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bf said i needed to loose weight
k so today i was with my bf and he was saying all these nice things about me.like he was like "oh you look extra beautiful today i just dont know what it is"...then after he said all those nice things he goes "but you really do need to loose some weight,im sure you like to eat alot,your like my little sister she loves food" i was like ok WTF.he know that i go for jogs almost everyday.i told him that i go for jogs everyday and hes like yeah but thats not enough,you should join a gym and eat less.i was speechless.
ok let me describe my body size to you.i have a large frame,im smaller from the top(size12) and bigger from the bottom (size 14)...im curvy.is this fat?do i need to loose weight?i was so hurt that i teared up.he kept apologising and didnt even understand what he did wrong.he said that where hes from its not a big deal to tell a girl to loose weight and that hes sorry etc etc.
i just dont know how to get over what he said.i know he sat there for 2hours trying to explain himself...i almost broke up with him because of this but he was determined to make everything ok.
do you think he thinks im fat because he said i need to loose weight?oh i dunno,how do i get over this???
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If you are happy with the way you are don't change yourself no matter who said that you were fat. Curves is what makes us woman beautiful not 100 pounds and a straight stick that's not sexy! I'm a woman with curves and if no man likes that too bad.. I know who and what I am and that's all that matters. Tell him you don't listen to the media and go on diets to lose 15 pounds in one week.. It's your growth and it's nothing you can change. And there's nothing wrong with having a booty lol that adds shape to the jeans us woman wear right? Keep jogging it's good excerise and it's what you feel comfortable doing. I don't think he was thinking about your feelings when he said that do you. Tell him where you come from it's not a great thing to tell a woman that she is fat and has to lose weight it hurts it's like finding out that you were cheated on.. in a way.. Ask him how he would like it if a girl was asking him questions about this thing lol.. Wouldn't feel so good eh? Same thing. I am sure you are a beautiful girl and don't change. If you accept yourself who cares what other people thinks right? :) Chin up! There's so many people out there that probably wishes to be like you.. Let me know if I helped I just don't like seeing people upset over harsh words like that..
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I understand you are upset, thats a very harsh thing to suggest to someobody. I think that you should sit down and talk with him about it, ask him how he would feel if he were in your shoes, or if you said that to him. He needs to understand where you are coming from, and recognize the fact that he should like you for the person you are, no matter how skinny or how fat you are. Then ask him to look around, how many skeletons does he see walking around? Because you are obviously human.
Try not to let it effect you too much, sometimes people can say things without thinking, just try to talk it over with him first. :-) Good luck!!!!
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My boyfriend has said I was fat and greedy and Im still with him because I know its true although it does hurt.
But seriously size 12 and 14 isnt fat! Im 16-18 and I do think this is fat. I have a very big tummy, bum and thighs.
It was inconsiderate of him to say it and he should think before he speaks. If you are happy with the way you look then dont bother losing weight because of a stupid comment he made. If you jog each day at least your doing exercise!
He should love you exactly how you are, and dont change for anyone hun
xox
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Regardless of whether or not you need to lose weight, it was unkind and inconsiderate of your boyfriend to tell you to. However, it does sound like he is genuinely sorry.
Some people are naturally curvier than others and there's nothing wrong with that. I'd suggest you check your BMI (body mass index): [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). If it's within the healthy range then you shouldn't worry. If it is slightly over, then continuing with your daily jogs and ensuring you have a balanced diet is the healthiest way to lose weight. Having said that, if YOU are comfortable with your body then don't listen to what your boyfriend says. You should lose weight because YOU want to, not because someone who isn't a medical professional tells you to.
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