Allow me to introduce myself, I am the Knight Owl. Or, as my friends know me, Sean. I can't guarantee that I can solve your problems. But the majority of the people I know seem to come to me for advice. I listen to people very well, and I assess. Sometimes I can offer suggestions, other times there are no suggestions. But I promise to try my best. Remember, everyone has problems, I know I do. All you need to do is ask. I invite you, to talk to me on AIM or Yahoo, if you want to ask me privately for some advice.
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okayy ! well i went out with this boy for almost 3 months and he was short .. and he knew it.. well we had an argument like a niqht before we broke up cause i didnt see him for like 3 weeks then if we didnt hang out today (the day of the argument) i wouldnt get to see him for another week .. soo anyway .. i got mad cause he wouldnt hang out with me ( am i right about getting mad ?) and i made steph my friend talk to him .. but i was sittinq on the floor rockiinq back and forth and then i was whisperinq i can do better i need to dump him because he treats me like ass.. but anyway then he heard and got mad so i forgave him about not hangin out but he didnt really forgive me but i talked to him the nxt day when i was babysittinq and then he said that he was ten like messinq around and i was like suuureee ..and he goes why do you think im soo short .. i said i dunno maybe you have growinq problems then he said what do u tell your friends you go out with someone whose short and i said nahh i say i go out with a short kid & he got mad and hung up so i called him back and he said dont fucking call me again bitch ! so i didnt...
what should i do .. oh yeah by the way im 14 and a Female (link)
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Get yourself a new boyfriend, and try to be picky this time. No shorties, because short people often times have short tempers. Next make sure this guy is in your grade, its very possible this guy was actually ten, but you can't be sure. Finally, make sure this new guy is in some way within close proximity to you. Normally, I don't approve of dating unless one of the people involved can drive or has some form of public transportation. Good luck, hope this helped.
-The Knight Owl
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 2 years now and i love him soo much. Well we got into a REALLY REALLY big fight, and he said really mean things to me so I broke up with him and when he came to my house the next day we talked and he told me that he thinks alot different of me now and he made it pretty clear that he didn't want to get back together with me at all. I didn't mean to break up with him and I want him back, the problem is, he doesn't want me back. My heart is broken and I'm really lonely. He was my life, I was with him EVERY SINGLE DAY. I feel lonely and I don't have anyone I can really talk to about it. What should I do? How can I get him to want me back as much as I want him back? (link)
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This hurts to say, but you can't. It sucks I know, but you can't change the way someone feels. I can't say how long its gonna hurt, but on average it lasts about two weeks. My advice, move on. Stay single for a bit, re-evaluate your ideas of dating, because spending every single day with someone for two years is not healthy. Part of a relationship is appreciating the time you spend together after spending time apart. I'd keep yourself available for about a month, if he doesn't change his mind by then, he's probably not going to. My heart goes out to you, and I'm sorry it ended that way. Good luck, hope that I've helped.
-The Knight Owl
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here it is quick and dirty version.
i met a girl on an internship. we both are in the same field. we have alot in common besides our profession. there was an instant attraction when we met. she had a boyfriend for 5 years and dumped him after we kissed for the first time. we got to know each other a it before our internships were over, she came back to see me and we were intimate. now we she each other occasionally but we live in different states. i am moving to arizona for a traveling job which will last three months. i would be away from her for 3 months and our relationshiop is just starting out. she is more uncomfortable about it than i am. i really like it out there but she is everything that i have ever wanted and if her and i were to end up together i would have to move back to her city. she just got out of a 5 year relationship and i am ready to get into a long term relationship so i don't know if i should move to her state to try things out because she may not want a relationship like that. i am worried about being the transition guy. she has a problem with trust because of her dad having an affair on her mom but i would not doing anything to hurt her. any suggestions on if i should second guess moving to her city and stay where i like it and how can i convince her to trust me? asically if i don't move to her city it would never work. (link)
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Ooooh, this is quite the catch 22. All right, here's my advice, and take this to heart. You seem like a hopeless romantic, its okay, you're not alone. If your feelings for this girl are as strong as you claim, then here's EXACTLY what you need to do. Before you leave for Arizona, you need to have the heart attack conversation. Most of the time, this conversation is started by the woman, and gives a guy something close to a heart attack. Hense, its name. The conversation always starts with the same phrase, or something VERY close to it, "Where do you see this relationship going?" This, in a sense, will get her to think "Is he really the man I want to spend the rest of my life with?" You should be prepared to answer the same question, as it will be turned around on you at some point in the conversation. Now, onto the results. If it turns out that she feels this relationship won't work, then hooray, you get to move to Arizona after all. If however, you both feel this relationship can get serious and lead to something like a family, then I think you should put off the job in Arizona, find a job in her city and take it from there. It shouldn't be that hard to find a job somewhere else in the country, her city, or where ever if in fact it does not work out. But cross that bridge when you come to it. On behalf of all hopeless romantics, I wish you luck.
-The Knight Owl
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Okay...this is gonna be kinda long, but i really really need help. There's this guy I know, Alan...and he moved here from Utah, and I had a crush on him when i first met him, we go to the same church. well, i was real close to telling him, but one of my BEST friends took him. Then dumped him 8 months later. my mom invited him and his sister to come with us to Great America, a few months later. well, i finally got the guts and told him, and he told me he didn't really really like my friend like he does me. and we held hands on the ride home, and I'm only 13, and our religion says we arn't allowd to have a relationship until we're 16. and so i was really nvervous, esp. since his little sis (10 y/o) was sitting right next to us. It's been a year, and he keeps trying to hold my hand and kiss me an stuff, and i really don't think it's appropriate, and I've told him time and time again, that i think it's not right, and that we should wait a few years. well, he won't stop, and now we're in highschool. I'm really uncomferatable around him, esp. when we're alone. How do i get it through his head, i've tried just ignoring him, and i've tried talking to him. I dont' know what to do. His family moves around a lot, and i really don't want to let him down, cuz i know his past, it's been really rough for him. what do i do, I don't know how long he'll be living here. so I dont' know if I should just let him go, and tell him i don't like him, or just to put up with it until he moves again.
PLEASE HELP, i Rate really really High!
Signed,
Confused and stressed (link)
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Well, you have to ask yourself, how important is religion? I know that in some christian sects or denominations, everything is a sin, dancing, movies, music, holidays, and that is just plain ridiculous. But in the end it all comes down to one's personal beliefs. What I believe may not be right for someone else. You say your religion discourages dating before 16, which is unnatural, but okay. You say you like him, which IS natural. Its basic instinct, and a part of the human development to become attracted to a potential mate. I'm not out to shatter anyone's religion, I'm just trying to tell you that religion does not have ALL the answers. 99 times out of 100, if you ask God for guidance you won't get a reply, this is what I've experienced, however its all faith. So in the matter of how you should deal with it, ask yourself, how strong is your faith, and how important is your religion to you? If you find that your faith is more important than this guy that you have a crush on then tell him flat out, no, you are sworn to uphold your values that are issued by your church. However, if you do some soul searching, and find that your religion just doesn't make sense, then enjoy your new boyfriend. I'm sorry if I shook your religious pillar, but sometimes it has to be done. And I hope to my gods, that I helped you with your issues regarding this boy, and your God.
-The Knight Owl
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I think I'm starting to like men, I don't know what to do. Should I just admit I like men? Have you ever gone through anything similar? (link)
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This question made me laugh just a bit. Speaking from a scientific stand point, one doesn't just START to like men, the desires and urges have always been there. So if you like men, then I suggest you do a little soul searching, maybe go on a date with a guy and see if its what you like, but also try dating women too. Don't exclude one or the other until you're sure. As to revealing your desires, I'd say its a matter of comfort. If you're comfortable with your friends, and know they'll never betray you, then by all means be proud of being bi, gay, or straight, which ever the case may be. Hope this has been helpful.
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Hey Sean,
I was just wondering what I should do about my love life. I'm a major flirt and I'm not sure if I should be with my boyfriend of 9 months. Please help. (link)
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It depends on how jealous your boyfriend is. For someone like me, I don't mind a girl friend harmlessly flirting with another guy. But if this is who you are, and he can't accept that, then it would be wise to break it off before anyone gets REALLY hurt.
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I want to duke guys in the butt. I heard you had experience with it. is it fun? Do you like to duke em? (link)
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Whether I like it or not is irrelevant. But to answer your question, yes you are gay. A FLAMING HOMO! Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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You gave such good advice for me last time, I needed to ask you another question!! I posted it in the public answers but I needed help from a guy again! lol
Ok, you know already that I go to an all girls school, so I don't know any guys. Well, the other day I went to a restaurant and just started smiling at this guy. (What?? He was really cute!!) Then, supposedly, when we left my mom told me he gave me a look like "Why the heck are you staring at me?" I didn't notice it, but my mom did! Well, I was smiling at him! I thought guys like that!! Right??? Or did I som something wrong again? I think I must've scared the crap out of the poor boy. (link)
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It all depends on the kind of smile you give a person. What kind of smile were you giving him, its possible that your smile looks like a psycho smile. But the likelihood of this situation is this, you were in a public place smiling at a person that you didn't know and didn't know you. He probably thought it was just a liiiiiittle creepy. ya dig? So try this instead, go to a place that is designed for people to meet people, like a club. But picking up guys at a Jack in the Box is a definate no no. Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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long distance relationships...
how far is it a bad idea to date the other person?
thanks a bunch...~GraveDigger (link)
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Good question, personally I don't like to place value on a relationship. Love can not be measured in distance, if you love the person then go for it. Whether or not the relationship works is entirely up to the two people dating. If this doesn't satisfy you, then I'd say opposite sides of the country is a bit too far. Hope I helped.
-The Knight Owl
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Hi TheKnightOwl. I am a 16 year old girl. I need your help with something, being as though you're a guy. I go to a girls school, so it's hard to meet guys. Don't have my licence, so it's hard to get anywhere. I am very pretty, a little overweight, and really want a boyfriend. It seems if I'm out in public, boys want nothing to do with me and I don't understand why. I am a little shy, but I would think a guy could come right up to a girl. How can I get a guy to talk to me, and why don't they ever talk to me? Thanks. (link)
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Hmmmm, good question, but men are not always as confident as they seem on T.V. guys do not always walk up to some random girl and start a conversation. Sorry about the all girls school. I as a guy would love to go to an all girls school. Sorry, poor humor. Hmm, if your friends know any guys that they think you might like try that option. Go to parties, go to the local hangout. Around here we have the bowling alley, and cosmic bowling every saturday. Yahoo personals works sometimes. Aside from that I can't offer too much advice for someone in your situation. Sorry, but good luck I hope it works out. Oh be sure to wear clothes that show off your feminine beauty. Don't dress like a slut, but wear something that will draw some good attention to you.
-The Knight Owl
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hmm where to start.. well gee its fair time where im at and last year i was with this guy.. lets say his name is * steve.. well i had my first kiss with steve there.. and wow it was all so good n sstuff anyway things ended and min en his friendship faded.. but then we hooked back up .. he cheated on me once.. but i got over it and me n him always messed around.. but really n the end i was being used.. and i fell n love with him uh.. and then like we got n this fight and didnt talk 4 months.. well eventually me n him became friends again .. and we messed around again.. but c he uses alot of girls and alot of my friends have been all depressed over him.. and its so bad i mean i got used to b his friend but then he kisses me n it all changes he so perfect for me he just doesnt c it i love him so much and friendship meant alot to me.. but c me n my friends had this thing kall'd game plan where i was supposed to lead him on then leave em haha yeah it was so mean so i didnt do it but he found out about it anyways and now he hates me (again) and i saw him tonyt at tha fair and he hates me he told me all nyt and to fuck off and he wuldnt ride anything with me and kept sayin shyt and weve been thru so much i just wish i culd tell him .. i juss need some advice =/.. thanx (link)
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Wow.... That is definately so..... wow. Okay if you want advice then here it is. It sounds like you guys have got this messed thing going on, so just forget about him. I'm not a psychologist (yet) but it sounds like he has some issues. You're just going to get hurt, and its going to suck. You could call him, or email him. But if you REALLY want to explain to him that you weren't going to go through with the "game plan" then have one of your friends email him. But if I were you, I wouldn't even give him the time of day. Hope I could help you.
-The Knight Owl
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Me and my boyfriend want to go away sumwhere. We want to go with another couple too. We are from NH and Hes 19 and I'm 18. Most hotels at the beach wont rent to us because were not 21. Does any1 have any ideas of where we could go if your from the area thats nic ebut not wicked expensive. I know theres camping but are there any good cmaping spots? Thanks!! (link)
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Miles Standish State Forest, in MA. Its nice, near the ocean. Its very beautiful. Hope you choose it.
-The Knight Owl
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I becamse frineds, with my now best friend, a month before i started going out with her brother. Him and i went out for a week, the one week was fine i guess but then after that he was kinda rude, but then when i staytred hanging out with his sister more and more he kinda clunged to me more and more again, and when i slept over her hosue some stuff happened. I alwyas want to talk to her about thigns that had happerned between him and i but im afraid she'll get mad and think its weird b/c its her brother. she is my beat friend and i wish i coudl talk to her about ANYTHING and i think im still in love with him, and i would like to express that to her but i dont knwo how she'll respond, what should i do?! i dont knwo hwo to get over him, even though he has movoed out fo the house. or if i shoudl tell her? or keep it to myself? (link)
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Well, I've answered a question like this before. If you think something serious could arise from this relationship, then you should talk to your best friend first. Sit her down, tell her you've got something serious to talk about with her. Tell her you think that her brother and you could become serious, and that before it does, you want to make sure its okay with her first. This will let her know that it is very important to you, and she'll atleast think about it before saying yes or no. If she is that good of a friend then she'll think long and hard about it. And she'll respect that you came to her first. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
-The Knight Owl
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ok heres how it is i like this guy a whole bunch and we hung out and all the begining of this summer ..well i went on vacation the past 3 weeks and came back and school had started for them .. this other girl i know really likes him too but him and her have never met so i dont really have to worry about her, but on the other hand this girl that lookwise is about the same as me has started to like him and is tryin to get him .. well i dont go to school with him but she does and i really thought he liked me but then all of a sudden we just basicly stopped talkin.. i dont know wat happened.. anyways my question is do u think there is a chance he likes me or do u think the other girl basicly already has him since she spends all this time at school with him now? please help me (link)
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Good question, and a very helpful story. I can't say for sure however what this guy's situation is. If you like him, call him, and do it soon. Find out where you and he stand. What have you got to lose? You don't go to the same school as him, so its not like people will necessarily find out if you get rejected, or this other girl gets rejected. So its no harm to your social standings. But if you're afraid of rejection, then here's what you should do. Call him, talk to him, and just hang out with him. That's the best thing to do really. If he likes you like you like him then it will all fall in to place. Otherwise, like I said, take the innitiative and ask him out. Good luck, I'm rooting for ya.
-The Knight Owl
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i want a bf. i couldve had one but i turned him down. but it seems that all the guys i like, dont like me the way i want them to like me. they only seem to like me as a friend. i have one that i hang out with and some stuff has happened between us but we r only friends with benefits in certain situations. i mean i want it to but i dont know if im ready for it now. he already knows i like him. i dont want 2 seem obsessive, and im kinda afraid of rejection. so do u think things ever progress between us? (link)
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Hmmm, I don't know for sure. I'm not psychic, but then again this story does sound familiar. If you want my advice then here it is. Basically, be his friend. If he wants a relationship then he'll say so. But you have to be patient. Right now it seems like he doesn't want a relationship, but if he knows that you like him, then if and when he's ready for a relationship, he'll know you want one too. So if he wants a relationship with you then it will work out. Until then, just be friends with benefits. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
-The Knight Owl
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ok question. im 15 n im in love with this kid robert. but see i dont have a chance with him like AT ALL. so i met this kid chris n i started to like him . so now i have a big crush on chris. but i found out that my best friend is like in love with him! but see he said that he didnt like my friend like that but that he would do shit with me. now is it wrong that i like this person that i have a chance with? even though my bestfriend likes him? (link)
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Not at all, your friend might be hurt, but it will pass. I would atleast hold off on going out with, or doing shit with this guy until your friend has told him that she likes him, and he's told her that he doesn't like her in that way. This way is best, because then your best friend won't wonder about what could've been, and in this sense you didn't "steal" him away from her, he chose you. If you were a guy, then it would be easier. A lot of times guys will compete, its a sad truth. But guys need some form of competition. Well I really hope this helped you. Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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Okay my friend (well call him -IB-) asked me out in May and i told our friend (well call her -AN-) and she didnt believe me so she asked him if we were and I had forgotten about it until yesterday and i asked her what he said and she said that -IB- said that he did not know that we were and shes like "but he said also that he was messed up today so maybe u r" he is grounded and he has been so whenever he calls me he has to sneak it like when his parents are gone...I start school tomorrow and I dont know how i am going to find out before school starts but i can live with that part i just want to know how i can find out if we are going out or not and i dont know how or what i am going to say to him to find out what or if i should have someone else do it or what i really need help so please help me
*HAW*
PLEASE HELP ASAP
-Moderators do not delete this i really need help (link)
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Easy peasy. When school starts tomorrow, go up to him and talk to him like normal. Don't back him into a corner. Then you know ask him if you are infact going out. If he says something like, that's up to you, or I'm waiting for your answer, then he wants in which case the ball will be in your hands. But just remain calm above all. Don't pressure to give you an answer right away. Guys hate that, it makes you sound eager, and it puts them in a place that they don't want to be. Good luck, I'm rooting for ya.
-The Knight Owl
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I have a huge crush on this guy in my school. He's a wonderful person! I like to call him a "Man's Man"! Lets just say that he has enough girls who like him to have a fan club!!! Anyway, I was wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to be "me" around him. I tend to act different...almost as if I'm not good enough for him and maybe if I act differently he'll like me. I realize this is a typical boy problem that happens all the time, but all the same, I still need help!!!
Thank you very much for any suggestions, advice, etc. Some helpful info: I'm 13 & in the 8th grade.
Thanks again!!! (link)
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Hmmmmm, how to be yourself around him.... this is very difficult to even think about. It kind of makes my head hurt. I wouldn't look at him any differently as you do any other guy. That's the best advice, just don't think of him differently. The reason you act differently is because you're obviously intimidated by him, that you're afraid you won't be good enough for him. Once you realize that he is the same as every other guy, you should be able to relax and be yourself. Good luck, I hope he chooses you over the other girls in his "fan club".
-The Knight Owl
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I think I'm falling for my exboyfriends best friend. We're all really close and whatever... So I feel really lost. One of my good friends told me that I should go with what I want, but I'm not sure. I do know what I want, but I also don't want people getting hurt. ahh... (link)
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Well to be honest, its not exactly cheating, you know? But I can see how your ex would get hurt. Here's what I would do, if you are as close to your ex as you say, then talk to him first. Find out if he would be comfortable with you dating his best friend. If not then I wouldn't go for it. Good luck I hope it all works out for ya.
-The Knight Owl
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i just moved to newton, MA, and i found out that a girl my age lives next door(im a guy). i havent seen her or met, and how could i go about doing so? (link)
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You could ofcourse, hang out outside on your front steps, and wait until you see her come out. Then you just simply introduce yourself. Good luck man. I'm rooting for ya.
-The Knight Owl
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