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Name: Kelley ♥ I'm a jv cheerleader for my school, Keystone Oaks. it's pretty insane there. i have great friends and a very conplicated family. being loud and obnxious pretty much describes me and my friends. i text all the time. i get annoyed very easly though and random mood swings. trying new things is very exciting and i'm usually up for anything. i love piercings and bright jewlery. i don't go anywhere without my bracelets. i made this not only to give advice but to get it too. nobody perfect. i struggle with tough issues all the time. people need guidance and i'm here to give it and receive it :] IM me sometime uhohxomfg!

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14/f i like this guy who likes me back & ive been talking to him for a while but im sick of waiting. i couldve been with other people but i really like him & hes really nice but im tired of waiting what should i do?

he doesn't like you.
get over it.
no1 probably does.
death?

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alright well i'm 90% sure i want to break up with my boyfriend.. but idk what im goin to say.. he broke up with me last week and he got his friend to call me and say "john wants to break up with you. bye" (he asked me out the next day, which is how we are going out again). so i was maybe thinking i could get my friend to call him and say the exact same thign to see how he feels! or i might say "hey i think we should just take break from each other and just let things smooth out" because we got in a fight earlier today.. and hes just too dramatic and he always brings a lot of unneeded drama. so someone please help me. how should i do it?? and should i do it on the phone?

just be like sup. you have a small penis, its over.
he'll understand.

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ok so i was drunk at my friends house and so was her brothers friend...we will just call him trav... and we were flirting all night until i went to talk to my friend. she said that she was really protective of him but i just left and when i got inside trav grabbed me and kissed me, several times. we have been talking ever since but my friend doesnt want us to be together because she is protective of him. We want tobe together but neither of us wants to hurt her. and she doesnt like him. What should i do?

i would sit her down and tell her how you feel. tell her that you guys are crazy about eachother and want to be together but you don't want to hurt her. and tell her that you wont do anything unless you have her approval. after hearing that i'm sure that she won't mind as long as she knows you have her respect. good luckk

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A boy that I like said on a scale of one to ten he likes me about an eight and a half. When I told him I think I'm going to the movies with another boy the day we're supposed to hang out he said "oh ok then we'll just hang out friday" and I thought he would get concerned since he likes me so much that I'm going to the movies with someone else. So he's like "Well we aren't going out". I don't know what to think..do you think he really likes me?

15/f

noo you shouldnt be worried. hes either probably just not the jealous type or he doesnt want to show you that he cares but if he says he likes you that much im sure he does like you. he just doesnt want to show you that hes jealous because he doesnt want you to not like him & to think he is weird or anything. but i wouldnt worry much about it.

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ok i know this is bad but my bf is 20 and im 13 but im vietnamese and i went over there and thats where i met him apparently age doesnt matter over there but now im back here and he lives over there which sucks but every1 says hes using me but he says he wants to marry me when im 18 which im not sure about yet since im just 13 but i dont know what to believe or what to do about the distance i can only see him once a year and i can only talk to him like once a month i dont know what to do should i keep going out w/ him? and i dont know if hes using me or not but i love him alot ahh im soo confused help!

whoa. thats not even legal babe. but anyways thats a very big age difference. but only talking to him once a month isnt a very good relationship. & only seeing him once a year is not good at all. he could be cheating on you over there & youd never know.& getting married. well that is sooo far away from now. i would break it off & then see if you can see him more if you really do love him. but for the time being i would just let him go. thats so much stress for a 13 year old. hope i helped

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Everytime I get a boyfriend I blow it. I hate drama but I always seem to start it. Like my boyfriend of a month I started a fight and told him I don't want to kiss him. He thought I didn't love him so we broke up. I really wanted to kiss him but I'm always starting drama. And now my new boyfriend he said I gotta go "love you" and I didn't say anything back. I really do love him but I don't know why I LIKE making people mad at me. And it ALWAYS leads to a break up. I get boys so pissed off. What can I do so I start acting mature and not start fights with my boyfriends and stop always making them mad?

just think alittle clearer when you say things. like think if its going to damage anything or cause problems. i have that problem too. i usually just think before i say anything & even if you do think its the right thing to say try to say it in a nicer way just so you dont sound so mean.

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there is this guy that i met about a year ago.
he broke my heart once..
and now he just came back just like that..
he wants to hangout and possible be boyfreind and girlfreind..
im so parinoied that hes going to break my heart again..
part of me says to give it another try.
but part of me says dont take the risk..
what do you think i should do?
PLEASE HELP ME
thank you to all that trys.

you should probably just hang with him for the time being and see how things go. if you start to like him again then give him any other shot. there will always be guys breaking you heart. if he really cares about you like he said he wont do it again. if your really scared then talk to him. im sure he will understand.

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15/f
Ok, so i liked a guy same old story. blah. well i wrote him a letter because he was leaving the next day and i couldn't say it in person. well he wrote me back. Here's the letter

my name here,

Thanks for the letter. It takes guys to come out and say something like you said. have you ever read Proverbs 27:5? "Open rebuke is better than secret love." I guess that it is best to just come out with stuff like that. To be honest, when I was a freshman, I had a crush on ___ who was a senior. So I've been in the same boat. I do like the fact that you are different from most girls. You have a good testimony. Don't blow it, build on it..... (some stuff about hanging around with some people)

Well, "Have a good summer" (making fun of something i said in my letter) and enjoy your THREE more years of school.

(his name here) SO is it a good rejection letter, and open ended letter, or what? He's home now and im nervous about talking to him.

i wouldnt say it was rejection i just think that it was just a friendly letter saying that he has had the same thing so hes not saying no but hes not saying yes. if you are a freshman than that is a pretty big age difference. but dont act any different around him. just be yourself & act like nothing ever happened. he'll come around hopefully.

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okay, basically, i have a hickey on my neck, and its big and purple

ita hot, so no turtle necks, and i dont wear collars
the cover i have isnt working at all

anyways to make it go away faster
or any other ideas on how to hide it?

haha i just had the same probably. get a comb and comb your hickey slowly & gentle for about a minute. then put some ice on it to make the blood flow quicker. after you've done that put a lot of cover up on. if you can still see it put one of those colored chockers that everyone is wearing now. if anyone asked say its a bruise from some sport you do or from an animal. mine too about 3-4 days to go away but they can usually last from 2days - 1week. combing it definitly speeds up the process. hope everything works outtt. :]

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My boyfreind has had sex with 30 other girls and he prbably has alot of STDS and he cheats on everyone.its just in his nature. He cheated on my friend he cheated on all his other grilfriends. He tried to finger my friend when they were going out and my frined dint want him to and he wouldn't stop trying to do it. He's a man hore. He's only 16 too and he already had sex with 30 girls. And to top it all off, hes arrested right now I forgot what he did. I think hes too much truble for me because I'm not a good girl but I'm not that bad. hes already wanted sex with me the first day we were going out. I think i should dump him. Hes a bad kid and he will only cause more trouble to me. What do yuo think?

yesyesyes!

you dont need that trouble in your life.

you can do wayyyy betterrr.

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okay, so last year around this time i started going out with this kid zach. it was amazing and we both fell completely in love. after 6 months, he broke up with me, and i found out later that he had been in a lot of trouble with drugs and that sort of thing. since then, he's been arrested twice and he actually just got out of jail 2 weeks ago. but throughout all of this, ive always been there for him and we've still kind of been 'together'. but the 2nd time he was arrested, i figured it'd be for a lonnnng time... so i started talking to this kid josh. josh is the NICEST person ever. he doesnt do any drugs or stuff like that .. hes really nice and polite and romantic and all that. we both like eachother and talk every day. but now that zachs back hes been trying really hard to fix up everything in his life, he really is a good kid that got into bad stuff. hes gotten a job, and is working hard to make things okay, but my mom still doesnt want me seeing him for ovbious reasons.. and i understand that, but she said i could talk to him occasionally on the phone. what she doesnt know is that ive snuck around to see him when she wasnt around.. 3 times so far. i love zach, and he loves me,, and ifeel like i should try to work for that.. even though its exhausting and would take a while to be okay. but i also am interested in josh, and it would be so easy and maybe even good to try something new and have a good time.zach knows about josh, but josh doesnt know that i am still talking to zach alot. i dont know what to do-- i dont want to hurt anyone. but i just have this feeling that if i go with josh, when things are cleaned up for zach ill want that back. ahhhh im so confused. and i need some good advice please. hope this made some sort of sense. thanks

awe babe that must be hard;

i would give zach some more time to fix up his life. dont rush into anything with either of them. just have fun with both of them and then when zach's life is back on track see who you really love. i know that you want to try something knew and thats good but if you still love zach and know that he is the one for you then go for it.

nothing can stop real love.

i know everyone is going to be like go for josh, zach is a bad kid but from expierence i know that you pick what you would be more happy with. sneaking around isnt good but hey, if you get to see him then go for it. but for the time just keep talking to both of them and see how things turn out.

best advice i can tell ya is just to follow your heart.

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Ok..im 16 and ive never been kissed. Or lets change that..ive never "madeout" with anyone. And im talkin to a couple of guys and theyre askin me on dates n stuff and i wanna go but i know theyll make a move on me and then i wont kno what im doin! Im already behind..because im 16 and most ppl have madeout already. What do i do about this?

just go out with them. im sure everything will be fine. if they do pull a move on you and you arent ready tell them no. and this is moving too fast for you. as for making-out, it seems scary to think about messing up but the guys take over. just go with the flow. and when it happens; it happens. but if not then dont worry about it. wait for the right person. hope i helped

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I have a question for you. The other day my girlfriend and I were dry humping and then she preceded to masturbate me until i cummed. I was fully clothed and she was mostly naked. After i came it was like about another 10 mins before i had finished up on her. Well my underwear and shorts were still soaked. She sat on my lap and my some of my wet shorts touched her leg. She jumped up and touched her self to wipe off her leg. Well she went to the bathroom and after she got done using the toilet she wiped herself with a tissue. Although she forgot to wash her hands prior. Between this fifteen minutes of passing is it possible she could get pregnant. I told her i didnt think she had anything to worry about but she told me she wanted me to ask you.

probably not but there could be a slight chance. i wouldnt be to worried but have her take a test just in case but theres probably like a 1-10 chance but just to be on the safe side i would take a test. hope it works out good.

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well i liked this one guy and im trying to let go.
but hes gorgeous.
and i didnt know him but i kinda did.
anyways
im trying to move along with a different guy
he has long flipped out blonde hair
with blue eyes
its cute
but yeah
i think he thinks of me as a freinds with benifits..
i dont really know him eaither
and i cant let go of the other guy
but i know he doesnt really like me
because he beleves these rumors about me
im not a slut
dont worry
i just want someone to love and be my boyfreind.
but i cant let go of the guy i need to let go of..
does anyone have any advice
thank you so much

if you dont know either of them that well then dont worry about it. the one who thinks of you as friends with benefits, well thats all there will be is constantly making-out and crap if you guys would go out. but honestly i dont want to make it sound like go and mess around with every guy but thats a lot less stressfull and a lot more fun then being held down by a guy. so just go have fun. hook-up with some guys and just have fun! and the first guy well he sounds hot but i dont think you like him for him. possibly his looks or just want a boyfriend real bad. yeah hobbies = dont work. tried it =] haha but anyways just have fun with the guys. its summer. be single. that always funnier. i know having a boyfriend is like whoa omg. but like just having fun all the time with different guys is a lot more easier, funnier, & you wont get your heartbroke if you dont like them that way. hope i helped. rate me please =]

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ok what are some good excuses to brake up with your boyfriend??

family problems

stressed

single for the summer

need space

like someone else

dont feel like im being fair to you

dont think you like me that much

not allowed to have boyfriend

need to take a break..

some like thatt. =]

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13/f.
Ok well me and this guy did stuff the other night. It wasn't like just a booty call, or for me it wasn't because I really like this guy. I'm started to think he was just using me, but I hate that thought because like I said, I do really like this guy. I'm afraid to call him or talk to him on AIM when he's on. I just don't want to seem clingy or desperate. I just want him to want me, and it seemed like he did that night, but now that we haven't hung out with him I'm getting weird feelings and it's all so confusing. I was invited to go the movies with him and a few friends the other day, but was too late and didn't get to go. Sorry if I'm just rambling on, but what do you think I should do? Talk to him, call him? Do you think he might be just using me? Because he does like another girl..
Thank you so much for your time and help.

yeah sorry babe, if he likes another girl then he just wanted some booty. most guys are pigs. i know its hard to hear, im very sorry dear.

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okay yes so me & my boyfriend kind of had sex yesterday... he put it in like half way yesterday & pulled it out because i was scared yaeh well i still bled. does that mean he popped it? but it was only in half way..yeah im hoping im stilll a virgin pleasee help me!!!! comment bac qickk!

technically no your not. but you could probably still tell people you are. most people are stupid and wont consider it anything =]

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hey well i just broke up with my bf of 8 months and this was my first relationship. i guess i did it cause im pretty young to have such a serious relationship and i wanted to see what else was out there..but now we broke up and i dont know if i made a mistake or not. he said he wouldnt avoid me but of course he is and it is making me depressed. im pretty sure he'd take me back if i wanted to so thats not wut im concerned about..i am just really confused and don't know wut to do. i miss him so much!!! he is so sweet...how did u guys know when u loved someone? cause for some reason i wasnt happy when i was with him, but now im less happy when im not

that happens to me all the time. i personally think that you should try to get back with him if you both are still upset about it. if you still like him then follow your heart. a lot of the time girls dont find guys that like them as much as it seems he likes you. so if you are happy with him & miss him that i say go back with him. or possibly even wait alittle like a couple weeks & look around. if no luck & still miss him then he is definitly the right choicee.

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Hey guys..I just wanted to know what you think is better..Being single over the summer or having a boyfriend?

well personally i think being single for the summer is better cause you can have those summer night hook ups haha but thats just me. but if you do find a boyfriend & you guys hang out a lot in the summer then thats nice too but single is a lot more fun xD

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if a guy you are making out with puts his hands on your boobs like ONTOP of your shirt, not under it, is that sexual harrasment or assault? what if while youi were making out he put his hands in the back pocket of your jeans and squeezed your butt? is that harrassment? thanks so much!

not really. if you tried to stop him and he didnt then it would be but if you told him & he didnt then yeah.

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