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he is leaving for college soon
Okay so I am 16 my boyfriend is 18, he is leaving for college in august, We were talking last night about how we go so well together and he was telling me how lucky he felt to have me and such. I asked him about what he thought was going to happen after he left, if he thought it would still work and he said "Whell prolly not" I thought he was kidding maybe, so I looked at him blankly and he replied with "well not to be an ass but those situations never really seem to work out, I hope it does but I just dont know" So then I just let it go and said "well we dont have to think about that yet". Ugh it was just really sad, I want to know if I should get out before I fall in love and then he leaves and I have my heart broken or if I should just wait it out and see what may happen, I think that I could be already falling for him...and Im not sure if I should tell him that and if I do im not sure how.....thank you guys :)
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When people go to college, obviously things change. If the college is far away you need to think about whether or not ya'll can keep it going. Some of my friends have been in similar situations where they haven't worked out. But if you and your bf think you can make it work then definitely try. But otherwise I would say get out of the relationship if his college is too far away. You don't want to be head over heels for someone and then have them break your heart ya know? Hope this helps sweet<3
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well just tell him you need to know if he is willing to really work at keeping your guys relationship going. tell him you think you are falling for him and you need to know if he realy likes you. say that you are willing to comute to see him if he is willing to do the same. and that you are willing to call him half the time if he is willing. tell him you think your guys relationship is worth working hard for to keep going and ask him if he feels the same if he dosent im sorry but at least you found out now instead of later and move on and find a sweet hottie in your town. good luck hope you guys stay together!
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Well, there's always a risk of getting your heartbroken, no matter the situation you're in. That being said, this particular situation does have a pretty high risk factor.
College changes people. They are given huge amounts of freedom, meet tons of new people, and often try things they've not done before. They almost always grow away from those they've left behind.
Some people do stay together, but it sounds as if your boyfriend is already planning on ending things. If he was deadly serious about you and your relationship, he wouldn't already be preparing you for the end of it. A relationship doesn't just happen or not happen, both people have to be committed to putting in the work. And it sounds like he's not that committed.
Your only true choice is to think about whether the risk is worth it to you, and then to talk with your boyfriend. You'll need to explain that you need a real commitment - and that if he can't provide that, you want honesty from him.
If this ends, it'll hurt. You can't escape that. But in the future you'll find someone at the same level as you - in age, relationship readiness, etc.
Best of luck.
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