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Q: do girls go for guys with piercings? if they are good looking that is, and do girls get attracted to guys with piercings,like let's say nose rings?and if they do, can you specify which part of the face or body you find most attractive for a piercing on a guy and how much piercings should your ideal guy have?thanks

Less is more in the case of a guy having piercings but it can be attractive, depending on what girls your looking at. I know lots of preppy girls who certainly don't mind a guy with earrings, are fine with a tongue ring, and even some who don't mind a lip or eye brow ring. I don't suggest nose rings for guys, just because they seem more girly. But as long as you don't have all of these piercing covering up your face, you should be fine.

Q: What do most people define as "hooking up"?

Most people think that means just making out, but sometimes it means more. You just have to specify with the person you're talking to.

Q: what does it mean when you're seeing someone? does that mean you're with the person but then you're allowed to date other people?

Honestly, I think that could mean different things to different people. Usually it means that you are in a relationship with the person and you should be keeping it exclusive, but different people use the phrase in different ways, so if you have a question about it for a relationship that you are in, your best bet is to talk to your partner and ask what they mean by it.

Q: Ok, So I am 13 years old and since May 2005, I have found myself madly in love with no other than a 20 year old McDonalds worker. He has started to open up a little more in the past couple of months, and he gives me lots of hugs, flirts, and shows all the "signs" of love back. Yet he has never told me. This week we are supposed to go to the movies. My question is, Should I open up and tell him I love him or should I just wait until he does?

Personally, my advice is to try to find some other fabulous guy who can get your mind off of this one because, though he may be amazing, there are surely guys out there closer to your age who can sweep you off your feet. If you think it's possible for you to stay friends without getting more attached, maybe go for that. Otherwise, maybe you should make a few less trips to McDonald's from now on. :)

Q: A guy asked me to go to the movies with him this Friday and I said yes. Well we were talking and he asked me if I was going to bring anything with me. I was thinking, "Hm...I thought this was a date?" So I told him that I wasn't planning to but I will if he brings someone. So we decided that we both were bringing someone. Then, about 10 min. later he said that he'd really like it if we went alone. So at that point I was just like, "Uh, wtf? Does this guy not know what he wants?"

Well, I've talked to him for at least an hour and half each day since Monday and now I don't think that I really like him. Like, at all. Not even as someone I'd hang out with as friends.

So my question is, do you think it's too late to cancel? Or would it be rude of me to cancel the day before? I was also thinking about saying that I want to bring a friend after all. What do you guys think?

I wouldn't cancel because it is pretty late, but I would call him up and let him know that he needs to bring a friend because you want to bring one too. It can serve as sort of a buffer for the both of you, and if you actually happen to like hanging out with him, you can give it another go alone some other time.

Q: Is it possible to fall in love at 17? I have been with my boyfriend for only 4 months, but there is such an intense energy between us. We talk all the time and are together at every moment possible. we are similar in our core beliefs, but disagree on many topics. Disagreeing has sparked tons of interesting conversations between us. everytime i think about him or someone says his name i smile and get a warm, fuzzy, happy feeling. we trust and respect one another and have good sexual chemistry (we have not however, had sex and will not for quite some time)

I am almost positive that i love him, but ever since i was young people have always told me that you can't fall in love in high school. I want to get some outside oppinions and find out if the things i am feeling are what is generally classified as love.

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I think that love in high school is a rare event but what you're describing sounds like it could be the real thing. It's just when really young kids start saying I love you 3 days after they strat going out when people say love doesn't exist in high school.

Q: i'm a 10th grader who's never had a gf before (pretty pathetic, but whatever). im really bad with asking girls out and whatnot. anyhoo, im really really good friends with this girl, shes a year younger than me, and we both tell each other everything. ive liked her for a little while, maybe a few weeks, but she tells me that she likes a senior in our school. now idk if she actually does like him, or if she's just saying that to cover up that she likes me, but we always hang out, we've never gotten mad at each other, we know everything about neach other, and we never get tired of hanging out (we've actually pissed her friends off once or twice cuz we hang out so much). anyway, what do i do? thanks

I know it seems like a nervewrecking thing to do, but it's best that you tell her. If she is really interested in you, then you can start a great relationship. If she happens to not be interested, it sounds like your friendship is so good that things shouldn't get messed up. I'm sure if you're like most people, having just the friendship is second best and still worth it.

Q: is it true that when girls play hard to get that guys like that girl more ??

Well, it depends on the guy, but I never met a guy who likes a girl chasing after him so whether you act uninterested or indifferent, make it his job to get your attention, not the other way around. It's kind of tough to do when you like a guy, but if he's the one for you, it'll work out soon enough.

Q: 17/f. My boyfriend and I are very close and have a very loving, trusting relationship. We don't argue at all, he's not pushy in any way. Sometimes we joke around with eachother playfully, just saying sarcastic things, like the other day he came over when I was just getting out of the shower and was standing at the bottom of the steps playfully saying things like "Come on" "hurry up" "put some clothes on so I can see you," just jokingly telling me to hurry up. Well my mom picked up on that and didn't understand the joking tone, and now she's somehow thinking that he's being controlling or obsessive. I tried to set her straight, but I'm not sure that she gets it. I know that she's kind of looking out for me, because I've been in a controlling relationship before, but this one is /not/ like that in any way and I want her to understand that. She didn't want me to mention any of our discussion to him because she's afraid that he'll take it the wrong way or think that she hates him, and she doesn't. She's not terribly concerned and she likes him, but I just want a way to let her have no doubt in her mind that he's not controlling. Any suggestions? Thanks.

As long as you are still sure that your mom likes him, I don't think you should worry too much about it. Idon't think you need to mention any of it to him because it might put doubt in his mind, but if you want to sit down and reassure your mother about the relationship, that could be a good idea. Just tell her that you fully trust the relationship and never expect him to be overbearing or demanding, and that she can trust your judgment. Good luck! :)

Q: how can you ask your boyfriend for money without him thinking you are a golddigger?

Well, I would only ask him for money as a last resort. If you really need something and no friends are willing to help you out, then go to him and explain what you need the money for and how you will pay him back. Make sure you really talk it over because money can be a touchy issue in relationships. If you just want the money for something simple that you don't need right now, I'd wait it out until some money comes along and get it yourself.

Q: okay, i dont understand why i feel like this, but it happens in my relationship sometimes. well like sometimes ill feel bad for something i did (or didnt do) even though i probably shouldnt.. so i apologize for it.. then after i say im sorry.. i feel bad again and feel stupid like why did i even apologize for that? and i also feel like apologizing for stuff even when i dont even know if it needs a "im sorry" that its gonna push my boyfriend away.. or cause problems for spilling my heart out or saying sorry. so then sometimes ill tell him "well im sorry for apologizing, i thought i needed to" I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY IM LIKE THIS!! i hope it makes sense, it was hard to explain. and i know that if i said sorry at the time.. then it was obviously how i felt and nothing is wrong with letting your boyfriend know exactly how you feel or what is on your mind, is there? like i dont wanna push my boyfriend away by always being musy & sweet or apologizing.. but that kind of stuff won't push him away will it? i dont know, im confused. oh and no.. my boyfriend has never said anything like he doesnt like it when i say im sorry for stupid stuff or being sweet/mushy or anything.. but maybe hes just not telling me. someone just help me please!

I used to do that a lot but my boyfriend would just tell me that I didn't need to say it. I just made an effort to not say it all the time after that. I know that I don't need to say it all the time but it was just a habit of mine.

I suggest just trying to take more notice of when you'd usually say it and then you can hold back and it won't happen as much. If there's no need to say, then just choose not to say it, so when you actually need to say it, it's more important and not just something you say all the time.

Q: i have this boyfriend, and he's my first, but sometimes it feels like i see him as just a friend. i like him but i dont think i like him enough to be in a committed relationship with him. i really dont know what to do because i'm not happy about this but i also dont want to hurt his feelings

I understand what you're going through...it's happened to me before.

The hard part is if you're great friends with the guy, you don't want to lose him in your life. I suggest thinking about this a little before acting on it. Try to decide how hard he'll take it. If it's still possible to have a friendship after breaking up and he won't be too devastated, go for it and break it off. If you think he might take it a little hard though, try to stick it out a little bit and let him down as lightly as you can, reassuring him of the friendship you want to still have with him.

If you think that someday in the future your friendship with him might blossom into more, just tell him you need some time before commiting yourself to someone (kind of giving him some light at the end on the tunnel).

But hands down, it's about being honest to yourself and trusting your feelings. It might be hard to let down a friend, but it's not worth you suffering a relationship when your heart's not in it.

Q: Ok,so, my best friend and I tell each other everything, so I told her who I have this HUMONGO crush on, and its been a while since then. She suddenly flounced up to me, and said,
"Mia! Jake just asked me out! And you know what? I said yes!"

And she walked off with a 'Ha ha he likes me and not you' smile on her face. So, what am I left with, ya know? What am i supposed to do?

I think that is the rudest thing a 'friend' could do. I personally wouldn't call her a friend any more. I'm surprised that, knowing you liked this guy, she didn't even ask you before saying she'd go out with him.

If you talk to her, explain to her how you don't understand why she acted that way, and if she doesn't have a good explanation for it, I would distance myself from her.

Q: my boyfriend is the type that flirts with girls and when I first started going out with him I was hoping he would stop doing that because he has a girlfriend. But since then..my friend saw him feeding food TO HIS EX GIRLFRIEND!! wow that made me really mad..and I let him know!! but we worked it out and he said that he would never do anything like that agian. But, just a few days ago one of my friends saw anouther girl sitting on his lap!! So I talked to him about it and he said that she was only sitting on his knee and that they wern't even talking. Things keep happening like that and I don't know what I should do about it..or tell him. If you were in this situation what would you do/ tell him? Thanks soo much!!

I would tell him that you'll give him one more chance to stop expressing his friendship with the opposite sex on a physical way (hugs, sitting on laps, feeding food...all of that) or he's gone. Since he's already done it twice, I say three strikes and you're out. If he cares about you enough, he should have no problem with keeping his hands off other girls.

Q: This isnt a real love life kinda question but like ive heard that chewing gum actually makes your breathe stink? is that true?

Umm...in my experience, it usually helps your breath rather than hurts it. Like if my boyfriend pops some Orbit in his mouth after dinner, his breath smells minty fresh and his kisses taste minty fresh too. :) It's much better than having dinner on his breath, I swear.

Q: okay so theres this guy. him and my really good friend were going out but then she dumped him like a month or two ago. ever since then ive had feelings for him. while we were talking online once i asked him who he liked. he didnt want to tell me, because he didnt think she likes him back. im really starting to like him, but i dont know if we could ever go out because of my friend. so what do yall think i should do?

I would talk to your friend about the possibility first and then if she's okay with it, go ahead. Speaking from experience, I know what it's like to have a friend start dating someone you previously dated, and it would be nice to have a little input.

If she agrees, then keep flirting with this guy and see if he might expose some feelings for you, maybe even ask him about it.

Q: right this is so hard to explain here i go well theres this boy called james who when i first saw him i thought yes hes nice and well he asked me out i said no because another boy in school asked me out lets call him Alex. Well i grew to really like alex and alex asked me out and i said no because off james. James took me home the other day and well he tryed to kiss me and he basically tried to force me to kiss him and i really did not like that because i decided i did not want to kiss him but we touched lips not a proper kiss just like a touch. Now i feel kinda bad because i really like alex. Alex is the one i want to kiss but i just can't when he goes to kiss me i kinda back away i think what if i do it wrong will he still like me? ahhh and my friend asked alex for his number and he never gave it to her i was sooo happy... Alex says he loves me all the time and james shows no interest.. What shall i do. But the thing is i like another guy in school who ive never talk to and i kinda told his friend i like his friend and im not sure whats going to happen now. Thank you in advance.x

Well, I say sit down and really try to think about who is right for you. It doesn't help to lead all these boys on if you don't plan on dating them. I suggest making up a Pro/Con list for each of them and see who comes out with the most Pros. Try to be really honest with yourself on the list too so you don't end up with a tie or something. Good luck!!

Q: My friend Sam started going out with Nate at the beginning of the school year. Nate sat at our table at lunch, and some of his friends did too. One of them is Andrew. We all got to know different people because they were going out, and Andrew and I became friends fast. Last Tuesday, I found out that Andrew liked me, but I didn't really think about it. Tonight, he asked me out. I was SOOO surprised. We only say each other for a few minutes after that, so I managed to avoid answering, but I can't avoid him forever. Please HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I like him more as a friend than a boyfriend, but people keep saying to give it a chance. What should I do???

Well, if you think you could grow to like him as more than a friend I say give it a go...it could be fun. But don't toy with his heart if you think that you really are JUST friends. He'll be disappointed that you don't feel the same way as he does, but he'll appreciate the honesty, I promise.

Q: Do you think its wrong to be bisexual?

Of course not...it's just sonething that comes naturally to some people. Just be sure that you're honest with yourself and those around you though, because you don't want any mixed signals or anyone's feelings to get hurt.

Q: I'm wondering, I'm only 14 at the moment, but girls my age seem to go for the bad guys and the biggest jerks. Why is that? I am a gentleman and I am as nice as can be and they always tell me that but why do they go for the jerks?

Well, at this point in life, girls want to have a little fun an be rebellious...eventually they will realize that it's not as much fun as they thought, and they'll come flocking back to you. :)