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Hey. I'm 13/female. See, my mom just sent me to go live with my dad who.. well he hits me a lot, and sometimes he touches me in places that..ehh your father shouldn't go. And yes, my mom does know this, she just doesn't want me and my sister living with her full time. I cant tell the police because im the only person he does stuff to and it owuld kill my sister and step-family if he were put away... and the would all hate me. I'm thinking about just..ending everything but i don't want to hurt my friends. Can anyone help.. ?
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Wow it must have taken a lot to tell this to a total stranger and I commend you on it. First thing I want you to do is DO NOT I repeat DO NOT just go and end it all. That is never the answer no matter how much it may seem to look like the best option. Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it. I don't know haw many times I could say that to you. If you need help with your suicidal thoughts you can call a suicide hotline. Here are two national hotlines and they are toll free. 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) and 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). If you want one thats in your state go to www.suicidehotlines.com.
As for the other part of that I believe (from what I have looked up) it is called sexual assault (Conduct of a sexual or indecent nature toward another person that is accompanied by actual or threatened physical force or that induces fear, shame, or mental suffering.). I can understand why you do not want to go to the police on this, but I strongly suggest you do. I don't think your sister and step-family would hate you for putting your father away if they knew what he was doing to you. One out of every three girls experience it before the age of 18 but that absolutely positively does not make it right. For saying this I mean no offense to your family, but I can not possibly understand why, if your mother knew this was going on, she would still send you to live with your dad. I get that she doesn't want two girls living with her full time I guess, but isn't that a rather high price to pay for your space? If you don't want to go to your local police, I still stress that you tell some kind of authority on this matter. There is a program called the Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN). They also have a hotline you can call and a website you can check out. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) & 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673). The hotline is free and completely confidential so don't worry. Thats about the best I can do for you. I really would like for you to talk to some of these people. If you still want to talk to me ~ write me back with your e-mail address and I will e-mail you. If you no longer want to talk to me I strongly hope I helped and I wish you the best of luck with your problems ~ MUAH! ~ Nina
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you need to tell someone reliable. you must have a horrible mother to not take immediate action. fathers are not supposed to do things like that. hitting...well i hear stories of that a lot but touching you in private areas...ew...tell an adult, and if it comes to the last resort...TELL THE POLICE...they can help you and will help your father. please listen to me!!!
x0 dani--trust me
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you have to tell some one!
please do. im worried for you... first of all your father he shouldnt be touching you in those places and he certainly shouldnt be hitting you. your so young anything he does will remain in your mind for eternity. no one would hate you for telling the police whats happening, its rong and he shouldnt be doin those things. maybe talking to some one you trust that dosent know your family. dont think about ending everything. ive felt that way before and now i realise what a mistake it would be. your sooo young to be thinkin of ending your life you have many things to look forward to.. like a boyfriend, first kiss, getting married, having kids doing all things in your dreams. please dont do anything stupid.. please?
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Your father is not functioning rationally.
It is a parent's duty to protect his offspring.
By abusing you, he is not fulfilling his duty as an intelligent being.
Offspring abuse is illegal on all 87 of the planetary systems in the Galactic Sodality. There is no rational excuse for this behavior.
I will now attempt to be sensitive to your desire to not create discord within your family relationships. My suggestion is to seek out an adult human you can trust. Another family member, a family friend, school teacher or counselor. You must tell this human about your situation and gain his or her aid in confronting your father. Together, you must demand that your father stop the abuse. If you consider your father capable of violence, the two of you must take precautions against this possibility, such as having a portable communication device by which you can summon the appropriate authorities.
The final analysis: If the abuse does not stop, you must alert the authorities! Your father understands the law; he understands that what he is doing is wrong. If he disregards the consequences and continues in his irrational behavior, you must see to it that he gets the help he needs.
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I know it is hard, but you do need to tell someone. Chances are if he's doing it to you, he's probably doing it, already done it, or will be doing it to others.
If your mom does not want to have you and your sister in her home full-time, then she has a responsibility to find you a SAFE place to go. A situation where you are dealing with abuse, both physical and sexual, is not safe.
You need to tell someone to not only protect yourself against this abuse, but also prevent him from doing it to someone else, maybe even someone you care about. Most sexual abusers will keep doing it over and over again until someone stops the circle of abuse.
Please tell someone about your father's abuse. Any form of abuse can have life-long scars, both physical and emotional, if help isn't found.
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hey! the first thing that comes to mi mind that yo0h could do is to go to the cops...but yo0h dont want yer family to hate yo0h...so i would say find sumone in yer family that would listen nd believe yo0h nd tell them about it get them to either end it er just keep an eye on him so they can say sumthing to the other members of yer family er they mite call the cops themselves if he keeps it uhp! rele hope i helped i`m here fer yo0h! aim: XxLil36PunkxX, yahoo mail: sexy_crazy_kisser_krissy2010@yahoo.com
just iM me er e-mail me nd i`ll help yo0h!...hope i helped!=)
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Hi. I'm really sadden to hear your story. ...I hope my advice doesn't upset you but I think you have to tell the police or someone (like a teacher or counselor) that will tell the police for you. I kunderstand why you wouldn't want to tell the police and your reasons are valid, but your family will be hurt by your father if his behavior isn't stopped. I don't think you should "end it all" because then your siser would be alone and you wouldn't want himt o do anything to her. Don't leave her alone. What that man is doing has to be stopped. You cannot live with him and your mother should know that. You may love her and understand her but when it comes down to it your own health, emotional, physical, spiritual, mental, and your sister's are at risk here. The only way for things to start getting better is if you go live with a different relative and stay away from your father, and make sure he gets help and is treated and can never hurt you again. I'm sorry if I'm giving you an answer you don't want to hear, but it's for your own good and for your sister's. Please consider what I say. I wish you well. Feel free to email me or leave me a message if you need more advice.
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well.. have you tried talking with your dad and telling him that you dont like when he acts like that.. and if you have.. or you think that that wont help.. then i think that you should go to the police.. because even though your sister and your step-family would dislike you.. its wrong that your dad does that.. and he could start doing this to your sister.. or if you have any other step-sisters. i dont think that the solution would be to "end everything" i think that by doing that..it would make things worse.. you would hurt everybody.. and your dad could possibly find someone new in your family to do that to.. so i think your best solution is to tell the police... i hope this helps.. and good luck!! =) XxOo lyss
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Dont think about sucide bcuz alot of people will miss you try talking to a teacher or some adult you trust more maybee a aunt or uncle or grandma and grandpa and try to call a place that can help you get away from your dad and live with one of your friends or your other trusting family members <33 hope I helped and dont even think about ending it all=) ok? hope i helped you alot
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ok well dont do anything to hurt yourself! there is another way out of this. i really think you should tell the police. i know thats something you were not looking to hear but listen, i think you should bc this is illegal and if your family does not want to see him locked up then its your dad own fault. what he is doin is soooo wrong. if not the police you need to tell someone. it will help, alot. believe me. dont do anything to hurt yourself, its NOT worth it. tell someone. please!! it will make you feel better, your father should not be doing what he is doin and he needs to stop or someone to make him stop and YOUR the ONLY person that can do that by telling someone.
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