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make out?
hey
im currently 13 and my boyfriend and i have been going out since i was 12. today in one of my classes, my friend asked my if this other person told me something. i said no and she was like, good because ***** didnt want us to tell you. i put enough pressure on her to finally get some words out. she said that he desperately wanted to make out. i mean, we've kissed before but not like SERIOUSLY seriously gone there. he has made out with some girls in the past but i havent made out with anyone yet. in my school, making out is a big issue for everyone. they say if you dont make out in 7th grade, you'll never survive in the school we're going to next year.
its not like i dont like him enough to do it, but i dont feel ready. i know im just thirteen but im a lot more mature mentally and physically than my peers. i have had the oppertunities to make out but none of them felt right so i didnt.
im going out with him to the movies on friday night. what if he makes a move then? what do i say? i dont want things to be awkward. i dont want people to think im a loser. and i definitely dont want him to think that i dont want to take things a step further. i do, but i dont... if that makes sense.
has anyone been in my position? please help me out.
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People are making out in your age?! I'm fourteen and I haven't even kissed anyone... Well, I'm in Christian school, so I can never do that anyway...
Well, honey, don't buy what people say. You are what you are. If you're not ready yet, then don't do it. You're right, you're still too young to do that.
It doesn't make you a loser if you don't do that right now. And if your boyfriend really likes you, he will understands your feelings. Tell him that you can't do it now because you're not ready yet. Honesty is really important in relationship... Tell him to wait... If he really loves you, he'll understand...
I hope I've helped... I really hope I have...
Wish you the best luck. Just follow your heart, not others' words. Everything will be alright...
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Well, first of all its stupid to make out in the seventh grade, despite what the others say.
Your far too young to be emotoinally attachted to someone, well in my opinion.
Anyways dating in middle school, its kind of silly, because the marjority of kids who say they are dating, dont actually go out on dates. They see each other inthe halls and talk to each other online, alot of kids parents wont let them date until they are atleast 16.
So in highschool things get more seroius, and relatoinships have meaning, and they arent just oh .. lets go to the dance together, and you dont need to make out.
Dating is not just for making out if you know what I mean, its for connecting with another person, and loving who they are, and their personality! :)
but if you dont feel ready, dont make out, you are young, and you are mature for asking this questoin, but if you cant answer it yourself than your not that mature enough to be doing that, even makingout can lead to hot and heavy stuff, which can lead to sex, and you are pretty young.
If you tries to make a move on you at the movies, tell him your not comfortable with it yet, and if he gets mad, tell him to respect your decision, people shouldnt think your a loser for listening to your heart and the fact that you werent comfortable with it. I'm sure if they were in the situation you are in, they would feel the same way.
If you arent ready for him to take it "to the next step" .. well you sound like your not ready, like your scared maybe? nervous? yeah probably? right?. but okay, you want to, but your not sure, dont do it until you are comfortable with it.
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Well im 14 right now and i have definitely been in thi situation, yeah it was earlier than 13 but i am goin to be completely truthful because to give the best advice i can, im not going to lie to you. Well first of all don't feel like it is wrong to make out with him, its not like you are marrying him. The only way it would be wrong is if you did it and you werent ready, then you would probably feel bad (then again it may help you realize you are ready) but you are teh judge of that.You do what you are ready for when you are ready for it. If he makes a move then just don't return it, tell him you really like him and if he REALLY DOES like you then he will understand that you dont want to do it right then. Don't stress it. When it comes to your friends hassling you about it or saying mean stuff because you decided not to make out with this guy, it is not their business. Stand up for yourself and don't be scared, try not to be mean or anything but be firm. Tell them that you ARE NOT them and you can do WHATEVER you want and do it WHENEVER you want to, its not their decision.
Hope I Helped
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im here for you
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