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Q: i rely like 3 guys nd i know that 2 of them like me. i dont knoe wat 2 do =/. the other guy i dont know if he like me but i realy like him alot. but the other 2 i like. should i tell him? im confused. help me plz.=/

why thank you im glad you liked my site and my advice.
well i always go for the sure thing so i would pick from the two that you already like and go for one of them. but if u wanna chance it then id secretly ask the 3rd guy if he wanted to get together. and if he said no then what do you have to loose u have the 2 other guys to pick from right?
good luck hope i helped.
alex

Q: i'm with this guy that i really care about and well, i've never had a serious boyfriend before and well, i'm not exactly sure what to do about people spreading rumours and stuff. i haven't been telling alot of people but alot of people know i'm going out with somebody they just don't know who, and i'm not sure if i should just let everybody know so they'd all shut up and stop bugging me to tell them or not tell them and let them find out for themselves. thanks

well why dont you want them to know who your boyfreind is. if your anyway ashamed or embarresed to be with him then it isnt fair for to him for u guys to be together. i think you should tell who your boyfreind is and be proud.

Q:
I'd tell you my name, but I want to keep this anonymous...so anyway, I have this problem with someone called, let's just say "Robert". Since last year, we had been going out for ten months, up until the 11th of May, when he quickly dumped me. He said that he wasn't happy with me, mainly because I have this little issue with stretching the truth....don't know why, I just do. I tried to tell him that I don't do that to him at all, and he wouldn't listen to me. He says that he still loves me and always will, but as of right now, he wants to be friends. It's been almost two weeks now and I understand where he's coming from, and I have tried to respect him and his decision, but I want to date him again. What should I do? I want him back.

well definatly just tell him you love him and you will never lie to him again and you want to get back together. if not then go find someone else ASAP! the longer you wait the more depressed your gonna be. pluse it may just take seeing you with another guy to make him relize how bad he needs you.

Q: Ok so ive really liked a female friend of mine for a while now (im 18/m), but shes had a boyfriend for about the past 6 months, and ive all but given up on pursuing her. she has a friend thats pretty cute and seems really nice that im thinking of asking out at some point down the line but heres the thing, im worried it might destroy what litle chance i have with my friend if her and her bf ever break up. so onto my question in readers digest form, do girls have a problem with dating a guy thats dated one of their best friends?

YES!!!!!!!! but they have even a biger problem dating one of their own freinds or best freinds!

Q: Ok this guy really likes me. He asked me out today. I didnt want to hurt his feelings by sayin no so I said I dont know. And he started crying. I felt soo bad. What should i do?? He's 15/m and im 13/f. Please help. I rate high.

just say your not looking for a boyfreind right now but if you were that you would have said yes. and that he is really nice, smart & cute & u dont want to loose him as a freind because you really need him as a freind right now not as a boyfreind. hope everything works out.

Q: Okay so I am 16 my boyfriend is 18, he is leaving for college in august, We were talking last night about how we go so well together and he was telling me how lucky he felt to have me and such. I asked him about what he thought was going to happen after he left, if he thought it would still work and he said "Whell prolly not" I thought he was kidding maybe, so I looked at him blankly and he replied with "well not to be an ass but those situations never really seem to work out, I hope it does but I just dont know" So then I just let it go and said "well we dont have to think about that yet". Ugh it was just really sad, I want to know if I should get out before I fall in love and then he leaves and I have my heart broken or if I should just wait it out and see what may happen, I think that I could be already falling for him...and Im not sure if I should tell him that and if I do im not sure how.....thank you guys :)

well just tell him you need to know if he is willing to really work at keeping your guys relationship going. tell him you think you are falling for him and you need to know if he realy likes you. say that you are willing to comute to see him if he is willing to do the same. and that you are willing to call him half the time if he is willing. tell him you think your guys relationship is worth working hard for to keep going and ask him if he feels the same if he dosent im sorry but at least you found out now instead of later and move on and find a sweet hottie in your town. good luck hope you guys stay together!

Q: Me and this boy are really serious. We have been talking for like3-4 months.But this other guy asked me to the dance and then we started to talk cuz i kinda said yea since the first boy doesnt go to my school.Then he asked me to come outside and we were walkin around all day.Then he fingered me like 4 times,. But i feel really guilty cuz i love the other boy.What do I do? IS this cheating? Do i tell the other dude.

yes its cheating. you should always be honest in your reationships. but if you want good advice on how to not to get dumped dont tell him get rid of this secound guy & go on with the first guy if you really love him. but you have to ask yourself if you really loved the first guy would you have let the secound one finger you?
if you want the do the right thing advice then tell the first guy what happend because trust & honesty is the #1 thing in a relationship just remember he may break up with you for cheating. its your choice if your willing to take that risk. hope i helped.

Q: well theres this guy at my school and ive always really liked him. but hes one of these guys that everybody likes and is really popular so people just think hes out of their legue and so forget about him. well that what i thought anway but now ive found out that he likes me. he asked someone for my msn address and so ive been talking to him a lot. then he asked me for my number so we have been txting each other a lot. and the thing he has been saying are seriously flirty! and sayin what we could do when we are together. but heres the thing he hasnt asked me out or anything so we arent actually an item or anything. and my mate has asked him if hes goin to ask me out but he just said not yet because he wanted to get to know me but now im thinking does he just want to be friends? does he really like me? please help me! i rate high if its good!

well ask him if he wants to come over and watch a movie at your house or go have an ice cream its hanging out without it being to much of a date so he feels confortable and see how it takes you if he makes up some stupid excuss then just say ok well i guess ill just invite suzzy or whoever i think she really wanted to see that movie and just forget about him and play it cool like you just wanted to hang out.

Q: ok well i like this girl i have never met her in person.. we were this friday but im not going to be able to because i have a baseball game. and yes i know that doesnt matter. anywho.. we talk on the phone like every night till like 11. she lives about 30 minutes away from me. she is a grade lower then me but i dont care. she likes someone at her school and im not sure if i can do anything about it?! i think she did like me but im not sure anymore. how can i tell? and should i go out with her even though im going to be in highschool next year and she will be in 8th? thank you. i rate high to people who give me good answers.

well first of all dont plan anything till you meet her because in person you may not like her. and a year diffrense dosent matter if the girl is the younger one especially if you really like her. meet her see how you guy hit it off in real person and go from there.

Q: Well I knew this guy for three years. His name is Joe and I went to school with him for 2 years and we were just friends and now he goes to a different school and we chat online everyday and our bond has gotten stronger. We meet up sometimes.We joke around a lot. He's always saying I owe him a hug. Recently I saw him and when we were talking he asked me if he looked good and I told him he was hott. And he told me I looked cute.. THe next day he told me that someone was telling him that I had a crush on him and so I said yes a little. So now Im confused what do I do do I wait or what should I ask him?

well it sounds like hes crushing on you if not then hes a major flirt player if i were you id call him and find out how he feels. but it definatly sounds like he likes u saying your cute and how u owe him a hug and everything!

Q: Theres this guy named Jack..and well..my best friend's bro is friends with him. They both go to my school. Well the other weekend me and Jack hung out..with my best friend and her bro..well he was flirting with me the whole night..and me n him were just talking to eachother and no one else. So..Joe (his best friend) thinks he likes me and he keeps making fun of Jack for liking me. He does it non stop to me and him. It was funny at first but its getting old. Well..i like Jack..and i really want to hang out with him but the thing is i dont think he will because some of friends make fun of him..what should i do? move on or what?

ask him if hed like to hang out 7 tell him that you really like him and you want to hang out with him if he is going to let a little teasing get in the way of you guys hanging out then yes move on he dosent deserve your time.

Q: 13/f

First of all, not to brag or anything, but a lot of people, including me, think I am pretty. Because of that a lot of guys fall in love with me. Which is the problem, I mean I like getting attention, but not this much attention! I like being pretty, too, but I can't stand a lot of the guys that fall in love with me.

In my school there are 20-35 kids in each of my classes. I have 6 classes. 5 or less guys per class fell in love with me this school year.

My question is: how can I maybe tell them off so they stop throwing themselves at me without being too harsh?

just tell them that your fladdered and everything but not interested. that you need your alone time to consitrate on school and family and freinds sports also if you have any.

Q: Female,16
The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what?

lol it sounds like mabey he thought you met i like you as in just being nice something you would say to someone you know like the little girl down the street who has grown on you and you say you know suzy i like you. or mabey he knew what you met but was shy and super nervouse and didnt know how to react or what to do. see how he acts towards you tomorrow or the next time you see him.

Q: ok well my boyfriends are going through some stuff right now and im pretty upset. The other night i had like a nervous breakdown and i started saying how i should die because no one would miss me and my firend said that he would miss me and i got reallly upset again because i turned him down for my boyfriend. Then me and my friend kissed somehow and my supposidly best friend told my boyfriend and now he's really mad at me and i just feel all upset and like crap and he wont answer any of my phone calls and i just dont know what to do.

just say how upset you were and that you dont even know how exactly you kissed & how sorry you are & tell him how much he means to you. and tell him how you dont like your freind that way and you were very vulnerable at the moment.
if you are going through a time in your life where you belive there is no end then you should mabey see a counsouler and mabey take some medication i fought depression for a while & got help its worth it & you would be suprised how maney teenagers fight depression and you will feel so much better.

Q: i like a kid, and like he is mean to me, and my friends asked him why he didnt like me, and he said cuz i'm stupid. but i'm not, i just say a lot of random stuff.but like everytime he talks to me hes all smiley, but the problem is that two other girls in my grade flirt with him. so i feel like i have a competition and then my other friend likes him, and she is closer with him, and i really want to go out with him.

well how old are you? you sound like your mabey in elementry school. and boys are very inmature during these grades. if hes mean to you then mabey you should just move on. and remember girls are about 3 years more mature then boys their age so mabey look for a guy whos 2 or 3 years older then you.

Q: well in technology my friend and i were talking about our 'love life' and i was like"what if roger asked you out what would you say?" and shes like i would say heck yes. we dont know who he likes but i think its her and she thinks it me but i was like who would ever want to go out with me and shes like a lot of people would want to go out with you. and then i started laughing because i thought it was funny because i think some one was actually saying a compliment to me, and saying that some one would go out with me. which i dont think its true because people always talk about how pretty my older sister is and i dont think they refer to me. and in a way im kind of getting said. because i see how other girls my age and see how pretty they are and then look at me. i have no clue what to do? i know you might not know what im talking about, like what i should do. like i just dont know why guys wont go out with me,and yes i know your pretty in your own way but is it really true?

everyone is unique and as long as you are nice to people and smile then you shouldnt have a problem. you sound like you have low self esteem mabey your low self esteem is getting in your way. walk with your head up & know you are worthy and pay attention im sure your getting all kinds of signals from guys but dont even know it! I'm not the most attractive girl in the world but have always had guys falling over me left and right because I smile and laugh and show interest which puts me above the snooty girl in the corner who looks like a super modle. trust me.

Q: how do you get over a broken heart?

well you just have to give it time to heal & start dating as soon as possible! dont rush into another relationship or anything but start seeing other people & move on. start doing things & being active so u dont think of it alot! and it takes alot of time sorry to tell you.

Q: i feel like everyone around me has a boyfriend. i feel so alone and i really want to have the feeling of a boyfriend again. i feel as if everyone around me is moving so fast...one of my friends just did third base wih a guy. i am 14 and still haven't gotten my first kiss. i wish i could just find a guy.. what is taking sooo long!

dont worry just be patient the right boy will come your way when your truly ready. dont rush things.

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my name is Alex i love fashion, movies, chocholate, fairys, hanging out with my freinds & family. animals, the beach, being with my boyfreind. I'm very outgoing an basically your tipical teenage girl. I have a myspace account my url is http://www.myspace.com/princessalex. if ive given you advice id greatly appreciate it if you would please rate my advice it dosen't madder if you thought it sucked or if you thought it was great & id love some feed back.