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dating younger boy
I am 16 almost 17 in a few months ( female) and i met this guy bryan at a party and we started going out together and meeting up with eachother and sum frends every saturday night. he doesnt go to my school so we would basically spend every sat. nite together. we began to get pretty close and we kissed.. then hooked up.. but the problem is. .he is one year and a few months younger than me.. it doesnt really bother me.. but he is a grade younger than me too. that is mainly the problem.. i defiantely would consider making this a more serious relationship except that he is in a grade younger then me.. i am going to 11th grade and he is going to 10th. it seems like such a big defference bc wen we used to "date" he was still in 9th grade adn i was in tenth. 9th grade seems sooo young ..the problem is not that he is immature or anything.. bc he defiantely is not.. if anything he may know more about a long term relationship than me. I went out with my other bf for 6 months and he had a gf for about 2 yrs on and off.. but more on.. .. they broke up about 2 months before me and him startted talking.. what i was mainly worried about was that people would find out weve been seeing eachother and think that we are going out and that is mainly wats bothering me. he is younger than me and it makes me look bad.. i dont want that reputatiion:"that i go for younger guys" and i no that people always say that i shouldnt care wat other people think, but the reality is that you should.. bc that is wat matters.. its like going around sleeping with guys not caring wat people will say about you.. like if they would say ur a slutt or a whore.. but the truth is that you do have to care wat other ppl think bc if you dont then you will fuck up your reputation and i dont want to do that. we are currently not talking or communicating anymore but i do no this. he is now with his ex gf.. they are bak together but i honestly dont understand why.. like i dont.. she looks like she doesnt shower.. and i gues shes just like somone he nos he can go bak to.. she seriosuly is obssessed with him and even wen they werent together she'd always be hinting things like.. - i want to be wih you- she'd basically be all up on him and i thikn she is his comfort and thats why he went bak to her.. they really probably had sumtihng.. 2yrs.. like damn, i totally understand wow.. but thats not what really bothers me.. i diidnt really like him thattt much to like cry over him bc i was "with him" for like 2 months and thats bc i wanted to have sombody.. and i realizedc i just wanted SOMEBODY.. even if it wasnt him,.. i just wanted somone..my question is .. if an opportunity to be with him or another younger guy than me comes along.. should i take it even if it may fuck up my rep? ( bc i really feel like he would have been such a good bf.. ) but i dno if hes worth my rep ( or if any guy is)
also,my other question is- how do i act around him if i see him one day
like we ended really weirdly... we jsut stopped ccalling eachother and that was the end of it. do i say hi to him? or wat? like if i run into him shoulkd i hugg him? how shuold i act?
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Allow me to point out a few things before I answer your question:
You seem to be saying that...
(1) you were basically ashamed of dating this guy, because he was too young,
(2) you didn't want other people to know about your relationship,
(3) you thought he would give you a bad reputation,
(4) people would assume you were a slut for dating him,
(5) you didn't like him enough to get all that upset over his leaving,
(6) you didn't much care whether you were with him, as long as you were with SOMEBODY.
Of COURSE he's going to stop calling you! Guys don't like to date girls who are ashamed of them and who care more about their reputation than their relationships. I'm guessing that the reason why he went back to his former girlfriend is because he would rather be around someone who values him, is glad to be with him, and doesn't care who knows it.
That being the case, here's how you should react when you see him: Apologize for being so self-centered, and hope he forgives you. But don't get your hopes up about being his girlfriend again.
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You said that what other people think is really important, and truly it's not. You have 2 years left of high school, after that, you won't see half these people anymore so who cares what they think. As long as they don't hate you, you're fine. There's nothing wrong with dating younger guys, lets just say that your soulmate is younger than you, are you just going to let it pass you by because of what others might be saying about you. If you worry too much what others think about you, you are NEVER going to do anything that you want to do, because you'll worry too much, and really it's a waste of time. Do what you want without worrying what others think, it'll make life more enjoyable.
When you bump into him again, just casually start speaking to him. "Hey, how are you?"...those kind of questions. I don't think you should hug him, but act as if nothing major happened between you two...it'll make it less awkward.
Much Luck.
-Teacup
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Your rep is very important within highschool. I used to care about my rep just as much as you obviously do now. Then i saw other people who didnt care so much and how much happier they were. i had a very simmilar situation with this guy i used to date only i thought it would fuck up my rep because he was new to school and he wasnt exactly up to my popularity level but after we broke up he dated an older girl and became popular to. I guesse what im trying to say is even though its hard to stop worrying about you rep its definitly a must because although you rep will be altered you will be happier for it. Now how to deal with the ex fling is simple he meant something to you and he used to be a friend so if you see him act happy and have small chit chat a quick hug is always good shows that there are no hurt feelings. Make sure you dont hold on to him too long cuz then its just weird. Small chit chat would be like "How ya been? havnt hear from you in awhile we really should catch up sometime" when you say this you might not mean it but it sure does make you look like the bigger person. Also i bet you could get this guy back considering the girl hes with looks liek crap so if you want him dont be afraid to try lol...
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im from the ghetto south central and im just gonna say it ok!
FUCK reputation!u can alwaiis build it back up and it's not like your going to be in school forever people are going to forgett.....but love only comes once in a lifetime and when you find it nor age...grade...or wut people think should matter at all!hold on to it and screw wut others think!
to your other question i would say that probably a nice hi would be good and if he hugs you well hug him back but remember you don't do it because as you said he has a girlfriend no matter how unatractive you think she maybe lol
just be nice and friendly but don't kiss ass!if you know wut i mean..=]-
kk then hope i helped and if not oops ma bad for wasting your time=[
mucho luv~~~
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