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Hey! My name is Lindsay. I'm seventeen, and a senior at Arcadia High School in Arizona. I'm relatively shy, but as soon as you get to know me, I think I'm fairly obnoxious. I've been part of Advicenators for a while, but I took a break, and now I'm trying to remember how I did everything. I'm still getting used to the advertisements, but that will wear off soon.


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I try to give fair advice. Only a few times do I ever get responses in which the asker dosen't like what I say. I really like to read relationships stuff, which works well, because there's more Love Life and Relationships questions on here than anything else. If you have a problem, feel free to ask me a private question.


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So there's this boy that I like, except I've only met him llike once, and I haven't really talked to him. And I really want to start talking to him but I don't know how to start?! I don't want to just randomly talk to him. I see him at lunch, but he sits at a table full of boys so I can't sit there and be Oh, I need to gossip with one of my friends at this table that's why I'm sitting here. WHAT DO I DO!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!

And another thing, I told my good guy friend that I liked him (I don't know why I told him, I've just learned the hard way that boys can NOT keep secrets.) and so my friend seriously RAN over to him and was like go up to Jennifer (Me) and say "Thank You" and then my friend said that the guy said "That's okay man I don't know who she is" I'm sooo mad!!! Am I overreacting?!!! HELP WITH THIS TOO!! please I am DYING here!!

I've learnt not to tell people those kind of things. Once you get to High School you realize how stupid the whole telling someone to tell them situation is.

But if you've never talked to him before, I'm sorry, but I don't think you really have a valid reason for liking this boy. I mean, really. Saying "Hi" isn't enough information to start an entire relationship, no matter how much you want it to. Get to know the boy before you go about telling people that you like him.

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i have a boyfiend, but we never talk. we dont even say hi in the hall, we just kinda smile at eachother. i like him alot and i no he likes me, so thats not the problem.
he is i guess really shy and im kinda shy too so we both don't really have the courage to go upand talk to eachother. i really want to like after classes and stuff and i try to get myself too but i just can't!
how do i get my self to talk to him and once we say hi what should we talk about? please help!

Do you have any classes together? It's really easy to say something about school. Even if you're not in the same class period.
You could say "Ugh! The homework for *insert teacher name here* was so hard last night!"
BIG MAJOR ADVICE:(((Only if the homework actually was annoying. Don't be a ditz with that line. For instance, if the homework was just a paragraph about your favorite TV show and you say to him that you thought it was hard, he'll think you're stupid.)))

Once he's caught on that you only talk to him about how annoying homework is, you should be able to move on to deeper and better topics.

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oh key so my ex broke up with me like a month ago and i still really like him he likes this other girl alot but she doesnt like him. i want to talk to him,i can do it on AIM i just dont know what to say.. i also want to talk to him more, he said he wanted to be friends but we havent communicated whichi understand i jsut dont want to say anything to him, like annoying him so yea how should i talk to him, i want to tell him i still like him but w/o putting him into shock lol thanks in advance

All you have to do is be friendly, and be yourself.
It might be hard to not allow things to go further, but you know that what happened is in the past, and there's no reason you two can't have a future as friends. Just say "Hey, how's it going?" Once in a while. He won't think you're creepy, just that you're trying to be nice.
Be yourself.
(And don't tell him that his girlfriend doesn't like him. He'll think you're jealous and that you're lying and he won't trust you.)

Trust me. You want trust with this boy.

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k, so my friend thats a girl(not my gf) was going out with a guy that she didnt really like. Then her bf found out that she liked another guy, but didnt do anything about it and he let her know that he knew. Later into the relationship she didnt want to be with him anymore and they broke up. She then hooked up with the other guy that she liked and now the guy she used to go out with h8s her and is not talking to her. Also the two guys,i think are still friends.

I don't get what you're asking. If it's "What should I tell my friend?" then you should say:

You shouldn't go out with someone you don't like, it's mean and it hurts people's feelings. You should also tell her that she should be dating less because it doesn't sound like she's being fair to anyone about any of the relationships that she's in.

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13/f
ok, a couple weeks ago i went to a party in miami.
i used to live there so i knew a few people there.
but there was this one guy that i didnt know.
and i was dancing with him all night.
before me and my friend left i made out with him.
EVERYONE knows about it.
even at his school.
im going out with him now.
and he was the first guy i ever made out with.
but, do you think im a slut?
thanks in advance :]

You're not a slut. You're 13. And you've never had sex.
That's a not slut. =]

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It's a known fact that guys don't go out with girls who aren't skinny, gorgeous, and flawless which is really unfair because i happen to be none of the above. Basically, I NEEEED a boyfriend, like its beyond just wanting to be with somebody it's a need to have that special somebody. Sure, there's friends and whatnot and they're important too (don't get me wrong) but sometimes you want somebody that can be more than just a friend to you. It's frustrating because some girls can get a boyfriend in a split second without even having to blink. people like me on the other hand have to sit back and watch these people and envy them while they work their charm. So what can I do to be more like them? To be glamorous and amazing so that guys will want me as much as they want those other girls? PLEASE HELP.

It IS NOT a known fact that boys don't go out with girls who are those things.
If that's what you think, you've been looking at the wrong boys. Those boys are shallow.

I know plenty of people that don't NEED boyfriends. You can go on with your life just fine without one. You seem pretty cool to me, asking people on Advicenators, using good vocabulary, not sucking with punctuation like most of the others on here.

I think the best thing you can do is to be yourself. Boys who are worthy of being your boyfriend will honor that, and think you're just as, if not more, glamorous than those other girls.
Be a good person, but really, be you.

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Last year, there was this very complicated situation, that I won't explain, but basically there were two girls, and I was one of them. He chose the other one over me, because of popularity. Now, from what I hear from friends and his facial expressions, he regrets it. Since that situation last year, he's been, what I call, "depressed". He used to be known for his smiling.

Now, he hardly ever smiles or has fun. I don't know what's going on personally, but I don't think he was abused, or his parents died or anything.

Now, every time I see him, he looks like he's in pain. Not physically, but mentally.

I would ask, but our relationship is very broken, we can barely even talk to each other, without it all flooding back.

But I feel something, every time we look at each other. It's probably nothing.

Anyone have any suggestions?

I don't agree with Jam at all about this.
You should talk to him directly. As much as that may be hard, I think you have to say something. Once you start talking you could be friends again, and who knows, after that, you could even be something more.

You could start with a "Hey, I noticed you don't smile as much. What's up?"
And as you two get closer he'll start to open up again.

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i just started dating this guy about 6 days ago and i dont like him anymore. the truth is i dont like him because hes like really fat and ugly. plus we never get to see eachother beacuse he lives about 45 minutes away from me. i want to break up with him but im not a mean person at all (although it does seem like it cus of the reason i sont like him) i dont know why i went out with him in the 1at place. ive only seem him once and i dont know when im gonna see him again. but i just need good reasons to break up with him without being mean. i need more than just we dont get to see eachother much but... i do feel bad by saying that so please dont make comments that are mean to me.. im not a mean person at all.

Well you've only been dating for 6 days, so I really don't think that he's going to be hurt by your wanting to dump him. I think you'll be able to say something young like "I don't think we really work. I never get to see you, and I don't think this is a healthy relationship."
Good luck with that one.

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i am a 15 year old female and,there are these prople that say that my boyfriend
is cheating on me but, i know that he is not because he talks about me all the time . He tells every one that he loves me. and he gets mad when other boys look at me . so please help me i am going crazy .


Love always barby......


You should straight out ask him if he's cheating on you. That way you know for sure if he is or not.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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Ok Hey I have this new boyfriend and I am starting to be able to talk to him but not without my friends around and I gave him my number and I am so scared what if I don't know what to say and last is this normal for my age which is 12 to be shy and can't start convos with your new BF

The most important thing to have in a relationship is either trust, or actually being able to talk to him! Since you've already become boy/girlfriend, you shouldn't have to worry about him declining you so much. If you're going out...what do you have in common? Talk about stuff like that. Honestly, I don't think that 12 year olds should be going out...I'm not saying you don't have to not go out, or I'm also not saying that I didn't want to. Sure I wanted to go out with someone, but I never actually did. It's easier to have a boyfriend that you've already made friends with; That way you can still talk to him. So, all in all, I'm waiting for a close friend to get closer with. I'm not saying you should dump your boyfriend, just try to become something like friends with benefits for a while. That way it gives you time to share intrests.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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so yah.. if a guy "hides" your relationship does that mean he's embarrassed of you? i dunno. he's happy and everything but it's sort of awkward i guess. he doesn't deny it but he won't say yes..does that mean he doesn't really like me?

Maybe he really really likes you. Like a super super lot, so he won't say "like" cause he loves you. Maybe he is embarassed of you, cause you're they girl every guy wants. Who knows. =]

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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ok well i like this guy chris and my friend christina knows i like him and she pinched his ass today right in fromt of me and then she goes do you like jess and he said no and i was about to like crya nd then andrew was like yeah i know you like him jess and i was like no and i dont know if i can face him again and hes in my 1 2 5 period class and in 5th period theres only 3 ppl me andrew and chris .. what should i do?ill rate high

You should tell your friend how you really feel about this guy. Tell her it made you feel bad when she pinched his butt, and that you really do have feelings for him. And then you can tell Chris that you have feelings for him. Maybe he'll have some back!

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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Hi, well my names Jen and im 15 and a freshman. In gym class i noticed this boy Matt and he went to my middle school but we never actually talked. But today in gym he said "Hey Jen!" and i dont know i was kind of happy about it. I saw him alot that day and i tried to say hi and smile alot but i know he is extremely shy and everything but he kind of smiled but looked down saying hi. Hes sort of geeky, but i dont think i really care about that but im not sure what to do? Thank you so muchhhh

Do you have feelings for him? He sounds sweet. Maybe he likes you? You should ask. I know it might be embarassing for him and you to talk about it, and maybe you'll only end up as friends, but there's always that new friendship. You might also become closer... and you could get something out of it... A romance, a friendship... who knows!

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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ok can some one please help me here
my gf keeps getting her ass smacked by dudes and its realy getting me pissed off anyway should i beat the liveing shit out of the guys who are doing it? or just tell them to stop?

Ask your girlfriend what she thinks. The tell how you feel. That way, if she doesn't like it she'll deal with it herself. If she doesn't take action, do it your self. Tell the guys that you don't agree with it and you're her boyfriend.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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well ok well i broke up with my bf b/c he two timed me and so i broke up with him of corse but now i still like him and he is going out with one of my bestfriends but i know he dosent like her because he told my other bestfreind and i still like him and my bestfreind said he still loved me but should i trust him if we do get back together?

i rate high!
thanx!

You can threaten him. No, just kidding. You can say that you'll break up with him if you find out that he is cheating on you again. If he really cares about you he won't cheat on you again because you'll break up with him if he does.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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okay ill make this short:
this kid i was best friends with last year liked me and i liked him and so everyone knew and next year we still liked eachotehr yada yada yada he told me he wanted to ask me out but he was definately too afraid so he kept making me wait, a couple months went by when he told my friend he gives up, i was like wtf so he told everyone he didnt like me.. we stopped talking for the rest of the year, well now we just talk online and stuff and he thought i hated him which i guess i do but i still like him so much and after all he put me through ( which i didnt mention half of it) i still want to go out with him, but everyone will think im freaking insane and he doesnt know how to be a good boyfriend cuz hes like afraid of me.

well im thinking of asking him to take me to the semi, but we DO NOT talk in school cuz he makes things so awkward, so theres no way thats happening, there are plenty of oppurtunities for us to talk, where we used to, but we just cant do it theres no way

how am i supossed to aks him to the semi / win him back

Ask him if he still likes you on AIM. If he says yes, then ask him to the semi then. AIM is an annoying thing I know. But if you don't talk at school, talk on AIM. That's my motto.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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see,my boyfiend and i have been dating for a year and 7 months.I trust him completely, but i feel like he's losing interest in me.I thought about dumping the guy just to see what he would do,but see he's so prideful that he probably won't do anything about it just so he won't be the one comeing back to me.So, i don't want to risk that! Idon't want to lose him. Should i try it?? Should i talk to him first? What should i do guys? He's 10hrs.away from where i am.

Wow. Long distance relationship? Hmm. If you still love him like you did a year and a half ago, I think you should hold onto him. I romance like that...and for one year and 7 months. Hold onto him.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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When we do our work in class, he eavesdrops and tells me and my friend to shut up because he can't concentrate...then sometimes, he looks at me and smiles and says "oh my god you guys" and then after class he WALKS with us...and he lets me push him down the stairs...kinda cruel yes...but i do it because I like him...=D does that mean he likes ME? or not...is he just being nice? And in class, we were in groups, and it was a trivia game for lots of extra credit, and I needed it..and at my table, i was facing him, vica versa...and when he saw I wanted to win...he told his team the wrong answer and then he looked at me and smiled...as my table dissed their table, I sat there smiling like an idiot at him...haha...funneh times...but like, he smiled BACK...HELP!!!

-Clueless-

I think he likes you. Do you like him back? If you do you need to take some serious action girl!

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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Well everytime i go some where like walking around my neighbor hood or driving in my car all these guys stop and look at me! its really starting to make me mad. I was walking home from school and this guy stopped and asked me my name and stuff. and just today a car full of guys stopped and asked me to come over to them its really gettin on my nerves. i dont dress slutty or any thing i just wear jeans a a big shirt or shorts and a long shirt. how do i get them to stop!

Ignore them. It's your best cover. If you ignore them, they won't get what they want, and then they'll stop.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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alright see me and my boyfriend broke up like Monday ..and this girl well it was his x girlfriend was talking to me and shit acting like she cared like aww i feel soo bad and then like 3 minutes later started goin out with him .. but see i tried to like.. be all calm about it and not get mad but when i read her profile or look at the away messages and just think how their together ..ahh i don't know i just like want to cry .. and i am usually the type that i wait like .. 2 days and then i want a new boyfriend but this time i think about liking other people and i just can't go out with anyone else because i want him .. and the fact that he says he's in love with her but he cheated on her with me last time they went out .. ( we made out ) and he is running back to her and she keeps taking him back and junk but i want him back soo bad and at night i usually cry myself to sleep cause of it.. =/

please help ..
i rate high..

xl brooke lx


( sorry about it being soo long )

It's mean for this girl to take your ex so fast. Tell this girl you mean buisiness. Ask her how she really feels about this guy. Then ask they guy who he'd rather go out with. I know it sounds evil, but this is the only true blue way you'll feel better.

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

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