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Me and my boy had been together almost 1 year and a half... we did long distance for 9 months while i was away at school. he started to act different after christmas... like a little less caring. He told me thats just how he is he's not an emotional or expressive person. We ended up breaking up after he forgot our one year... he told me at that point, after i told him im done with not being cared about, that he is not ready for commitment and he needs to experience things in life (hes 20) because now is the time. He cried to me saying how amazing of a wife id be and how he hates himself for feeling this way.. then two nights later he called back and said he made a mistake.. he sounded sincere. Well now here i am. ive been home frmo school for a month and we've been together every day. It's been the most different ever. We hardly had sex, he truely made me his last prioroty, and just always treated me like an annoyance. I asked him, do you still feel the same way as when we last broke up? he said no. I asked because i thought maybe he was unknowingly pushing me away. I always would say to him.. i wish you loved me, or you dont love me. he's say stop it i do love you. He has very rare cute moments where i feel slightly like he cares. The other night i brought up to him how im really upset cause i feel like im his last priority (when we hung out, we never hung out alone... he would invite his friends over and hang with them while i waited with his parents, he would work out, eat, shower, play video games, all while i waited, literally every single time we hung out) anyways, his response in a text was, ive lost feelings for you, they've faded, im not feeling this anymore, i havent had feelings for you for awhile.
How can i guy lose feelings when i've literally never lied to him, cheated on him, gone out without him, gotten into a serious fight, done everything for him, and we been together for that long. We also work together, which is going to be hard. Not only was he my boyfriend but he was my best friend we did everything together. Guys, or girls i guess, i need some advice on why he lost feelings or why he might of, or if a guy at 20 years old would really end a relationship with a great person just to experience other things. (link)
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Two words 'Still Young'. In life things happen, falling in and out of love, just happens. He loves you still, that is definitely without a doubt. Chances are, something came up in his life that he needs a break from everything. Want the space to venture out a bit. Life hasn't really started yet, and there will be a lot going on. If he's falling out of feelings for you, just relax. It's probably not a permanent thing, give him time.
Just let him know, that you don't really understand what happened between you two, but that you'll always be there. Give him that reassurance, so he wont suspect you hating him.
Sure you'll hate the situation and what to make of it, but in time things will change.
Good Luck.
-Cinnamon B-
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Okay, my friend always asks me how my boyfriend and I are doing and I always just reply with 'fine. After all, I like to keep my relationship with him between us, that and we're both too shy to start gushing about how we cuddle and stuff. Not to mention, our relationship involves mostly talking to each other. I like this relationship and it's my longest and best so far. Well, my friend exploded one me the other day about it and she asked what the sex was like and I was like what the heck?! She's younger than me by a few months and she already has weird problems of her own. Yet, she kept saying that I should've had sex with him by now, three months is enough. Uhm, nooo, I'm only sixteen and he's younger than me, so there's definitely no freaking way it's legal. Is there anyway I can get her to shut up about it without actually being rude? Because I think she might be trying to anatagonize me... You don't HAVE to have sex in a relationship, right? Especially at age sixteen?! (link)
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Just continue your relationship, the way it is. Everything sounds just fine in your relationship. Don't pay her no mind. She isn't you, she isn't in a relationship with you. And sex is not a necessity in a relationship. That's why its called, an "Extra Curricular Activity" it doesn't make a relationship.
Respect, honesty, care, etc are the main essentials. Simply tell her that its your relationship, and your going about it the way you want it to go. If she's more of a friend, she'll snap out of it and leave it alone.
16 is young, wait until you're much older and emotionally/physically ready for those 'older people' responsibilities. Once that occurs, you're 100% responsible for whatever may happen during, and beyond that point.
Good Luck.
Let me know how things go.
-Cinnamon B-
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im female/18 and my boyfriend is 19
Me and the guy i absolutely adore have been dating for the last 3 weeks. it seriously feels like we've been dating for months. Even he agrees.
the only thing is, hes started to get a bit weird after the other night, when i stayed at his house like i normally do. We were in bed being intimate (not intercourse though), when he pulled away from me and told me " I think i'm falling for you" i responded with "i dont think..i KNOW im falling for you too" and we were both smiling. then he says "but im scared, ive never ever fallen for someone so quickly..." and i assured him that there was nothing to worry about, that i wasn't going anywhere.
since that night however, things feel odd. Ever since i found out he was feeling the same way as me, that he was falling for me too, i've been able to openly confess to him how much he means to me, and that everyday i fall for him a little bit more. but the thing is....now whenever i text him anything cute or whatnot, he doesnt say anything cute back to me, he'll just be like "im none of those things" or "your lieing" and its really starting to hurt me when he doesn't take my feelings for him seriously. He's very insecure, but hes absolutely perfect in my eyes. and no matter how much better i try to make him feel good about himself, or reassure him that hes absolutely amazing to me, he seems to just push me away. Im a very insecure person myself, and i feel like he's out of my league. it would be nice to have reassurance and know what he thinks about me every now and then. i just feel like ever since ive told him im falling for him too, that im scaring him away when i tell him that hes amazing and stuff to me...
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Two insecure people in One relationship...leads to one thing. FAILURE! Not in a way that things will work out, that is less than likely. I understand how you feel. When someone is insecure, they have situations within themselves they need to work on. Being in a relationship with your insecurities doesn't make it wonderful, it makes more of a disaster than anything.
Pushing people who care genuinely about you away. And they're very unsure as to who is really there for them. Why? They can't feel that emotion from others. That particular sensor has been blocked for their senses. They have to work on themselves, as individual projects.
People like me, would be more than willing to help, as far as coaching/counseling goes. Therapy works best, only when the client is willing to want to help themselves.
Other than that, he's going to hear everything you say, and it wouldn't mean anything. No matter how much you try, or the emotions you'll show. He just wont feel it.
Its best to give him a bit of space, since he's pushing you away. Give him a bit of his own medicine. Only two things would become of it, either he'll realize that you've been there for him, and he pulls himself closer to you. Or, you'll end up drifting farther apart.
It is like a test in relationships. Everyone goes through something, and everyone gets that 'moment of truth' in their relationship, when their relationship is being tried or tested.
Good Luck.
Let me know how things go.
-Cinnamon B-
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Ok I am a 24 yr old female... I have been friends with a guy for almost 8 years now. He has always had a crush on me but we have always just been friends... he understood that I didn't like him in that way and we have remained friends since. However recently we have been talking to each other alot and I think I am starting to like him. The problem is I am not physically attracted to him AT ALL!!! I know this sounds crazy but for the past 3-4 years he has been long distance in the military so I only see him once a year. So its really his personality and how much he cares for me that I like but when I think of trying to be in a relationship I just can't picture it. I am just not attracted to him. What do I do? I keep telling him that I am just not ready for a relationship but its really because I don't want to hurt his feelings by telling him something like this. I am ready to be in a relationship and if I start dating someone else it will crush him because he knows that i kind of like him but i try to convince him otherwise. What should I say or do ?? Help please!! I don't want to hurt him but I don't want to lead him on either,,, we are very close friends and I don't want to lose that. I hope I don't sound like a stuck up person because I am not... I wish that I could be physically attracted to him so I don't have this issue but its just not the case. (link)
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Physical attraction is one of the first things that people take into consideration, before anything else. Understanding that he has one of the greatest personalities that every girl in the world wish could find, out of the choices of men, you have a tough situation here. Let's think about how you feel about him, with out picturing his face, he has all qualities you want of a person on the inside, and that's great to have. Then, picturing him...doesn't feel the same (almost like we're referring to two different people).
Inner beauty is something that's authentic, just can't ever be created. I think you should get to reversing the psychological of outer beauty is most important. Once you consider that, then you'll be able to look far beyond his physical appearance, and more into the perspective of his "true being". If you ever find yourself not able to do this, then the best thing you can do is tell him the truth. All in all, the truth will always hurt, but he'll be more appreciative behind it, rather than you keeping closed in. You're friends, and that's what you might want it to remain, so don't ruin it over a relationship. Friendships lasts longer than relationships.
I wish the both of you the best, and take some time to really think on what you're going to do.
Good Luck!
Let me know what happens
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okay so i started talking to this guy, we talked for probably 4 hours. some for facebook. then over text, he was telling me how pretty i was and how my ex was stupid for breaking up with me and all this stuff, and how we should hangout. The next day i texted him, and i never got a response, and i haven't talk to him since that night which was friday. Nor has he been on facebook. What do you thinks going on, also my phone keeps messing up and not sending texts to somepeople but idk if he was one of them. (link)
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Continue trying to get in touch with him, whether its on Facebook, or texting. Have you tried contacting him by phone? I'm sure that could be another possible way.
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(this is long but I would really REALLY appreciate you reading it
and giving me some advice.)
Ok, So there's this guy. We met at a bible study.
And when we first met I noticed he starred at me alot
and whatever and he eventually asked for my number.
So we start talking on the phone, Then one day he told me he
liked me and that I was cute.. So I told him I liked him too.
At the biblestudy there's this stupid rule that says you cant date
anyone there. Like nobody can date eachother, or if they do they will get kicked out. So One day I asked if we were dateing, b/c I was confused. Like he didnt say we were but he acted like it.
He said no.. That hurt me.
So I made a small lie, One day he asked me on the phone what
I did that day, and I said just hung out with Kevin.
-who's Kevin?
-Oh this guy,
-What guy?
-A guy
-Do you like him, (ect.)
and you know getting all jelous, and he said,
Well I dont like other guys going around the girls I like.
and I said, Well you said so yourself, were not dateing,
So why does it matter?
He said, Its not that he didnt want to date me, he just didnt want
to get kicked out of the study again, (He's been kicked out before
for dateing someone.) Excuse or not?
We didnt talk awhile after that, Then later when we werent
talking he came up to me one night outside the biblestudy and
put his arms around me and asked me what was wrong,
(I was avoiding him.)
I said we havent been talking.
Later things were still weird, then I was having this stupid
breakdown about my Exboyfriend, I talked to my friend about it
but she had to go somewhere real quick and he came and put his
arm around me asking me whats wrong. he was so understanding,
He asked me if I still had feelings for my ex, and that its his loss cause I'm a wonderful girl, and when we were done talking and we hugged, Without thinking, I kissed him on the cheek, He noticed this and kissed me on mine.
The next week at the biblecamp, We somehow ended up alone ouside,
and he had his arm around me, Then we french kissed.. XD
Ever sense then weve been just like we were before, Except alot
more flirting and touching.. I was so confused, Beacuse I dont want to be a whore. I really like this guy, But I'm not going to do crap with him if were not even dateing.
So yesterday on the phone I said..
"You know that were technically dateing right?"
"We are?"
"We have been for awhile now.."
"Ok."
"What?"
"Ok."
WTF DOES OK MEAN??
Yes? whatever?
I'm so lost. PLEEASSE HELP ME! (link)
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Sorry to be the one to tell you this, but he's not all that interested with you. Seems like he's trying to play you. More like, no one else can have you...
Be careful, don't give away your true feelings too soon, you may be the one to end up getting hurt later on. Take more time to get to know what he's about. He is acting this way because he might be considering a relationship, but could be scared of commitment. Yes sweetie, he has commitment issues, and isn't willing to settle with you yet.
But don't give him too much of a time, you might be missing out on the next guy waiting for his opportunity to get to know you.
But in the mean time, keep "shopping around" believe me, life is too short to settle for less, and I know, you deserve better than him.
Good Luck!
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Alright well i have never been kissed before. I just got a boyfriend on saturday named david and i really like him. We "talked" for a month and a half before he asked me out. So, we know eachother well. He knows i haven't ever kissed a guy before and he told my friend that he wanted it to be a good one. Now, i don't know when he wants to kiss because he walks me to my classes and we hug and thats when couples usually kiss but i'm just not sure. I don't know what to do after we hug and i just don't know what to do or how to act or when he is going to do it and i am just really confused and nervous. I'm not sure when he wants to do it or what i should do and i am definatly not talking to him about it. Please help!
My name is rachel. (link)
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Well for starters you don't have to have any experience to know how to "lock lips" with someone. There is no right or wrong way, and by this, you can now feel a bit at ease.
Kissing between two people is a natural action that mostly occurs when the two feel that "certain vibe". Trust me, it wont be that bad if you think you did an awful job, for your first time. Just keep practicing, you'll get better at it.
Being that you boyfriend knows that you've never kissed anyone, and him being fully understanding, goes to show that its not a problem and he's willing to teach you.
So, play his student, and enjoy every moment your lips touches his, it'll be worth it...
Good Luck!
Let me know how your first kiss goes.
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my girlfriend and I were together for around 4 and a half months. I am just trying to figure out why she randomly is playing mind games in my head for instance flirting or calling me names like honey,sweetie, or baby. Its RARE but she does.
She broke up with me on monday so it wasn't a long time ago or anything. Plus on top of this she isn't even in town and did all this. (link)
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Well, one of the first things you need to do, is clear the air between you two. Meaning, find out what the situation is, and if the break up was serious, and true. If she tells you that it has been officially over, then you can move on to the next step. And that is, let her know that you can basically move on, and don't have to pay her any attention. Let her know that her mind games are finished, and she can no longer call you any "pet names", that's for your new relationship.
I hope I helped you. If there's ever anything else you may need advice on, don't hesitate to contact me directly through my email or for faster response, any instant messengers.
Wish you the best of luck with your future relationship with someone who will love you for you, and take you seriously when demanded.
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My friend Amy and I are in the 9th grade. We went to the same elementary school together but we did NOT go to the same middle school or high school, so we have grown a bit distant. Amy has a huge crush on this guy Ben, who went to elementary school with us. Amy and Ben also went to the same middle school together.
Amy is confident that Ben likes her and she wants to ask him out. However, I talked to a few of my other friends from my elementary school and apparently, everyone knows that Amy likes Ben, but Ben doesn't like her because he finds her personality to be annoying.
But Amy doesn't really understand the way other people see her---she thinks she's popular even though she's not.
Amy genuinely thinks Ben is interested in her and is absolutely going to ask him out. But I know for a fact that he won't.
I don't really want to tell her that Ben doesn't like her, because it would really hurt her feelings. I'm afraid it would be mean to tell her that Ben finds her annoying. But if I don't say anything and let her go ask him out, she'll just get hurt anyways.
What should I do? (link)
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You should first let her know about herself. The way she's carrying herself as she's a "popular figure" in school, and for her to just tone her personality down a bit. Let her know her behavior is what would be a turn off for any guy.
Then, confront Ben, and let him know that she's going through a phase, and to just give her a chance. Find out more about her, there must be something he might like about her.
(But do this only if she changes the way she acts)
If that doesn't work, let things go as they should. And just be a good friend by being there for her when she needs you the most, if Ben turns her down.
Good Luck!
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My boyfriend and I are expecting a baby in July, it will be the first child for both of us. It was totally unexpected, we had only been together a few months when we found out I was pregnant. We are both 27 and really not where we wanted to be in life when we started a family, but are still both excited and want to do everything we can to give this child a great life. There is one thing, my boyfriend has no real work experience. He worked delivering pizzas for a few months, but he isn't working anymore. I know it's hard to find jobs in this area, and with not much experience, but I am very worried about the strain this is putting on our relationship, and for when the baby is here. I work full time and have my own apartment, a very small apartment, that's another thing, if he had income we could move into a better place. I blame things on him a lot, because I am carrying this baby and working full time, and he isn't. Sometimes I think positive, like as long as I know I'm doing all I can, and he is actually looking for employment, but a lot of the times I think really negatively and believe I will not be able to stay with him if he doesn't find work. I don't think it's fair really, and I don't want to put myself in a position where I have to do everything myself, not if we are together, so it makes me think sometimes that we shouldn't stay together. He says I should believe in him and believe things will work out, but it's hard at this point, I'm due in a little over 3 months and I'm stuck in this tiny apartment with little income. I'm just looking for some advice, and maybe a good way to start a conversation with him about how much this affects me, because I am kind of quiet and don't always know how to express my feelings and explain things that are bothering me. It is really making me sad and overwhelmed because I don't know how to handle the situation. I would rather my child had two parents that are in a relationship, but sometimes I don't see how that can be. (link)
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I'm glad that I am the first to help you handle your situation. For starter, you have to sit him down when you get the opportunity, being that you work, and let him know how you feel. It doesn't matter what you say, when you're expressing yourself, everything will fall into a better understanding to him.
After that conversation, go into further details with him about his job search, and if he's putting enough effort into it.
Try not to think negatively, I know it can be hard that by the income you have cannot and won't be able to provide for all three of you, soon.
I recommend trying a Employment Agency, or a Workforce. They are able to help him find jobs, with the little experience he has, and maybe even supply him with training, and techniques to help him advance.
I wish you the best of luck for you and your boyfriend, and God Bless your child, who will soon enter the world.
If you need anymore assistance, babysitting, anything at all, feel free to send an email through to me, as I am willing to help you the best way I can.
Good Luck!
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24/f
so here is the shortest version of the story I can manage. When I was seventeen I met the love of my life. we both knew it the moment we met. we lived 8 hours away from eachother but had a long distance relationship. he is 2 years older so he moved to the east coast to be in a band before I got out of highschool. i was supposed to go when I graduated but as life goes...I moved to the west coast with another man when I was 18. when i was 20 we found eachother again and he still in the band we saw eachother a few times and were still in love. this is like really true love, our hearts and souls are meant to be. he cannot leave his band, they tour 10 months out of the year. anyway we stayed in contact and over the years he would fly out between tour dates and spend a few days with me. two years ago we decided it was very hard to be together long distance so we agreed to see other people because we were both lonely but we both knew we still loved eachother. we planned to get married when I moved from the west coast. he started seeing his ex and I met someone from work. we still stayed in touch and in love. well, I ended up getting pregnant and had a baby with a man i do not love, and still do not love. we lost contact after I had my baby, he was really hurt yet supportive of me keeping the child. I two years later, my son is over a year old and I still live with his father who is not a nice person at all. Recently we started talking again and although we are both in relationships the love is still there. I guess i just need advice on how to move on from here...i am staying with my baby's father for my son, but I love this other man so much. he is constantly touring so its not like we can be together because I cannot move to his home base because it would bring my son 2000 miles away from his dad. I just dont know what to do. I love him and I know we are destined to be together. sorry if my question is not really precise, but any advice would help me greatly. this man is always on my mind and I know now that i am always on his mind. thanks (link)
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No problem with the long story, it was very well detailed.
Understanding that you now have a child with someone else, is putting on a lot more stress to the situation. Now that your whole life revolves around your son, you have to go with what would be best for him, throughout his developing life.
Being said, you are with your son's father, you are living miserably as stated that he isn't a good person. If he isn't handling his fatherly duties, and paying attention to his child, then you have every right to leave him, and take your son with you.
You say you love the other man, and you tried staying in contact while he's own tour and you being where you are. Long distance don't really work out, and I'm surprised to hear that you've managed through the long distance, separation, and seeing other people. If you want to be with him, you're going to have to find out a way to work it out.
If you want to be a band member's girlfriend/future wife, you have to do some serious negotiation with him. As, he is living in the "Music Life" he's constantly busy, and may not have much time to share with you.
You have to think about it that way. You would hardly spend time with him.
My question to you is:
Do you want to be with him, knowing he now lives a busy lifestyle? Are would you just move on to someone else other than your son's father?
It will take along time to mend your heart because it is still with him, but you need it back if things cannot be, between you two.
If its impossible to work things out with your son's father, then leave. You don't want your child to grow up around someone who isn't going to be a decent Male Role Model for him.
Just move, see how things work out, you never know, it might be a good decision. And if not, start your life over with someone new.
Hope all goes well.
Good Luck!
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14/f..HELP ME!!!
i went out with this guy, last may then in august i dupted him because he started to like my best friend (ex-bestfriend now). i really loved him but he cheated on me so i hate him, but everytime i try to forget about him, he text me then i have all these feelings for him again, then we start going back out again on and off. he barely talks to me. it seems like he only text me because he wants to do "stuff" with me. and i really try to get over him but it seems like i cant. HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM?? (link)
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You have to set "YOU" as number 1 in your mind, before you can try to move on.
I know how you're feeling, but you'll get over it. It just takes enough confidence and will power.
Keep in mind that if he's communicating with you for 1 thing, and 1 thing only, let him and the whole situation go. You don't deserve to be used.
That's not fair to you or anyone else.
You should ask for his thoughts if the tables were turned around, and he was feeling the way you feel, right now. He wouldn't like it, that I know.
Occupy your mind with other thoughts.
Go out with friends, watch movies, even curl up in bed and read a good book.
It takes time, but trust me, you'll get over him before you know it, and you may meet someone new.
But it all starts as soon as you stop responding to his text messages. Let him know you've moved on, and for him not to speak, call, text, or anything again.
He is only a distraction in your life.
Good Luck!
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what should i do if im dating a guy that always seems too good to be true? (link)
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You should continue to pursue this relationship.
I know you must seem scared, not knowing if you're dreaming. But, he can just really be a good guy.
My suggestion is to keep your mind and heart open, you never know how things can change. And you want to be prepared for it to be either good or bad.
But live in the moment, you never know, he can be the right one for you.
*If things are going too well, see into it. It can turn out, that he maybe hiding something from you.
Good Luck!
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I've been dating my bf for almost 5 months and and his friend are kind of starting to get to me. They're actually my friends too, I met them before I met my bf, they introduced us. Before my bf and I started dating, they'd hit on me but in a cute flirty way. I was always fine with it cuz I thought it was all in good fun. This continued after my bf and I were official but I still just laughed it off. Now it's actually started to bother me. I'm not sure whether or not my bf knows they act this way but the comments have escalated and I'm not sure what to do. This is all talk btw, they would never do more than just talk. I'm not sure what to do because they are good friends of mine and they're my bf's best friends. (link)
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You have to do something about it. Let them know that "this", meaning them trying to flirt with you, is getting out of hand. Its bothering you, and is making you feel uncomfortable.
Tell them, that you want to be good friends, but they're not helping the situation, but actually making matters worse.
If they don't back off, then let your boyfriend know, and give him chance to tell them, that their behavior is unacceptable within the friendship that you all share.
Your boyfriend has the right to know, since you both share mutual friends.
Hopefully, they'll come to their senses and drop the whole "flirting game" and go back to being normal.
If it doesn't work, then they're not good friends. That can easily lead to a strain in your relationship with your boyfriend, as he wont be able to trust them when they're around you.
Be careful. Wish you luck!
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Okay I've been obsessing over this guy. Not in a stalker way, but in a "I can't stop thinking about you" way. The other day I was driving and happened to look at the license plate of the car in front of me. It had his name and the date he was coming back on. Am I just over analyzing this or is it a sign? (link)
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Love sometimes work in mysterious ways.
Either love is letting you know that you may have an opportunity to get closer to him...
But sometimes you can be blinded by love as well.
I believe that its a sign, but just pay close attention, you never know whats in store for you.
Hope all works out.
Good Luck!
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well, i have this ex boyfriend that i had for three years, so obviously we still talk, we broke up about a month ago. and i am going to try to start dating again, it's going to be hard, but i want to do it.
well there's this boy that i have feelings for, he wants to start dating soon . but the thing is : if me and this boy do start dating , do i tell my ex boyfriend? i mean wouldn't it be best if he found out from me so that he didn't get upset , or should i let him find out himself?
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Your relationship with your ex is only a friendship.
Certain things you do, he doesn't need to know.
He can still care about you but whatever you do with your life is none of his business, and he has no say so. The same if vice versa.
No, you don't have to tell him detailed information about the relationship you are about to get in to, just let him know that you have to distant yourselves and can't talk or hang together as much as you used to.
Now, that someone new is in the picture, you cannot have any distractions, especially from your past.
Good Luck!
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im a freshman girl, ive been in relationships before but only w/ guys my own age in like 8th grade were we kissed and thought it was a big deal. ive been flirting with this junior guy, (gorgeous and could get anyone) he called and asked me if i wanted to hangout last night so i had him over. lets just get to the point, we made out a lot, he felt me up, and i wouldnt let him do anythign else. I feel kinda bad, i dont like this guy really he's cuteee and so sweet to me (and when he met my parents). i dont think he's using me but im kinda using him i mean i dont love him or anything like that not even a crush. is this slutty? its highschool your supposed to have fun right? (link)
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Don't feel bad, or take that into any negative thought. As long as your not "fully" involved with this person, you're fine.
But the real problem in this situation is:
You don't really like him, and he has no idea. Both parties should be ok to be "kissing buddies" as long as there's no real attachment. By not including him in on your true feelings, its not fair to him.
You have to let him know what your only intentions are, see if he is willing to go forth with it. And take things from there.
Slutty? No, I don't think so, if you slept with him, it may be in another story. But again, think of if you were in his shoes and had no idea, that the person you're "messing with" doesn't feel anything towards you.
Think About it. Put yourself in his shoes.
Good Luck!
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Okay there is this guy i know, he is a lot older than me. Well he always picks on me and stuff and plays around with me. And he has made a comment before that i would make a good wife to somone one day! But i kind of like him too but it would never work becuase of our age differnce!
Dose he like me or i am i just paranoid!
What should i do if he dose! (link)
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He must feel some sort of way, to state a comment like "you'll make a great wife to someone one day", but, please also except that as a compliment.
I believe he's inching is way to you. Wanting to make sure he doesn't take things to fast to scare you.
It's likely that age differences are one of the reasons people try to keep their distance. But you can't help if you have some type of feelings for one another. Other situations, the relationships work out quite well.
Ask him, at a good timing, if he feels some way for you. If he states yes, then ask in what way. He may play around with you, but it could be a crush. So figure it out, and don't your hopes up, you never know what he might say.
Good Luck!
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me and this boy have been mates a long time - we started gettin realy close around xmas. about 4 weeks ago we were out with some friends and me and him went off because he was upset so i followed him - he told me he really liked me and we kissed. the next weekend we were out in town with everyone again and me and him went off and kissed again n sepnt lots of time alone together. during the week after that i found out him and this girl he used to like but they fell out were friends again - i asked if that was it and he said yes just friends - then i found out the next weekend they were together and kissed etc. he told me he didnt know who to choose. in the end he said he just wanted tp be friends. the next week at a party i got drunk and got upset because he was there and i was crying and he follwed me n talked to me tried t make me happier but also said i had to try get over him. later that night me and another guy got together. the guy i like later said we needed to talk - he said to be careful with the guy i got with that night - i asked why and he said he was jelous, then he kissed me. the next mornin he said that what happened that night between us had to be forgotten. so over the next week i tried to get over him and i thought i had - i sa whim yesterday and relised i havn't we were talking etc like friends but i really like him and i do not know what to do!!!
sorry for the essay there but i really need help and i really really like him!! what can i do??
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I completely understand you, but you do need to try and get over him. Being that its hard to remain friends with him, while still having feelings. You should let him know how you feel and that you're in pain every time you're around him.
See what he'll say. If he really cares, he would let you know that you two shouldn't communicate anymore, or at least until you're completely over him.
If he wants to still be around you, you must let him know that the friendship can not be as serious, or spending to much time together.
Do you see what I mean?
I hope you do get over him, that other guy is who you should be focusing on right now. So what if he's jealous, you're no longer together. You have every right to move on.
Go on girl, move on...
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ok im 15 now and i don't know if theres something
wrong with or what because ive only dated people on the internet its like nomatter what i do i can't seem to get a boyfriend . its not like i want to date someone o just be with someone i only want tto date people who care about me and are interested in what i have to say. so my question is why isnt any guy interested in me ?
because im like outgoing and stuff im in the 9th grade now and im gettin worried that i'll never find a guy so if anyone can give me any tips or anything that would be great thankies. (link)
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Take your time, it might not even be you.
Most guys are not striaght forward, while others are still trying to decide who they see themselves with.
Keep enjoying your life, you're still young. Enjoy your freedom while you still have it, being in a relationship can stop you from doing certain things...
Mostly, worry about school, getting a job, etc. Then maybe you can figure out what to do after that.
Sometimes its also where you meet a guy? That happens a lot, so start chilling in different locations.
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