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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

Hi, I can understand why you are annoyed and feel betrayed. He shouldnt be posting private information between you and him on facebook. I would sit him down and tell him that you are upset because he lied to you when you confronted him and also because he posted things about your relationship online. I would give him a chance and ask him not to post other things on facebook, if he doesnt listen and if you feel that you cant trust him then I think it maybe best to leave him because if there is no trust then the relationship will more than likely not last.
I hope you can both sort things out but I would give him another chance and ask him to be honest
Hope this helps
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So my best friend gets really weird about guys, like she meets them and gets really attached and puts them before her friends which is ridiculous. Like she met this guy through facebook, well there moms know each other but they've never met. He came to her house with his friend and I was there, they were there for literally a minute because it was so awkward. And now she is always texting him and saying how she always wants to hang out with him even though he is leaving for college in like two weeks. She even said I regret asking Katie (her other friend) to go to the Twins baseball game, because I want to go with Charlie ..the guy shes been "talking" to. I told her thats not right because she doesn't even know him. She doesn't listen. And it's all she talks about, everything we talk about relates back to him it's like give it a break seriously. I think she tries to make me jealous but i'm not at all ..i'm just annoyed. And I know this guy only wants to hook up with her and she's only made out with a guy, never done anything else. She just doesn't understand when I tell her. I don't know what to do anymore..

I know how seriously annoying this can be because my best friend was exactly the same when she got a boyfriend, he was the only one she cared about and she would ditch her friends to spend time with him.

Get all of your friends to start telling her, dont sort of gang up on her just tell her that you feel that she is getting too attatched to Charlie and sort of pushing her friends away.
I know its hard to get through to her but I think shes smitten with him.
Just tell her that if she continues the way she is then she is going to lose friends if she keeps putting a boy before her friends, thats not how friendships should be.
Really sorry I cant help more but just try to be patient with her, Im sure she will get over him but if she doesnt then theres nothing wrong with abit of tough love xx

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What do I do if I like this boy so much been super good
friends for 3 years now && my mom likes him alot too and I wanna be with him more than anything but he has a baby with another girl even tho they're not together. And my mom doesn't know this eithe but I don't care that he does I like him for who he is and how he make me feel sooo please help me what do I do.!!

I say go for it. Just because he has a child with another girl doesnt mean that you cant have a relationship with him.
Just tell him that you have feelings for him and how would he feel about maybe being more than friends.
If you do become a couple then tell your mum he has a child, Im sure she wont mind as she likes him.

Hope this helps and good luck hun
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hey its me again, but now that you said taking time away from him, i wanna try. but each time i see him on msn or facebook theres an impulse that i need to talk to him. I write status saying how much i miss his kiss and touch, i write alot of stuff like that. I thought it would help. but he seems more freaked out...so maybe for a week not talking to him? He will maybe come back and talk to me..right..?

Yeah I would try that hun, act as though being away from him isnt bothering you. I think that if you act like it isnt bothering you would make him more likely to want to speak to you.
I know how hard it is having the urge to talk to him or send him a message but try to not look at his fb or talk to him on msn.
Keep yourself occupied with other things. Hang out with your friends, do some baking or something that you enjoy to keep your mind off him. It will get easier in time although it might not feel like that right now babe.
If you need anymore help or advice feel free to send me a message, Im here if you need me
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I'm dating a 25 year old man, I'm a 20 year old woman. We are both very similar in many ways, more importantly though, we've both had bad experiences being in real relationships. We're completely exclusive, but neither of us has admitted or even hinted towards boyfriend-girlfriend status, or anything remotely close.

I stay at his house every night. I spend my days off with him. We do all the couple things, dates, dinners, cuddling, sex. Everything. We have every aspect of a real relationship without all the problems I guess. I don't really even know what's going on, or what to think of any of it.

I want to approach the subject of "us" without actually having to bring it up to him, I almost want to find a way to get HIM to unkowingly start the conversation himself. Does anyone have any ideas on how to go about doing that? Or any ideas/input/insight on this "relationship"? I'm at a loss for what to do anymore.

Maybe introduce him to your friends or ask to meet his friends and he may introduce you to them as his girlfriend.
If your parents know about him just say "my mum and dad asked if we were boyfriend and girlfriend and I didnt know what to say...are we?"

I think you are, if you do all the things that couples then it seems that way. Maybe hes just scared to bring it up or ask you properly.

I hope this helps x

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heres the deal, its been like 2 years i like this guy, but he always told me he didnt like me , it was very clear, so i turned for another guy who liked me before, and now dosent ,but i do..the thing is, he knows i love him, its not a young childish thing. So we became ''fuckfriends'' so i could get close to him , thinking it could help me, we did things that couples did, he used to hold my hand when i was sad, always be there when i wasnt feeling right, always cheering me up, saying he cared, saying i was beautiful, anyways the perfect thing...then when i told him i loved him more and more, he told me we couldnt do stuff no more, it hurted me so bad, more the fact that i think he dosnet really wanna see me no more. Hes the kind of guy who just wants sex, but still..i told him we were like a couple and he said no, and when i said why he cared so much, he said well were friends...but it dosent make sense..how can u be so close to a person, without loving him...(her, me) i try to go to other guys , i try to go back to the other one, i try to date, or do ''stuff' i just cant..i just have him in my head..i cant do nothing. and i already had eating disorders and stress problems, and i feel like there coming back cause im loosing him, he used to help me alot, anyways im going on and on..the story cant stop:P, i dont know what to do no more, moving on? tried...keeping my feelings to myself , tried, being a bitch to him so he could get it, tried...i tried everything! someone do somethoing;...!!:( im not dumb and young , 17 and being a girl...is really important...(it said to put our gender!:)

To be honest with you hun it seems like he wanted sex and nothing more. Maybe what he saw as being friendly (cheering you up and holding you hand) you saw as something else. Guys do that sometimes, they show all the signs of liking you and when you ask them they say they just want to be friends or whatever.
I know how hard it is hun, I was stuck on this guy for years and I never thought I would get over him but I finally thought "fuck him".
He isnt good enough for you if he can treat you like this, because to me he wanted a "relationship/friendship" with you because of sex.
If it helps then ask him to be friends still but I dont know if that will help at all, maybe you just need some time away from him.
Surround your friends with family and friends, when you finally stop looking for love thats when it finds you. You will find a guy that is worthy of you love and loves you so much. Believe me hun.

I hope this helps.

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okayyy. well this is a kind of long story but here goes. so theres this park in my town, a really big one with trails and lots of playgrounds scattered around with scattered fields and parking lots. So my boyfriend and I were driving back there one night and we parked pretty far in and starting making out... well it starts gettin a little heavy sooo we move to the back of his car and put down the seats. A car pulls up next to us but we dont hear or notice. Not until I look up and see three guys looking in the car window! My bf flies outta the car, super pissed. And I recognize one of the guys and notice that they go to a school near by and one of them (we'll call him brett) and i used to have a "thing". Well my bf wants to beat their asses but they just drove there to get high. My boyfriend already didn't like this guy, partly because we had history and partly becaue they got a little heated in a baseball game last season (our schools arre rival schools). But, I calmed him down and we left. well brett texts me the next day saying "hey baby, f*ck your boyfriend and come hang with me instead. ill give it to you like he cant ;)." and im pretty happy with my boyfriend, thank you. Well my boyfriend saw the text and got SUUUPER pissed. more pissed than he was the night before. Now he wants to fight this kid... I don't know what to do!! I've been trying for like three days to ask him not to but they have this summer ball scrimage agasinst brett's team and my bf plans on finding him after to "settle things". It's just a pick up game, so it has nothing to do with school so I don't think he can get into any trouble involving school but still! Even if he could, he'd still do it. And its so stupid! He can't do this and I can't talk him out of it! Please help!!! (I'm a fifteen year old girl and my boyfriend is seventeen)

Boys can be stubborn and once they get something into their head they usually see it through. Just tell your boyfriend that you really dont want him to do it, it will cause alot more problems and he can get into alot of trouble for it. Imagine if Brett called the police or something.
Just tell your boyfriend to leave it, tell him that you love him and in no way would you go back to Brett. If he loved you and you told him not to do it then he shouldnt do it, for your sake aswell as his own.
I hope this helps hun x

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I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months and last time we talked I cahnged it to a break because I still love him. I can't stop thinking about him and he won't answer or return my phone calls. He does work a lot...its a VERY crazy schedule. I made him a little slideshow of pictures of us...not sure if I'm going to send it to him. I was thinking of sending it to him.
What can I do? I want to talk to him and I miss him like crazy. HELP PLEASE!! :(

Id send him the slideshow but maybe you could go to his house and see him? or send him a letter to his house and tell him that you are sorry and that you love him and miss him

Hope this helps
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so i have a long distance relationship with this amazing guy. we have been talking everyday for 6 months!! EVERYDAY!!!we love eachother soo much, and we beleive we are gonna be together for ever, and i agree, i see no reason for us to break up. well i live in canada, and he lives in the USA. we both have webcams and use them everyday to talk to eachother while on msn. WE have done everything imaginable to like spice things up and make things less boring. WEve talked about like getting dressed up and eating at the sametime on cam like we are having a fancy dinner together and we have done a sleepover on cams, everything. iv typed on google tons of questions to ask your bf, iv went to every site. but i know all the answers to them and i dont want things to get boring. What are somethings we can do, or talk about on cam that will be interesting and FUN!!. It seems we talk about the samethings all the time, and do the samethings all the time. Thank you guys so much, i really apreciate this!! Thanks!

Why not get some of your friends around or him get his friends around and introduce them on webcam. Also maybe you could both get microphones and talk to each other over them / be silly and sing to each other lol.
Maybe you could send letters to each other or little gifts/pictures of yourslves.

Hope this helps x

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i met this guy a few days ago. we kind of met through a group of friends on a friday night & we where both a bit drunk xD .. soo we started talking and got along really well. eventually he started telling me that he loved me and stuff like that. of course i knew that he only said it cause he was drunk. well we kind of made out a lot after that and he kept telling me that he has feelings for me and that i'm the second girl he ever had feelings for. he was being quite emotional as well like everytime i left to pee i had to promise him that i'll come back and stuff. and he told me over and over that he has feelings for me. the thing is that i kept telling him that i have feelings for someone else which i had back then. he didnt mind too muchthen. but after a while he got sober (i was still a bit drunk) and i was still talking about the guy i liked back then quite a lot. and he kept telling me that he had feelings for me and because he was sober i believed him that time. and he was quiet convincing as well. so he brought me home cause he was scared that i wouldnt make it or something and i remember him always saying ( I'm not (name of guy i fancied) when i hugged him or kissed him. and he kept asking me if im only making fun of him or using him.
then he promised me that he'd phone me the next day and that we'd meet up and stay friends.
the thing is that he never did. and he never told anyone why either. not even his best friend who is also good friends with me. (but the thing that really really confused me is that he texted me asking me if i got home alright cause he couldnt bring me all the way since he would've caught his bus) but after that he never replied or phoned or anything (even though he promised he'd phone me at exactly 1pm)
and i dont really get it. i wrote himn on myspace but he never replied to that either. im pretty sure that he didnt use me because we didnt do anything but kiss. and i dont think that he thinks that i fancy him either cause i kept telling him i fancy someone else so i dont think he's scared of giving me false hope or smth :S
so what do you think is his problem?? cause he was deffinetely not a player. my friend knows him quite well and she also told me that she noticed that he's thinking about it quite alot. but he just wouldnt tell her anything.
i dont get it :S

Maybe its because you said you fancy somebody else that he thinks he hasnt got a chance with you? Ring him and ask him to meet up or text him and say that you really like him and was just wondering why he never got in touch with you

Hope you sort things out
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So, a few months ago, I had my first "sort-of" boyfriend. It was really difficult for me to try to be a "girlfriend" because it was really new to me and I felt like I had expectations from me that I thought I couldn't handle. Our relationship didn't last long, unfortunately. Although, I miss him terribly and I don't even think we were that close. Here's how it happened. So, out of nowhere he comes, and he started liking me. I did think he was cute though. He added me on facebook, and we started to talk. Btw, he was my friend's cousin so at least we had a connection there, not some random dude. I was surprised that he did like me because to be honest, he's one of the first guys to seriously like me for me. Although, at the time, I felt like he didn't really "know" me because we weren't friends before. I always pictured mny first boyfriend to be my really good friend before we started dating. I mean, I don't think girls and guys can be just friends but I wanted to get to know him more. One day, he told me he liked me, and I liked him too and I told him, of course. The next time we met, on Valentines Day, he proceeded to ask me out. I felt nervous about saying yes because I was scared about what he would expect from me in the future. And, it was my first real relationship anyway. The thing is, my parents are strict so it's hard for me to meet with friends, especially guys. So of course, my parents didn't know. The next day, I told him that I think having the title as his girlfriend is a little too much for me, and I don't think he liked that. After, he told me he agreed with me, but I think he did that just to make me happy. Apparently, I broke his heart when I told him. I don't know why. We met once after that and that was it. A few weeks later, he told me he couldn't do it anymore and that we were drifting apart. One day, I found out that he went to the movies with his cousin's friend and they kissed. Apparently, from what I heard, "it just happened." But, they proceeded to make out on other days. He doesn't know that I know. She ended the relationship with him suddenly one day and idk what happened with them. But, now, my feelings are coming back for him and I want to talk to him. By the way, since he told me it was over, we haven't talked since. I want to talk to him again, maybe just as a friend but I'm scared that he wouldn't care. Basically, a fear of rejection. What should I do?

Try and talk to him hun and tell him that you miss talking to him and would still like to be friends, take it from there. I mean if you become friends again and start talking more often you could suggest meeting up one day maybe even just to go shopping or for a bite to eat with some friends or his cousin. Things might develop again but dont be scared of rejection. The worst thing he can do is say he doesnt want to be friends and then you can move on babe. I know its hard but just ask him if you can still be friends
Hope this helps x

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So theres this guy i really like and i told him i liked him we kinda had a thing and then we went to the movies he and his friend were really hot and he knew i liked him i think he kinda liked me to but i was only talking to his friend cause i was shy to talk to him and it was akward, so i was talking to the other guy the whole time and didnt talk to him i came back on msn and he wasnt acting the same it was like he was mad at me or something. Does he hate me? Should i talk to him? Should i say sorry? What Should i do?

He might be a bit upset that you was speaking to his friend the whole time. Just go on msn and tell him that you are sorry and the reason you was talking to his friend more, because you was shy to talk to him. Im sure he will understand
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I asked a question on here and my girlfriend saw it. She was upset about the question I wrote regarding a friend in first person. I just sent her proof that it really was my friend's first words. I just asked on advicenators because I wanted to give the friend great advice but I wasn't very knowledgeable on the subject. I did give her advice though without waiting for an answer from here. I researched on the internet for great advice. Now my girlfriend wants nothing to do with me. I thought she was referring to the question I wrote about her not being able to compromise, and me not being able to have friends while in a relationship with her and all those factors were affecting my health: physically and mentally. I said on here that I couldn't break up with her. I thought it was because I didn't have the strength but I think the thing is that I'm afraid of my future with her. Will it still be no compromise situations. I always letting her be and she always getting upset when I talk to friends. It's suffocating but I don't want to let her go. I really love her and I realize I think the thing keeping me from letting her go is that I really do want to be with her forever despite the problems we have. I don't know what to. I don't want to lose her; she's what I want.

Tell her that you dont want to lose her because you love her but that you also need to spend time with your friends too and have some "me" time. Compromise with her too say that you, her and your friends could all hang out together sometimes if she wants to. Also make her feel special, maybe she just thinks that you dont want to spend time with her so much.
Im a girl and I know that sometimes we can be clingy with guys because we just care and want to be with you all the time but you also need to make her realise that you also need your friends too because your friends mean alot. Maybe if she is hanging out with her friends you can take the opportunity to spend time with your mates or visa versa.

Hope this helps and you sort things out
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I was recently on a date with my boyfriend. But it was a total disaster. After the date, i ended up feeling sad and like $h!+. He so made it seem like he didnt want to be there with me. He never really acted like this before. All the other dates he was so nice to me and would buy me flowers, etc. But even from the night before, his way of talking seemed like he wasnt intrested in me. Usually he would say things like he cant wait to see me tomorrow and what kind of places do I think we should go, he didnt really say anything of that type. I even said to him i said if you dont want to meet tomorrow we dont have to, maybe another day would be better for the both of us. But he said no i wanna see you i miss you etc. But he sounded kinda sarcastic.
So anyway this date he called me around 1:45 saying that there was traffic and he would be 15-20 mins late, and that turned out to be near an hour. We were supposed to meet at 1:30 but he showed up at exactly 2:30. I didnt like that but I let it slide. So i went in the car and i saw this time he didnt bring me any flowers or anything. But i let that slide too. I didnt care so much but of course it would have been nice. So i'm thinking we would go to the amusement park he mentioned a couple days ago and have a good time, but instead he wanted to go near the water. We didnt really do anything, he didnt talk much to me and i gotta admit i didnt feel like talking back. We just sat on a bench, then he started kissing me in public and there were people passing by. I wasnt too comfortable or thrilled about that. And felt like he did that cuz there was nothing else better to do.
Then he said lets go in the car so we sat there looking at the water a bit etc. Oh my gosh his phone probably rang like 30 times that whole time, he didnt pick any of them up but still. The other times he would put his phone on vibrate and it might have vibrated 1 or 2 times. And while we were near the benches it rang a lot also. That time he told me hold on let me get a water from the car, but i knew he went to go make a phone call he took pretty long too. In the car he left also, he said hold on i'll be right back. And i was looking around trying to see where he went and sure enough he was on the phone. He was kind of far away too i guess coz he didnt want me to hear. Whoever he was talking to...
So he comes back in and says they keep calling me from the diner about the repairs being made. (He owns a diner). So we stayed another 10-15 minutes and after that, he said he should get going and bought me back home. He dropped me off and he's usually like wait one more kiss, this times we just locked lips a couple of times and i left. I didnt even cross the street yet and he started driving away. He seems cold on the date like he didnt wanna be there, of course i picked that up and automatically i showed the same reactions as him even if i didnt want to.
At home we talked on the internet also, and even then he was still cold. He usually says that he had a great time and he loves spending time with me but this time he didnt mention anything about today. He actually said i better get home my fish probably miss me. what like his fish are more important than me. is he trying to say i didnt miss him. is he trying to say i aint even as good as his fish. i dont know whats wrong with him. why did he act so hostile toward me i didnt even do anything. oh also i said im so happy today because i got to see you and spend time with you. and he said something like thats not fair i cant send any smilies from here coz im using a different computer. wtf? I been feeling sad lately.
What should i do. I feel like that flare between us is getting lesser as the days go by for some reason. Also before he used to text me and write me little poems all the time, now he doesnt as much. I still love him but i dont know why hes acting like he doesnt enjoy being with me or somthing. Maybe im wrong but thats the feeling im getting. I am so sorry i wrote so much i know, but thats what happened. Thank you so much in advance for any advice you can give.

Hey! Boys can be like that sometimes. Believe me my boyfriend can be like this too.
Tell him how you feel just say that you feel like on your date that he didnt enjoy being with you or didnt want to be there. He might just be stressed out at work or something or be having a bad couple of days.
Just talk to him and make him realise how you feel. Im sure he wasnt meant to make you feel that way but boys can be stupid sometimes.
Hope you sort things out, if you need to talk drop me a message
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I recently caught a STD called TRICKS and I never thought anything like this would ever happened to me, I mean I'm careful and I thought I was but now I scared because what if I got HIV and I want to know how long it takes to show up in your system. I mean I did take and HIV test when I took the other blood work. I know that TRICKS is not as bad as other std, but it scared me to death just know how stupid I was, and how bad my judgement was. LADIES CONDOMS ARE ESSTENTIAL WEAR THEM ALWAYS NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ive read on one website that it takes 6-8 weeks after transmission to show up in a blood test. Others say 6 months. I would go to see a doctor though if I was you, they will talk you through everything and also send you for a blood test.
Try not to worry too much because you will just make yourself feel bad and you will make yourself feel ill. Go and see your doctor and Im sure having a test will put your mind at rest
Take Care
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Im 16/f/sophomore, and i go to a public school. I've dated a few guys. One i dated for almost 2 years and that ended in heart break, and 2 guys that didnt really act like we were going out.

im in 4-H, and there, i met a guy who is home schooled. He is 2 years older than me (a senior), never had a girlfriend, and i dont get to see him much except for 4-H. We do talk on facebook though.

I really like him, and i am really nervous. i dont know if i should ask him out, or wait to see if he asks me out, and if i ask him out, what if i get rejected?

Also, just a random thing in this, he is a foot and a half taller than me. hahah

Please help me! i really dont know what to! dont just tell me to get courage and ask him, please give me some hints of how to get the courage, and some ideas of what to say.

Thank you so much! Sorry this was kind of a long question.

You know what, Id leave it for a while. Get to know him more, talk to him more on facebook and maybe he will ask you out. If not then just ask a few of your friends, maybe your friends if they have boyfriends if they want to hang out or go to the cinema and invite him. The more you talk to him on facebook and hang out the better and something else may develop.
I hope this helps
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k so today i was with my bf and he was saying all these nice things about me.like he was like "oh you look extra beautiful today i just dont know what it is"...then after he said all those nice things he goes "but you really do need to loose some weight,im sure you like to eat alot,your like my little sister she loves food" i was like ok WTF.he know that i go for jogs almost everyday.i told him that i go for jogs everyday and hes like yeah but thats not enough,you should join a gym and eat less.i was speechless.
ok let me describe my body size to you.i have a large frame,im smaller from the top(size12) and bigger from the bottom (size 14)...im curvy.is this fat?do i need to loose weight?i was so hurt that i teared up.he kept apologising and didnt even understand what he did wrong.he said that where hes from its not a big deal to tell a girl to loose weight and that hes sorry etc etc.
i just dont know how to get over what he said.i know he sat there for 2hours trying to explain himself...i almost broke up with him because of this but he was determined to make everything ok.
do you think he thinks im fat because he said i need to loose weight?oh i dunno,how do i get over this???

My boyfriend has said I was fat and greedy and Im still with him because I know its true although it does hurt.
But seriously size 12 and 14 isnt fat! Im 16-18 and I do think this is fat. I have a very big tummy, bum and thighs.
It was inconsiderate of him to say it and he should think before he speaks. If you are happy with the way you look then dont bother losing weight because of a stupid comment he made. If you jog each day at least your doing exercise!
He should love you exactly how you are, and dont change for anyone hun
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Someone extremely close to me recently developed very, very strong feelings for someone. Now it seems apparent that nothing is going to happen between them. Now she is constantly, and I mean CONSTANTLY depressed (I live with her, so I know), just lying around and not wanting to talk with anyone. It's been going on for several weeks now, and I just do not know what to do anymore...I've tried telling her it's going to be okay and not to worry because this isn't the end of the road for her romantically, but nothing seems to help. I feel like I need to do something, but I just don't know what to do or say anymore...I can't bear seeing her like this anymore. Thoughts, anyone?

Id just make sure that she knows you are there for her, try and talk to her about it but if she wont open up then just let her know that your there for her when and if she wants to talk.
Try and have a girly day with her. Go shopping, paint each others nails, do each others make up, face masks, watch a movie. Just both have a pamper day to try and make her forget about this guy. She needs her girls around her right now.
I hope this helps
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At the moment my boyfriend is locked up and i am 7 1/2 months pregnant. Like 2 weeks ago my best friend kissed me and i didnt stop him . We chill like everyday now. I really to love my boyfriend but im starting to get feeling 4 my best friend. At the moment i dont know what to do. I dont know what to say or think. Can u please at least help me with this?

You should talk to your friend and ask him how he feels. Im guessing he has feelings for you if he kissed you. You need to talk with him about it. Maybe your scared because your boyfriend isnt around to help you during the pregnancy, your hormones will be all over the place at the moment so dont rush into anything and make any big decisions without thinking about things first.
I hope you work things out and I hope this helps. Good luck with the pregnancy x

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I went out with this guy a while ago, and we went out for about 6 months, which was my first real "relationship". I'd dated a lot of guys, but he was special. I broke up with him because...I guess at the time I was just tired of his over-protectiveness. Now I see he just loved me. The thing is, I thought that by breaking up with him, I'd get a new start. Dating new people, since I hadn't dated in a while. I was really excited. I guess I just THOUGHT I got over him at the time. Currently, we are both going out with someone. Unfortunately, after the break up, he suddenly decided he hated me because I moved on so quickly. I want him back. A lot. I know it will be nearly impossible to get him back, but I'm willing to do anything. Next year, both of the people we're currently dating are going to a different school. We've been broken up and he's hated me for about 5 months. We haven't talked at all, I tried to email an appoligy to him, but he wouldn't reply. I know he hates me, but I would do anything to get him back. I really think I actually love him. I just don't know how to do any od this. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend, but I've been thinking more and more about my ex. I had a thought that I could wait until the end of the year and next year, start all over. We could start taling again, and see where it goes. But I'm not sure if I can wait that long. And I don't know if he'll attempt a long distance relationship with his girlfriend. I just need help. No specific question, just advice on what I should do. It kills me when he glares at me. I don't know how to deal. Thanks.

If you see him then try and get talking to him again, alot of things could of changed in 5 months of not speaking, so the first thing to do is to try and get talking again.
Tell him how you feel and that you still have feelings for him and ask if he has feelings for you.
If you know his number then ring him or text him.

I dont really know what else to suggest but to try and get talking to him again. Try emailing him again saying how much you miss him and ask him to reply.

Good luck with everything hun.

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