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Self-esteem
What are ways to boost my self-esteem?
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Wear clothes that look good on you so you'll look better study and do good in school so you can be proud of your self try something new or a new activity so when you succeeded you can be proud of your self. Or this is kinda bad but just think of people in Iraq or New Orleans who have no home, and are getting bomed. Your life would probably be heaven to them so just think of what you have and what you might have. Hope I Helped!
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Join a sport, club or group to build your motivation especially sports help you out alot b/c you strive to win.
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Heh, going through the vanity stage? Well, I'll tell you what my sister does. Whenever she's pissed off, she goes onto iTunes and does a search for songs with her name in it. So say your name is Jenny. You'll probably wind up with songs like Jenny from the Block, Portrait of Jenny, Poor Jenny, etc. It's fun, you should try it!
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You could try a few things. Write down a list of all the good things about you and all the things you like about yourself; it can be anything you want. Try not to think so negative about yourself or things you have done. Instead of always thinking 'Oh I shouldn't have done that; I keep making mistakes', think 'Hey I'm glad I said that; Its a good thing I did do that'.
If you hear people say things to you or about you, don't let it get to you. Nobody knows you better than yourself, so don't keep anything bad about you overshadow all the good things about you. Remind yourself of all the good things about yourself.
Hope that helped and good luck. Just don't let anything anybody may say get to you, because thats letting them win.
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ok.. tell yourself you are hott..even if your not.. compare yourself to ugly girls..and yea..stuff like that..and things like that..and crap like that.. and anything like that.. you know.. jus everything like THAT! hehe..well hope i helped honey.. god bless
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Well 1 way you can boost ur self-esteem is to develop you talents. Find what you are interested in, and see if you can do it. It can be anything from sports (such as baseball, football, etc.) art, to public speaking, music. Once you have it stick with it. Remember the salmons that make it back upstream to nest their eggs, swim the entire way against the current the whole way. If you want to succeed in anything you must become like the salmons.
I hope this helps/let me know if I did.
may you find what you desire.
~Teen Guru~
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Megan's answer is good, but IMHO a bit too compartmentalising. I think that the only way to increase self esteem is to forget yourself. Don't concentrate on YOU, even the good parts. That's limiting ,and leads to self obsession which is depressing for both oneself and others.
I speak from bitter experience: up until fairly recently, I had an incredibly low physical self esteem, which I would inflict constantly on others who tried to help, (but didn't) by praising my looks. The trouble with that sort of praise is it opens up a need, a sort of black hole of yearning which will never be satisfied. The only way to self satisfaction is through independence, and the only way to independence is, oddly, through taking an interest in anything and everything and not worrying about yourself too much.
A great book to dip into is The Bitch Rules by Elizabeth Wurtzel(don't get Bitch,which is confusing and heavy going). Wurtzel has, as you probably know, battled with depression and low self esteem and all the rest, and the aforemetioned book is a witty yet hearfelt poem, if you like, to such a life. The best of luck and feel free to ask a personal question to my column should you wish.lol Lucretiaxx.
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Write a list of things you like about yourself. Disregard anything anyone has ever said about you. Just take a pen and a piece of paper and think of the qualities you have that make you a good person. EX Friendly, Nice, Outgoing.
Or: Pretty eyes, fun, lots of friends ....
See where I'm going with this? When you're done, keep it somewhere you'll find it when you're sad or someone is being mean to you, that'll boost your esteem right up. :)
Megan
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