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okay, so last year around this time i started going out with this kid zach. it was amazing and we both fell completely in love. after 6 months, he broke up with me, and i found out later that he had been in a lot of trouble with drugs and that sort of thing. since then, he's been arrested twice and he actually just got out of jail 2 weeks ago. but throughout all of this, ive always been there for him and we've still kind of been 'together'. but the 2nd time he was arrested, i figured it'd be for a lonnnng time... so i started talking to this kid josh. josh is the NICEST person ever. he doesnt do any drugs or stuff like that .. hes really nice and polite and romantic and all that. we both like eachother and talk every day. but now that zachs back hes been trying really hard to fix up everything in his life, he really is a good kid that got into bad stuff. hes gotten a job, and is working hard to make things okay, but my mom still doesnt want me seeing him for ovbious reasons.. and i understand that, but she said i could talk to him occasionally on the phone. what she doesnt know is that ive snuck around to see him when she wasnt around.. 3 times so far. i love zach, and he loves me,, and ifeel like i should try to work for that.. even though its exhausting and would take a while to be okay. but i also am interested in josh, and it would be so easy and maybe even good to try something new and have a good time.zach knows about josh, but josh doesnt know that i am still talking to zach alot. i dont know what to do-- i dont want to hurt anyone. but i just have this feeling that if i go with josh, when things are cleaned up for zach ill want that back. ahhhh im so confused. and i need some good advice please. hope this made some sort of sense. thanks
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Well, thats a really hard decision. I think that you should give Zach alittle more time and if nothing changes and he goes back to being a druggie and gets in jail to dump him and start dating Josh. Even if Zach gets back to normal he might start up again at everything. SO just give Zach alittle more time.
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hey there!
i know that this is a hard decision for you, but no matter what happens things will turn out fine. i think that you should give zach some more time work things out in his life. he is probably trying to turn his life around because he loves you and knows that you care for him so he doesnt want you to be hurt or have to worry for him. i think you should also give josh a chance, try getting to know him better. you can work on both of your friendships with zach and josh. if you do go with josh, dont stop talking to zach because he needs you to support him by letting him know that your always going to care about him and that he is always going to be in your life. if you go with zach, make your friendship strong with josh to let him know you care about him too. dont worry there is no limit on how many people you can care about or how many people you can have in your life as family, friends, lovers, strangers, and of course there will be haters. i cant tell you what to do.. you have to listen to your heart and follow it and know that it feels right. i hope i helped! if you need anything else just leave something in my inbox. i hope things will work out fine and i know that they probably will...
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awe babe that must be hard;
i would give zach some more time to fix up his life. dont rush into anything with either of them. just have fun with both of them and then when zach's life is back on track see who you really love. i know that you want to try something knew and thats good but if you still love zach and know that he is the one for you then go for it.
nothing can stop real love.
i know everyone is going to be like go for josh, zach is a bad kid but from expierence i know that you pick what you would be more happy with. sneaking around isnt good but hey, if you get to see him then go for it. but for the time just keep talking to both of them and see how things turn out.
best advice i can tell ya is just to follow your heart.
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