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Ok so, I've been dating my brother's friend Mike who lives in a diff. state for almost 3 months now, and we didn't tell my brother or my parents. But, my parent's found my Myspace and everything about Mike in it. They flipped out and my brother found out and got really mad. And if this one just a random relationship I would have just ended it .. but I really do love him, and I cannot live without him. I'm pretty sure I should just stay with him. but I don't know. so could you help?!? =) (link)
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Well, I think your parents and your brother just got really shocked.. I mean, they didn't know about it, and suddenly it got on their faces at once.
Just try to give yourself and your boyfriend some space... and for your parents and brother too. Maybe your brother is mad because neither one of you and your bf told him anything about your relationship... so now calm down and relax... I know how it feels... It feels horrible and I can't lie about it.
Tell your parents that you really like this guy. And tell them that you will never let anything like this to happen again, that will lighten their feelings up a bit...
I wish I've helped... I really hope I have...
Wish you always the best luck.
Hope you won't have to leave him... you have your own right to be with someone that you love...
Sincerely yours,
Vin
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i know not another stupid boyfroend prob. but sorry it is. well you see my boyfriend is going to see his dad and he is leaving june 2. and i am really upset about that he came over today and asked if i we should take a break while he's gone. i told him he saying that so he can get laid while he's gone without feeling gulit.but thank god as soon as i said that my friend interupted so advice plez what should i do. (link)
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Well, sometimes, when you love someone, you need to let him go. I think maybe he really needs to have his own time with his dad... I mean, they've been away for long... He just doesn't want to feel sad about leaving you and it will make him think about you even more... He will surely miss you, but he doesn't really want you to wait on him either...
^_^ You really don't want him to leave you.. I can see that... but just for once, if you think that will make him happy, why not give it a try? He doesn't want to leave you either...
I hope I've helped... I really hope I have
Don't worry, everything will be alright.
Wish you always the best luck...
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What should i do I hate being single? (link)
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Well, then get a mate for yourself. Yes, it is boring to be a single... ^_^ So if you want to over it, just get a mate and start going out. Maybe you should ask someone who is close to you out.
I hope I've helped. I really hope I have
Wish you the best luck. Good luck!
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Okay, well. The boyfriend I have now, he picked me (as in, he asked me out) and well the first times a said no and maybe but then after a while a said yes.
I started liking him. But after a while, I realized he's not perfect. And sometimes I'm feeling great about being with him, and sometimes i'm not. I'm having my doubts.
And I think I want someone else, but i don't know. Cause what if there really isn't anyone better? and he doesn't get back with me. helpp? (link)
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Well, at least you have feelings for him...
You are struggling whether you really like him or not... and whether he is the right guy or not...
Now, one thing you have to check first... Can you see yourself with him together? What do you see?
There is a reason that you don't even know about... something that is holding you back slowly... Just follow what you think is right..
No one is perfect... including yourself... that's why you're doubting your relationship with him...
Don't think about it too much... Relax, and take a deep breath...
I hope I've helped... I really hope I have
Wish you always the best luck
Hope you're gonna find out soon! I know you will
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Okay so there is this girl at my high school and i guess she started likin' the guy i happen to talk to and kinda sorta love. Well she is going around saying they 'talk' .. but here is the problem i asked him what was goin on with them. he says 'wtf' Don't worry about that. i don't know what do .. i just want to know how to ask him about her without him being mad. and if i should move on?
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It seems to me that he knows about your feelings toward him. He says,"Don't worry about that." Meaning that you don't have to think about it too much, because he's not interested in her. So, don't be sad or mad, let's all be glad (wow, that rhymes. ^_^) Well, everything will be alright... Just breath and relax...
He obviously likes you and not that girl, so it's okay. That girl is just trying to get his attention, which is not working very well... Yet you do have his attention. So just like what he said, Do not worry.
I think since he knows your feelings, he will not want you to know about what that girl has been telling him or asking him about, he doesn't want you to think about it too much, but actually, by not telling you, you're worried.
It's okay... everything will be alright..
I hope I've helped. Wish you the very best luck!
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ok well there's like this guy. and i liked him ever since we met like bcz at first he liked this one girl but then he liked me and like we've been in lOVE for 2 years? i dont rle know but ok he started moving on after i broke up with him. and i NEVER got over him and i have been trying so harrd but i dont know what to do bcz some of my other friends like him too. and i dont wanna tell people i like him bcz im trying to get over him. so any advice?
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Oh sweetie... it's okay... You'll get over him someday... Just wait, you can't get over someone only in few days when you've loved him for over two years... It really is okay. Just do what your heart tells you to. I've been through your situation too... well, at least your boyfriend didn't go out with other girl in front of your eyes and told you to get lost, or back to someone who cared about you... it was painful...
But now I can smile and be happy, even though I still can never get over it... I mean, I never get over it, it's just hard.
When I was trying to get over him, it took me months, and I couldn't stop crying. But well, someone who cared about me came and told me that he would stay by my side no matter what.
Well, all you need is a little time. And that time will come to you by itself. Don't think about it too much if it will hurt you... just be strong and invicible. If he can move on, why can't you. Don't always expect too much from something, because they can be nothing. But I'm sure you'll stay strong. I can tell because you keep trying no matter what. It takes a very strong and brave heart to do that... (sadly, I don't have that...) So, it's okay, everything will be alright... I know it will.
Hope I've helped. I really hope I have.
Wish you the very best luck. Good luck.
Lots of love
-Vin
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Ok, so there is this guy that I really like and he knows that I like him and about 5 or 6 months ago I asked him out and he said that he would think about it and he never gave me an answer. Recently he told his friends that i was ugly and he would never go out with me. So now I want to get over him. How can I do that? (link)
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Oooow...... Honey, it's okay... Don't be sad...
He has no respect for anyone!! How could he?!
It's okay... everything will be alright...
Do something fun, think of good things
Put your mind on something that will push him aside... Don't worry, you'll find another guy sooner or later...
Anyway, if you want revenge, just smile to him when you meet him and tell him that you have a crush on someone else... I wonder what he will do... hm... *evil smirk* (just kidding, I'm no evil at all)
Well, just do what you think you should.
Hope you'll feel better... I hope I've helped.
Wish you the very best luck.
Lots of love,
Vin
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my boyfriend(19) and I(18) have been together over 2 months and he suggested sleeping together this weekend. We're both virgins but we discussed contraception etc and i do feel ready for it but my university entrance exams are in two weeks and are the most important exams i will ever do. I think ill be too stressed to be able to enjoy it and id like to wait til after the exams. (a month or so) he says he doesnt mind and ive said id like to do other stuff with him but i still feel as if an innocence is gone from our relationship and its made me very depressed.I feel like the issue is hanging in the air and that sex is all that matters.How can I clear the air?please help,i cant study properly for exams! (link)
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Breath... relax... just calm down, everything will be alright... Well, since you can't get your mind out of it, then talk to him first. Just make it clear... It's just your feelings, it's okay... don't think about it too much... ^_^ Just study and be happy... (though I don't know how both can go together...)
You just feel gulty because you turn him down, but it's okay... Don't be stressed while you have to study...
I hope I've helped. I really hope I have.
Hope you'll feel better...
Wish you the best luck
Everything will be alright...
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ok so i broke up w/ my boyfriend a couple months ago and lately ive really been missing him and thinking ive made te biggest mistake of my life. were friends and i know he still loves me and would jump at the chance to be with me again because he tells me all the time. but for some reason im scared to tell him i still love him and want to get back together. it shouldnt scare me i know we would be happy and back together but something is restraining me from telling him how i feel. whats wrong w/ me? please help!! i really miss the way things were. thanks!! (link)
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It's okay... don't be scared... just go on and ask him out... you actually are scared to do that because you broke up with him, and you're afraid that something might happen... But don't think of those stuffs yet... Just walk on and do what you must do.
Everyone always feels guilty after breaking up with their mates... so it's okay, everything will be alright. Don't think of what you've done as the biggest mistake in your life, it will make you feel even sadder and more guilty.
He definitely is waiting for you. You're not really sure about this relationship, but just give it a try. ^_^ take him back.
I hope I've helped you... I really hope I have...
Wish you the best luck! Be strong, be invicible!!
*Go you!!!* Just go and do what you must.
Lots of love.
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Do you think it's necessary to know your partners past sexual experience? Would you want to know? Would it bother you? I learned from personal exp. never to ask, yet I found out how much experience my girlfriend has had accidently and when I confronted her about it she didn't deny it. Something changed with me when she admitted it. I feel really insecure about it now. I hate finding out. What would you do?? (link)
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Ask politely... (very... polite...play safe...) Well, if they do know better than anyone else, then talk to them and ask them. Sometimes, parents will appreciate us when we want them to help us in something... ^_^ So, just ask for help, which they will accept gladly, and then ask for it. If they're kinda shocked at the very first time, just smile and say, "Everyone needs to know what's good and what's bad..." Learning experience is not always nice and safe, sometimes it will hurt and others... *Anyway, if you still don't know, you can go to websites or ask me*
And if you hate finding out, then are you sure you're ready to find out?? I mean, if you're not, then don't try to be... It's okay to be scared...
I hope I've helped. I really hope I have.
Wish you and your girlfriend the best luck.
PS: Everything will be alright... relax...
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ok, so theres a guy and i really really really really like him, we've already dated once and i wanna get back together. I told him i liked him and he said he liked me to, he also said he sorta likes this other girl and she really likes him also. Its really hard because shes really cool and shes my friend
i dont want to make her mad at me or sad or w/e if i DO go out with him again, but i also really like him so i dont know if it matters whether she hates me at this point or not, besides i can't see her being like that. Some people say that hes going to ask me out again but he reluctant because im too shy. I think thats why he dumped me before, i dont want to blow it and i really really like the guy(obviously lol)
i know this is a weird question but does anyone have advice about my shyness, i'm not shy around my friends and he's one of them but ever since i found out he likes me, i get all nervous around him. Maybe its because i think hes judging me??? Or comparing me to the other girl???
PLEASE HELP OUT!!!!
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It's okay.... just breath and relax...
You know what, I think your shyness is the thing that draws him even closer to you... I mean, even though you're shy, he still likes you. Deep inside, he must likes your shyness...
He's not judging you! It's okay! Don't think of those stuffs... they're just going to make you even more nervous than ever! >.< Try to be more confident in relationship... Just think that no one is watching and you are free on your own... Just be yourself when you're with him... just be what you want to be...It will all be alright! ^_^ Just wait, be patient, he will ask you out sooner or later...
I hope I've helped... Wish you always the best luck! ^_^
PS: I don't think this is a weird question... I'm glad that you posted this question... nice to know you anyway. ^_^
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Drive a boy crazy right into asking you out? How do I do it (link)
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I really am sorry if I don't help you much... but I'll try my best...
Well, I don't know how he's like or how you're like... so I'm just guessing... if it's okay...
1) Show him that you have feelings for him
2) Be mysterious. It will seem to him that you like him, but he'll be unsure himself...
3) Spend more time with him
4) Be strong (actually it doesn't count, but it sounds good to me!^_^)
5) Draw him to know you better
6) Make him your very closest friend (If he is, then it's even easier)
7) Just be yourself! ^_^ (that's my favorite.)
I hope I've helped... I really hope I have.
Wish you always the best luck! Good luck!! (You go girl!! >.
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Ok so theres this guy who I really like, like extremely. Today in class we were doing these like dumb moves to prefixes but some were pretty cool. So one of them was like di and the word was dice so the move was blowing on YOUR OWN dice and hes like class clown so hes like can we have a lady blow on our dice and so then he his imagenary dice infront of me to blow on. Does this mean anything? Could it mean anything? What could it mean? && I asked him out a lil while ago, "recently" and he said no because he was extremely busy with baseball which is true cause he plays on two teams and thats 4 practices and 2 games a week. But he said I was a great girl. What does this mean? could it mean anything. Should I give up? RaTe hIgH aNd cOmMeNt!! (link)
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Breath and relax... Everything will be alright... (wow, I say that alot...) Well, first of all, I think he likes you... But like always, some sports things always get in the way... Just wait, he's not going to go out with anyone else anyway... Sports will keep him busy... But don't be sad... I think there's still a hope... And you like him to the extreme... I undertand that... I always believe in everything (that's kind of weird...but that's just me) I think it does mean something... so don't give up yet... there's still something waiting for you ahead... you don't know it yet, but it will come to you sooner or later... He likes you, but he doesn't have spare time for you... that's all. So, be strong!! Just think of happy things or do something to fill your time... just put those thoughts away and do something fun... it will make you feel better.
Hope I've helped. Wish you always the best luck...
Everything will be alright...^_^
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I am pretty much a tomboy at my school. I have been on all varsity sports teams since my freshmen year, so basically i am one of the guys. I have long hair like a girl, i look like a girl but most of my friends are boys.
Recently, i have been talking to this guy. He is soo nice and sweet and we have been talking a lot. We walk to class together, talk about track, ect. So, long story short, i have a major crush. The thing is, he doesnt even see me in that way at all and it just crushes me.
My freinds called him (without me knowing) and asked if he likes me and he said "i geuss i never even thought of her like that" So now i have been avoiding him becuase he probably thinks i am some sorta stalker and i'm afraid that it will be awkward. Any advice? (link)
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It's okay... breath... *let it out* Everything will be alright... It's just your feelings...
Well, he'll start to see you differently too, apparently... So I bet the two of you will act kind of weird around each other... or not, I never know... Well, don't avoid him.. just do what you usually do... I mean, he never thinks that you're a stalker... right?? Just be yourself... It will all be fine... I bet he's thinking about it too... It's not just you... It's him too... So don't worry...
I hope I've helped... Wish you the very best luck...
PS: Remember, just calm down and breath... it will all be alright!! ^_^
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There is this guy and im not sure if i like him.
Here's some reasons why i may and may not like him. I hadnt talked to him in a long time and when he called i got a little excited. On the other hand, i igored that phone call from him. When i'm not around him i wish he was with me but when i'm with him i don't like him as much. I got a little jealous when my friend asked him to sit by her in the car (dumb i know) but i didn't necessarily want him to be right next to me. What do you think? Do i just have problems?? haha im confused.
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Oh honey... you're still confused... Well, I don't think that you do have feelings for him... (I apologize if you think you do...) I think that you want his attention, but you don't want him to be your mate. It's just like this, a girl always needs some attention from at least a guy. That's what you need from him. It doesn't mean that you like him... You got a little jealous because deep inside you're afraid that he will turn to pay more minds to your friend. Trust me, I've been through this...and it will all be alright... You actually want him to like you, but you don't like him like that... That's just all... So breath and enjoy your life, it will all be good.
I hope I've helped... Wish you the best luck.
Even if you do like him, I hope you'll find out soon.
Good luck! ^_^
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What is the nicest way to break up with someone without hurting them too much? I preferr not in person though. Please Help (link)
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It's nicer to break up in person though... I'd say... just tell him/her that you can't go out with him/her anymore and tell him/her the reason... Ask him/her if s/he's okay with that and tell him/her you're sorry... At least it's less hurting than not saying those things... (I never was nice when I broke up with my boyfriends... next time, I'll be nicer...)
Hope I've helped... Wish you all the best luck...
Hope your mate won't feel bad... Good luck.
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i'm going to try and make this brief
by just stating facts first off.
-i am a sixteen year old girl
-i had this boyfriend for 6 months.
-we broke up because he said he was confused,
and was starting to have a change of feelings
for me.
it's been three months since the breakup.
we're still friends, we never really stopped.
lately i've been doing horrible in school,
so he offered to tutor me.
he came over last night and we went over homework,
but he would occasionally get unfocussed.
so i asked him what was wrong and he said
he just had alot of things on his mind.
so of course, i asked him what they were,
and he wouldnt tell me at first,
but eventually he said
"im starting to have feelings for you again,
and it's just so weird how this is the first
time we've hung out since the break up"
and from there we kindof locked eyes, and he
said he really missed kissing me, and he started
to cry. saying how much he misses me but he doesnt
want to give me the wrong idea if he kissed me
because he doesnt know what he wants. which is
why he wont even ask out this other girl. cause
he's confused.
[now mind you right now he's KINDOF with that other girl, theyre not dating, but supposadly
they like eachother and they kiss once in a
while and that kind of stuff, but theyve
been going downhill the past 2 weeks]
wo we kissed. but not just making out. he
would kiss my forhead and my nose and say
how im beautiful and all that. and i was
so happy because i thought maybe he wanted
to be with me again.
his mom called and we went to wait outside
while his mom drove to pick him up. and it was
pouring outside and it was dark. me and him
just stood there and he said "maybe we shouldnt
have done what we did, i dont want you to
expect me to ask you out right away becayse
i honestly dont know what i want."
and he started crying again, saying how he couldnt
bare to hurt me again. and all this stuff.
his mom came to get him, and he hugged me goodbye.
and later that night he called me and told me
that what we did was a mistake. and how he couldnt
see uss together again. but how he still has
feelings for me he's just afraid if we date
he'll lose feelings again.
so i dont know what to do. i love him so much.
i always have and i probabbly will for a long
time. im happy we got to hang out after so long.
and im happy i got to kiss him but i dont
know what to expect out of this.
please help me. im sorry this is long.
ill rate hi for sure.
thanks
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I hope I'm helping you...
If you love someone deeply, let him go if he can't be with you. But, if he really loves you, he will find his way back to you.
Be patient, that's what I want you to do.
Wait and see, we can't really expect things to come right away or for an answer to come right away as well. When you give all your heart for something you really care about and for, surely you'll know what you'll get.
I think he still doesn't understand his own feelings... he's so confused he can't even sleep, that's what I think. It's not you only who is confused, he is too, so just give him a little time to think. But I'm sure that he will find his way back to you if you're the one that he's been waiting for.
Hope I've helped. Wish you the very best luck! ^_^ It will all be alright... Don't worry...
PS: Think of happy things just for a moment, hope it'll make you feel better...
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I have a new boyfriend. But I got hurt before so I don't let myself get too close to anyone. I have a fear I may check out other guys / think of kissing them or something. I feel really bad. I don't want that to happen and he doesn't ever want me to leave him. But a few minutes ago I had a dream of kissing an old crush and stuff, does that mean I like him? Or is my mind fooling around with me? :( (link)
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I think your mind is fooling with you... and don't follow the flow... Don't ever end up like me.. To be honest, I was hurt once before by my boyfriend. I mean like really 'hurt'. And my mind was messing around with me, turning me into a crusher. It was just a year ago when I was still crushing as many boys' heart as possible. I thought beauty could always win... but I was wrong.. oh well, the point is that don't really think that what you dream of is something meaningful 'meaningful'. It's something from your unconsciouss side that wants or longs for something. But don't follow it if you don't want to. Think of good things and it won't happen...
I hope I've helped... Wish you always the best luck. GOod luck. I'm sure it's not a bad thing.. It will turn into a good thing... Don't worry.
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I'm in love with my best friend, and he's in love with me. I know this because we went out with each other. We want to get back together, but he's going out with my other best friend. He wants to break up with her to go out with me, but I don't want people to think that he broke up with her to go out with me because he's not. What should I do? (link)
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It's really hard when it comes to one guy to dote on... Well, neither or either one of you has to get the guy. The sad part is that whatever the decision made up will hurt one person. It can never go on without at least hurting one heart. I feel sorry for his girl friend. I think she should know how he really feels and who he really likes. And if she likes him, she has to let him go.
Don't wait on him... I think you should put this thought aside and focus on something else while he's thinking about it. And if he really comes to you, then he is meant for you...
I hope I've helped... I wish you the best luck... Just relax, everything will be alright...
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im currently 13 and my boyfriend and i have been going out since i was 12. today in one of my classes, my friend asked my if this other person told me something. i said no and she was like, good because ***** didnt want us to tell you. i put enough pressure on her to finally get some words out. she said that he desperately wanted to make out. i mean, we've kissed before but not like SERIOUSLY seriously gone there. he has made out with some girls in the past but i havent made out with anyone yet. in my school, making out is a big issue for everyone. they say if you dont make out in 7th grade, you'll never survive in the school we're going to next year.
its not like i dont like him enough to do it, but i dont feel ready. i know im just thirteen but im a lot more mature mentally and physically than my peers. i have had the oppertunities to make out but none of them felt right so i didnt.
im going out with him to the movies on friday night. what if he makes a move then? what do i say? i dont want things to be awkward. i dont want people to think im a loser. and i definitely dont want him to think that i dont want to take things a step further. i do, but i dont... if that makes sense.
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People are making out in your age?! I'm fourteen and I haven't even kissed anyone... Well, I'm in Christian school, so I can never do that anyway...
Well, honey, don't buy what people say. You are what you are. If you're not ready yet, then don't do it. You're right, you're still too young to do that.
It doesn't make you a loser if you don't do that right now. And if your boyfriend really likes you, he will understands your feelings. Tell him that you can't do it now because you're not ready yet. Honesty is really important in relationship... Tell him to wait... If he really loves you, he'll understand...
I hope I've helped... I really hope I have...
Wish you the best luck. Just follow your heart, not others' words. Everything will be alright...
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