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boyfriend is a druggie
hi . ok well here it goes. im 14 and i have been going out with this guy named anthony , he's 16. we have been going out for a month and ive practically fallen in love with him . and he's like in love with me . well he is on probation for burglary and he told me he is not that kind of person anymore . and i said to him that if you mess up then i cant be with you. he understood and said ok. well before he met me he's done some crazy things. one of them is drugs. pot , coke , x , etc. well i told him i dont want him doing ANY of that because i hate drugs and a lot of my friends have gotten hurt and i love him to much to see that happen to him. so last night we were on the phone and we were watching cops and they did sum drug bust. and it was coke . and he's like "yea i did that a couple days ago". i got really pissed and yelled and screamed and started crying. and like he promised me he would never do that and he says he loves me and would do anything for me , but my relationship feels like a big lie. i really need some help or someone normal to talk to because my friends are all messed up to like that. im not that kind of person. he said "i have not found anyone yet like me" and im like "well if yout hought i was that kind of person , then your wrong." he said a lot more but theres to much to type. someone IM me at xIxMissthugxIx@aol.com . someone please help me with this.
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tell him strait forward
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well i think u should forget about him and tell OFF???????!
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Everybody deserves a second chance, granted what your boyfriend did was wrong. Let him know this is his last chance, and if he screws up again, then it's over. Now since you love him, it'd be hard leavin him, and it'd hurt for awhile, but it'd only make you stronger in the end. If he does screw up, and you do leave him, then hopefully he'll realize he needs to do somethin, and stop usin drugs! One can only hope...Hope this helps! Good luck! Much Love!!
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Jessie
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He apparently doesnt love you enough to stop the shit he is doing.. you only been together a month you can move on and find somebody you arent goin to worry about and be stressed over...your way too young for that kinda thing to go on in your life.. he has took the wrong path in life and it sounds like he wants to stay on that path.. a bad boy is sometimes good to have but not one who is doing things thats just going to hurt you in a way also.. you need to talk to him about this and if he doesnt straighten up dump him.. cause like i said your too young for that kind of drama... if you need anything email me at xxallcuddles4uxx@aol.com.. much luv dez x0x0
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Your boyfriend is a liar. He loves drugs more than you, he is dangerous (burglary?!) and he may become abusive. This may be very hard for you to hear, but you need to break up with him. He is not the only boy in the world who will ever love you. You're obviously an extremely compassionate, caring person and you deserve someone who will treat you with the same amount of compassion and respect.
Good luck.
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when sumone starts drugs its really hard to stop so u should break up with him your too good for him! good luck! =) x0x
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He is on drugs. Once your on them your on them. Dump him. End of story. I don't care if he says he will stop, he flippin' you.
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Ok, I completly and totally agree with your being upset. If he loves you, which a month is not very long and love is something that takes time and commitment...but if he wants a future with you, hes goin to have to prove it...and your going to have to be strong by putn your foot down and making him see that you deserve to be treated right, and you wont settle for his lies....If he really loves you, he'll do it all right and if not..then girl find you someone that will..Theyr out there! Good Luck-CCHS11
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I know a lot of people like this, you have to be strict. If you really love him and know you will last after this, put it on a break. Tell him he needs to prove that he will stop doing this for you because you really care about him. You are completely right for being upset, but you do need to set ground rules for the relationship, and if he loves you back, he will make a few changes, but it won't be easy for him, so don't get too worked up if he is only slowly improving. Just like in the movie Grease, people change for love
Lizzy
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