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Boyfriend troubles
I was recently on a date with my boyfriend. But it was a total disaster. After the date, i ended up feeling sad and like $h!+. He so made it seem like he didnt want to be there with me. He never really acted like this before. All the other dates he was so nice to me and would buy me flowers, etc. But even from the night before, his way of talking seemed like he wasnt intrested in me. Usually he would say things like he cant wait to see me tomorrow and what kind of places do I think we should go, he didnt really say anything of that type. I even said to him i said if you dont want to meet tomorrow we dont have to, maybe another day would be better for the both of us. But he said no i wanna see you i miss you etc. But he sounded kinda sarcastic.
So anyway this date he called me around 1:45 saying that there was traffic and he would be 15-20 mins late, and that turned out to be near an hour. We were supposed to meet at 1:30 but he showed up at exactly 2:30. I didnt like that but I let it slide. So i went in the car and i saw this time he didnt bring me any flowers or anything. But i let that slide too. I didnt care so much but of course it would have been nice. So i'm thinking we would go to the amusement park he mentioned a couple days ago and have a good time, but instead he wanted to go near the water. We didnt really do anything, he didnt talk much to me and i gotta admit i didnt feel like talking back. We just sat on a bench, then he started kissing me in public and there were people passing by. I wasnt too comfortable or thrilled about that. And felt like he did that cuz there was nothing else better to do.
Then he said lets go in the car so we sat there looking at the water a bit etc. Oh my gosh his phone probably rang like 30 times that whole time, he didnt pick any of them up but still. The other times he would put his phone on vibrate and it might have vibrated 1 or 2 times. And while we were near the benches it rang a lot also. That time he told me hold on let me get a water from the car, but i knew he went to go make a phone call he took pretty long too. In the car he left also, he said hold on i'll be right back. And i was looking around trying to see where he went and sure enough he was on the phone. He was kind of far away too i guess coz he didnt want me to hear. Whoever he was talking to...
So he comes back in and says they keep calling me from the diner about the repairs being made. (He owns a diner). So we stayed another 10-15 minutes and after that, he said he should get going and bought me back home. He dropped me off and he's usually like wait one more kiss, this times we just locked lips a couple of times and i left. I didnt even cross the street yet and he started driving away. He seems cold on the date like he didnt wanna be there, of course i picked that up and automatically i showed the same reactions as him even if i didnt want to.
At home we talked on the internet also, and even then he was still cold. He usually says that he had a great time and he loves spending time with me but this time he didnt mention anything about today. He actually said i better get home my fish probably miss me. what like his fish are more important than me. is he trying to say i didnt miss him. is he trying to say i aint even as good as his fish. i dont know whats wrong with him. why did he act so hostile toward me i didnt even do anything. oh also i said im so happy today because i got to see you and spend time with you. and he said something like thats not fair i cant send any smilies from here coz im using a different computer. wtf? I been feeling sad lately.
What should i do. I feel like that flare between us is getting lesser as the days go by for some reason. Also before he used to text me and write me little poems all the time, now he doesnt as much. I still love him but i dont know why hes acting like he doesnt enjoy being with me or somthing. Maybe im wrong but thats the feeling im getting. I am so sorry i wrote so much i know, but thats what happened. Thank you so much in advance for any advice you can give.
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Oh for Christ's Sake talk to the poor boy.
You are not solving the problem by pretending to be cheerful and all happy and about it instead of honestly asking him how he is doing and what has changed.
Could he be cheating or no longer interested in you? Sure, those things are possible, but it sounds more like he was massively stressed out, sullen, and distracted. Of course you'll never know unless you say "Dude, you didn't seem like yourself. What's up?"
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Hey! Boys can be like that sometimes. Believe me my boyfriend can be like this too.
Tell him how you feel just say that you feel like on your date that he didnt enjoy being with you or didnt want to be there. He might just be stressed out at work or something or be having a bad couple of days.
Just talk to him and make him realise how you feel. Im sure he wasnt meant to make you feel that way but boys can be stupid sometimes.
Hope you sort things out, if you need to talk drop me a message
xox
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"He was an hour late, He didn't seem interested and his phone rang off the hook"
These are all possible signs of cheating, From what you've describe it sounds like he is loosing/lost interest but doesn't have the balls to say it too your face so instead he is going around it. If I were in your shoes, I'd be suspicious.
Not only are his actions extremely sketchy, but I would bluntly ask him if he is seeing someone else and study his reactions. If he continues to treat you like this, Obviously something is up. NO guy's phone rings off the hook like that unless he has extremely annoying friends or he is hiding something from you. Only you know the answer, You know your boyfriend...but don't assume that it isn't possible. Look at all the clues I just pointed out too you....
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