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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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Hello...this is a question for guys to answer but girls are welcome to answer the other question i ask.
okie dokie...
GUYS: do you think it makes us, girls, feel good about our selfs when you call hott to an extended degree?...(example: yesterday this guy YELLED from across the street at my friend(13/f) "turn down the AC cuz its getting hott in here".)
GIRLS: do you apperciate (sp?) it when you are called hott (like the example above) by your boyfriend or another guy?
will rate for good answers
1s for dumbass/smartass/stupid/iggnorant answers (link)
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in my personal opinion; I believe that when a guy keep saying stuff like that, most of the time (for most guys) r trying to "Butter up" the girls. this is ether doe to lack of confidence in themselves or being young, naive, and not knowing the proper way of treating women.
in my opinion also that when guys say that all the time to a lot of girls at the same time, it soon losses meaning.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it, but in obsessiveness, it can be more harmful, that fun. I personally don't believe Guys fully understand all that it can do to some one.
I hope this helps/ let me know if i did
~Teen Guru~
PS Thanks 4 asking such a great question.
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can someone help me out why do good things happen to bad people ? (link)
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Like you I have also wonder such questions. I spent a great deal of meditation and pondering on such matters. I have researched on the subject for a long time. I could never accept the fact that the good things happen to bad people more and bad things happen to good people more often than bad things to bad people and good things to good people. And after of years of searching and experience it finely hit me, you are only seeing a small part of the picture. The evils of the world would like us to give up hope surrender ourselves to their will, and enslave us to our misery and bind with the wretchedness of our own depression. As I was younger, I saw only what you are seeing right now, Pain misery, unhappiness for those who tried to live a good life while those who enjoyed inflicting such dark gloom on others. As I grew older, my eyes begun to open I started seeing the full picture of life; that those who seem to have it all, actually have very little, those who seem to always get away and get off the hook are in reality enslaved themselves to the very Evils which I spoke of.
And example I have seen kids whose parents would buy them their young heart desires anytime of day/week/year, and it made them very spoiled and jerkish to everyone who wasn’t their friend; they seemed to have it all except one thing. Consider where would the parents get the money to buy such things, they would have to work longs hours and, all to often, in very stressful jobs, so the parents are either always working and rarely ever see their kids, the kids are either raised by a nanny or to fend for themselves. So to have things of the world, they had to pay a terrible price, they never really knew parents, they were treated no differently then the family dog, and worst of all they saw people who had a family, who were happy but did not have the things of the world, and they hated them for it. There were times they thought those who were poorer were the lucky ones. So, out of jealousy they picked on and tormented those kids, who in their eyes were more fortunate that them.
Now tell me who has it better; one who gets all the things of the world; things that will fade with time, or one who have very little of the world but has an unimaginable treasure?
I also know a kid who lived a very charmed life, he got in allsorts of trouble but it was always lesser than his friend that he did it with. He was smart, resourceful, popular, and well admire. But he also paid a very terrible price, he was utterly forgotten by he parents when his younger brother was born, I don’t mean the normal older/ younger relationships, his younger brother always got everything he wanted (just like the kids I mention earlier). Now he basically lost his mind through drugs and misery caused by his parent’s oversight and his younger brother has really no concept of reality.
Sounds wonderful doesn’t, the point I want to make is when you think someone has it all they in all reality do not. So those who do bad things have their share of bad things happen to them and in the end, it is they who are in the losing end of things. It is “The grass is always greener on the other side” thing.
I sincerely hope this helps you out/let me know if it did.
Best of Luck
~Teen Guru~
P.S. sorry if it long but I don't think I could have shorten it that much. also if u has any more questions, please feel free to ask.
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can you be in love when your 13? (link)
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Depending on your definition of “love” will depend on whether one can or not. If love is the “infatuation” or “liking of each other” between two individual, then maybe. However if you go by the definition that states (as I call it True Love) “…Love is the bond the binds two individual together that grows though all of life’s hardships and beyond death’s grip….” Then I would say no for one reason, for one to find “True Love” you must first do the key word GROW. I know everybody wants to believe they will find “True Love” early in life; this is due to the large impact in our society one trying to grow up too fast and try to find that PERFECT mate. Well I hate to be the deliverer of bad tidings but that is not how it works. True you may be smitten by someone, and have a liking to them, but “True Love will not come till you actually know them, not just the masks everyone puts on for others to see (or in others words; in almost everything we do with other people, put on our best front.)
I hope this helps you out. Let me know if I did.
And don’t worry, you will find this “True Love” that I have spoken of, if you be patient.
Best of luck.
~Teen Guru~
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What are ways to boost my self-esteem? (link)
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Well 1 way you can boost ur self-esteem is to develop you talents. Find what you are interested in, and see if you can do it. It can be anything from sports (such as baseball, football, etc.) art, to public speaking, music. Once you have it stick with it. Remember the salmons that make it back upstream to nest their eggs, swim the entire way against the current the whole way. If you want to succeed in anything you must become like the salmons.
I hope this helps/let me know if I did.
may you find what you desire.
~Teen Guru~
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i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me too but somtimes i feel as though he s lying to about little simple things like why he couldn't come over , y he couldnt call back just little things, i trust him and i love him,sometimes i feel like his love for me is fading away he said he still cares and he loves me but he makes things so difficult between us, hes changed a lot but not in a way that i would want him to change i talked to him about it, and he said he was going to make things better and that was days ago. but there hasnt been a change yet. what should i do? please help i dont want to lose him (link)
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First of all you must understand, all too often people don’t change in a relationships (unless there is something drastic to change it), it is most likely you are see the real him. All too often when we date we put on are best front, and there is nothing wrong with that but that is why one should start slow and work your way up; in other words you are not going to marry someone who you’ve only dated once or twice {or you shouldn’t}. You are most likely seeing the real him, it appears different but he has become more comfortable around you.
Now whether that means you should stick with it or not, I can’t say. That is yours and only yours decision.
I hope this helps you in your dilemma. Let me know if it does.
Best of luck
~Teen Guru~
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okay well me and this guy, well i guess hes my bf.. he never really specifically asked it, only said "i see myslef as your boyfriend" so, im not sure what we are... but we went out to a nice dinner and did some 'sexual' stuff before and after, and alot of times when we talk he asks what i want to do with him (sexually)... im mostly just curious about whether or not he sees me as his girlfriend, and if it seems like hes only in it for the action.. thanks a bunch!! (link)
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it sounds if he is only using you for “Action”. All too often when someone talks about “sexual stuff” they are just wanting the “Action” and it doesn’t matter who it is with. as long as it creates the sensation for their sick minds.
If you really want to find the best kind of bf, find one who will be with you when you both are not sexual active. When you get married and use sex as it meant to, reproduction, then you have a stronger marriage, a better relationship with your spouse and your kids, and you will find a happiness you never could imagine otherwise.
Think about it if you date someone who wants 2 have sex with u. all 2 often they done it before and will do it again once you break up. So you are nothing but a number to them. You’ll be like a trophy of theirs like those mounted heads on the walls.
I hope this helps u in your quest 4 happiness, Let me know if it did
Best wishes.
~Teen Guru~
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hey! i need some sayings, quotes, poems for getting back together with your boyfriend that you love. THANKS! (link)
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well one of best things to say in such a circumstance is something from the heart. write a poem, or saying, or whatever.
but if you are have troubles try http://en.thinkexist.com/. They have many quotes on many different subjects. I sure u will be able to find one that you like there.
I hope this helps, let me know if it did.
~Teen Guru~
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is it wrong for a 13M to have been never been kissed. (link)
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I know a guy who is 19 and has never been kissed, he is ok with. He wanted to save it for a special moment with a special girl. True he dated, but nothing was too series. He had fun and enjoyed his childhood, like you should.
Trust me you will want to save it for a very special young lady.
I know that the media try to tell everyone that they need to find love at a very young age, or you won’t find it at all. That my friend is a big LIE! No mater what there is always be someone out there who you can love.
I hope this helps/ let me know if it did!
~Teen Guru~
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hi my name is jess ive been going out with my boyfriend for days so far. But today when i was at my friends house a kid in her neighborhood said he was going out with this other girl to. How can i find out with out hurting our relationship if hes cheatin on me.
Ps. he does have a history of cheating when he was going out with my friends.
luv jess (link)
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Well in your case, I would ask the kid who told you this info. Ask him/her who they where going out with. Once you have the name; try to find out if she is dating him. Be careful when doing this research, sometimes such things can backfire.
May you find the truth, what ever it is.
I hope this help, Let me know
~Teen Guru~
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okay well i really really like this guy. and whenever im around him i get the butterflies... i mean hes soo different from any other guy ive met.. but i feel like ive really been giving him mixed signals.. like one day i would be flirting with him and the next day i would like barely talk to him.. and i think that might one day just make him lose interest in me.. i have no clue why im like this around him at times.. i no im not nervouse or shy around him.. it just happens.. please please help me i rate high for good answers.. (link)
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It sounds like you have the typical crush, a crush effects everyone differently, but one typical early stage of it is what you just described. So what can you do, you’ll hate me for this but there is nothing you can do, it if you really have feelings for him this feeling will pass, nothing to do but let it pass. Until then just keep have a friendly relationship with him. Sorry I can’t say more. I hope this help; let me know if it did. I hope it works out for you. And remember if he really likes you, he won’t lose interest.
Best wishes
~Teen Guru~
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Aight, which girl should I go with? Here are my options:
-Sort of preppy, very smart, I like her, she likes me as a friend
-Best friend's sister. Sort of tom-girl-ish
-Internet girl. 2 years older than me. I like her, she likes me. We share similar interests. Don't know what country she lives in. Haven't seen her in 2 months.
-Tomgirl. Known her since I was a year and a half old. Fairly smart.
Please help, I usually rate 5s if I choose to rate, and I'll leave comments. Wiseasses get 1s. (link)
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Well it all depends on what you line in a girl, the one you’ve got a lot in common. The only way you’re going to know which one is right for you, is to try one out if that doesn’t work out you’ll know better for next time. That is why it is important to date many people. I wish I could give you more info on who is right for you, but I can’t only you can make such a decision.
I hope this helps you out, Let me know if it did!
Bets of Luck
~Teen Guru~
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i have a boyfriend and i luv him so much and i never want 2 let him go but i dont think he knos how much i do luv him..how could i tell him?
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Well not knowing what your boyfriend is into, but doing something with him that you plan. Going to a sporting events, attend anything he is in to (plays, sports, concerts, etc.), or you can simply just tell him how you feel (that always works).
Be careful, sometimes we thing we found love, but in reality we didn't and wound up hurt. (I don't mean to sound like a parent, but I've seen people who though they felt that they were in love but feel away from it shortly after)
There are many things one can do to show affection, the best tip I can give you is to trust your heart. You’ll find a way. Just don't make your self miserable doing something 4 him that never leads to anything good.
I hope this helped let me know if I helped
bets of luck young one, may you find what you are searching for.
~Teen Guru~
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i broke up wit my exgirl a couple months ago but i cant stand bein away from her i want her back i feel like i cant live wit out her wut should i do? (link)
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Well it is natural to go through this. It is called LOVE WITHDRAWS (LW). It sounds as if you are infatuated with the IDEA of having a girl friend. However there is no way of knowing if your situation is LW or not with what you have just told me, so I’ll give you the symptoms for it.
Ask yourself was this your first relationship? If yes you’re a prime candidate for LW.
How long were you in the relationship? The longer you were in a relationship, the more likely you would get LW, and the harder the break up.
Who Broke-up with whom? Did she break-up with you? or you with her? If you broke-up with her, then you’re most likely having second thoughts. If she broke-up with you you’re most likely having LW.
The Reason why you two broke-up with each other? If it was something serious than it is most likely regret. You must decide how serious it reason why is.
These should be enough for you tell if you have LW. but you must decide whether it is or is not.
Now getting back to the “I feel I can’t live with out her” part of your question. Don’t make me laugh! Love is strong, but not that strong (not counting Romeo and Juliet, that was fictionist not reality). Yes it sounds romantic, but total not true! If you’re truly have feeling for her, and she for you, then it will work out, if not the relationship will be disastrous.
I hope this helps you, sorry if I offended you, that was never my attention. Anyway best of luck, I hoped I helped you, let me know if I did.
May you find yourself
~Teen Guru~
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OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me. (link)
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Guys like the one you just described have one thing on their pathetic little minds, what you can give them. You said he cheated on you, he has Girl Friends, and he is hinting he is “Still in love with you”. He sounds like a young immature and juvenile person, one that thinks he is all that. The best thing for you to do is to think about it, would some one who loved you go behind your back and cheat on you? If you answered yes your beyond my power to help. If you answered no, then how can you be sure he loves you NOW?
What you do with this info is up to you. I sensuously hope it works out for you. Best of luck
Let me know if I helped
~Teen Guru~
P.S. if you like more help on this issue or have another question, drop a line.
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Hi guys.
Sorry if this is really long...i rate high.
Alrighty.
Well i have a boyfriend and i love him to death. We've been together for over 3 months and ever since ive knwn him he never EVER talks about his problems.
If i know somehtings wrong he'll say things like.."Its not important" or "Its nothing" when i can seeeee that its bothering him a lot. I want him to know that he doesnt need to act all tough around me. And i need him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I just dont know what to say to him.
Ive tried the usual..."you know im always here for you" and all that and he says he knows but it doesnt change anything.
Do you guys have anything i could say or do that would get him to know that im always there...and ready to listen?
Any advice is great advice!!
Thanks...
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It saddens me to say there is very little one can do in such matters. Guys for no fault of there own have devolved a sense of arrogances. They feel that is not “Manly” to open up and share their feelings, they are afraid of being called; as Arnold states it, “Girly Men”.
That way of thinking can only change if the Guy wants it.
So what can you do to help him break down the Walls of Pride (Yes Plural)? First of all like any great opponent you must know first what exactly you are up against. I mention the Walls of Pride earlier, I will not discuses what they each are but I will, however, tell you about their builders. The Walls, like most barriers are there to keep others out, or oneself in. The way of thinking that your bf has came by; peers, today’s media, poor family life, betray of some sort (or what they think was a betrayal), cultural, and most importantly a lack of example! All these things combine to hedge up the way to a guy’s feelings (there are other reasons but for the sake of this discussion I won’t name any more).
So what can you do about it? Well now you know more about how the Walls come about, you can help him by looking at the list I’ve just listed off and look at the things you can control (or can influences). Once you’ve found what you CAN do, start influencing him in a positive way (be careful, it is not as easy or safe as it seems; friend can have a powerful effect in a young man’s life, both for good and for bad. That is why it is so important to hang around good friends).
I hope this help, let me know if it did and how it turns out. I wish you luck, you have a terrible and treacherous road ahead, one I know all too well. I’ve seen both worlds, where guys will hold in their feelings and go mad, but will open up eventually with the help of good friends, and time. Just remember it may look hopeless, and you think you aren’t making that much progress, but you are. Keep with it. May you see what I have seen already.
~Teen Guru~
PS if you like to know more on the subject or have further question remembers I’m only a mouse click away.
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Hey.
Alrighty my boyfriend and I are constantly fighting over the stupidest things such as whos right and whos wrong. He hates Green Day but i LOVE them and when i got my ticket for the concert he got pissed at me. But i KNOW he loves me and i love him so much i dont wanna lose this. Our 3 month "anniversary" is in 11 days and im so happy with the relationship. But i think his trust issue is getting in the way. And i dont mean for that to sound mean cuz im not TRYING to be. But i NEED him to know he can trust me. Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany then felt SOO bad for doing it. He has had a rough time growing up and feels like he cant trust many people. What can i do to help him know he can trust me...with ANYTHING?
Thanks for any and ALL advice!!
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P.S. SOrry its so long.=/ (link)
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I’m afraid there is very little one can do on this matter. He needs to trust you. From what you’ve told me, it sounds as if someone betrayed him sometime in his past; unfortunately such wounds heal very slowly. What you can do is tell him that you want to be open with him, you are not cheating on him (if that’s true), and that you care for him but feel hurt when he doesn’t trust you. Talking heals many damages of the soul. Learn why he has hard time trusting you (if you don’t know already). It will not be easy; most people hate to open up (especially Guys). The reward, however is a must have in any relationship, how can love happen there is no trust to channel it.
I wish you luck, I feel you will need it. I hope this help, and if I did, please drop a line telling me.
Best of luck and may you uncover the pain in your bf life.
~Teen Guru~
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Hey All.
My boyfriend is coming over in a few hours, and we have to stay outside. He will only be here for about an hour. He has a car, and he can drive, but we can't go anywhere. What are some things that we could do? (like games or w/e not nasty stuff)
Thanks in advance!
I'll rate and leave feedback, if that helps!
Oh, Its our 18month anniversery today, too.
-SLeK- (link)
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reviewing pic. of you two together, thats always fun.
Hope this helped.
~Teen Guru~
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Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help (link)
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That is not a good sign if a bf does not trust you. Part of being in a relationship is trusting each other. Whether there is nothing wrong with talking with an ex or not is not an easy answer to find, and only you can tell what the answer is.
I can't say much more. Think deeply on the subject, if you feel that you did nothing wrong then on this matter you did not doing anything wrong. It is not your current bf to dictate who you can and can not talk to it is YOU!
Best of Luck I hope this help (Let me know if it did)
~Teen Guru~
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is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong.. (link)
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Like peanut butter in your water, not only dose it mean that the guy is most likely no good (if he is dating someone that far his age. it usually in tells that he can't get a date with someone closer to his own age) but it is also Illegal (look at Michel Jackson thing)!
Both things are bad news and can cause serious problem!
I hope this helps (let me know if it did)
~Teen Guru~
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hey everyone. first of all i am a 14 female. there is this girl, yes a girl, and she is 17 female. i have liked her ever since LAST august (2004). then, over christmas break i found out she was gay. hang on, let me go back. at the beginning of july(2004) is when i first met her. we started becoming friends around the end of august. so i would say i started liking her at the beginning of august. i play softball from july-the end of september with her. that is the only time i talk to her.. once softball was over last year, we werent friends anymore. well, we were but we never talked and i think she forgot about me. well, ever since softball has been over since last year, she is all i have thought about, and i mean every day i would think about her. every time i think about her i get nervous but happy. like, i dont no, i cant explain it. i dont think this is a crush either. i would do anything for this girl. i mean i would even take a bullet for her. but, now since softball has started, its gonna take a while for us to be friends again. meaning, she hasnt talked to me since softball has started this year. and i no once games start we will become friends. and, she is the only girl i feel like this for, i have never felt this way about ANYONE either. but, she also has other friends on our softball team that im sure she hooks up with. i mean when i see her, i dont no its just shes soo pretty and i cant help but stare. so, my question is, do you think this a crush, love, or obsession? one more question, does this mean i am straight, bisexual, or lesbian? (link)
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I think (2 answer your 1st question) that maybe you are confusing Love as a Dear Friend & Love as "Lovers". Love as a Dear Friend is like when you are best friends to someone and then they move away. There’s that emptiness inside. It is natural to feel that way. But Love as in “Lovers” is of course is a different kind of love, it is a bond between two people of the opposite sex, yes I said opposite (and I will say no more on that subject), where you become a different & complete person (if you like to know more on this subject ask me later).
Now on to the 2nd question; the only way one can be as you put it “straight, bisexual, or lesbian” is if they CHOOSE to be! There is little more I can say beyond that. So I will leave you this hope; that you will find yourself in the dark & murky mist of confusion that now is covering around you. may you find what you are searching for.
I hope this help (let me know if dose).
~Teen Guru~
PS Fill free to ask more questions of such matters
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