My names Amanda im 17 years old! I live in a real small town--bracey,va. i live in an even smaller neighborhood type thing so its just me and my friends. Im single but im basically in LOVE with one of my best friends, yeahh that sucks. Ive been through it all..bad relationships, asshole boyfriends, backstabbing best friends you've been friends with all your life, alotttt of stuff. I can't exactly explain me in a paragraph but i can promise if you ask me anything i will do everything i can get give you the answer or the best advice that im capable of.
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My boyfriend and i have been going out for over 6 months now. When we first started going out (this was during the school year), we'd hang out like every Friday & he'd text/AIM me pretty much every day. Over the summer we'd hang out like twice a week, and he'd also text me or AIM me all the time.
When school started again, this kind of slowed and stopped. I see him less and less now; we haven't done anything together since Christmas break (and that was only for like four hours), and before that, I don't even remember. And he doesn't talk to me online as often, either; I usually have to start the conversation to talk to him.
Anyway, my question is, what's the deal here? Did I do something wrong or is he just bored now? (link)
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It's hard to tell from what you've said but maybe its just hard for him to get attatched to somebody he doesn't get to see often. Ask him what the deal is, tell him that you feel like your putting more in the relationship than he is and if he really wants to be with you because if not he doesn't need to waste your time or hurt your feelings.
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I just started to date my manager at work about three weeks ago. He is an amazing guy and we really like eachother.
My only problem with the whole situation is the fact he wants to be around me all the time like if I could he would want me to live with him already. I want to see him a lot too, but I'm afriad that because its the beginning of our relationship that it might mess it up later if we take it too fast now.
How do I push him away a little without hurting him? (link)
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You could go about this two ways.
One: Tell him that you do like him alot but you feel that if you guys spend ALOT of time together this early in your relationship that it will ruin things down the road. He should understand.
or
Two: Just cut in half the time you spend together every day. Maybe try to work the hours after he works at your job some days and work with him some days. On your days off do your own thing for awhile and then hang out when your ready.
If you cut everything else out in your life it could become a controlling relationship because he wont know what its like to not be around you constantly. Don't just start avoiding him, let him know whats going on. Communication is a key thing in a relationship.
Hope i helped
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Well i like this dude his name is A Bell and my friend [shes considerd my cousin] likes him 2 she even asked him out and he said no i send her a message on myspace to telling her to back off he is living with his brother and his brothers wife is her sister and she is living with them and he isnt really my boyfreind but he calls me alot and we talk for hours on the phone he lives in arkansas and i live in oklahoma she is gong to have a quinceanera in november and i am going to go but if i see them together or worse see them kissing then i am going to flip out what should i do to find out if he is going out with her or not???? i dont have the guts to ask him directly what if there together when i go ??? HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!!! (link)
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You don't have to be straight up about it. Just be like soo who ya likin these days, whos the lucky girl that your dating? or something of the sort, its joking but at the same time your wondering. It doesnt necessarily mean you have feelings for him.
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how do you make out? details pleaseee. (link)
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Well nobody can really give you details its different for everyone. It pretty much comes natural. You start out with kissing slowly and then the guy/girl will open their mouth slightly and thats when the tongue action comes into play. Its really not that hard it comes to you naturally, i promise. Most people say to use your tongue and "draw" your name in their mouth if your not sure what to do with your tongue
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Hiyah... i come thru to yur syt and i fort id ask yu 2 help me... my boyfriend dumped me not long ago [3 weeks]... i want him bak.. te reason [i think] he dumped me is because he told his friends tht i was 16 when i was 13.. i went along with it thinking it would stop truble... then it got out of hand... they found out and he dumped me sayin he had problems ... then he was deniying the fact he told me to lie and was saying he didnt kno.. but his friends dnt reli care any mre and i talk 2 sum of them. We are still good friends but he dont want to go back and his made his mind up.. and i cant move on and let go... please help me.. how can i get him back!!? before any other girl gets im!?
Reply soon as plz
Fank yu!!
Tash__X (link)
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Well you can't force him to like you, if he doesnt like you then unfortunuately he doesnt like you. Talk to him and straighten everything out about the whole age issue and what not. Then give him some space and let him decide what he wants, who knows he may come back to you. But for now you just need to straighten things out and give him space i know you don't want to hear that but its about the only thing you can do. Just let time do its thing he'll realize hes missing out and he'll get over the whole age thing.
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Am a 16 year old male i been going out with my girlfirend who is 15 years old for 5 months, at the beginning of our relationship she was cheating on me with my best firend but, she stoped and i forgive her, now when she whent on a sking trip she had sex with two other guys. i think it a total of 7 guys now and am not one of them. I have no clue what to do. i love her but it would be to hard to dumb her. what should it do? (link)
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Well it goes like the saying 'Once a cheater always a cheater' and sure you love her but i mean is it really worth getting hurt over? I would just dump her and get it over with, it doesn't really even seem that she has feelings for you if she can cheat on you with 7 different guys. Talk to her and tell her that she needs to change her ways or she can find a new bf. it may be harsh and i know you don't want to hear that but you deserve sooooo much better than that.
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I've been going out with a guy for couple months. He told me he's not over his ex 2 weeks ago. I was upset (but i didn't tell him I am), so I gave him back whatever his staff he left at my place last Monday. It only took 5 min., becausw when he saw me that Monday, he didn't say sorry or try to talk to me about that he's still not over his ex.....
And now, I'm still upset about it, and he hasn't called or emailed me for a week. What now? Does it mean it's over between us? does it even matter to talk to him about it now? (link)
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He probably took it as you were breakin up with him because you gave all his stuff back. Try to e-mail him or something of the sort. Talk to him just ask him what he really wants and tell him what you want. It will give closure on the relationship or you may work things out.
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Can anyone name some love songs? That mean like im happy and in love and i dont want this to end.. =] thankss (link)
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Would you go with me-Josh Turner(VERY cute song)
Your Man-Joshn Turner
The trouble with never - Tim Mcgraw
My best friend-Tim Mcgraw
Carried away-George Strait
It just comes natural-George Strait
Young Love-Chris brown
Strawberry wine-Deana Carter
The lucky one-faith hill
Livin on love-Alan Jackson
Me & Charlie Talkin-Miranda Lambert
Baby I got you-Craig Morgan
Wrapped Around-Brad Paisley
Two People Fell in love-Brad Paisley
Shes Everything-Brad Paisley
Somes Hearts-Carrie Underwood
Our Song-Taylor Swift
Bring It On HOme-Little Big Town
Little More you-Little Big Town
Hope i helped
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helloo :]]
bear with me, i know everyone's
question on here is like this but eh.
well, me and my boyfriend have been
going out for about 10 months but our
relationship slowly started going
downhill about 2 months ago. we rarely
see eachother or talk to eachother. i
always have to txt him or call him. he
never calls me or txts me anymore and it
just doesnt seem like he's putting effort
into this relationship. i wanna start over
with him but he's put me through so confusion and hurt. im just wondering what your
opinion is on all of thiss. thanks :] (link)
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Well why would you want to start over if its obvious that he doesn't really wanna be in a relationship with you anymore? Take a break from him no matter how hard it hurts. That way it gives you time to think things over and for him as well. But if you still want to be with him then tell him whats up and how you feel about him not putting in any effort and see what he as to say for himself. hope i helped!
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my boyfriend does weed.... it pisses me off... i wish he would quit... he tells me that he is going to do it less... weekends and one day on the weekdays.... he does it too much... he hasnt stuck with it... i dont know what to do... should i tell him its either me or that or should i tell him to cut down and if he doesnt im going to have to let him go ? i love him sooo much ... i wanna marry this kid... i just wish he was more addicted to me rather than that... its seems like that is his first priority... i hate it... what should i do? please help.. (link)
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Well first off look at it from his point of view, if hes been doing it for awhile its very hard to cure an addiction such as weed. Now as for what you should do is sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel,that it bothers you and you feel like weed is more important than you. If you love him then you wouldn't tell him its you or the weed, because if hes truely addicted he may just choose the weed and then your screwed.Just say that the weed is beginning to be too much for you and you don't know if you can handle all that. Also present yourself to be willing to help with anything to get him to stop. Basically just be his support, dont nag him too much or he may just get annoyed and dump you, just make it to where he sees that its really important to you and if he cares he will change.
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hey all you out there, i've been having a problem with being constantly single, and i was wondering if anyone could help me out with it. i'm in college right now and i'm average looking. but it seems like no one is attraced to me that way, now i go to parties i mingle and shit like that but even when i start to hit it off with a girl i find out that she's already with someone already... i don't know why i have the luck to pick out every single taken chick but i do... well if anyone's got some advice for me (and don't think about saying "just wait for the right girl" cause it's not happening) it's much appreciated
thanks
marccwind (link)
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Like the people said below me your in college live it up while you can because once the relationships start getting serious (i.e marriage) then your gonna wish you had partied. but if you reallyyy want a gf then get more involved in social activites or start talking to girls you wouldn't normally go after..sounds stupid but you might actually end up falling for one of them, basically just try a different variety of girls. Make yourself seem more available and outgoing, be confident and the girls will come to you so it wont really be a one way effort to find someone. Either way don't give up.
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ok.. the kid i'm hooking up with makes no sense.. everytime he calls me i can't pick up the phone cuz i happen to be busy. so he'll leave a message ranting about how i never pick up and yet he never picks up when i call him..
and also i have a stalker so my hook up agreed to help me get my stalker away so everytime i text my hook up i'll say "help me" and he just types back.. "ok"... and does nothing. yet whenever i see him he is soo friendly.. but when we're communicatinig through texts or email.. he only types one word.. i'm lucky if i get a sentence once in awhile. i don't know what to do.. i don't know what to say and i don't know what he wants.. what should i do? HELP ME! (link)
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Um hes basically just using you to get what he wants, no feelings attatched. I'd say get rid of him, if he really cared he'd help you and he'd communicate the same when your not together and when you are. Hope i helped!
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My boyfriend went to a party and did body shots with another girl. This was the first time he drank any alcohol, and he got really drunk and said he would'nt have done it otherwise. He was the one who told me as soon as it happened. Should I be mad at him or should I forgive him? (link)
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He wasn't really doing anything wrong its just body shots and considering that was his first time drinking any little amount of alcohol could have screwed him up. So i'd say forgive him! but if he does it as routine kind of thing from now on then you should be worried.
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Please help fast!
My husband and I are going through a divorce. He just called and said he wants to "hang out" after work..."somewhere private." I think he wants to sleep with me. Is that wrong? I'm too emotionally mixed up right now to know what I should do. Please give me advice. (link)
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Since your emotions are all over the place then you should not hang out. He lost something, hes divorcing you he needs to get it straight once your gone then your gone, its his loss. And especially since emotions are mixed up then that will just make the attatchment greater or it'll make things worse.
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Ok so im 15 (f) and i havent ever had a boyfriend .. i mean i talk to a few guys but none of them seem interseted ... and we never really hang out .. i really want a boyfriend ...so there is this guy that i talk to and whenever he talked to me everyone would say ooo you like her ask her out blah blah blah .. but i dont think he does like me ... so now he refuses to talk to me, since people made a big deal out of it ... i want him to know thati just want to be friends and talk to him .. HELP im loosing guys by the minutes and thats the last thing i need! (link)
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Ok first off, everyone gets boyfriends at different times. And the guys you do talk to probably see you as too much of a friend to take it any further. Find a guy you don't talk to/hang out with that much and start talking to him and flirt with him, let him know your interested. As for the guy refusing to talk to you, he may actually have feelings for you and doesnt like how everyone is making such a big deal out of it. But that may not be true at all. Since he refuses to talk to you face to face write him an email or IM him and let him know that you just want to be friends and what everyone else says doesn't matter. Or you could write him a note and give it to him at school. But your best bet would be to get him alone at school and tell him, exactly how you feel and where you want to be with him relationship wise (i.e friends, bf/gf, not friends)
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okay,here is the scenario
i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:
1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.
don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff. (link)
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Yes, it could very well be love. what some people dont understand is its not all about looks. Personality plays a big role in your feelings towards someone.
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I am 17 and I met this guy at a bar. He is 21 and I just wonder if other people think that is too old for me. Should I go out with him again? We exchanged phone numbers and we have talked on the phone. Any and all responses are appreciated. (link)
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By law hes to old for you, because you are not yet 18 but it may be different where you live. But age is nothing but a number, if yall hit it off and are interested in eachother then go for it.
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I think I am scared to have a boyfriend. This has happened like two times already, I will really like a guy, he will like me to, we will talk and hang out then when he asks me out, I say no. I don't know why I am scared, but I think one reason is my family. Like I don't want to tell them cause I will be embarassed or something. What should I do? I really need to get over this or I will never have a boyfriend and i will keep hurting the guys I care about! (link)
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Aw i know exactly what you mean! i used to be that way. You could just be scared of commitment. You dont have to tell your family right away when you have one. Just start by telling your sibling, preferably a sister *if you have one* and then work your way up to tellin your mom. or just start out by telling your mom and then she can talk to your dad. You have nothing to be worried about once you tell atleast one person in your family it gets easier. I was embarrassed at first to but now im ok with it. You dont even really have to tell them but itd make things easier if you did.
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I'm 16 years old, and my boyfriend is significantly older then I am. Let's just say he's old enough to go to bars & drink legally and what not.
He doesn't party a lot, but he smokes weed and it annoys the hell out me. When he goes partying with his friends, he'll always call me & I'll just start FREAKING out on him.
Like when he drinks alcohol it makes me soo mad when he calls because, well I don't know why. Then we'll get into an argument and I'll insult him. I don't know what's wrong with me.
I think it's just jealousy. But, how would I overcome this? (link)
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I dont think its so much of a jealousy thing. You just probably dont like the idea of him doing it in general. It could be a jealousy thing because you want to drink and do this and that. Hang out with him more. And just dont answer the phone if you know hes drunk or whatever. Or tell him not to call you when he is. You cant really ever get over it you just learn to deal with it eventually.
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i had sex for the first time today
it was hard for him to get it in for a while cause im pretty tight i guess
he got it in and it was okay
but we didnt do it for long
after i realised i bled all over my bed
more then i thought i would
it was horrible
but i covered it up well!
is this normal?
its like quite a few hours later and im still bleeding a little bit
is this okay?!?!?!!
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Its perfectly normal. Although its different for every girl. Some dont bleed, some do. You can bleed for hours after or even days after your first time. Nothing to worry about.
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