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Stuck in a triangle
At the moment my boyfriend is locked up and i am 7 1/2 months pregnant. Like 2 weeks ago my best friend kissed me and i didnt stop him . We chill like everyday now. I really to love my boyfriend but im starting to get feeling 4 my best friend. At the moment i dont know what to do. I dont know what to say or think. Can u please at least help me with this?
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Does your boyfriend love you? if not then u should probably drop him and star going with your best friend. you seem to no more about him than you know about you boyfriend. plus he is there for you instead of your boyfriend. Maybe you should c what you boyfriend has in store for you or if he really loves you.
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You need to take some time away from guys for a while.
You are having a baby. You didn't mention whether you are keeping it or not but for the rest of this response we will assume you are.
You are a teenager and unmarried. You chose to have sex with someone who is okay doing some undisclosed act that is against the law and now while he is incarcerated you have another male moving in on you.
You need to concentrate on your baby. I realize this is on the computer and you cannot hear my tone of voice. I am trying to be sympathetic, by the way, I am not being sarcastic or fussing. But the reality is that you are no longer allowed to be a selfish teenager. You are now a woman carrying an innocent child who deserves the absolute best that life can offer. This little baby does not deserve to be born into a world where mommy has different men coming in and out of his/her life every few months. Children deserve safety and consistency. You can give this to your baby. I know nothing of how you grew up or what your experiences were but if you did not have safety or comfort as a child, offer it to your baby. You will find that the more you work toward providing the BEST for this child, the better your own life becomes.
Boys really need to take a back seat at this point in your life. For your own safety and well being as well as your child's.
Hopefully you are in a position to have a comfortable home where the baby gets to come home. Hopefully you are approaching the end of your senior year of high school so can finish and graduate. Hopefully you are planning to go to college, even if it is community college to get some sort of degree or certificate where you can make a decent enough living to provide for your family. If your boyfriend is in jail right now, he has a higher likelyhood of being there again. You need to HOPE for the best that when he gets out he will be straight and help you financially but do not expect or count on this.
Please, get to know who YOU are and what YOU want out of life. Are you completely satisfied with who and what you are right now? Do you want more for yourself? Think about this sweet little baby you are going to be having in a few months. This child should have a clean, warm place to live without worrying about moving around every few weeks or months, being in danger, etc. And belive me, your child will know what sort of lifestyle it has before its first birthday, even if he/she doesn't fully understand it or be able to talk about it. As a child, it is a terrible feeling to know you can't trust the people around you you are supposed to be able to run to when you are scared.
YOU are the mom. YOU can make a difference in your own life. You don't need and probably shouldn't have a new guy in your life right now. You have two people to worry about and one of those is completely helpless.
Don't push all of your friends away, you may need them for emotional support but don't bring other issues into the picture until you have yourself figured out.
Best of luck.
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You should talk to your friend and ask him how he feels. Im guessing he has feelings for you if he kissed you. You need to talk with him about it. Maybe your scared because your boyfriend isnt around to help you during the pregnancy, your hormones will be all over the place at the moment so dont rush into anything and make any big decisions without thinking about things first.
I hope you work things out and I hope this helps. Good luck with the pregnancy x
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