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Trust
well im having a few trust issues lately....ever since my bestfriend and me went out and broke up i havent been able to trust anyone....he told me he'd always be there for me and stuff and then breaks up with me and totaly ditches me as a friend all together and now me and him have absolutly no contact....not only that but thanks to him im having other relationship issues...i cant trust anyone and everone knows that all relationships are based on trust....i dont know what to do part of me says take a chance and get hurt whats there to lose. I've found the perfect guy but im scared to trust him...what do i do?
Sincerly
Confused in Love
Nikki
13-f-Tx
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You should listen to yourself.. well the half of it and take a chance.. we all are going to get hurt no matter how hard we try to prevent it weather you lock yourself up or not. Your going to get hurt no matter what happans and that is apart of life. Just trust him and make everything go slow and take your time with him and hopefully everything will work out the way you want it to yeah there will be a few rocky points in your relationship and you may be scared of that but you have to take the challenge on otherwize you may wish you did if you didnt-trix
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trust is a hard thing once its gone it takes a long time to get it back if the other person is willing.. but this one guy should havent had all ur trust.. Your parents have ur trust too.. so you still have trust in people but just not enough.. Make sure u know all about this guy and u can even tell him that u have hard time trusting so he will know that... hope it helps
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I don't think your guy friend is gone forever. Give him some time, and he may start talking to you again. It will take a while to rebuild that relationship of trust as friends. It is not easy after you have dated your friend but not impossible either.
As for Mr. New Guy, start talking to him. It will be a little hard at first. The more you know about him, the more you will like him, and the more you trust him. Take one little step at a time. And you are 13, you have your whole life ahead of you now. Don't let a dude spoil your fun, ever.
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dear confused in love,
you went thro a hard relationship. your new guy should understand how you feel so just tell him.
you two could get to know eachother better then get into a relationship. this trust issue will
pass. good luck. i hope i helped you
girdy_goo15
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I have the same problem. Ever since some of my relationships I've had with guys, I always have problems trusting people. But, what I do is I talk to them for awhile and get to know them and if I'm comfortable with them, then I know I can trust them. But, I don't tell them everything just yet, I get to know them better and day by day I get to trust them more. And if I can't trust them, I don't tell them things I want people to know. And thats what I would do if I was you, just get to know this kid and see if you can trust him. If you still need to talk about it, just leave a message in my inbox. I hope this helped!
xoxo Kourtney
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maybe you could talk to him and ask why he *lied* to you and told you hed always b there for u..then alla the sudden ditch you..maybe it was just a lil weird for him to be around because of the breakup and all..but dont punish the new guy that may like you..just because you are having some trust issues.. just try to makje the best outta it..and just talk to him! *hope i helped* <3/Dakota
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well if uve found the perfect guy then u should try to trust him every relations ends someday or atleast wen ure 13 but thats part of life its nice while it lasts isnt it? plus by breakin up it makes u stronger and thats always good. so i say u should try ure best to trust this guy. hope i helped
**Ker~Bear**
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Don't punish the perfect guy when he did nothing wrong. Punish the guy who did wrong. Don't be afraid of relationships. You will get hurt, and you will hurt someone, it's why people say love is the hardest thing. But before you go anywhere with this new guy, be sure to get all of your previous issues off your chest, so he doesn't feel uncomfortable, make sure your ready, because 13 is an age where so many people get hurt, because you are ready for a relationship, but there is always someone in the couple who is not stable yet, so shake things off, and your man will be there when you are ready.
Lizzy
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I think what your feeling is low confidence. Your not ready to go into another relationship until you sit down and face to face talk to this guy of yours. If he has you this twisted up chances are he meant a lot to you. Give it some time and theres always sweet guys. You may not be looking in the right section.
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Okay many girls have this problem..but remember, NOT ALL GUYS ARE JERKS!the guy you were w/ must have been a jerk..or it seems like it since he didn't make an effort to stay w/ you.You should definetly forget about the past *with him* and give that "perfect guy" a chance...maybe he'll be different but remember not to think of him as ur ex...hope i helped...GOOD LUCK!
*much love*
*~tasha~*
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