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My friend Amy and I are in the 9th grade. We went to the same elementary school together but we did NOT go to the same middle school or high school, so we have grown a bit distant. Amy has a huge crush on this guy Ben, who went to elementary school with us. Amy and Ben also went to the same middle school together.
Amy is confident that Ben likes her and she wants to ask him out. However, I talked to a few of my other friends from my elementary school and apparently, everyone knows that Amy likes Ben, but Ben doesn't like her because he finds her personality to be annoying.
But Amy doesn't really understand the way other people see her---she thinks she's popular even though she's not.
Amy genuinely thinks Ben is interested in her and is absolutely going to ask him out. But I know for a fact that he won't.
I don't really want to tell her that Ben doesn't like her, because it would really hurt her feelings. I'm afraid it would be mean to tell her that Ben finds her annoying. But if I don't say anything and let her go ask him out, she'll just get hurt anyways.
What should I do?
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It's easier to get bad news from a friend.
Get her alone, and just break it to her gently. True friends are honest with one another. If you don't she's going to make a fool of herself. She'll be the walking joke at her school, and you don't want that for her. If it comes from you, it'll lessen the blow. She may get a little upset at first, but she'll be thankful later.
BUT be prepared, if she's the kind of person i think she is, she may ignore you all together and ask him anyway. If thats how it works out, just be patient. She'll be back when she's over the shame.
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You should first let her know about herself. The way she's carrying herself as she's a "popular figure" in school, and for her to just tone her personality down a bit. Let her know her behavior is what would be a turn off for any guy.
Then, confront Ben, and let him know that she's going through a phase, and to just give her a chance. Find out more about her, there must be something he might like about her.
(But do this only if she changes the way she acts)
If that doesn't work, let things go as they should. And just be a good friend by being there for her when she needs you the most, if Ben turns her down.
Good Luck!
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