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i have this boyfriend, and he's my first, but sometimes it feels like i see him as just a friend. i like him but i dont think i like him enough to be in a committed relationship with him. i really dont know what to do because i'm not happy about this but i also dont want to hurt his feelings
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Well let him down gently hunnie its easier to do then said...cause a little heartbreak is better then leading him on..just tell him you thought you liked him but right now wanna get to know him better has a friend rather then a boyfriend...or something lOl sorry if i didnt help xoxox Jennay xoxo
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It's happened with us all kid... its happened with us all. Aint it sad? I know you feel terrible even thinking about breaking up with him but the reality of it is that everyone needs someone who is really CRAZY about them. Obviously, you are not that someone for this guy. I think you should let him go so he can find who that someone is. He may be hurt at first, but it'll be worth it in the end. Besides, you don't want to be tied down to someone you only love as a friend do you? Hehe. ;-)
<3 Jacki
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The best thing to do is to tell him that your relationship feels more like a friendship. Life is too short and you don't want to waste time with someone who you aren't all that in to. He could feel the same way? You wont know until you say something about it.
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Well, if you really don't like him you should break up with him.. i meen there's no sense in leading him on if you don't really like him like that. But also make sure that if you do break up with him you do it nicely and let him know that you still want to be friends
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I understand what you're going through...it's happened to me before.
The hard part is if you're great friends with the guy, you don't want to lose him in your life. I suggest thinking about this a little before acting on it. Try to decide how hard he'll take it. If it's still possible to have a friendship after breaking up and he won't be too devastated, go for it and break it off. If you think he might take it a little hard though, try to stick it out a little bit and let him down as lightly as you can, reassuring him of the friendship you want to still have with him.
If you think that someday in the future your friendship with him might blossom into more, just tell him you need some time before commiting yourself to someone (kind of giving him some light at the end on the tunnel).
But hands down, it's about being honest to yourself and trusting your feelings. It might be hard to let down a friend, but it's not worth you suffering a relationship when your heart's not in it.
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tell him the same thing you just said. tell him you think of him as a friend and not much more. its better to end it now before something crazy happens like he wants to marry you (haha just and example but you know what i mean)
XO KALIE
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You need to decide if you are in the relationship because it's with him, or if you just want to be in a relationship. If you're not happy, it's a pretty good indication that this isn't right for you.If you treat him with respect, then he should in turn respect you for your decisions!
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If it's not working out break up with him. You seem really unhappy. Yes, it may hurt his feelings but you are only hurting him more by leading him on like this.
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