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Why do I get mad when she's too tired?
Ok, my girlfriend is on the Flagline at her school, so she has to be at all of the games on friday. I usually see her on fridays and saturdays. I'm a guy, and she's the first girl I've ever been, lets say, sexually involved with. And friday's I want to do 'stuff' (stuff being seuxal activities) but she says she's too tired. I know she likes to do it, because every time we do, I please her (and I know this for a fact)I guess I just don't understand how you can be too 'tired'. I could work all day and still have more than enough energy to do 'stuff'. Sometimes we do 'stuff' saturdays, but it makes me mad when she's too tired. I just get frustrated and feel like she doesn't love me. I don't understand why I get mad, it seems like a perfectly good excuse. Please help me understand this. Thank you.
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Uh, there are a few problems here buddy.
1) You are in no way shape or form her owner. If she's tired, she's tired. I find it odd that you can ONLY see her those two days. It isn't fair for you to angry with her when she's tired. She might think that YOUR don't love HER because you "always" get mad at her when she doesn't want to have sex with you. The way you're going about it, getting pissed when she won't go down on you, she might think that all you want from the relationship is sex. And judging by this post, I'd have to say the same thing. All you've mentioned about her was : "Oh, we have sex and she won't have sex with me because she's tired and it pisses me off!" You've never once stated. "I love my girlfriend, and I really miss her and want to see her."
Typical boy, all you want is sex.
Now.
Here is what you do.
Go to your girlfriend, tell her you love her (if you do) and say you're sorry for getting angry. DON'T PRESSURE HER to have sex with you. That's VERY bad.
I smell a 1.
Megan
< I never said you pressured her, I said that's how it sounds. >
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Ok i think there are two issues here: one, your burgeoning sexuality(and its attendant insecurity) and two, your communication with your girlfriend. I really hate to generalise, but it is,I believe,a proven fact that guys your age are more highly sexed than girls of the same age. So it's quite natural that she should feel sheer physical exhaustion at the prospect of endless ,ahem "stuff" (why not just say making out......)
None of this, however, touches on what I believe and you suspect to be the real issue, which is "how much does she love me" I'll tell tou this much- girls are tricky. We stand convicted! Guys are too sexually demanding, we withdraw. Not demanding enough, we write them off as losers. Having said that, there is a golden mean, a perfect level of sexual communication, which with a little effort, you can attain. LISTEN TO YOUR GIRLFRIEND. If she says she is too tired, withdraw a little. Hold off, let her come find you if she horny. And if she just isn't, well, the time may come when you should go your seperate ways. Sorry for the long-winded answer, hope i helped, Lucretia xx.
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