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Girlfriend's Ex's birthday party
This weekend, I'm visiting my girlfriend for the weekend. Unfortunately, on Saturday she has been invited to her ex's 21st birthday party. She says that he and his family are still good family friends, although she never hangs out with them or talks to them. So she is going and is dragging me to the party. I have expressed the fact that I feel uncomfortable about this, but she has taken a "Tough Shit" attitude towards my feelings. Is it irrational for me not to want to go and is there any way out of this? Help!
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it seems to me that she is using you to her advantage of ex boyfriend. tell her that you don't want to go, and make other plans. she is not caring about your feelings at all on this matter, and that's just wrong. she needs to understand why you don't want to go, and tell her why you feel uncomfortable. i ask to you how they still be family friends if they never talk or hang out? it's a little supisous to me. like i said the best you can do is make other plans, tell her why you feel uncomfterbal, and if she don't understand or gives you that "tough shit" attitude, i don't think this relationship is worth hangging on too. hope this helps.
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I think her attitude is very disrespectful toward you. If they aren't good friends anymore, why does she need to even go? Further more, why force you along when you feel uncomfortable? I think her rudness and disregard of your feelings alone ought to make you reevalute your relationship with her. Besides that, I would wonder why she really wants to go there. Any alterior motives?
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You have voiced your feelings to her and she has explained why she feels you both ought to go.
She obviously wants you by her side and perhaps feels that she can openly wish her ex a happy birthday without feeling she is sneaking off behind your back.
You are feeling what a lot of people may feel in the same circumstance but I think you should be proud that she wants you there and is happy to show you off.
I don't think you should let her down and make her go alone, if only because you will be wondering if she is enjoying her ex's company again.
I wish you all the best whatever decision you make.
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Well, If you a guy... Then suck it up. Guys dont have feelings as soft as that! She`s a ex! Have you moved on yet?? You should ask yourself that. Look at it this way. If you dont go you`ll hear aboot it longer and then your girlfriend and your ex will "talk" And your girlfriend will be mad as it is. You need to go to keep a look out as it is.
And if you dont like girls like that then its your falt for being with her. If you`d stop being controled by your P***S and think logicly you`ll see what you should do.
If you a girl...
Well, You shouldnt have a problem if you moved on.
You shouldnt look at it like a bad thing. You get to see someone agian that you had feelings for. It`s not a bad thing, well if you didnt move on then it is. And as for your girl friend forcing you is another thing. If she treated you =`s then she wouldnt be doing this. Unless you did something. Or maybe your misunderstanding your relationship. Theres many times. Maybe you have the one where you both take turns enduring each other to make yourselves happie?
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I don't think it's irrational for you not to want to go. I wouldn't be comfortable going to any party where I was only going to know one other person.
However, I think it would be wonderful if you could suck it up and go anyways. Your girlfriend probably feels awkward and obligated to go. I doubt she really wants to go either, but knows it's a 'Tough Shit' situation for her; she has no dignified or polite way to decline. Having you there with her would probably make her feel proud and secure. It would be very kind of you if you went with her.
If you simply don't want to go at all, apologize to her and say it's just way to weird for you, and sit at home watching television. Be ready for a fight but take it as a compliment, she wants you with her out in public, no mater what that public consists of, she might even see it as your duty, but as long as you don't imply she shouldn't go I suppose you are fine to refuse to.
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