Q: John has known ive liked him since about october, durin football season i wore his jersey to the games, we havent really hungout and stuff but i dont know theres something about him. he is now in my gym class the last semester and lately he has been acting weird, flirting alot. and i used to just throw myself out to him but now i want to sort of play hard to get while flirtin at the same time.. what can i do? i think he has some thing for me even know i know he probably wont admit it ( its not really anything personal towards me though, its just how he is) i see him in school sometimes, hes in my 1st period spanish class and we dont really talk(hes on the other side) and hes in my gym class .. i want to attract him more and i might ask him to this party tomorrow me and my friend dave are having.. what is some cute things to do in gym? or body language things?


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Q: My name is Christina. i'm 16 and i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. We cant even talk anymore without getting in to an argument about something little. It's hard because i love him but i also know that he is not good for me because he has the tendency to be very jealous and violent.How do i break up with him after all this time?

Q: When a guy tells you "I just don't want to rush into things" does this mean he is no longer interested in you?

You see there is this guy I met at my friend Rachel's birthday party. He then asked my friend who I was and found me on myspace and instant messaged me. Last week he wanted to meet me in the hallway before and after class. Rachel keep telling me how much he really liked me.... yesterday when we went out to the buses he gave me a kiss on the cheek. Then I went over to his house later and we just sat together on the couch and hung out...well today at the end of the day I barely even got a hug from him...when I asked him what was up he said that he didnt want to rush into things becuase he didnt want to get hurt like he did last time with his ex girlfriend...

Was that just a nice way of saying "I'm not into you anymore"

If it helps I'm 15 and he is 17

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Q: putting this in \"love life\" might be pushing it, but whatever.
okay, so theres this kid, he\'s in my grade (12th) but i\'ve never talked to him in person. i think one time in like the 8th grade he got ahold of my screen name and he was like whats your name? and i told him (i knew he went to my school) and he was like \"hold on, i\'m going to look you up in the yearbook\". haha, that still makes me laugh. we were like in middle school though. but yea... i\'ve always known his name and who he was (after that point) but i never talk to him. and then this year, i think he has like a mini crush on me or something (but still, no talking in person). for example, theres two ways to get to the student parking lot(and neither one of us has a 6th period). i go one way, which is closer to my class & i know what class he has 5th period (because i have that class 4th and i\'ve stayed in there to ditch my 5th period) & theres a closer way to go from his class, but he goes the way i go (i wouldn\'t blame him though if he likes me... i would have done the exact same thing to my crush of three years). and he parks in the same row i do, but in order to get to my car i have to pass his car first and there have been a few times when i would walk by and he would like glance at me or whatever. honestly i don\'t even know what kind of an expression i give back... i think i just glance @ him. then he eventually requested to be my friend on myspace. even though i\'ve never talked to him, i added him anyways... he does go to my school so why the heck not? then he commented on one of my pics & said \"cutie\". haha. that was interesting. and still, every day he pretty much walks the same way i do... sometimes he\'s in front of me, sometimes he\'s in back of me, sometimes he\'s with friends and sometimes he\'s alone. oh, and even when we leave the parking lot, we both take the same main street so he\'ll like be driving along side of me or something, haha. or in front of me, or in back, etc. but yea. still i\'ve never talked to him! and then a few nights ago, he sent me a message through myspace and it said \"hey you. whats up?\" i didn\'t get it right away, i think i was on at the time and then i signed off or something... but i got it like an hour or two later. i didn\'t respond though, because what am i supposed to say? i don\'t want to be like \"hey\" or \"hey...\". i don\'t know... its totally wierd though, because i do see him like everyday (plus he\'s friends with two kids in my class and guys that i sometimes hang out with at lunch, but he doesn\'t hang out with them during lunch... he hangs out like 400 ft away from us, haha). its like, if you want to be my friend, then talk to me. its kind of awkward when you send a message like that through myspace. whatever. he does seem cool, but its kind of wierd and awkward. i was going to send him a message back and be like \"waddupp, fool?\" but...yea. i think that would be a little funny & more friendly and less serious/awkward/flirty (yea, you can probably take \"hey...\" and turn it into a flirty way). but then again, \"waddupp fool?\" can make it seem like \"oh yea, i know you we\'re friends\" when we really aren\'t in real life. what should i do about this whole situation. because i still see him everyday... and i feel bad i ignored his thing, but i don\'t want to just go up to him and be like \"hey!\" what would you do if you were shy and in this situation. i don\'t think i really have a crush on him back. i don\'t know him and i probably wouldn\'t mind hanging with him or anything, but yea. what would you do?

Q: ok well heres the thing, i like this one guy {lawrence} alot alot, and sometimes i even think more then just alot alot. so i thought i knew him pretty well. then one day his cousin and him were in a fight and his cousin told me that he was lieing to me about his virginity, and how he never lost it, he was just trying to impress me. and stuff like that. and i told his cousin that i didnt really care if he was a virgin or no, what bothers me is that he lied and stuff. so after that i just went home, and i didnt really care like i honestly didnt. so usually lawrence calls me like everyday just to talk or w/e or someitmes i call him. well for the past few days he hasnt called once. and then his cousin told me that he had told him that he told me about that whole lieing thing. and so now lawrence knew that he told me, so i was like okay maybe he thinks im mad at him. because lawrence knows that i cant stand people who lie.and so now he hasnt called or anything. and i just like want to call him. because i know if like i was in that situation i would have wanted him to call me to tell me he wasnt mad at me and stuff. but at the same time, i dont know...i just dont know why every part of me is telling myslef not to call him. hmm but yea help please =/

Q: I have a long distance relationship with my bf. He had to move away for a job in an oil rig camp. He can't email me because his internet hasnt been connected yet. So the only way we can contact each other is by phone.
Well since he moved 2 months ago he hasn't phoned me once. I phoned him on Xmas day(I just happened to catch him on his break) and he was being pleasant and said he'd phone me on New Years Eve. I never got a call. I know he works crazy hours and probably can't get a hold of me. I also work but only part time.
He told me also to never phone him before 6. He has a cell phone.
I'm getting really sick of this whole long distance thing. I also think he should be phoning me more than say, once every 2 months.
Should I cut this dead and try to find a local boy? And if he really loved me wouldnt he be contacting me more?

Q: hey okay i am confused on what to do. i do not know how to tell if my boyfriend is cheating. okay i am 17 and he is 20 and he is the type of guy who is real about things.i mean he says it like it is. and he says that he would never cheat on me and if he did cheat i would have to give him a reason to cheat. ell how can i tell if he is telling the truth? he is always talking to other girls and he says they are just friends. but he walks out of he room when they call. his ex keeps on calling him and he says she is kick ass and that she knows he has a girlfriend. but why does she keep calling? please help me figure out if my boyfriend is cheating. we have only been together for 2 in a half months.

Q: 16/f. Well my problem is with my boyfriend. He is 18 and I really do care about him. We have been going out for about 2 months and things are just not going so well. Like i said i really do care about him but it seems that our relationship is falling apart. The beginning of our relationship was what i thought was perfect. Well it's only been two months so i guess it is still the beginning, but still it seems like everything is starting to change, for the worse, and i can't stand it. I wanna be with him more than anything but its starting to seem like he doesn't wanna be with me. He barely answers my phone calls and never calls me, but when we do talk it seems like everything is fine until he starts acting like he doesn't wanna talk to me any more, which makes me feel kinda unwanted. We used to talk everyday and he would make me feel like i was the only girl in his life and nobody else matters, but recently its like im the only one who doesn't matter. I am just sooo sick of trying with him but i don't wanna loose him. It would break my heart if we didn't make it. Even when we were with each other in person he was so affectionate towards me and now it seems when ever i see him either he is too busy to notice me or he just doesn't want to talk to me. what should i do. BREAKING UP WITH HIM IS NOT AN OPTION. I hope

Q: im 15 years old and in the last two years i have really fixed up from what i used to be. now im a reallycaring and loving person. no matter how much i do for someone, no one seems to care or appreciate me. i know im sounding a bit desperate for attension, but i feel like im unwanted by my own friends. i have friends that i would prepared to do anything for, just to make them happy..but they dont think the same about me.
i try sooo hard with soo many different people..but its as if no one notices me. no one seems to realise. some people mean so much to me but i mean nothing to them. iv almost given up with everything. i have no idea what to do.

Q: i'm in a bit of a predicament w/ my boyfriend. i'm 19 and a sophomore in college and he's 21 and has not entered college. i'm not with him for booksmarts or trying to force him into going to college, but everyday i see him throwing his money away on useless things like his car.

i want him to have the motivation to have a future, to move forward w/ his life instead of living under his parents roof and job hopping every 3 months.

i've tried talking to him about it, but he always gets mad at me when i do, accusing me of lecturing him. he just doesn't understand that i'm only trying to look out for him. and i don't understand that when he says he wants a future with me, that he's not doing a goddamn thing about it? no money is saved for "us", no plans have been made, it's just an empty promise to me.

my question to you is what do you think i should do? do you think i should still encourage him or should i just let him do what he wants to do? after all, it is his money and it is his life...

Q: I'm getting to the point where I can't stand to be around my boyfriend. He is really frustrating me. I don't really consider myself unreasonable and I feel really guilty about all this. He's constantly analyzing every aspect of our relationship on whether it's considered "sinful" or not. He even went on about kissing and how it must be considered 'selfish' to a persons own desires. He reads all these sexual purity books and gets his morality and philosophy from them. He is really stiff and concerned about purity.. I know most girls would love a guy who isn't sex obsessed, but sometimes I think it'd be better if he was. I feel I'm not worthy when I'm around him. I always feel like shit when he preaches about morals and stuff. what should I do? is it stupid to care about this? i feel like i'm making a big deal and should just accept it and move on.

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Q: So a few weeks ago i just got dumped, and i really like this guy a lot still. I always ask himif he likes me and sometimes he says kinda and sometimes he says no. He acts really cute to me and stuff when no one else is around, or he will tell me he likes me but then the next day he will say he doesnt then 5minutes later he will tell me that he loves me. I like this guy so much and i would do anything to get him back.
Does he like me? Any ideas to win him back?

Q: I kinda liked/like this guy in my class. He's so nice and were deff like really close friends were always laughing and joking and I thought I just liked him as a friend, but he's such a good guy I can totally see myself being more then friends with him. We talk everyday, he leaves me myspace comments, messages me, texts me, and we have a bunch of jokes together.
Well, turns out, my step brother heard about me sorta liking this guy, and he asked him about me. My bro said when he asked him he was like smiling and stuff and that he might like me, but he wasn't sure so not to get my hopes up.
Soooo, what? Just best friends? or What?

Q: OH MY GOD!!!!!!! He asked me out!!!!!! I still haven't gotten an answer about the party but i guess that now girls can't sleepover. But I don't care, he asked me out and I said yes!!

Q: Okay, so I ignored him for about a week which wasn't to hard because for some reason he was ignoring me. Well then he started to flirt with me. Touching me, tickling, and sitting on me. Just me. Well what do you know, him and his girlfriend just broke this past Thursday.lol. Just after he starts flirting with me agian. So went to his house after school the other day,me, his exex-girlfriend, and his ex-girlfriends boyfriend. (that's a whole other story) But we played board games, and then satrted to play poke when his mom came home. So we desided that we wanted to have a poker night on Friday because I've never been to one of their games. Well we were going have everyone sleepover afterward, even the girls. You know, boys upstairs and girls downstairs, but Dallas' room is downstairs and he said that he gets his bed and that he needs a bedbuddy because he doesn"t feel like being alone. Well he pick me to be his bedbuddy.lol.

But so now I'm grounded, he knows I like him, and apparentlly likes me too, but doesn"t know what to do about it. So I'm going to try and talk my mom into letting me go and say that I'm sleeping over at someone elses house, but that is going to take alot. Wish me luck.

Q: I'm 15/f... There is this guy that i have been "talking" to (Grant) for about 2 months and he keeps telling everyone that he's going to ask me out but never does it. And then there is this guy in my Biology class (Todd) that is totally cute and nice and seems pretty interrested in me (ex. always walks me to lunch, always telling the teacher he is helping me just so he can talk to me, always making excuses to go and sit with my study group (all boys and me)) so should i just give up on Grant and move to Todd? please help...

Alix

Q: Theres a man who is married that me and my best friend are friends with and I feel he has been acting inappropriatley with us. He winks at me when his wife isnt looking and I've caught him staring at my chest. This one time he invited me and my other friend over when his wife was at work and he started offering us both wine. Then he said 'lets play strip poker". We both looked shocked at him and he started laughing and said he was joking but the fact that he said it made me a little uncomfortable. I also found out that he confides in my other friend about his marriage and all his problems with his wife. According to my friend he tells her that his wife is stupid and that he hates her kids.
Does anyone else think this is strange behavior for a married man?

Q: Hey Advicenators! (;

I usually hate giving advice to questions like these, but I really need to know if what I'm doing is right. Basically, I have a boyfriend, and we've been dating for a month and a couple days. I really really like him a lot. He's been my best friend since I've moved here to Texas, and we just thought we should start being boyfriend / girlfriend. His name is Kevin.

Back in Pennsylvania, I had this best friend called Charles. We had been best friends since 2nd grade. But, we became REALLY close before I left PA because we knew that it'd be super heartbreaking for the both of us, since we wouldn't be together anymore.

I was completely sad because I knew that Charles didn't believe in long distance relationships. I knew I'd have to wait for him.

But then he found a girlfriend like a month after I left. I don't know her but I know that he has a girl. I was so pissed off about this because I thought he was "in love" with me. But obviously not. Then I met Kevin, like 2 months after I moved here.

Somehow he found out that I'm making Kevin a gift for Xmas, "100 reasons why I like you.." lol i'm pretty sure everyone knows about that. Then tonight, Charles IMed me and said, "Tell me 100 reasons why you love me.." & I'm like I'm not going to do that because it's unfair to Kevin, even if he never finds out about this conversation, I still think it's unfair to talk about US behind his back. He shouldn't even feel that way anyways because he has a girlfriend, right? Now he said he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. And he's never said that to me before.

I'm not going to be upset about this, because it isn't my fault, right? I just need other peoples' perspectives on this.

Thanks for any help.
NaImEE ♥

Q: Hi again!

Thanks for that helpful advice! I just wanted to share with you that the day before thanksgiving we hugged each other and he kissed me on the forehead. The feeling was so good that I didn't want to let of go him. I could hug him the whole night if I could.

Anyway, I give him chocolates and candies once in a while to let him know I like him. Will that help too? So what other things should I specifically do to let him know that I'm interested in him. The movie idea was good, but what else can I do?

Thanks a lot!

Q: Hi!

I'm a 23 year old woman who is really confused about this guy (he's 25 years old) that I really like at work. I started working for this company during the first quarter of this year. This guy was already working at that time when I started working.

The first few months where pretty normal for both of us. We just treated each other as co-workers. But at that time I always thought that something special could happen between the both of us. I could say, I was already pretty much attracted at him at that time. Then he left for a month to go on vacation.

After he came back from vacation, he was really pre-occupied with a lot of things. To the point that we ended up not talking for like a week or two unless it was something related to work. Besides that no personal chats/conversations or whatsoever was involved.

After a couple of months, our relationship started to pick up. He started to email me at work even though we were just one cubicle apart. He also started to call me on my workphone just to ask me to accompany him and assist him with his task. He's been hanging around me a lot lately. He has asked me on a group date a couple of times this month. He even wants me to hang out in his cubicle more often compared before.

This guy keeps asking me about bands and love songs and ended up singing a love song beside me. He let me borrowed his cd with mostly love songs in it. He smells my perfume, notices my clothing and my shoes (by the way we both like the same line of clothing and said he wanted to buy the same kind of shoes that I have). He frequently calls my name and says it a couple of times. He even has a pet name for me.

I don't know, my instinct tells me that he likes me. But I don't want to assume and rush into conclusions because I might just end up being hurt and disappointed.

I am really confused. Does he like me romantically or does he only treat me as his work buddy? Or maybe he just enjoys my company? I think I'm really starting to fall for him. Can you please help me... Do I just wait for him to tell me he likes me? What if he doesn't? What should I do? Please advice!

Thanks!

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