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should we start over? (meh. i know 99.9% of the questions ar
helloo :]]
bear with me, i know everyone's
question on here is like this but eh.
well, me and my boyfriend have been
going out for about 10 months but our
relationship slowly started going
downhill about 2 months ago. we rarely
see eachother or talk to eachother. i
always have to txt him or call him. he
never calls me or txts me anymore and it
just doesnt seem like he's putting effort
into this relationship. i wanna start over
with him but he's put me through so confusion and hurt. im just wondering what your
opinion is on all of thiss. thanks :]
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alright this is what i think:
i think you should try to spark the relationship up..spice it up a little..try and do cute things like...
-candlielit dinner
-kisses/picnic under the stars
-watch movies on the couch
-go somewhere special
-make him a scrapboook
or something like that
HOWEVER..it takes TWO to be in a relationship
SO..if you put in the effort to bring the relationship back to life and it doesnt work..
consider breaking up with him
Like other columnists said..maybe hes going
through a tough time? Ask him about it..
tell him your feelings..
communication is key in a relationship
good luck with everythhing
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it just sounds like he wants some space. back a way a little bit & he should start calling & texting again.
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You never know what's going on with the part of his life that you don't know about. Maybe he's having troubles... or, even worse, maybe he's just not wanting to be in a relationship with you anymore.
Ask him about it. Maybe he won't answer you directly, like he'll say "I don't know." Then that usually means, "I don't want to hurt you but I just don't want you anymore in that way." Or maybe he won't pick up the phone or text you. Either way, you have to do the same thing to deal with it: slowly drift away. What's the point? He's not going to try to bring passion back. It's just not there anymore.
Don't call him anymore. Just lose connection with him . Maybe then he'll realize what it's like without you and come back to you with an apology. Maybe... he's taking you for granted. Then you have to show him what a loss you'd be for him. If he doesn't bother getting you to come back, I'm sorry but that's just the end of it. If this happens: There are more single guys out there! Go for them!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
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Well guys are very weird they have a very weird but obvious way of showing that they dont wanna be with someone. It sounds to methat he is loosing interest in the relationship. My guess is that you should let him go if he has quit putting effort but before you break up with him atleast try to talk to him after a couple of weeks if nothing changes let it go. You dont deserve for someone to treat you like that.
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Hi!
Let me ask you this: What kind of relationship do you two have if you're the only one who is doing the work? That's not fair to you. You're the only one who is calling, and texting. The more you do this, the more he expects it. He knows that you're going to call, so why should he? You've got to be the bigger person and make the decision.
Here's what I would do:
Call him and set him straight right away. You want to find out what he's thinking about this relationship, yes? Ask him what's going on and why your relationship isn't strong anymore. Tell him that you're doing everything you can to make this work, and if he wants to continue being in a relationship with you, he has to commit to you and call every now and then. You're not asking that he calls you every day and sees you every weekend, but you want him to spend time with you once in awhile. By doing this, you're making sure you get the point across and let him know that he needs to get on track because you're not going to put up with that shit anymore. And why should you?
One word that stood out to me in your post what HURT. How did he hurt you? It hurts you that he doesn't put forth any effort anymore? Tell him that. It's important for him to understand where you're coming from. It's things that he needs to know.
If he still seems like he doesn't care, you'll know what to do. It's up to you to decide if you want to be with him or not. My opionion? I'd leave him because it's not worth it.
Good luck. <3
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Well why would you want to start over if its obvious that he doesn't really wanna be in a relationship with you anymore? Take a break from him no matter how hard it hurts. That way it gives you time to think things over and for him as well. But if you still want to be with him then tell him whats up and how you feel about him not putting in any effort and see what he as to say for himself. hope i helped!
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