My name is David
People say im old but my body isnt
I read (WoW)
I study medicens, law, news, the human mind, Buddhism, the art of Zen, amoung many religions for a better understandment of people.
I dont belive ive gaven bad advise
But do belive that the given sometimes cannot, will not, should not understand
I belive the truth will save us in the end so why not say it
Im kind hearted, even if you cant see it
I love all the children of mother earth
But doesnt mean ill treat them with illogical actions
I know theres a such thing as what people want to hear, and need to hear, i sometmes say both to make the one in need feel slow and confused =]
I do it only to get them thinking on what is best for them only, and if they choice the bad one, eh
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Exquisitechick
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i wanna make a scrapbook for my boyfriend ive been going out with for over a year.
what are some cute ideas
and cute things to add?
or inexpensive ideas as well?
thankss (link)
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Well, just hope he`s into that kind of thing
I wouldnt make a big deal aboot it to see how he feels, but dont expect too much like him breaking down in tears of happieness
And pic of you, and you and him, some of yalls favorite things to do like music, ticket stubs form the movies or what not, and i wouldnt add pics of just him, but im sure he wouldnt mind ones of just you along with both of yall
And im sure you can go by hallmart or something to get a blank book, and be careful with teh glue for it causes wavy ness =O
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female, 15 - Boyfriend = 18 (Dating for 1 year)...anyways..
I'm going to try and explain my problem the best I can. - When I masturbate, I can always get myself to cum..but when my boyfriend does it, I can't. Even if he's doing it right,..i still can't cum. Every now and then he will cause me a little pain though because I'm a virgin and he's digging his fingers into me too hard. Sometimes I can get really close, but then it just kind of..dies..i don't know how to explain..
Is there something I might be doing wrong? (link)
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Well, It sounds like he might be doing something wourg, If it starts to hurt then he`s doing something wourg! Trie going longer or warm yourself up, idk what the state laws are but oral might help. Maybe your masturbating to much, even once a day can make it harder to get what you want.
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ok so here's the deal me and muh ex have been dating for 5 years on and off and we really love each other but the problem is we are broken up right now and well 2 of muh best friends like him but i know he likes me and wants to be with me but right now he's into football and i don't want to be in the middle of that cuz football season really sucks with him. anyways i want to be with him so bad but i don't know how to tell him. i mean it's never been hard to tell him how i feel but with these other girls it seems really weird. well...ya i love him and i need him back bad but i'm not sure wat to say. and how do i handle muh friends? thanx!!! (link)
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Well, Guys like alot of space, let him have his fun with that "football" and see where you can fit in, I know that sounds bad but as being a guy and having anyone and loved ones trying to get in the way of funtime that would be spent best with onone or friends who like the game and can relate with, Its in his blood, If his dad was big on it and its only natural he would too, you know? But Let him have his fun, Itll cause less problems cuz it`ll irrate the hell out of him but he might not show it. All I know that a good rarely spent time is a big long lasting meal and some tv and some intoxiants, Goodtimes
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I'm kind of stuck. I've been out of a very long relationship with this guy. I miss him a lot. Thing is, I broke up with him because he liked some other chick. It still bothers me that he likes her and yet "likes me" too. He's the only person that really talks to me. So we're really close. He was like a best friend for me but a little more, you know? But now it's just awkward because we sometimes act like a couple..
I keep hurting myself because I find myself.. wanting to be with him again. I doubt it will happen. A part of me doesn't want to try again either. Is there any way to forget him?
I keep talking to him like.. every night. It's just an old habit. I'm thinking of completely.. letting him go. Forget him. Out of my life thing.
But then I'll have no one to talk to because my friends.. aren't that close to me. [I've tried to be close, believe me.. they push me away.]
So going out with friends isn't going to work. Plans don't get that far with them.
I just need something to keep me busy. I don't know. A new hobby? Or.. something. I really need some help. (link)
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Well, I know of the Perfect thing that well help you if you welcome it with a open mind and determination, It is a Philosophy called Buddhism, You`ll lose your Desire to want him, along with other disires, Ive study for over a year and I havnt been mad or sad for the past 7 months. I almost got beat to death and i didnt get mad/sad at all, Im at a point where im a tad annoyed in a funny way that i cant get mad/sad, Its like the dead, But Im always happy so its cool. And you might not understand alot in the book at first(you`ll need a book) but it will slowly come to you, and the more you understand the happyer you stay, Its like raiseing the rockbottom bar, you know how you feel when you hit rockbottom, you can raise that up where that doesnt get you down
Here the First book a read, Its perfect of beggingers
http://www.overstock.com/cgi-bin/d2.cgi?PAGE=PRODUCT&PROD_ID=637796&cid=80205&fp=F
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18/m
Ok, no matter what i'm always the friend or the creep... somehow i'm always one or the other... i mean i give advice on relationships all the time and help other in real life. WHY CAN'T I HELP MYSELF?!?!
Please help me... This is my last hope (link)
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Mann, I feel you 100%! I was that, The 3th weel, The quite guy, Girls were my "friend" but nothing more. And they where half ass friends too. But that all changed. Find a Hobbie everyone likes that you have. I became the herb Guru. At first it was just chillin at my place getting high on lots of legal and sometimes other plants. We shared lots of good times. Then after a month i was one of the guys, And somewhere along the way I learnd how to be a "Player". And the Girls love me. theres only 2 things you need, Knowlage, To talk to the girls. And when had that, I knew how too bring up the fact i knew alot aboot heral Aphrodisiacs and knew how to ask if they wanted to have some fun. 2 A large member. If you dont have that, get a F**k buddie and learn.
Here are some sites they`ll help you out
http://www.azarius.net/index.php
"http://www.erowid.org/psychoactives/psychoactives.shtml", and reseach the plants part.
http://www.eabsinthe.com/absinthe-strongest-alcohol.htm
And theres nothing wourg with using the words plants if you know what your doing, Have fun in your life and with friends, Have what i call "Goodtimes" And I know some really good recipes for food, milkshakes, drinks that`ll all make everone have what i call "goodtimes" So hit me up if you want to know.
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Okay so I like this guy. He likes me too. But then a really good friend of mine likes him too. And he likes her too. Ughh what do I do?
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Well, Talk to your friend. Say yall two have a problem. If one friend should hold back so the other can go, thats a bit unfair. Both should have to, but thats pointless, Talk to her and find some way to see who goes after him. Flip a coin? Then one of you can try getting with him, if that fails then the other can try. Its disrespect for for one friend to have to step down. But if you can find a way to make it =. And one thing i see alot of people is the the meaning of getting with some one, Like if she gets with him, but they broke up...She didnt get with him. She "Got" but to be with someone should be till death, But things mostly dont work out and he should be free game to everyone. A real logical thinking person should see this and wouldnt be so rude to say since we went out you cant go out with him. I`ve seen alot of friendships end this way.
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This weekend, I'm visiting my girlfriend for the weekend. Unfortunately, on Saturday she has been invited to her ex's 21st birthday party. She says that he and his family are still good family friends, although she never hangs out with them or talks to them. So she is going and is dragging me to the party. I have expressed the fact that I feel uncomfortable about this, but she has taken a "Tough Shit" attitude towards my feelings. Is it irrational for me not to want to go and is there any way out of this? Help! (link)
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Well, If you a guy... Then suck it up. Guys dont have feelings as soft as that! She`s a ex! Have you moved on yet?? You should ask yourself that. Look at it this way. If you dont go you`ll hear aboot it longer and then your girlfriend and your ex will "talk" And your girlfriend will be mad as it is. You need to go to keep a look out as it is.
And if you dont like girls like that then its your falt for being with her. If you`d stop being controled by your P***S and think logicly you`ll see what you should do.
If you a girl...
Well, You shouldnt have a problem if you moved on.
You shouldnt look at it like a bad thing. You get to see someone agian that you had feelings for. It`s not a bad thing, well if you didnt move on then it is. And as for your girl friend forcing you is another thing. If she treated you =`s then she wouldnt be doing this. Unless you did something. Or maybe your misunderstanding your relationship. Theres many times. Maybe you have the one where you both take turns enduring each other to make yourselves happie?
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Ok I like a dude but we were talking and he had just broke up with his other gurl friend and all of my friends said that he was on rebond but i didnt want to belive them because i thought he was the best thing that would ever happen to me anyway his friends said that he only wanted me for sex and to make his girl friend want him back !! So today I started crying and i could hardley breathed i dont know how to get him out of my head and i odnt feel like having fun anymore and i dont know anything anymore i really need help i really like this dude i know i shouldnt because what he did but i cant get him out of my head (link)
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Well, You should confront him. Show your feelings. Ask him what you want to know then ask why. If a few tears dont work then your better off without him. I know you want to be with him, but do you want to be with someone who just did that to you? And its not like its the only guy you`ll ever like. Look at the future, and dont dwell on the past. I`ll only hurt you. He`s no good for you if he did all that. You can do better, There`s always Better people out there. Try A Buddhist chat line, there plenty of good guys there!
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Ohk well before I asked a questio nabout telling the guy I like that I like him, but I rarley see this guy in person.
Well hes coming over sometime this week, and idk what to do. Theres no wayyyyyy I can say it straight to his face like that, seeing as home itll just be us two and if it was akward, well yea.
And well, even though he does have this girlfriend he like, tries to hold my hand and stuff and im just not comfortable when like hes seeing someone else, that i dont even know.. because half his town already thinks Im a whore just because i was hanging out with his friend before and now im hanging out with him.. hanging out.. as in sitting on a bench, talking, and getting coffee.. its not even bad?
But anyway, what should I do? Should I tell him even though it might make things akward, I mean, its usually kind of akward anyway, but I told him I enjoy akwardness, lol. JUST HELP ME FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO! PLEASSSSSSSE! :] (link)
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Well, just coming out and saying I like you is a bit, Well how can i put this, something to do when your like 13, and dont know how to flirt. Just Firlt with him. Show him you like being around him. But if he tires to hold your hand or something personal like that just play it off. Make it clear that nothing is gonna happen with you two while he`s dating someone. But take it slow. You dont want to live up to your reputation. Just make it as clear with out acting lose.
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Hi I am 17 years old girl. I have not seen my boyfriend for a while and will not be seeing him for another two weeks. And I feel scared. I don't get to see him or really get to talk to him but that's not either of our faults. It kind of feels like we aren't together. Can my feelings weaken because I feel like we aren't together then get strong again when I see him when he gets home?please help me
*Heather (link)
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Are you sure your not a booty call? You need to spend more time with him! And Yes they can. But you need to find ways to see him. Dont be scared of the bus. Get a friend with a car. If you dont already have one.
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my boyfriend told me hes in love with me and i told him i was in love with him too, but as soon as i said it i felt like i didnt meant it cause i dont think im actually in love with him. 2 days ago he made me really mad and so i broke up with him. 5 minutes later, after realizing how much i hurt him and after he begged, i got back together with him. i feel like i mightve only done this because i felt so guilty for hurting him. i mean if i was in love with him it wouldnt have been so easy to tell him i wanna break up right? well anyways, im still with him and i do care about him alot and everything but i promised him hes not gonna lose me and hes so in love with me that if i break up with him im gonna feel evil and hes gonna feel lied to!! but things are changing and i dont know what to do! any help is appreciated! (link)
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Well, Ask your self if you want to be with him. If no, leave him. Its not like its gonna change. And if he beings tell him stop begging like a dog. Are you the dispert? Leave! RAPE!!! But you might want to tell him you dont love him. The truth hurts, but its better then a lie.
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Am a 32 year old guy. i have been in a number of relationships, but almost all of them i am always the one usually doing all the phone calling, even when the girls prove that they realy like me and i tell them how important it is for them to be calling in return but they keep claiming they have not enough airtime to call. I have even broken up a few relationships for this reason. I am almsot convinced that the problem is with me, but i still cant figure out what i do wrongly. (link)
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Well, If they prove they like you then it should be cool, But look at the world we live in. Girls like to know that you were thinking of them. Or try this. If you call them like once every 3 days, call them every 6 days, and if they ask make something up? Say it must`ve sliped your mind. They`ll get`em thinking. And maybe a phone call. Show a tad of less of interest. And when they do what you want them to do, the show more. Reward them. Play the game my friend.
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I love this guy that i have known for over a year. A few months ago i told him that i liked him but not love. We dont really talk that much besides online. Sometimes during the day i zone out and hes all i think about. I get depressed when i think about him because his type of girl is this blonde haired skinny blue eyed girl. Im the opposite. Im not ugly or fat but im just not a blonde haired skinny blue eyed girl. When i see him in person he will have small talk with me but its nothing big.
I reaally want him to know how i feel but i really dont know how to tell him. I dont want to be like i love you.
17/f (link)
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Well, This happen to me in a way. You cant do much to change his mind. You see in the long run, if he doesnt like you. The both of you wont be together for long. Say you really like him when yall are alone but dont invole other people. If he doesnt like you, Play it off like its cool and say you just wanted to know. Then dont talk to him for awaile, Sometimes he`ll come out and say i like you, If not spending time away from him will help you get over him. I got over the love of my life. Im sure you can get over him. And if you need help I know of a Philosophy I know pretty well call Buddism. Ill help you get over him, and any thing really. Im stuck in a state of bliss cuz of Buddism.
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Well, This guy, whos a year older than I, is really confusing me. You see, weve known eachother for a few months, and at first, my friend claimed to really like him, but she.. Well, shes a skank. And, after awhile she started hating him, and I kept hanging out with him because we became close friends. He began to like me, and at that time I didnt like him back, and he told another friend of mine that he planned to ask me out, And my friend convinced him to wait awhile, and I showed signs of just wanting to be friends, because I didnt want to hurt him, and so he never asked me out. but, In the middle of all this, i realized that I really do like him a lot, but i didnt want to controdict myself.So eventually, we started losing touch, and he got a girlfriend. But then, one late night on aim, we stayed up the entire night talking, and now were closer than ever. He always tells me how special I am to him and how much he loves me, but he still has a girlfriend? I dont know.. I really think I love him. But, should I.. I dont know, what should I do? Before you answer this you should know, hes not your typical player, hes not very attractive and is like, reallllllly smart and not "nerdy" but .. leaning more toward that side. He has a charm to him, and I dont get it. I realllllllllllly need help. Should I tell him how I feel about this? (link)
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Well, I think he`s free game from your sluty friend. Well you should call it love. Its lust, then lust truns into love. Its been proven. Well you should keep in contect with him. maybe go hang out and show that you like him in a settle way for a awile till he breaks up with his girlfriend.
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my boyfriend and i are really close. we've been together for a long time, and we usualy have a lotta fun together. hes a real sweet guy and always has been, but until recently (meaning the last few months) hes been smoking pot with his friends. the fact that he does it doesnt bother me as much as the fact that he'll leave parties that hes hanging out with me at to go smoke with his friends. it pisses me off so much. basically: he ditches me for his friends and drugs. they pressure him into it. i tell him it pisses me off, but i dont know what to do.
please help =/
Sincerely,
*i want my boyfriend back* (link)
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Well, As a Cannabis smoker, I rather enjoy smoking, And it`s a fun event to chill with some close friends and im sure he feels the same way. Sharing weed is a sign of saying your cool(i know that corny but its true) It cost more then money, The only thing you could do without being a B, is let him get high, but it the taking like forever then go and get him or join the group, if your under 18 i dont advise smoking it. But when it comes to smoking people think differently then other subjects. If you say i want you over here not over there, he`ll take it like your controlling. He wouldnt do it if he didnt enjoy it. So let him have his fun. He might not smoke pot for the rest of his life you know.
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Okay. I was at my boyfriends house the other day and his brother's friends sister came over, and she was all over him in the pool. I asked him why he didn't stop her and he said because we were playing a game. So now hes ignoring her but she keeps trying to get with my boyfriend. What should I do? I really need help!!! ;)(;
Mac (link)
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Well you should tell her to back the (bleep) off your boyfriend. Dont show her respect when she`s showing you any. If you can take her then make it clear that if she tireds anything funny bad stuff will happen. If not, take your guy and show him that your alot better then her.
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15 / Female
Last Saturday night I was drinking with 7 guys. Five of them were 18 and two are my age. I like one of the guys who is my age. I was stupid and made a bet with one of the older guys about who could stay up longest. If I fell asleep first we would kiss. The thing is I won the bet and never fell asleep at all but he did. When he woke up I asked him what time it was and he came over and started making out with me. Then 3 times later during the night we frenched even though I didn't want to because the guy I liked was sleeping on me. I thought I liked the older guy at the time but now he is like.. in love with me. I have been avoiding him since because he graduated, has his own place, has his own car, etc and is way too old for me.
He just told me on msn to call him and gave me his number but I am 'away' so I will pretend I didn't get the message.
Should I continue to ignore him until I start going out with the guy I like? I don't want to hurt his feelings. We have only ever met once so I don't feel comfortable having a whole 'I don't like you in that way..' conversation. I know it was a mistake to make out with him but usually that's not a big deal.
Thanks!! :) (link)
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Well, You shouldnt make out with people when you dont like them. Its a type of lying, and since you lied he`s getting the wourg idea. You could say you like someone else. And im sure he`ll get the idea. And dont be careless when you drink! I`ve seen alot of bad shit happen and had to do alot of stuff i didnt want to do because of people drinkin.
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I am 15 years old and so is my boyfriend. There is this girl that he talks to that has been his friend for years. They both say that they are brother and sister type friends. I believe them but I have really big jealousy issues. This girl is skinnier than I, and prettier. I recently got into a fight with my boyfriend because when he went to his friends house she showed up. I ignored his calls and everything. Well, this girl Instant Messaged me asking me if he could go to San Francisco with her tomorrow to hang out with her and her mother because it is her birthday and she has no one else to go with and doesn't want to go alone. I want to feel sad and just cry thinking about. But they're just friends, right? Should I just let him go and face my jealousy and see if it helps me get over it? Or should I put my foot down and object of the whole thing? (link)
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Well, I would ask her why she doesnt/didnt want you to go. And dont let Jealousy cloud your judgement, I`ll only cause you harm. And if she cant give a reasonable awnser then you know how she thinks of you. Any friend who`d chose a boy/girl friend isnt a Good friend, Just a friend. Treat her like you treat she treats you. Have little respect. And if she ask why, dont give her the respect by twlling her, cuz shes knows what she did. And dont show your anger. Good comes to the one who waits. And take notes on who your boyfriend acts. And guys dont always like the skinner girls! I myself and many of my close friends like some meat on a girl.
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This is going to be long.
My best guy friend, Sam, I don't know what is going on with him! He would always flirt with me and talk to me. I heard him say that I was hot to one of his friends at the beginning of the year if that matters.
I also heard his friends tryings to guess who he was going to ask out and they kept saying my name and he didn't respond. All he did was stare at me and that day in my last class. right before the bell rang, his friend was like, "Do you like Sam?" and I was like, "Ummmm...No. Why?" and hes like, "Oh, just wondering." and he went out the door.
on my birthday I had invited sam to my party, which was that weekend. I took 10 of my best friends to a movie. While we were in line waiting for the popcorn, he asked if i was going to the dance on tuesday and I said, "Oh. Probably." he smiled and looked at his friend and the exchanged some weird look and then his friend said, "sam doesnt have anyone to go with." and they both stared at me expecting me to say something but I just said, "oh." and we went to go sit down.
the week of the dance, he asked my best friend, Sarah, out. She kept saying, "he barely even talks to me!" but he would only talk to her or hug her when I was around.
during the last class of the day, his best friend asked me again, "would you ever go out with sam?" and I said, "uhhhhhhh i dont know! why do you keep asking me that?!" and he was like, "Dunno..HE MIGHT LIKE YOU!" and I gave him a weird look and he said, "IM JOKING! IM JOKING!" but he didnt sound like it.
But, he broke up with sarah and started going out with taylor again and all he did was ignore me and he wasn't nice to me at all unless she wasn't anywhere close to us. I talked to jake and he said that sam answers when he calls but I've tried to call him many times over the summer but he never answers the phone.
So, I don't understand what he's doing! Does he like me or not?! (link)
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Well, He likes you and he doesnt know how to get a girl, or he really likes you and he`s just nerves. It happen to me b4, I whould know what to say to a girl i liked alittle but when it came to the one person my mind went blank. So you might want to goto his house and tell him you dont have feelings for him. But if you dont know where he lives goto anywho.com and goto reverse lookup and just go from there. And that site will tell you where he lives and all.
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okay i'd say about seven months ago. me and a kid named 'dylan' started talking. & we went out. about two days into the relationship i got online & his away message said i love you 'melanie'. WHILE we were going out & when i asked him about it all he said was that he was sorry. but he liked 'melanie' more than me. it took a while to get over. beause we actually got along really well. after that i stayed single for a while and about four months ago i started dating my guy best friend 'landon'. well 'landon' and i are good. except he gets a bit jealous. & a few weeks ago at a swim meet 'dylan' was flirting with me a bit. now, i dont like him or anything. but he was flirting. & 'landon' got EXTREMELY mad saying how much i flirt with other people. WELLL we both got over it & its been about a month. & last monday 'landon' went on vacation. he came back on friday but he's been busy and i havent seen him in like 10 days. meanwhile, 'dylan' and i were talking on aim. when all of a sudden he starts to tell me how stupid he was & is for letting me go. & how he'd NEVER hurt me again. & how sorry he is. & how wonderful & amazing i am. and everything. and he's really sweet. BUT i have a boyfriend. & i told him how i couldnt leave my boyfriend and how i didnt exactly want to. but the thing is: i have NO idea what to do. because on one hand, i dont want to just leave 'landon' and throw away everything because i REALLLLY like him. but with dylan. it's like couriosity is a huge. because i never really got to hang out with dylan while we were dating & a part of me wants to. IM SO CONFUSED. please. any advice at all would help. (link)
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Well I think Dylan just want to get together and will say anything to get you back. So just tell him no! No means no. As for your Current boy friend, you need to get the truth though his head when you dont do something. He`s only beliving the worst of you, and idk aboot you but i find the disrespectful.
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