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when is it the right time to have sex? like what age is it okay to lose your virginity? what's the avg age when people lse their virginity and would it be better to lose your virginity with another virgin or a more experienced person?
better to do it with a more experienced but make sure if to ware a condom. There is a benefit of having sex with a virgin you can do it without a condom if your on the pill..It would be smart to be on the pill...even if you use condoms. Theres no avergae age and even if there wasy ou shouldnt use teh avergae age for your choices. You do it when your ready. the rest is different for certain ppl.
yesterday a peson i no... kinda a friend more of just some 1 i get along with.. told me that my boyfirend is cheating on me with his ex girlfriend. but i dont know if i should believe him because my boyfriend is always telling me that he loves me and thhat he doesnt want me to ever leave him.
my boyfriend and his ex are still good mates and hang around with eachother quite alot. and they are both very flirty people. i know i should talk to him about it but im scared that im gona get the reply i dont want.
later today me and my boyfriend are goin on holiday with my family (only camping) for the weekend. when should i speak to him about everything. becase i want to be able to talk to him when no one else is around. also what do i say?
some one please help me figure out what to do. i dont want to lose him because i love him so much and im very happy with him.
any advise would be brilliant.
thank you.
xXxXx
Dont plan when you will do it before hand. Your spendin a weeekend there. There is bound to be a time when you two will be alone then do it. i dont no how to make this basic so ill just tell you how i would say it and you can take what you like from it :)
"I trust you and i love you very much so whatever answer you give i would rateher hear the truth then have you hide anything from me. I have heard from someone i know and dont ask his name because i really dont want drama over this. He said that you were cheating on me. I feel akward about asking you if its true or not but i know you can understand that i do need to ask."
IF he said yes id ask if it was one time thing and if he regrets it...If he said it happended numerous times i would tell him that id like to go back with everyone else and from now on be friendsand thats at the most. If he says it has happend once and he regrets it id tell him im very hurt and im not sure where i want this relationship heading anymore so i will need time to think. If he says he doesnt regret it say you understand that obviously the relationship is over but youd rather he had told you this before he went and did anything.
If he said No..Then say im sorry baby but i had to ask i no you undertsand
ANY OUTCOME MAKE SURE YOU TELL HIM FOR THE REMAINDER OF THE VACTION YOU INTEND ON ACTING FRIENDLY AT THE LEAST SO THAT YOU AVOID ANY AKWARD SITUATIONS WITH TEH RENTS
Well, the other day I find out that my gf kristin has been cheating on me. So, I broke up with her n' went into my depressin' thing trying to forget about what happend. Then, yesterday I hang out with Maia and her cuz. Maia has had the BIGGET crush on me for the longest time, and as things turned out. We actually made out a cupple times. N' I met her cuz for the frist time that day and I started to really like her too. Maia said that she liked me also, and that she'd be happy if I dated either one of them. So that made me happy because I kinda have my pick ya know? But I get back home n' kristin's friend tells me that she hates the guy she cheated on me with. And before I went to bed she said in this nice calm "everything is going to be alright" type voice that we should talk in person (i dont get to see her that offten because of her parents) if we wanna still be together so... What should I do Advicenators? (Sorry that it's a bit long)
ha ive seen longer. I know its hard and you may think your girlfriend doesnt deserve to explain. However i do think that you should be the bigger person and agree to let her explain then decide if you want to continue the relationship. The two girls maia and her cousin seem to really like you and honestly it wouldnt be fair to lead them on since your hurt and dont know what you want. It would be nice of you to wait a bit (a week) and get you head straight...A week after you decide where kristin and your relationship is going. if your unsure of what you want be upfront and say this to maia and her cousin she will respect you for it. Also when you know you want a relationship (or think you do) you should tell the girl that you have gotten out of a nasty brake up.
HOPE I HELPED! BEST OF LUCK
ok i know this is bad but my bf is 20 and im 13 but im vietnamese and i went over there and thats where i met him apparently age doesnt matter over there but now im back here and he lives over there which sucks but every1 says hes using me but he says he wants to marry me when im 18 which im not sure about yet since im just 13 but i dont know what to believe or what to do about the distance i can only see him once a year and i can only talk to him like once a month i dont know what to do should i keep going out w/ him? and i dont know if hes using me or not but i love him alot ahh im soo confused help!
let me blunt..using you maybe not, but honestly do you want to wait five years..never date guys around where you live not experience the dances and kissing after school...Hes 20 and your 13..7 year difference so now think about college i hope you will decide to go and when you do. Do you want to have on your 3rd year of college a 30 yearold come to your dorm room. Im 16 and ive dated older as well..Ive dated an 18 yearold for a year when i was 14 to 15 so 4 years difference. my first kiss was with a 17 yearold when i was 13. So its not like i cant understand i udnerstand theres no difference really. The age thing is only a minor part of why i say you should dump him. there are many great guys out there some even your age and there are benifits to dating your age. Im sorry i hope i wasnt to blunt. :) always ask if you want mroe advice...Ive lived every relationship possible
13/f ok so im 5'6" but im slim and most of the guys in my grade are shorter than me or at least a little short. My height at the most. Would they not want to go out with me or kiss me if im that tall?
A easy way to solve this is to date older....Honestly a guy who is smart wont care but alot of guys do. Dont worry your very fortunate im envious ive always been short 5'3" and im 16. You could also wait these guys will have a growth spurt very soon. so cheer up..
My boyfriend smokes weed and it really bothers me. I know it's HIS life and I shouldn't tell him what to do, but I don't want him to mess up his life. I know people say ciggs are worse then weed, but weed can still give you cancer. I don't want him to die I just want him to STOP doing drugs so I don't always have to worry about him. What can I say and do to help him stop smoking weed?
i just love these types of questions...im in the same circumastances only difference is that i did something about it. Alot of people in my town do drugs and i would be lying if i sed i never tried it but the difference is i dont DO em i just tried. My boyfriend did weed and i told him that i dont want to see him high. Its juts it means less when you kiss i want him to be smarter then that and so he doesnt do drugs before or when hes with me. The effect of this is that he stoped doing it as much and now that he knows it botehr me he hardly does it. The rest isnt really a girlfriends control. I suggest you tell him it botehrs you and see how he reacts. If you want further advice just ask.
I am a 14 year old girl, and up until about a week ago I never had a boyfriend, had never been kissed or anything. But last summer I knew a boy from camp, and I liked him then, but I didn't see him again till this summer at the same camp, when he said we should hang out. Soon enough he asked me out, I said yes, and this was all before we actually hung out since camp. He invited me over, his friend was there and I brought a friend of my own. But before I went he put me on the phone with his friend, and his friend asked me if I wanted him to be the first guy I made out with? I said sure we'll see how it goes I guess. And then pretty soon he just took me inside and we made out... but like a lot... it was kind of ridiculous that we didn't even really talk much. And a couple times he did it in front of my friend and his friend which bothered me. There was one time though he kind of uh tried to touch my chest so I just kind of backed away, he asked me if it was too fast, I said yea and he said it's cool and stopped. Then he tried again later, I didn't really know how to stop him but I tried and he stopped after a little. A while after I left, he texted me and said he had fun and asked if I did. I said yea but asked if we could take it a little slower. He said yea no problem my bad, and that he was also trying to show up his friend. That's probably not good even if he was telling the truth. I feel like I should give him another chance... cause I really do like him. But I don't think he likes me - I mean he's telling me he loves me but I know he definitely doesn't, he doesn't even know me that well. He says I'm hot and I think that's the only thing that matters to him, but at the same time I feel like there had to be a reason that I waited a year for this guy and then it turns out that he asks me out. I honestly don't even know how I feel about it... I think I should go see him again, but probably with more people this time, and see how it goes from there. I feel really bad about myself though, how fast that went... I've been upset the past few days and I lost my appetite almost completely. What am I going to do?
~Alright i hope your right the love part he may not know hes lying about...some guys relle believe their inlove but our confused of what it is, He might be using the whole friend as an excuse liek he realized you wernt responding so he gave an excuse..Id advise you to only give him one more chance...and no more then that :)~
He was trying to show up his friend...Im sorry but you obviously waited a year under false pretences. You seem liek a smart agirl and i bet you find something wrong with that statement as well. Making out isnt bad but for him to try and see how far he can go with you is. You seem liek a pretty girl why not get a guy who doesnt think of you as an oppurtunity to show up his friends. My first makeout wanst so great either but at least he respected where i wanted to go from the makeout. If he doesnt respect you enough to stop where you say so then he isnt a good enough. Youll meet anotehr guy with the great qualitys he has but also without those bad ones. My advice one more chance and try not with alot ppl itd be smart to put yourself in the same circumstances so you can see if he can actually control his behavior if he cant screw him you can do better!
i've been having dreams about this boy. he's not a stranger to me, but he's not a good friend either. the last time i saw him was sunday, july 30th at a party. i would say that i'm attractive to him, but not in a crush kind of way. that night, i had a dream about him. it was about me and him kissing in my room. i thought that i dreamt that because i love seeing him and that, like i said, am attractive to him. then, two days after that, august 1st, i had another dream about him. this was about us seeing each other in a store, i hugged him, he asked me out, then i gave him a peck in the cheek. it was more detailed, but i don't really wanna make it too detailed. i told my good friend about this, and she thought that it was weird that i was having dreams about him and that maybe i'm starting to like him. well, since sunday, i've been paying attention to most things that makes me think of him. i think the hug from sunday gave me this feeling. before i left the party, we hugged. it felt really good, and i wanted to keep holding on to him. since then, all this has been happening. i still don't think i have a crush on him, but it seems like i do. i think maybe it's just beginning? he's really cute, with dimples to die for! he's funny, and he's pretty smart. everything i would want. i don't know if i'm starting to like him, but if i am, i don't wanna get too attached, because i don't think i'm his "type", although i'm not so sure. but it just doesn't seem like something he would do - ask me out.
i was wondering what you think about it? what should i do and stuff?
Alot of people believe dreams have deeper meanings. Im one of thsoe people. I have a dream book and it says that the person you kiss means more to you then you know in reality. basically you like him. If you dont think hes the type to ask you out..wait it out and maybe instead of asking him out ask to hang out one day.. If you hang out with him one on one it will help you determine how you feel and where you want this relationship to go :)
I've been sexually active for 2 years. I'm 16 right now and with this amazing guy. We had unprotected sex just a few nights ago, and protected sex a few times before that. It's the time of the month where I should be getting my period, but I'm 2 days late. I was wondering if I should go ahead and get a pregnancy test, or wait another week. my period has been regular for almost 2 years now.
If so, what type of test should i get? One of my friends said get an E.P.T. for the best accuracy. Someone please help.. Thanks
E.P.T definitly but two days is not late enough you should wait a week then see. Talk to me if you find out you are cause ive been in your shoes before and definitly have some advice on that as well
i asked the ? about him not sayin gi was the "hottest". if i tell him it makes me feel like crap he will just be like i know you don't thikn IM the hottest GUY. and stuff like that. and if i say yes i do then he will just be like, then i think you are too. or something. or he'll be like why do you care so much about it like you
but you do care.. Look you cant be hiding your feeling from your bf if he loved you youd be the prettiest girl he could see..Doesnt mean your the hottest girl in the world but in his eyes you should be. You dont know what he will say if you dont say it but if it doesnt botehr you too much leave the issue alone
Im glad you sent a message to me because if theres any further response needed im always here to give it
what is the best way and nicest way to break up wit ur boyfriend.i dont want any answers like there is no nice way i know that but i dont want him to hate me.he is way to clingy and i cant handle him geting mad when i just talk to another guy and im not flirting with him or anything just talking.he is raceist and i just cant take it anymore.i dont want him to hate me though.
thanxxx
There is a nice way. Tell him you do care about him but that you care about him enough to not be in a realitionship when your no longer sure what you want. Works for me
ok i have a little problem. i have been only in long term serious relationships before and am now entering a new relationship. in the past, my boyfriends have treated me very well. i am used to really romantic guys that tell me i am the most beautiful girl in the world, etc, etc. everything a girl wants to hear. now my new bf is great! i like him a lot but he isn't the same in that he doesn't say things like that. in fact i know he doesn't think i'm the "hottest girl" in school bc he has made comments about stuff like that. he says he doesn't think he would like them and stuff like that... meaning that he doesn't think i'm one of them. i know that it shouldn't matter but don't most boyfriends that really like their gfs consider them to be the most attractive? that's my experience and my friend's experience. beauty in the eye of the beholder. help!
yes and its my experience too. A boyfriend should find you goregous..He shouldnt even tell you how attractive otehr girls. When you care about someone your careful to not want to make them feel an ounce of pain. I would never tell my boyfriend that i dont conisder him the hottest guy i dont think you would either if you care about someone you would know that wouldnt make them feel good and you wouldnt want them to feel anything but. Tell him you really like him but it makes you feel like crap when he says your anything but the hottest. Its the truth isnt it?
me and my boyfriend have been going out for six months now, and im always jealous because he has alot of girl friends, and i mean i think its not jealousy but its not trusting him, i have no reason why i dont trust him because he is faithful and i need advice on how to trust him and maybe be more sicure about what he does and not care as much. thanx
trust is earned...make sure to tel lhim how you feel tell him you love him so much that you tend to get jealouse because you know otehr girls must realize hwo great he is and throw themelves at him. Thats what i do with my bf. You have to be always honest because if he doesnt know how you feel then he cant really help you with anything. If he knows your jealouse then he will be careful to make you feel more secure with the relationship.
my friend was hooking up with this older guy that got out of a year relationship about a week before they started hooking up.. they were stable for about 3 weeks.. they would go out alot.. sumtimes wouldnt even make out... he would pik her up ( shes 16 going to 11th ggrade, and hes 16 going to 12th) and he would pik her up in his car and they would spend alot of time together. he gave her his jacket.. i gues to keep and she gave him her tiffany's ring (expensive ring) but somthing happened to him and her relationship. he just became an ass.. one saturaday nite passed and he hooked up with another girl.. then he told my friend "you no i dont want a gf rite now rite?" (but she didint find out about the hook up from him).. we went to another party last nite but he didnt even say hi to her.. hes just been such an ass to her.. i dont even no how this relationship went downhill all of a sudden.. my friend really wants her ring back but she doesnt know how to get it.. i keep telling her to just call him ffrom a blocked number and ask him to drop it off at her house.. or tell him that shell come ppik it u p.. but i dont no wat she is afraid of.. what should she do!! she needs her 200 dollar ring bak!!
Tell her to call him and not to be afriad of what he thinks after how hes being treated her what he thinks shouldnt mean much to her anymore. tell her to say "I have your jacket ill give it back and you have my ring so Give it back" I know it will be akward but teol her she has to do it.. maybe you could do it for her..
I need help, really bad.
I lied to my boyfriend about something really big, not going to get into details, it's a VERY long story! He just called me & told me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me right now, because he just can't handle it.
& I have absolutely no idea what to say or do to make everything better. I can't handle thinking what it would be like without him, it's just WAY too much for me.
So, PLEASE. If you were in my position, what would you do?
Thanks in advance.
honestly it would help knowin the story but all you can do is wait and keep telling him how much he means to you theres nothing else to do...
my best friend likes this guy she is almsot 16 in 11th grade and the same with this guy.
but this boy has a gf..
my freind is not an idiot and she knows that he has a gf so she knows she will not make the move on him, but the thing is.. he flirts with her alot. he IMs her once in a while and asks her wat shes doing the next day and she seys she doesnt no and asks him the question bak, but then he seys "nothing" and he signs off..
another time he IMed her and said "call me sometime, you know it wont kill you"
my friend has her mind made up.. she knows that shes not going to call him bc he has a gf.
he signs off after he says what he wants to say, liek right after he gets out wat he wants to say, and she doesnt no wat to do ? what does this mean? he likes her rite??
honestly hes trying to see what otehr options he has i really dont think your friend means much otherwise hed be calling her. he just wants to seem like hot shit and have girls hitting his cell up. dont let your friend be a fool tell her that even if he did get with her (honestly i dont think he has any urge to) that this is the type of bf she would have. Teh type that even with her as his gf would be flirting with otehr girls. Hes a wannabe pimp type is what it seems to me always wants to leave the girls wondering and always wants to see what girls he could get if he was single.
I am 16 almost 17 in a few months ( female) and i met this guy bryan at a party and we started going out together and meeting up with eachother and sum frends every saturday night. he doesnt go to my school so we would basically spend every sat. nite together. we began to get pretty close and we kissed.. then hooked up.. but the problem is. .he is one year and a few months younger than me.. it doesnt really bother me.. but he is a grade younger than me too. that is mainly the problem.. i defiantely would consider making this a more serious relationship except that he is in a grade younger then me.. i am going to 11th grade and he is going to 10th. it seems like such a big defference bc wen we used to "date" he was still in 9th grade adn i was in tenth. 9th grade seems sooo young ..the problem is not that he is immature or anything.. bc he defiantely is not.. if anything he may know more about a long term relationship than me. I went out with my other bf for 6 months and he had a gf for about 2 yrs on and off.. but more on.. .. they broke up about 2 months before me and him startted talking.. what i was mainly worried about was that people would find out weve been seeing eachother and think that we are going out and that is mainly wats bothering me. he is younger than me and it makes me look bad.. i dont want that reputatiion:"that i go for younger guys" and i no that people always say that i shouldnt care wat other people think, but the reality is that you should.. bc that is wat matters.. its like going around sleeping with guys not caring wat people will say about you.. like if they would say ur a slutt or a whore.. but the truth is that you do have to care wat other ppl think bc if you dont then you will fuck up your reputation and i dont want to do that. we are currently not talking or communicating anymore but i do no this. he is now with his ex gf.. they are bak together but i honestly dont understand why.. like i dont.. she looks like she doesnt shower.. and i gues shes just like somone he nos he can go bak to.. she seriosuly is obssessed with him and even wen they werent together she'd always be hinting things like.. - i want to be wih you- she'd basically be all up on him and i thikn she is his comfort and thats why he went bak to her.. they really probably had sumtihng.. 2yrs.. like damn, i totally understand wow.. but thats not what really bothers me.. i diidnt really like him thattt much to like cry over him bc i was "with him" for like 2 months and thats bc i wanted to have sombody.. and i realizedc i just wanted SOMEBODY.. even if it wasnt him,.. i just wanted somone..my question is .. if an opportunity to be with him or another younger guy than me comes along.. should i take it even if it may fuck up my rep? ( bc i really feel like he would have been such a good bf.. ) but i dno if hes worth my rep ( or if any guy is)
also,my other question is- how do i act around him if i see him one day
like we ended really weirdly... we jsut stopped ccalling eachother and that was the end of it. do i say hi to him? or wat? like if i run into him shoulkd i hugg him? how shuold i act?
Your rep is very important within highschool. I used to care about my rep just as much as you obviously do now. Then i saw other people who didnt care so much and how much happier they were. i had a very simmilar situation with this guy i used to date only i thought it would fuck up my rep because he was new to school and he wasnt exactly up to my popularity level but after we broke up he dated an older girl and became popular to. I guesse what im trying to say is even though its hard to stop worrying about you rep its definitly a must because although you rep will be altered you will be happier for it. Now how to deal with the ex fling is simple he meant something to you and he used to be a friend so if you see him act happy and have small chit chat a quick hug is always good shows that there are no hurt feelings. Make sure you dont hold on to him too long cuz then its just weird. Small chit chat would be like "How ya been? havnt hear from you in awhile we really should catch up sometime" when you say this you might not mean it but it sure does make you look like the bigger person. Also i bet you could get this guy back considering the girl hes with looks liek crap so if you want him dont be afraid to try lol...
I was at work yesterday at the college I go to and there was a high school recruitment thing going on. This girl and her friend asked me a question about the Ticketmaster we had and I gave them the number for it. When I found out they wanted tickets to a country concert, one of the girls said she hated country. When she said she like Pink Floyd and stuff, I jokingly said "Haha what's your number? J/K" Well a few minutes later, her friend gave it to me. This girl isn't that attractive and goes to a high school far away from the college I go to. I didn't know that at the time and asked her out for coffee. When I confronted her about the high school thing, she got all sad and shit and said you prolly won't talk to me again. I'm not that mean and I said we should still go for coffee. She will not stop text messaging me. I don't know how to politely tell her I don't want to do this anymore and to get her to leave me alone. I don't want to hurt feelings but this has to stop. Any little interest I may have had in getting to know this girl has quickly evaporated. How do I tell her to buzz off?
You have to take her feelings into consideration obviously you have left an impression on this girl....so i would tell her that since your in college now you dont have much time to text and hwat not...say you will text her when you have time to get together. that way your not hurting her feeling but you iwll get the texting to stop
Hey .. thanx if you help me out! me and my b/f are ready to go to the next step but i have alot of discharge and i dont knwo if thats normal and if thats what he will be expecting! plz help! thanx!!!
perfectly normal...
So I have a problem ... There's this girl whom i've been in love with for over 3 years but i've never gotten a chance to be with her. Background:
I used to work at a department store years ago when i first met her and sparks absolutely flew and we went out to dinner and we talked for a very long time. She told me things that she's never told anyone. (She advised me of this) but we never actually got together because of conflicting schedules then i graduated high school and went traveling for over 2 years all the while I just thought of her and my feelings grew stronger! I couldnt stop thinking of her. (and I still cant!) So when I came back I took up the guitar and drums again and I've even wrote songs about her! I went to try and find her but she had moved and I was unable to locate her! Then one day I went to apply for my current job and there she was! I saw her! She was working in a little fashion boutique next to the one where I was going to work! I began to shake and I instantly thought of the songs I had wrote and all the time that had passed and my feelings for her had only became stronger. So I went up to her and when our eyes met we gave each other a huge hug and i cant describe it ... it is ... undescribable so we talked and sadly she has a boyfriend but wants to meet up and hang out! I desperately want this chance so i get her # and she gets mine I call her and we go out to dinner we go into a deep conversation and she tells me i look really great and i tell her of my nights that i wasnt able to sleep b/c i was thinking about her ... After that dinner we lost contact again and I try to call her but she doesnt have v/m I see her again last night and we talk a little but she is preoccupied and i try to see whats up and she wont tell me I then tell her that i'm leaving again and she is sad ... I also tell her i've tried to call and she is shocked she doesnt think I have been ... I then tell her I leave in three weeks for indonesia for an unspecified amount of time and she says that we seriously need to hang out before I go ... What should I do ... ANd should I tell her the extent of my feelings ... that I feel she is my "Only One" ?
Its important you tell her how you feel before you go, You cant be keeping your feeling a secret. Give her some of the lyrics and before you leave tell her youll call her...She has a boyfriend so its important you respect that and give her time to think about this. If she does love you as your love her she will have to brake her boyfriends heart and she must have a strong relationship with him. This is a big decision you give to her. You going away works to your benifit your able to give her teh time she needs.
Hope all works well