k so heres the problem. i like this guy..he likes my best friend as much as i like him which is ALOT! my friend said that i could have him cause she just wants to be friends with him but then him and her text message each other all the time. i wanted to know what the texts said so when she was in the shower i read them. he asked her when he was gonna get the first kiss from her and he called her beautiful and things like that. she replyed that he is gonna have to work hard to get and she called him sexy. she knows i like him. i liked him before she started talking to him. but one thing i dont get is why she still lies to me when she clearly knows that i know she is starting to have feelings for him. she send him the texts right when im sitting next to her. then on friday night me, her, him and his friend hung out. and i could tell that he liked my best friend ALOT! so i decided that if he really wants her im not gonna get mad over it even though i am jealous. but i could see that if they did go out then it really wouldnt work out just because there way too different. like she flirts with EVERY guy that she comes across of and he is one of those guys that like long relationships. so i think once he finds out what she is REALLY like then he wont like her. i feel really bad for saying this but idk. i just really like him. she and her bf just broke up last night so i think he is gonna ask her out real soon. but if they do go out i dont know how that would feel for me. i dont know.. what should i do?!?!?
ILL RATE REALLY HIGH =)
If feelings developed AFTER she became aware of the fact that you liked him, she might have just been afraid to tell you. One mistake doesn't make her a bad person or a bad friend all around. If she's a worthy friend to you minus this one incident, I would let it go. It's one guy. You aren't in love. Don't let it ruin your friendship.
Now I'm not saying that she is totally in the right. She could certainly be more understanding of your feelings (which she may very well be doing by not telling you about this...not the best way to do it though).
What you need to do is ask yourself whether or not you feel this friendship is worth it. If she makes it a habit to screw you over, I'd deeply question why you are friends with her to begin with.
There is always the option that you could talk to her about what you're feeling. She might not realize how bad you have it for this guy. If you open up a little about how you are really feeling about all of this, she might back off a little.
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OK Im a girl and I love guys, but there is this one girl at my school and shes bi and I think I really like her, but she basicly the only girl that I have feelings for dose that mean im BI too?????
No. I'm sure you probably just see a very real chance to experiment and that's where your interest is coming from.
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Hi,
I am a female from Canada seeking advice.
My bf who I have been with for 6 months is very controlling of me. We are in a semi-long distance relationship, we are still able to see each other a few times a month despite the short distance.
He gets upset when I don't tell him where I am going all the time, he gets upset when I am on the computer while on the phone with him and he uses the computer when on the phone with me, he even tells me to lay on the bed and turn off the light. He gets upset when I have to leave him for the bathroom or to say hello to someone in my res room. He considers me forgetting to call him when I promised very hurtful to him and compares me to his ex gfs and friends who do that to him. 3 months ago I OD'd and was hospitalized for depression and anxiety and ever since then he has been like this. I have tried everything from talking to him calmly about his behaviour and why to yelling at him to stop being this way and nothing has worked.
Is it just me or is it him? How do I make this bearable for myself? I still love him and don't want to leave him.
Please help!!!
Thank you.
If talking to him hasn't changed his behavior, then nothing will.
Why stay with a guy who knows that he's hurting you, yet does it anyway? Can't you see how irrational and disrespectful his attitude is?
His behavior should be a RED FLAG. If I were you, I'd get out NOW.
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This girl(22) is my sisters best friend. Im 25. I know she has a crush on me. And i have a crush on her. So heres the deal. I want to play hard to get. Not the bad way. not to be cowardish. Just because. I am very shy. I want to know some real good flirting moves that are gauranteed to work. Im not the best at flirting so this may help me. soon i'll ask her out but for now what can i do that will make her feel attracted to me even more. Im anormal guy who respects women so im not trying to be rude. thank you to all those who respond
Just talk to her. Get to know her. There's no better way to seduce a woman than to give the feeling that you're genuinely interested in her on a level that isn't entirely sexual.
Look into her eyes, smile at her when you talk. When you feel more bold, lean into her a bit or touch her hand or face when you speak to her (as when you compliment her).
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Hey, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months and we just recently have becoming open with each other and talking about our past relationships and what we have done with people, and i'll admit i hav hookedup wit a decent amount of people..and whenever i mention a guys name he asked me if i have hookedup wit them..and i keep telling him what happened and i think he gets uncomfortable..so when he asks if ive' hooked up wit a guy next time i mention a guys name, shud i just say no or tell him truth, i do think honesty is the best policy but it seems to be making him more upset..so what shud i do?
If he can't handle the truth, he shouldn't ask.
That's what you should tell him.
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20/F.
So.
I have kind of a unique situation on my hands.
I’ve always thought that people who looked to the internet to find love were pathetic. However, I think it may be happening to me.
I’m not really sure how this happened but two years ago I started talking to this guy on the internet. I didn't think much of it at first as we would only have short, uninteresting conversations and he lives 30 hours away from me.
However, for the past seven months, we’ve been talking at least once a day. We’ve never met, but we can talk for hours about nothing. We have a really great connection and he is probably one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever talked to.
He sent me flowers on valentines day and if I’m not online when he’s about to go to bed, he’ll call me just to say goodnight. For the past month or so he’s even been saying “I love you”, and recently I’ve found myself saying it back.
I know this may seem weird to some of you, but I really like this guy. A lot. We’ve seen each other on web cam many times, so I know he’s actually who he says he is.
Sometime this summer, I’m going to visit my cousin and he happens to live within two hours from her house. We plan on meeting then to see where we stand after we can physically see each other. We’ve talked about this a lot and we both would like to further our ‘relationship’.
My only problem with this entire situation is that I’m slightly hesitant to meet him. Not because I’m worried about the risks that come with meeting people from the internet, but because I find that our ‘relationship’ is moving too fast. He has the next year planned out for us, as far as visits and whatnot, and we haven’t even met yet! Every time I try to tell him that we should maybe meet first before we start planning when we can see each other again, he gets defensive and accuses me of not believing that we’ll like each other. He makes me feel guilty about it because even though I see myself as realistic, he sees me as doubtful.
Oh, and . . .
Please don’t preach to me about being wary of meeting people from the internet. I’m old enough to make my own decisions, don’t bother trying to change my mind. I know there are risks, but I trust him completely. However, just to be safe, we both plan on having someone else there with us when we meet for the first time.
I think we ALL know from experience that no matter what you tell another person, that person will believe only what that person wants to.
If it's really worth it to you to explore what you have, then do it. Even if you believe he's planning too far ahead. I'm sure it's only because he's excited at the idea of seeing you finally. Some of us are more sensitive than others. It might do you well to just let him have his fantasy and go about it the realistic way on your own.
See him once. You've invested alot of time into this Get a feel for the situation. See if the chemistry is there when you're face to face with one another. If it's not, then it truely doesn't matter how far ahead he's planned because it just simply won't happen.
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f/17 ok so theres this guy and i like him so much i had not seen him a whole year because we moved schools and in january i saw him again! He asked me to go to his house so i went nothing happened we only kissed. But only this time the kissing was better than when we went out before and i know there was a conection.i asked him so are we back together hes like yes. The problem comes now... Afterwards there was a little contact on msn but he never phones me he never has i think its because ive always phoned him.Well i then got the flu and was really ill so we never spoke for ages and now i hear hes really ill someone said urber? ill i don't know if that means super ill but i sent him messages when i found out and hes not answered me hes not text me, hes not emailed me back, hes not even picked up his phone well he came on msn the other day and i was like hello u have had me worried are u ok and i said can you text me to let me know you are ok and ive heard nothing hes been of school a week but i don't go his school anymore so i don't know its from a friend i heard hes not well.Now my question is what shall i do??? also i think i like him more than he likes me although he says he loves me and that he will do anything for me and he has stood naked in frount of me once but we never had sex! i don't think he wants it and im still a virgin at 17 is it wrong?someone help me please i will rate you high for any answers that help.thank you in advance.
He's sick. Leave him alone.
Guys don't like hysterical girls. Give him his space. He'll call you when he feels better.
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alright so, me and my bf have been together 2 months. . . im falling in love with him.. you may think oh thats really fast, but then again you cant help who or when you fall in love.. ok but i dont know if he loves me to.. my best friend tells me he does.. that it takes two people. and im scared to say it cuz i dont know what he will say back. . . so what should i do basically
Not fast at all (I only dated my boyfriend 1 month longer than you before we said it and 5 1/2 years later, we're still together). People are too quick to put a time stamp on love. If you feel it, you feel it.
if you don't think it would freak him out, say it. If you totally aren't sure of his feelings (as opposed to not being sure because you're nervous), then wait awhile and get a feel for the situation.
If it turns out that he doesn't say it back, it's okay. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. He just isn't ready to say it. Everyone falls at a different pace. But let him know it's okay with you. Otherwise, you might make him feel pressured to work at your speed.
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this is probably going to be really long..
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. iduno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much
I'm positive he stopped talking to you because he was confused and probably a little hurt. You talked. You sent the "i like you" vibe, but you didn't follow through with it.
It might work in your favor to contact him again (maybe through AIM first since that seems to be easier for you) and kind of explain what happened. Tell him what you told me. Alot can be solved when you just let someone else know what is on your mind.
For all you know, he could have the misconception that he was just someone to flirt with and that you didn't care even though you did.
It's never too late to contact him again. Especially if you feel this badly about it. And you know, if he REALLY didn't ever want to talk to you again he wouldn't bother to ask you for a pencil. He'd just flat out ignore you. I'll bet that if you explain what happened, you two can definitly work back up to where you were. But it will be up to you to make the first move.
If you need a bost, I'd try something like saying hey and asking what he's up to. And kind of lead into it. Sort of like "I've really wanted to tell you what went on *go into what you told me* and tell him that you're sorry you didn't show him how great you really thought he was. You didn't ever want him to think that he was anything less than that.
Good luck
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So, i've been going through some crap. i'm a freshman, and at the beginning of the year i was in a show where i met a bunch of seniors and juniors and sophomores and other freshman and became friends with them. one of them i immediately had a crush on and his name was david, and he's a senior. he's had a girlfriend for almost a year now, but the girlfriend is a sophomore and she is SO oblivious to what is going on around her and she has no social life and she studies all the time, and she's not a very sexual person at all though her boyfriend is. so by the time the show ended, we were all really good friends. a few weeks later, i started another show with some of them, and david was in it and we grew to be even closer. we used to talk online every night about stuff. keep in mind, now, that he didnt get all that much from his girlfriend. after awhile, things began to get a little out of hand online-i told him that i do masturbate, and that's where it kind of took off. we started to like do it together online, and it wasnt all that bad, but it still was wrong. and we told each other everything and talked about sex all the time and fantasies we have and who we'd like to have sex with. he would compliment me all the time, and tell me i'm beautiful and that he would love to have sex with me someday, but he would never do anything right now because i'm so much younger than him (he's 18, i'm 14). so this went on 2-4 times a week, and it slowly got like more intense and we would say what we were doing as we did it and i dont know what made me do it because i know it was stupid and all but i had a huge crush on him and he made me feel so good about myself. and he used to kid around all the time about sending naked pictures. until one night when he actually did. they got more and more "risky" each picture he sent and by the last one was just like him naked and it was so fun but so wrong! and he asked me to do the same..so i said i would..but i was so afraid because im self conscious and naked pictures are just a bad idea in general. so the next night i did it and sent more teasingly pictures than completely naked ones, and he sent more, and the next night we did it together at the same time and did the whole cyber thing. he also sent a video and asked me to do the same the next night..i was so stressed out every day because i didnt want to take the pictures but at the same time i did and i loved his compliments and i wanted to please him and a video would be just awkward you know? but the night before we did he went to a party, got drunk, and kissed another girl and had to tell his girlfriend and it was this big to do so i told him we need to stop and we did. so then i was like alright we'll still be close and all will be well. yeaaaa right. he didnt talk to me that much at all and he told people he was sick of me and he totally ignored me for a week and during that week i figured out from talking to other people and through whats been going on that he was just using me and he never actually cared about me and was only nice to me and pretended to be my friend so id send the pictures and cyber with him at night. not only did he do this to me, he started to do this with another girl within the past week. and shes 14 too. it sucks and it hurts a lot and he IMed me this morning and said "you are really mad at me huh?" and i just let him have it and i felt so great but he was sweet and said he really does care and really is my friend and all and feels guilty and like..w'ere going to talk later tonight..and i still like him..and i dont know what i should do now! not be friends with him anymore? be aquaintances? be friends? let it all go? be mad or upset? i'm so confused. sorry this is so long, but any help/advice would be greatly appreciated!:)
He was using you hardcore. Don't even talk to him. There is something VERY seriously wrong with an 18 year old boy who requests naked photos of 14 year old children.
You probably won't do it, but you SHOULD call the police on this pervert.
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i want to know if you are going to makeout with someone for the first time how would you do it? to make it look like you have done it before with out over doing it!!???
You can read and read and read about kissing but until you do it, you don't know any more than you did to begin with.
Don't be so concerned with pretending you know what you're doing. Just go for it. We all start somewhere. The point of kissing is to enjoy it. Not to calculate every move.
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15/f
I've been going out with this guy for about a month and a half, and everytime he's at my house he's messing with my younger sister. He's almsot a year oldger than me and she's over a year younger than me. She likes to aggrivate people espicially when I have someone over. And lately he's been acting the same towards her. He'll get up and chase her around the house until she runs outside then he'll sit back down until she comes in the room again and then he'll get a pillow and smack her with it. It's really starting to get on my nerves, what should I do to make this stop?
All you should have to do is tell him to stop.
If he doesn't, dump him. He obviously has no respect for you or the people around you. (He also seems a tad creepy...)
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I am 13 and have never had a bf. All of my friends laugh at me behind my back. I found this out after we had a school dance a couple of nights ago. I danced with this one senior who is kind of on the geeky side, but he's a really nice guy. He's also the only guy who asked me to dance, all the guys in my class don't really like me. Well I found out from one of my nicer friends that all these girls that I thought were my friends were laughing at me at the dance and saying that Lee (the guy I danced with ) was the only guy I could get. They were also laughing and saying what a geek I was for never having a bf.
I was really hurt and felt like crying. Since when is it a crime to have never had a bf? I know girls a lot older than me that arent dating.
What should I do?
First, realize that you're perfectly normal. You're only 13. I never had a boyfriend at that age either. I don't know why all of these girls are in such a rush to grow up.
Besides, none of your girls have had REAL boyfriends yet themselves. Holding hands in the hallways doesn't count (I mean lord...they can't even get into an R movie yet nor can they drive!). You can tell them that next time they want to laugh at you for being a normal 13 year old girl.
And honey, they're probably jealous that an older boy danced with you. ;) He certainly won't be the last. There is nothing wrong with you and they're incredibly immature and mean to laugh at you for such a stupid reason.
It's a hard age and kids will do anything it takes to fit in. Let what they say go in one ear and out the other.
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O.K. there is this boy who is a friend a my brother and is in the 10th grade. He has a girlfriend, but was feeling on me and kissing me. I liked it. His girlfriend stays in my are, but I don't know her. I really want to go with him. I am in the 7th greade suposed to be in 8th. Should I stay with him?How do I know if he is just using me?
He's using you and he's quite disgusting too.
Don't even get involved in that.
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my bf and i have always got along and always had fun well today he told me he hated me and walked away nd i asked him if he was breaking up with me he said no B*tch i was uhh i am soo confused was he showing off for some reason and then i called him he was like hello whos this i was like your gf he was like oh and it was silent i was like well why are you being mean to me he hung up soo I IMED him and he blocks me but i got on my old name and the thing in his info still says my name and now it says Ill love you forever and always babe you mean the world erg im soo confused
sorry its long =[
ill rate 5's !!! =]
Forget about him.
No guy has the right to talk to you like that. It's disrespectful and cruel.
Let him play his little mind games with someone else.
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well i used to like this guy named *ray and well i wrote him a letter sayin he was cute then my best guy friend went up to him and asked ray if he like me he said:oh yeah i know who she is, shes cute. then later by 2nd semester i had him for 4th pd. we said our occ. "hey" or "wassup" but we never talked to each other.. his best friend would only ask about me. then later i find he has been tryin to hook up with this girl name *dana and now they're boyfriend and g/f, thwy've been goin out for 2 weeks now. does he sound like he ever liked me? or not.? and also i think his younger brother is cute, would it be wrong to hit on his brother? & no, i'm not tryin to make him jealous,when i 1st saw them both i both said they were cute.p.s. im kinda scared that ray might be mad if i start to take a hit on his brother.?
He probably did like you to begin with but if you wait too long to act on it, feelings tend to fizzle out and die. So it just sounds to me like that's what happened.
There's nothing wrong with going for his brother if you really want to. I doubt he'll be angry since you two never went out to begin with. He's got another girlfriend now anyway so I'm sure he's over it.
If it bothers you too much, you could always talk to him or a friend of his to find out what he would think about it.
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so i am dating this guy and he just got out of rehab and we dated a month in the summer then broke up and thats when he want to rehab well hes back and me and him have hooked up again well he was doing good and not using drugs but last wednesday he relapsed which means he went back to using...well he had a bad trip and had to go to the hosiptal and then he was put on house arrest well monday he had court to see if he had to go back to rehab or juvie..well i called and his dad said he won't be home until next monday which means he is rehab or juvie...and i dont know if i should stay with him? alot happend this summer with me and him i got pregant with his kid but i miscarried and we've been through alot together so should i stay with him? PLEASE GIVE ADVICE ASAP! thanks * aleah*
I think it would be best if you stepped out of the picture for awhile and let him get his act together.
At this point, it isn't much of a relationship if he's always using and going back and forth between rehab and home.
But, of course, I know you'll do what you want regardless of what I say. But do exercise caution next time you have sex (especially if it's with this boy again). I mean, taking care of a baby while daddy is in rehab won't be easy and your baby will pay for having an absent father in all kinds of ways. Just remember that.
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I just started seeing this guy not too long ago, and last night at his house we were talking about sex and I asked him how many girls he'd been with, and he said 10. Then he just told me (I didn't ask) that he lost his virginity when he was NINE years old! I guess I started freaking out a little, and thought he was lying and I blurted out "How could you do that?! You were still a little boy!!" And that really hurt him and he got this sad look on his face and I just wanted to shoot myself for being so mean to him. He kept saying it was okay, but I will still never forget that look on his face...
Well later that night he was driving me home and ALL I could think about was how young his was. I don't know my feelings about it fully, but I know that no 9 year old should be having sex or even thinking about it. I don't know why I'm still bothered about this, I'm trying to look past it but every time I think about him, I think about this. I don't want to, I really really like this guy and I want it to work out.
So the question is: How do I get past this? Have any of you been in the same situation before, or similar to it?
Thanks for any and all help! I'll rate good!
He didn't know you then. They're past mistakes. Everyone makes them. But you need to remember that he was just a child and child is not capable of making informed decisions regarding sex. Don't hold what he did (or what was done to him) at 9 years old against him.
It does not affect the things you like about him now does it? If it does, then you seriously need to rethink why you were ever with him in the first place.
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i was just wondering if you can give me any advice on a good place to take a girl out on a first date. which would be better,the movies or the mall. if a movie what one would be the best. if the mall what oculd i do there.
The mall. Or out to dinner.
Take her someplace where you two can talk and get to know each other better. Movies, to me, seems like a date you choose when you two know each other fairly well as it doesn't allow the chance to talk very much.
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ahh what do i do??
You kick his ass is what you do.
He's obviously an insensitive prick or a stupid one. Or maybe both.
Either way, he's a waste of time and effort.
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