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Hey, I love to sing, i take voice lessons and stuff so i know a lot about music, so if you have ne questions about music in singing or instruments, I would be more than happy to answer them. you can IM or email me(IM is below) I am also a poetry and song writing fanatic so you can ask questions about that too. My favourite topics are music and bois (two most difficult exciting things)I am practically happier than i have ever been but i do know what it is like to go through really rough times. I have had a series of extreme problems that i got over and i would like to help anyone get over their problems. I am mostly good with people with any sort of personal problem like an eating disorder or ADD or something like that.

You can ask me anything, i'll answer it.

FUTURE: GONNA BE A SINGER (SO REMEMBER ME)

AGE: 14

FAV SONG: IMPOSSIBLE, STAIRWAY TO HEAVEN

FAV BAND: LED ZEPPELIN (CHRISTINA AGUILERA)

HAIR: ALWAYS DIFFERENT LOL

~*LIZZY*~

advice

hi . ok well here it goes. im 14 and i have been going out with this guy named anthony , he's 16. we have been going out for a month and ive practically fallen in love with him . and he's like in love with me . well he is on probation for burglary and he told me he is not that kind of person anymore . and i said to him that if you mess up then i cant be with you. he understood and said ok. well before he met me he's done some crazy things. one of them is drugs. pot , coke , x , etc. well i told him i dont want him doing ANY of that because i hate drugs and a lot of my friends have gotten hurt and i love him to much to see that happen to him. so last night we were on the phone and we were watching cops and they did sum drug bust. and it was coke . and he's like "yea i did that a couple days ago". i got really pissed and yelled and screamed and started crying. and like he promised me he would never do that and he says he loves me and would do anything for me , but my relationship feels like a big lie. i really need some help or someone normal to talk to because my friends are all messed up to like that. im not that kind of person. he said "i have not found anyone yet like me" and im like "well if yout hought i was that kind of person , then your wrong." he said a lot more but theres to much to type. someone IM me at xIxMissthugxIx@aol.com . someone please help me with this.

I know a lot of people like this, you have to be strict. If you really love him and know you will last after this, put it on a break. Tell him he needs to prove that he will stop doing this for you because you really care about him. You are completely right for being upset, but you do need to set ground rules for the relationship, and if he loves you back, he will make a few changes, but it won't be easy for him, so don't get too worked up if he is only slowly improving. Just like in the movie Grease, people change for love
Lizzy

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(14/f)
The problem is I have this boyfriend, who i care about a lot.. but.. i think he im starting to not like him like that anymore.. there are some problems.. like he wont talk to me or anything!! hes like the shyest person in the world when hes around me and i hate it!! cause when hes with other people hes like crazy.. how can i make a break up... so we can still be friends or at least talk to eachother..??

be honest with him...but not blunt. Tell him that you are only fourteen and you would really like to experience what it's like with other guys. I have the same problem breaking up with guys, but let him know you still want to be friends, like ask him to go with you to movies with a group of friends or whatever
Lizzy

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ok my boyfriend invited me over to his house to watch a movie and his parents were not home. and about half way in the movie he leaned over and kissed me and we started making out and them he took all of my clothes off and we started having sex it was so much fun!!! My friends were all asking what happend at his house should i tell them?

ummm, no. But you can tell someone you trust. If your b/f finds out you were out showing off about having sex with him, he'll probly be pissed. Unless the two of you decided that you can tell people, respect what you two have privately.
Lizzy

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My boyfriend says that I ignore him! And I don't think I am! I talk to him whenever I see him and between almost every class and everything! I dunno if because usually my friends are around he doesn't want to talk or what. I've tried talking to him more and talking to him when no one else is around. Is he just like really shy or what? Cause it's like really annoying when he says that I don't talk to him or else I ignore him! Help!

Ok, what i used to do to give my boyfriend attention kinda worked. During lunch, we would go say hi to everyone, talk for a minute, then go get our own table so we could talk. Don't just small talk either. Find out some deep stuff about him. It really works, i promise. Don't call him, tell him he can call you, but do not call him, he'll think your obsessive. Hope this helps
lizzy

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My boyfriend is amazing. I love him to death. But he is a little immature sometimes when I need him to just be serious. Any way I could tell him in a nice, non-offending way??

just say it. if you are trying to have an indepth conversation and he just jokes around just say 'i'm serious' and give him a look that lets him know. if that is his only problem then he sounds like an overall good boyfriend, but try to let him know that that is the only thing bugging you about him, but seem happy about everything else he does.
Lizzy

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Anyone know any ways to fix short curly hair?

I think one of the cutest looks, is if it's long enough, two short pigtails really curly. If you can't, then you could try the whole thing Christina Aguilera is going for with the sheek short curls which look absolutely adorable.
Hope I helped a little
Lizzy

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okay so there is this guy that i like and i don't know himt hat well yet but i would like to get to know him how should i approach him or introduce myself to him? without feeling stupid?

Just go up to him and start talking. Guys like that kinda thing. With me, i just tell a guy i think his eyes are really pretty, sometimes i'll tell a guy with pretty eyes that anyways, but if you tell him that that'll start some sort of conversation without feeling stupid
Lizzy

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What do you get guys for gifts????

Depends on the guy. I think something like a nice chain cross necklace or something, or maybe a cd. Hope i helped a little
Lizzy

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If a person is 14, do u think their 2 young 2 have sex?

Personally, i don't believe in premarital sex, but you want to make sure that you found the right guy, in that case age would just be another number
Lizzy

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im 13 and a girl and i want to do alot of things like make out with guys and maybe in a year or so have sex with a guy. but 1. im scared im a bad kisser. 2. i dont wanna get pregnant and 3. i havent found the right guy to do any thing with...what should i do?

Well, don't worry about doing this stuff within a certain time period, once you find the right guy, then you should think about that sort of thing, but no one is rushing you and you shouldn't be rushing yourself, because that's the sort of thing you'll regret later if you make a mistake, and not necessarily meaning a baby, but you might just know you did it with the wrong guy, make sure you really like the guy though, hope i helped and hope you find the guy of your dreams
Lizzy

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i've never had a boyfriend, but everytime someone likes me and i feel like they are leading towards asking me out or anything i get really nervous and uncomfortable and i just wish i was out of the situation...i'm hoping it's just because i haven't really liked any of them, but is this normal??

Well, it probably means you are still not over something. Sometimes it's a boyfriend, sometimes it's watching relationships go down the drain, but you need to get over whatever it is that's scaring you. Try to think back, do your parents fight a lot, have one of your friends gotten hurt, have you gotten hurt? Think about this and tell someone, get it off your chest. If you have nemore q's, you can IM or email me the continuous question, it's on my page. Good Luck
Lizzy

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wut do i do to play hard to get???? plz give me some tips to get the guy i lyk to notice me
thanx,niki

Don't ever seem to be available. Pretend like you don't care if a guy thinks your hot or anything, and when they do talk to you, talk, but when they ask you out, say, i'm busy that day, maybe the next week, then they will just totally look forward to it if it is a longer time away. Don't start the flirting, but seem intimidating.
Lizzy

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i always flirt with all the guys at school or where ever i go. does that make me a slut bc everyone calls me one

No, it makes you a normal girl! Only if you end up touching him and stuff does it make you a slut. Just keep your hands to yourself, and don't worry what the girls say, their probably jealous of your moves or something, and you aren't trying to impress the people saying this stuff anyway, everyone flirts
Lizzy

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How do you break up or, tell a guy you dont want to be thier gf without hurting them??

There is no way for you to not hurt him if he cares about you a whole lot. Tell him you want to be friends, but you just aren't feeling that the relationship is working the way it should and that you really just need time to see other people. Hope this works
Lizzy

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hey, lets see..my friends boyfriends cousin, Mike, likes me, and i dont know what to do. i dont know him that well, i met him once. my friend says he wants to take me to cedar point with him and some other friends.what should i do? should i try to get to know him? he also likes another gurl, and i dont know what to do. hes 15 and im gonna be in a week. .....thanx.
no clue

Go to cedar point with him. It won't hurt any, and if you don't like him after the date, don't date him anymore. If you feel you don't know him that well still, go to cedar point and tell him you just want to be friends for now, but if anything changes you let him know. Try to find out if the other girl likes him, if she does, don't tell neone. LOL Good luck
Lizzy

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I'm pretty, smart, athletic, funny, happy and really fun to be around according to my friends. But is it true that alot of 14 year old guys dont pay as much attention to flat girls? I mean In my oppinion think im girlfriend material! Why dont guys like me as much as they like my skinny developed friends who have gone thru puberty? I know it sounds stupid but please help me!

Well, it depends on the guy. A lot of guys just want a full chested girl because their friends like it that way. Three of my best guy friends told me that they hate boobs. But the reason guys aren't going for you is probably because you seem to normal. A lot of the funny smart athletic girls don't like it when guys hit on them, so i bet a lot of guys are staying clear. Let them know you are free!
Lizzy

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well im having a few trust issues lately....ever since my bestfriend and me went out and broke up i havent been able to trust anyone....he told me he'd always be there for me and stuff and then breaks up with me and totaly ditches me as a friend all together and now me and him have absolutly no contact....not only that but thanks to him im having other relationship issues...i cant trust anyone and everone knows that all relationships are based on trust....i dont know what to do part of me says take a chance and get hurt whats there to lose. I've found the perfect guy but im scared to trust him...what do i do?
Sincerly
Confused in Love
Nikki
13-f-Tx

Don't punish the perfect guy when he did nothing wrong. Punish the guy who did wrong. Don't be afraid of relationships. You will get hurt, and you will hurt someone, it's why people say love is the hardest thing. But before you go anywhere with this new guy, be sure to get all of your previous issues off your chest, so he doesn't feel uncomfortable, make sure your ready, because 13 is an age where so many people get hurt, because you are ready for a relationship, but there is always someone in the couple who is not stable yet, so shake things off, and your man will be there when you are ready.
Lizzy

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ok i love my boyfriend ok and so im kinda like a lil shy to go somewhere with him like ya know alone like at the movies or the mall so i always have to bring one of my friends and i can tell he kinda gets sick of being around them and that he only wants to b with me i need sum advice on how to b more comfortable around.
signed..
shy girl

Start slow. Like first, take him on a group date, then a double date, then after a few double dates, you should feel confortable around him so you can go alone. If that doesn't work, then start off by calling him without three way, and IMing him and stuff, it's a building up sort of thing
Lizzy

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im 12 and my parents wont let me go out with guys yet cuz im supposedly too young, but i go out with them secretly and now more guys are starting to ask me out, but they want to actually take me somewhere like dinner or a movie and stuff, but my parents wont let me go anywhere unless they kno my "friends" parents!!!!!!

Well, why don't you let them meet your boyfriends parents. It won't be that hard because your boyfriends are only 12 years old and their parents have to pick you up for the movies. Maybe if you let your parents meet them, they would trust you more. A lot of people do that and it's completely normal, (just don't say it's your boyfriend)
Lizzy

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I have a guy friend who acts in movies. (no names) and he asked me out. I don't know if I should, I like him but I am just don't want to be known as HIS girlfriend instead of my name. I don't know if too many celebs date normal people like me and how people take and what the press and whatnot would say. What should I tell him?

If you like him go out with him. If you don't go out with him because of the movie star thing, that would be very unfair to him. If you begin to not like the whole celebrities girlfriends thing, then tell him that you just need to be your own person and not just another celebrity girlfriend. He will most likely understand because he knows how tough show business is.
Lizzy

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