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what can i do
hi my name is jess ive been going out with my boyfriend for days so far. But today when i was at my friends house a kid in her neighborhood said he was going out with this other girl to. How can i find out with out hurting our relationship if hes cheatin on me.
Ps. he does have a history of cheating when he was going out with my friends.
luv jess
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You may want to find out first. It a 4/5 chance he is cheating if he has a cheating history, but it's always good to find out just in case. Since you live in different towns it could be hard. Ask the person who told you to check on things. Maybe the could even be talking about different people?
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well find out who you think hes cheating on you with and mayby like folow them but if he catches you your dead but i meen if he was cheating on u u guys would break up anyways so hed be scared if he knew u knew and then the other girl would b pissed unless she new he was cheating on you.
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hey Jess,
you could say something like this:
[his name here], can i talk to you, I 've heard things and I'm a little confused. can you be COMPLETLY honost.. Have you been seeing another girl? I'm not mad, we just need to figure this out..
then take it from ther i hope i helped
JAckie
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lol sry if this is corney... but watch laguna beach & see what jess does with jason.
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♥ The only way you will know for sure is if you ask him. Since he has a history of cheating there is a big chance is was cheating. =/ Since He already has cheated its easier to cheat in the future && make it a habit. Good luck babe. & I hope I helped. ♥ X0X0Lauren<3
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Just straight forward ask him. do it in a nice way let him know that this is something you care about but definatly do not freak out that seems controlling. :)
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Hey there! In order to ask your boyfriend if he is cheating on you, but at the same time not to harm the relationship, talk to him calmly and be as straight-forward as possible. Talk to him alone and ask him where he would want the relationship to go from here. Also, tell him that someone had told you that he was going out with someone else, and ask him if this is true.
If he answers honestly that he is not cheating on you, move on. Because if a guy really likes/loves you, he would be honest, even if the truth hurted. But if this guy lies, and you find later that he cheated on you, I suggest that you not go on with the relationship. Try not to go out with guys who seem to be there for only a litle while, but rather go for the guys who stay for a really long time.
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There's no way you can find out directly. All you have to do is confront him very nicely. Just tell him, hands down, you don't want to start stuff, you just want the truth. Tell him if he does admit to it, you might be able to work something out but if you find out he's lied that's what would make you upset. It's a tough situation, but usually people will tell the truth if they are assured it won't piss you off. Good Luck!
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It is natural that you wouldn't want trouble in a early relationship and it's understandable. Although it's natural and understandable, you should also think about the foundation of healthy relationships and what they're built on. Two of the most important things are trust and verbal conversation that's full of honesty. These are, of course, not always followed but you should try to consider this perspective. After all, if you're not the kind of person that plays games then you would do as such. Basically, I think you know what I am about to tell you. Yes, you should confront him and ask him about what is going on . Do not make it seem as if you're accusing him of anything . Just make it sound like you're only searching for the truth, which you are. Talk to him, and look him carefully in the eyes, and if you feel a natural rift then something is going on. And girl all I can tell you if you do feel such a thing is to break up with him before he breaks up with you. At least then he'll learn the hard way to have respect. If you feel like you need to, find out the girl's name and talk to her(not beat her down/ it's him not her). Talk to her and ask for the truth. Either way, you should be prepared for all possibilities. And if he is cheating, then it shows that he doesn't have true respect for you and no man isn't worth that at all. Don't sweat it , he don't deserve you. So, hope I was some help and have a nice day.
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Well in your case, I would ask the kid who told you this info. Ask him/her who they where going out with. Once you have the name; try to find out if she is dating him. Be careful when doing this research, sometimes such things can backfire.
May you find the truth, what ever it is.
I hope this help, Let me know
~Teen Guru~
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You could have a friend of yours spy on him to know whether he's cheating or not it could be a big possibility because of his history of cheating. If it turns out he's cheating break up with him because he'll do it again and he is not worth it.If it turns out he wasn't cheating on you then the next time you should trust him and not listen to what others tell you that he's being unfaithful to you.
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heyy. i would ask a couple of his friends nd a couple of ure friends to talk to him nd see what's goin on. if they tell you that he is, go up to him and ask him. tell him that you heard he was cheating on you, nd ask if it's true. it may be difficult to go up to him nd ask him but relationships take honesty. so good luck. nd i hope i helped.
<33 colleen.
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I always say go straight for the source. Even though it may be hard to ask him, relationships are based on honesty and being able to be comfortable talking and telling eachother something. You should definitly ask him but if you dont feel comfortable doing that ask around..maybe his friends or others will know what is up. I hope everything ends up ok.
~hope I was of help~
leigh
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Ask somebody else. Ask about 3 other people, and if enough people say it, then you should go to him and say "I was told today that you were cheating on me. Is this true?". Add tears. It will not hurt your relationship because you immediately put the blame on someone else instead of asking "Are you cheating on me?" which immediately makes the the person think that was your conclusion.
1 person isn't enough though. Ask a few others who don't really know him.
-Steven
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well i have to ask if you knew what kind of guy he was from the start why did you go with him? well i think you should just get rid of him before actually gettin hurt.. im sorry to say that and i know thats not what you want to hear but thats pathetic.. you should have more standards then that.. ♥ Dez
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If it was me i would confront him and say tell me the truth. If he says no. Play it out and if you catch him cheating on you them take action.
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is the person who told you hes dating someone else reliable?? can you trust her?? if you can then theres nothing left to do but ask your boyfriend! if its all a big missunderstanding im sure he'll think nothing of it and this wont hurt your relationship! however if its true...you know what to do! dump him! good luck ♥
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