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I feel stuck in the past.
So, a few months ago, I had my first "sort-of" boyfriend. It was really difficult for me to try to be a "girlfriend" because it was really new to me and I felt like I had expectations from me that I thought I couldn't handle. Our relationship didn't last long, unfortunately. Although, I miss him terribly and I don't even think we were that close. Here's how it happened. So, out of nowhere he comes, and he started liking me. I did think he was cute though. He added me on facebook, and we started to talk. Btw, he was my friend's cousin so at least we had a connection there, not some random dude. I was surprised that he did like me because to be honest, he's one of the first guys to seriously like me for me. Although, at the time, I felt like he didn't really "know" me because we weren't friends before. I always pictured mny first boyfriend to be my really good friend before we started dating. I mean, I don't think girls and guys can be just friends but I wanted to get to know him more. One day, he told me he liked me, and I liked him too and I told him, of course. The next time we met, on Valentines Day, he proceeded to ask me out. I felt nervous about saying yes because I was scared about what he would expect from me in the future. And, it was my first real relationship anyway. The thing is, my parents are strict so it's hard for me to meet with friends, especially guys. So of course, my parents didn't know. The next day, I told him that I think having the title as his girlfriend is a little too much for me, and I don't think he liked that. After, he told me he agreed with me, but I think he did that just to make me happy. Apparently, I broke his heart when I told him. I don't know why. We met once after that and that was it. A few weeks later, he told me he couldn't do it anymore and that we were drifting apart. One day, I found out that he went to the movies with his cousin's friend and they kissed. Apparently, from what I heard, "it just happened." But, they proceeded to make out on other days. He doesn't know that I know. She ended the relationship with him suddenly one day and idk what happened with them. But, now, my feelings are coming back for him and I want to talk to him. By the way, since he told me it was over, we haven't talked since. I want to talk to him again, maybe just as a friend but I'm scared that he wouldn't care. Basically, a fear of rejection. What should I do?
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Try and talk to him hun and tell him that you miss talking to him and would still like to be friends, take it from there. I mean if you become friends again and start talking more often you could suggest meeting up one day maybe even just to go shopping or for a bite to eat with some friends or his cousin. Things might develop again but dont be scared of rejection. The worst thing he can do is say he doesnt want to be friends and then you can move on babe. I know its hard but just ask him if you can still be friends
Hope this helps x
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look i know its hard, cause i have had the same happen to me after 2 months of dating this kid. yeah lets just call him bob for now. anyways i fell in love with him fast and hard but he loved someone else. yet at this time i diddnt know it. he hung with her one day and he cheated on me. but the point is i am still good friends with him after about a year of letting my feelings go for him. hes my close friend, so what i say to do is to give your self time and let your feelings for him go. then talk to him. its best to wait for them to be gone unless you want to get hurt again.
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