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this is gonna be kinda long..sorry but me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month! and went out last year off and on for a while! but anyways..there was this girl that was suppose to be my "friend" over at my house the past 2 days! she has done nothing but bad mouth my boyfriend and say how he treats me like crap and i always have to tell her to stop and it got to the point we'd start screaming cause id get so mad! well then today she decides that she thinks its ok to sit there and send my boyfriend all these pics of her..and i would think if she was my friend she wouldnt! but i was upset and called my friend well she didnt answer..so she calls me back and was like whyd u sound upset and i told her because that girl was trying to send my bf her pic and i didnt like that! well i guess my "friend" that was here heard me and got all mad and started cussing at me like crazy! and telling me how she was leaving and how my bf treats me like crap and everything else! so we really got into it then and shes sitting there laughing going just wait im gonna mess up your relationship and make ur life miserable and lie and everything else! i told him about all this but the thing is im so scared that hes gonna believe her..i love him more then n e thing in this world and ive never felt like this before! and i wouldnt lie to him ever again ( ill admit i have in the past but i never would again) this girl is just sayin how shes goin to mess it up and have her friends say stuff to him when i know none of her friends cause they r all like 12-13 cause she got held back twice and i dont even go to the same school as her and im 16! my question is..what do i do about this? i dont wanna lose him and im so scared of it..does anybody have any idea on what i should do? i love him more then anything and i would never do n e thing to mess this up!! <3
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honestly ur friend dosent sound like a good friend..i think that if your b/f loves/likes you then he wouldnt let one of your friends mess up your relationship he probably likes you alot and wont listen to what your friend says..well if i was him i wouldnt listen to what your friend says
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tell him what is going on. and if anyone comes up and starts bad-mouthing you, say that its all because of a friend's jealousy. if he loves you then way that you love him, he will listen to you and forget about what all the other people say.
or what could happen, is that the girl was just trying to scare you. trying to make it seem like everything was going to end. tell him what she said, but also know that it might never happen at all.
your friend is jealous of what you have, so she is trying to make it seem horrible. she wants what you have, and she can't. act as though you don't care what she says. if she confronts you and starts to say that she's going to mess things up, say that your bf loves you and nothing will change that.
i hope that everything works out. and if your friend continues to threaten you, tell a trusted adult, and see what happens. i hope i helped.
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First of all gurl, think twice about this so called "friend" of yours. No good friend is going to be practically flirting with your bf (sending pics and stuff). If i were you, totally ignore this friend for awhile and let her cool off. And while you're doing that, talk to your bf. Sounds like a great guy so sit him down and talk to him about what's been going on. If your "friend" tries to change his mind about you then he'll already be warned and fully aware of the subject. As long as he knows what's going on, i doubt he's going to believe your "friend". Most guys don't go against their gf for some other gurl. And if he does, might as well dump him and get somebody way better!!! And if your friend is trying to persuade you that your bf treats you like crap, then she's just plain jealous!!! Ignore that and thank God you have a great bf!!! lol..Right now, dont worry about their friends. She might have just said that to make you worry, and it sounds like she's totally accomplished that. Some people just want to see how much they can freak you out. So ignore them, go have a longg private talk with your bf and stop worrying!!! In the mean time, meet some nicer people who can also help you out!!!! Wouldn't hurt!!! Just take things as they come, step by step. Hope i helped!!!
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omg wow thats not good
1. give him an exact copy of what you just asked me so he knows that when this girl or her friends start talking about you to him he will know not to believe anything
2. if she is still at your house, tell your mother or father so they can talk to her. if she goes to your school tell a counselor- it sounds like she needs help
3. i know it might be hard, but try to ignore it when she talks bad about him. if she says "he is such a gross eater! he doesnt even use a napkin! who would want to kiss HIM?" or something just plain rude, laugh it off, be like "oh i KNOW its such a bad habit." or something. it will be hard but it seems like she wants to steal him or something so dont let her get to you, cause she will know it when she does. if you are worried she might tell him, just be like "ya- you wanna piece of cake?" or whatever- cheange the subject and halfway ignore whatever rude thing she says
4. if she starts yelling at you DO NOT yell back it just brings you as low (if not lower for yelling at someone so low) as her. just nod and let her temper wear off and try not to argue cause it doesnt seem like its getting anywhere
5. just an idea- let your boyfriend know that you are going to go back-talk him a little but you dont mean it so you can get this girl off your case. then talk to her about how he flirts so much with other girls or always ignores you and is such a tv hog when a game is on. she might go tattling to him but if he knows whats up ahead of time it shouldnt hurt
6. also, maybe ask him to get another email address and use it ONLY to talk to you so that he will know its you and not this girl. delete the messages AS SOON AS you are done so she wont read them
7. lastly- if you have any mean IMs or emails or things she wrote about you show them to a parent, a counselor, but most importantly your guy so he knows that you really mean what you say about her
if all else fails, make sure you NEVER see this girl again and cut off any contact you may have with her cause she sounds really immature
just dont sink to her level or try to get even- it never works
i hope i helped!!!
<3<3 anne givings
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I would tell him her plan..and be like i wouldnt lie to you i love you more then anything and that shes a backstabber..and shes all pissed and i have a feeling shes jealous...but all you can do is talk to him and let him know that shes gunna try and mess shit up for you guys..im sorry about this i hope i helped...*!*Ashlei*!*
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if he loves you, the only person he will believe is you. you really need to talk to him about this. because your "friend" sounds a little screwy in the head. maybe you can get a restraining order. i know some people who have. i don't think you'll lose him over what other people tell him if he cares about you how you care about him. but restraining sounds like the best idea to me. it helps. it really does. hope i helped. if you need anything more, aim me sometime.
♥ Julie
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