yourself and you'll fine

Q: Ok, so here's the deal, I have this REALLY good guy friend, I mean he's like my best friend. Well, he just recently broke up with his girlfriend, and it looks like they aren't gonna get back together like he wants to.Well... I have started kinda liking him. Well, last night, me and two of my other friends went over to his house while one of his other friends was there. Well, he kept flirting withme, and like touching me and stuff,then I was like "Let's play truth or dare" and he goes "I dare myself to have 7 minutes in heaven with -my name-" so, I kinda just laughed.. but, he was serious, and so was everybody else in the room. So, we go in the closet, and they shut us in. Well, I didn't think he liked me, and I didn't think anything would happen. Then, he started touchingme, and like pullin me closer, and we starting kissing (this was my first kiss),then we started making out and he was like touching my butt and everything. Then, we get out of the closet, when our time is up, and a little while later he started talkin to his friend privately, and I found out that he told his friend that he was gonna ask me out. Then, we went back in the closet for a few more minutes.. and that was it. But, I'm so confused, cause this was last night, and he hasn't asked me out, and he has said a few things about his ex-girlfriend. I don't know what to think.. and I feel so crappy cause I really dolike him alot.. and I just wish he would ask me out. Sorry this was so long, but if anybody has any advice it would be greatly appreciated, and I'll rate 5's. Thanks.

hey i think tht you should call him and ask him to go to a movie or sumthing and see wht hapens mabe he'll ask you out or if he puts a move on you then tell him you dont feel right cause your not going out yet then he'll prob ask you out or you could just ask him out!!

give some feedbak
and tell ya friends about me and amd amanda!!!

best of luck, becca and amanda

Q: i just got my hair cut.. and i can't find anything to do with it, except straightening it. my hair goes past my shoulders a little bit, and i have short layers.. it kinda looks like ashlee simpsons, but my hair isn't as long. does anyone have any cute ideas how to do my hair? if you need an idea of what it looks like.. go to my myspace.. www.myspace.com/jmacx16

oh yeah, i have bangs too. i cut them so i could do the side angle bang thing, but it doesn't stay. is there any good kind of hair product that could train them to stay on the side? if u have an idea, please tell me the name and the cost. thanks so much!

Hey! There are so many [A Ton!] of things you can do with great hair like yours.. First off i like your hair and then second i think it would look really "neat" and kind of different [in a good way] if you used things like a curling iron, crimping (that would be cute), and brading it like small sections or just one layer with a small braid with a ribbon at the end or something.. Or push back the right *or Left* first layer bang with a clipp.. that would be cool or umm there are so many idea.. did you ever hear of scrunching your hair.. That would look good. Or if you put it up.. and let the bacgs hang kind of to the side. Well those are just a few ideas ((Give some feed back on what you thought)) But overall your hair looks thin and it looks like you can do a lot of things to it.. Hope you like some of those ideas if not give some feed backs and i can give you a couple more ideas..
XoO

Q: ok i dont get this about my body like the rest of it is all tight and fit but my arms are like all flappy and gross like, i see ppl that are like really fat but dont have arms like me, that arelike all flabby, can u tell me why this is, and like how can i fix this i mean my whole body is great except my arms!!

well mabe you shoud do some arm exersises to help the flappyness for example ;lift waits push ups pull ups lift hevy objects it might seem like alot of work but you'll love the results and i think you have nothing to do with your arms it could be heredity

lots of luck,
becca and amanda!

Q: At my school, each grade level has a color. && they wear this color every friday during football season. So as a Sophmore I have to wear a grey shirt. I dont know what to write on it. Give me a catchy phrase or slogan or something to put on my shirt, please. Thanks.

Sophmors are grayt!!!! Would be one of the better solgans i can think of to put on your shirt. I hope you like it.. Give us some feedbacck

Q: how do you spell
supercalafragilistickexpeeallidoeshis properly?
i rate high if you arent snobby when you answer

Hey, I'm not sure exactly how you spell superkalafragalisticexpealidoshis (I think only the people who worked with that film are firmilair with that spelling) I do know a way to find out how it spell it though.. Watch the film Mary Poppings and put it on captions (so the words will show up on the bottom of the screen) and then when then part comes the correct spelling will come up. Thanx for your time and sorry i didn't know the write answer

Q: what are some good sogs to sing 4 da talent show

Well to pick a song for the talent show you need to find out what type of muscic you perfer to sing.. Like for example, if you can sing well really high then pick a song that has high notes or if you can sing well low pick a song with lower notes... Behind theee hasel eyes is a good song if you can sing for long periods of time like for example it takes some one who can control there breathing and can sing pretty high. A lower song would be a song a guy sings.. Don't try to match the artists voice and i would recomend not singing a rap song..
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Q: hey,
today I got in a hung fight with my mom!! i'll spare you the deltails but i will tell you this, it envolved slamming plates, both of us yelling and crying and stuff...wow she told me that i was going to H*** (i am a goody-goody i've always made sure i was going to Heaven) and she sed to burn in H*** and i got so upset

what should i do? i;m just not getting along with her PLEASE HELP I RATE WELL!!!!

Okay well... No matter what your mom does she always loves you!!! And she probably didn't mean what she said. When someone gets angry they tend to say things that they don't mean. I would start off by saying that your sorry for what ever it is you did. It's better to talk to your mom and not yell at her. She won't start to throw plates at you if you don't get her mad... I would just tell her that your sorry.. (Chances are) She won't ignore you when you say your sorry or confess to being mean. Don't stress out, it will be okay.. You can never stay mad at someone who loves you for to long. Deep down inside your mom doesn't mean what she said and you and her both know that. If you keep fighting with her then thats really bad. Your mom will never understand everything in your lyfe so while you live with her your going to fight but don't make it so you fight with dishes and etc. It's better to talk things out. That probably sounded really orignal but its true. You don't have to tell her everything that's going on in your life to make her understand you but just say to her "I'm sorry for what i did" chances are she won't accept it right away (although she might) but after you say that just walk away and go into your room (don't slam your door) and chances are in the end it will all work out. Also make sure you at least "sound" like you mean it when you say sorry. Don't take this word for word or don't use this advice at all. But be sure to write some feed back.. Best Wishes Amanda, and Rebecca

Q: im sure everygirl has the problem but i am confused me and my bf were at a party on the golf course and there was the bench like away from everyone he asked if i wanted to go up there with him and i said yes...so we went up there and all he did was sit there and barely even talked...i was kinda let down if u know what i mean.. but finally he started to talk and all of our freidns came up there being there nosey little selves........it seems like im making the first moves ..... i know he likes me but how or what can i do to make him come out of his shell

be your self infront of him and mabe he'll come out of his shell make sure you tell him to be his self infront of you cause if he cnt be himself with you the relationship isnt worth it if tht doesnt work go on group dates with a lot of his friend he has to be himself infront of them

best of luck becca and amanda
ps make sure you right in our feed bak!!

Q: A few friday's ago my best friend and I were at skate night and we wanted her 4 boy cousins to come. We called them and we both talked to them and stuff and we were being annoying..
but then we called 10 times straight and my friend told me what to say and I said it.. like I kept asking for her cousin's best friend who was over and we were just being annoying.. and so his best friend told me that her cousin was getting annoyed and we should stop calling. I said "ok" and we stopped calling. Then they came to skate night, but her cousin and his best friend wouldn't talk to us. My friend said sorry when I wasn't there. Her cousin still likes her, cuz he's known her all his life, but he probably thinks I'm an obnoxious rude biatch and won't talk to me cuz he doesn't know me that well. I feel SOOOOOO guilty.. I mean REAAAAALLLLYYY guilty. I don't know what to do. Should I try to tell him I'm sorry? I don't know what he'd do.. What should I do?!
13/f.. cousin and his friend are 15/m

Okay well it sounds to me like your friends cousin and cousins friend are pretty annoyed. I think that you should definately say sorry. Try to talk to them and be yourself. He knows you can be annoying

Q: does anyone know how to release a troubled soul? Recently i have been feeling like an outsider twith my friends. I feel like my friends have to be too serious around me and i feel like i cant relate to them and i feel like a total outsider. i feel like there is something worng with me.i can hardly ever laugh anymore. i think i'm going into a depression.maybe i'm gonna die soon so i can be released from my torubled soul. Plz help i dunno wut i'm gonna do!

True friends should always be there for you. Your friends don't seem to understand you and what going through which probably makes it hard to be there friend!!! What you need is someone who will lift you up and show you friendship.. You need a true friend one that you can laugh with and enjoy times with. Don't keep letting your self down with your friends... Try to meet someone new. If you get into the state of depression things could get really serious. A friend should always have your back -->> No Matter what. You need someone (who from your point of veiw would be more like a hero then a friend) The friend you met last year or even just recently are going to get old, you should talk to your friends and if they don't understand try to meet someone new. Enjoy yourself for a day with your friends go out to a amusement park or just stay home and watch movies... Try to spend more quality time with your friends ((And a make a few Jokes)) Try to get them to losen up a little bit... Never stop being someones friend because you never gave them time to understand you. Talk with them and once they understand it may be easier 4 you and for them.. Best wishes

Q: Okay, Hi
Im having a bit of a problem, my friends brother, we'll call him mark, has a MASSIVE crush on me and I'm not sure i feel the same way.. I might a little bit, but definatly not the way he feels about me! I stayed at his house for a few days this summer because his sister is my best friend... or one of them, and i came in looking like myself, i am big on makeup and hair and stuff, but i came out with none, if not hardly and makeup on, a couple zits and limp hair that was a little greasy. I didnt look to good and a week or so later he said that he thinks that im beautiful - not hot, beautiful. On my first night there, my friend fell asleep on the couch and so it was just him and i, we talked for three or so hours and it was so easy to talk to him, and i could tell he was sooo happy he got to talk to just me... im not sure if that means anything but just thought i would share that with you.
Please help, im so confused as what to do!
and i cant ask him out because my friend would kill me!

I understand how you feel! Your friend should understand your feelings with this guy. If shes a true friend she would look past the bad in this relationship and more towards the good. He sounds like an awesome guy, and passing the chance might not be smart. You don't want to regret going out with him but you don't want to regret not going out with him. So its a hard situation. I think the best thing to do is to talk to your friend. I think she's probably afraid your going to spend more time with her brother and forget about her. Write back if you have any more problems with that.. Good luck talking to your friend. And i hope all goes well.

Q: So we just started school back up this Tuesday and I like it just fine. But the only problem is that I don't have any friends. And I sit alone at lunch, and all the kids look at me like "OMG what a loser.." I actually heard some kid behind me say to one of his friends about "oh look at the girl sitting by herself" and he laughed like it was the funniest thing in the world.

I am a very shy person, and I have actually tried to go up to a few people and ask if I can sit with them. They say yes but don't talk to me and make me feel really uncomfortable around them so it's pointless to sit with them. I have contemplated just going to sit in the bathroom or library at lunch.

But the only problem with that is I have to eat during lunch, because if I don't, when I come home I'll eat alot. My mom and I get food stamps and every month they lower the price so I can't eat all the food. What do I do? Do I just suck it up and sit by myself everyday? Or do I just not eat so much? Please help! I will rate!

I think that starting school is hard and making friends doesn't always come easily. Be your self around people and be honest. Ask people if you can sit with them and try to keep the conversation flowing. Try to find someone who is in most of your classes and sit next to them. Try to go to someone who is also sitting alone... Try some of this and then keep writing if you have anymore problems. But try not to let yourself down and don't sit alone. Try not to avoid eating in the lunch room.