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hey im 17 and a girl.. ive been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and i love him with all my heart when im not with him i miss him so much he calls me every night and i can tell him everything
but when im with him we fight alot and that started about 7 months into our relationship. i hate how easy we get into fights and how aggitated i get around him but i love him so much i dont know what to do and im scared that we might be falling apart sorta.. when i talk to him about this he just says sorry and that we will fix everything but then it goes back to being bad again.. i dont know what to do please help. (link)
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I had two friends that were dating but they absolutely hated being around each other because they were never happy together. They broke up multiple times only to get back together until finally they realized they were just not happy together and they broke up and have not really talked since and both of them are so much better without each other. Not all relationships have to end up this way. Question things you fight about. You say he agitates you...why? Do you need to spend less time together? Do you need to take a break? You need some happiness in the relationship or there is no reason to be in it. Sometimes taking time for both of you to mature on your own makes a world of difference.
Also pick your battles. Not everything is such a big deal. If there is something that irritates you, think about if it really matters all that much.
Try not to get it to the point that my friends did but know that if it's not going to work you should end it sooner rather than later.
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About breakup: I cared very much about him, but he said he needed space/wasn't me it was him/need to get a better job, etc.
I am heartbroken, but I figured if he really cared about me, he wouldn't have cut me off like that, and it is time to move on.
I've looked around for other people to date, and it is probably too soon. I keep sabotaging anyone I talk to with either talking a little while and not responding, or making up some excuse not to go out with someone.
So to give up on it, I'm tempting myself to get a seasonal job at a ski resort, to throw myself into some good hard work in order to get over it. I thought if I was in a place that was fun, that I could choose later what I wanted to do.
The thing is, I don't know if I'm being impulsive or not. I have a decent place to live and a job now, I just feel down and I thought the change of pace would be better.
That, and I think I have the slightest hope that the ex might call and say he made a big mistake and wants me back. If I'm in Colorado or someplace else, it'd be harder to just move back. So I wonder if I'm holding myself back or not.
I've always been 'with' someone. Since I was 18, I've always had that guy that took care of me. I don't need taken care of now, but I just feel very alone.
Is finding new work in a new location going to be helpful? Should I consider doing something else?
I guess I need a sounding board on what I should do next. (link)
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Well it seems like he maybe needs to find himself...depending on his age he might feel overwhelmed by having a relationship like you have. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you it just means he is less mature than you are and just needs to evaluate what he wants in life.
But I do think if you can afford to leave you should. You don't know the next time you will have the chance to do something like this. If he wants to be back with you he can wait until you come home. You are an independent woman and you should not wait around for him. Go and have fun while you can!
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15(almost)/f
okay so i am like cupid to all of my friends. i mean they love me for it. but i can never.. ever find a way to be cupid to myself. its to the point where im not even happy for my friends that i set up because all i want to do is find someone for me. what can i do?!? (link)
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Well my answer probably won't make you happy but the best thing to do is embrace being single and to stop looking for someone. When you get to the point in which you don't care if you have a boyfriend then you might just find that a boy finds you. Enjoy being single for now...he will find you when the time is right!
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okay.. so theres this kid, and we went out for a long time.. and its been a couple months since we broke up and idk everytime i think about him i get butterflies and its just like no one can compare to him.. it just seems like he was so perfect but now its like i never knew him .. i havent talked to him since old home day! and that was in like august! but yeah i mean i know you probably dont know what to say and i mean i cant talk to my friends about this cuz theyd be like YOUR STILL NOT OVER HIMM???? but yeah whateverr i just needed someone to like.. listen to me!
sincerly,
dont know what to dooo! =/ (link)
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Why did you break up? Is it something that could be solved? If you can solve the problem between you two that would be awesome, because it sounds like you really like maybe even love this guy.
If it is a problem you can't solve between each other all you can do is wait. It takes a long time to get over someone like that. You have many options to choose from to try and help yourself on the way to recovery: you could fully invest in having fun with your friends, find a hobby to keep your mind away from him, delete everyting things that remind you of him (facebook or myspace profiles, phone number, msn contact)or you can start dating again and maybe find someone who will help you get over him.
I would definetly do the deleting. It is so much easier to get over someone when you don't have him looking in your face all the time and easier because you won't be tempted to get ahold of him. If your friends say anything say that it takes time to get over people that you really liked.
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okay so i just got played. bad! and this guy i fell for is so pathetic that my feelings for him now are bitterness and i kind of want to get even because hes doing this to so many other girls its just annoying and not right. so now the situation is that he thinks were "still friends" but really i dont even want to be his friend. i want to play him back. i want to bother him... and get under his skin cuz hes a liar, who thinks hes all that, and can have as many girls as he wants and treat everyone like shit! so please no lectures, the dick deserves it! soooo any tips???? (link)
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Have you ever seen the movie "John Tucker Must Die" if you haven't watch it...moral of that movie...don't do it!
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Okey, This guy I met 2 weeks back, Mike. His parents divorced when he was 2 so he went off to a boarding school,and since the past 2 years he's been living alone. He hasnt even felt what its like to have a family. He doesnt have any close friends (He calls whoever he knows aquaintances) He is really into books and uses dictionary terms when he's generally talking. But he is really poetic and treats me like a princess and is soooo..H.O.T!! Ok, he is somewhat like Noah, from 'The Notebook' if you've ever read Nicholas Sparks. I see myself falling for him. No,no I'm totally crazy for him. The problem is I'm a social butterfly whereas he doesnt even hang out with anyone. I feel if my friends would ever come to know about him, they would just die laughing at me. But I really like him. Can anyone please help me?
Thank you sooo much!!!
Love y'all... (link)
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you never know what will happen when you two start dating. You could be a catalyst for him to start hanging out with people. Don't force him or anything but I think if you were to show him that side of things he might want to. The thing is...is that he might have an effect on you making you not want you to hang out without him (I have been in this situation it sucks) If he doesn't want to hang out and you do you should because I think that is the only reason your friends would get mad because you would become a hermit and not see them at all.
Really it doesn't matter what your friends think as long as your happy and he treats you right they should be fine. Also if he is like Noah and I was your friend I would be like the most jelous friend in the world...lol!
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Very long story, but here's the extremely short version. Well, I was going to break up with my boyfriend last monday. But apparently he was suspended until friday. I didn't have his number, so I couldn't do it over the weekend. Now he's back and completely ignoring me. I think someone told him we were over or that I was planning to end it, but I have no idea. He is completely ignoring me. Should I talk to him about it to make it "official" or just leave it? Thanks! (link)
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definetly ask him about it. you don't know the circumstances and you need to make it official. I am sure you will feel bad if you don't and will question a lot. He also deserves to know why.
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We know we are not right for each other. There is a tremendous amount of tension and resistance to connect on his part because he is afraid of getting hurt.
He is bipolar on meds, 13 years older, jobless, broke and struggling with erectile dysfunction. I am a single mom with a six years old daughter, working professional who makes a good living supporting me and my daughter.
He is only interested in having sex with me when we meet, he seldom calls me and if he does, he hangs up after one ring, expecting me to call him back.
He tells me he's seeing other girls and then I would be hurt and then he says he was only making it up to test me. He's been testing me for over one and a half years now. I don't feel any progress in his trust level. I am tired of proving myself.
I don't think I have ever connected in such a way with someone before. The connection is deep, I can read his mind and his feelings from the first date. I have never feel that way with anyone before in my life. He's the first.
I just dumped him because of his poor treatment towards me. Plus, I really think he's not into reconnecting anymore after our last breakup which was in april. Ok, this is like the 5th or 6th time, but whenever he calls again...I always go running back. Help me. I want to stop. Those are the only times he calls me.
I need a real boyfriend, a normal one who doesn't play with my mind and emotions like him who feels like he has to in order to feel good about himself. Oh yes, he said:" F*ck, I love you ok?" last week, because he asked me to go over to see him and I said I would only do it if he says I love you.
He said I love you once before and that was in 2007 summer. He said that one unexpectedly over the phone on his own.
Any suggestion will be much appreciated. (link)
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I have a friend in your exact position. The reason you keep running back is more than likely because subconsciously you feel like you cannot get anyone better. The best thing you can do if you cannot just ignore his calls is to get a new number. You have to "grow some balls" and say fuck you! Go on some dates and really get over him. Take new hobbies just through yourself into something else so you completely forget about him. The next time he comes it will be a complete surprise because you forgot about him and then you can tell him to f off!
I hope I helped
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ok heres the situation, im in love with my fiance, and my parents hate him, wont let me be with him, talk to him or see him. we've been together for 2 years, i know im going to marry him, i love him. im a 16 years old, and im pregnant. i want to run away and marry him, hes 19 years old in the navy, when youre married you get free housing for your family and everything along with being paid more. I read that in maryland you can get married without parental consent if you are pregnant. i want to run away from home and marry him, how will this work out, can this work out? wut will happen legal wise, i want to leave a note or something and just pack my bags and be very gone before they can do anything about it, i know my parents will call the police, will i get put in juvie as a runaway? will the charges be dropped and me be ok to be with him since we're married if we can in deed get married without parental consent? will anything happen to him for taking me in? please let me know asap. thanks! (link)
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believe me when you are underaged you do not want to get married! I don't know where you heard that you can leagally get married but I think that is wrong unless you are amancipated and obviously you aren't. Do what's best for your baby but wait. You are young and you need as much help as you can and unless you are willing to drop out of school you are going to need your family for help and support. Don't drop out either because it seems like the military people get paid a lot but babys and bills and food and all that costs a lot. Believe me just deal with it for two years till you are legal...you will end up regretting it.
OMG I just looked it up! your right. Honestly I think that rule is the most ridiculous rule ever. You are young and changing I am not saying you and him can't work out because I am young and married but at least wait until you have to take care of all finances anyways when you are an adult.
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Im going to a Halloween event at the local amusement park on friday with two of my friends, Mike and Anna. I have a huge crush on Mike and I want to take advantage of friday and show him that im interested in him. how do i do this without being obvious? i want to show that im interested but at the same time i dont want to come on too strong and be annoying. also im not sure if he likes me back so is there anyway to tell? we get along great and talk a lot. (link)
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you should ask anna to bring a date that way you are kinda stuck with mike. also then you can sit with him on rides and stuff so that you can casually lean into him if you scared or something.
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18 years old, female
im sorry this is really long but i would absolutely love it if you could help me im hopeless and heartbroken. i'll give a 5 to someone who answers cuz i appreciate you taking the time!
i have been totally head over heals for my best friend, BUT he has a girlfriend of a very very long time. (2 and a half years) we use to be so close, flirt ALL the time. we never kissed or did anything. i just can't get over him. i feel like when i dont talk to him a part of me is missing. i am never truly happy because i know he is with her, and loves her. i can't take it anymore. i go months without talking to him, and as much as i just want to text him saying, "i miss you.." i would be afraid of the possibilty he wouldn't say anything back. he is always with his girlfriend which is annoying. i feel like he left all his friends for his girlfriend. i even told him this, that things between us and our friendship will never be the same for as long as he goes out with her. he said things would change but they dont. last time i saw him, he said that he missed me, he missed our friendship, he wondered what happened to us and why we're not so close anymore. sometimes i just want to go off on him but it's a kind of thing where as much as i hate him, i LOVE him so much. i love when we spend time together, i love talking to him, heck i feel like i want to become sexual with him (i know sounds silly, but im still a virgin, not a slut) i just have the strongest feelings for him and all the other guys dont compare. i tried, but it's not the same. i feel like i could wait forever because he is the only one im happy with. when i write this, many will think he probably seems like a bad friend to me but he really makes me the happiest girl ever when i hear his voice, when i see him i get butterflies..
i just dont know what to do. im SO lost right now and feel so alone. i cry at night because i miss my best friend and i wish he could be mine. i wish on every 11:11. my family and friends absolutely love him and want me to go out with him, if only it weren't for his girlfriend. trust me i tried telling him how i feel, how i feel like he doesn't care anymore, how we've drifted since he went out with his girlfriend and he ALWAYS says he misses me and when i see him, a few days after he will text me. one night he even texted me and said, goodnight i love you i was like awww [: and i say it back but then a few days after we wont talk and he wont text me and im the kind of girl that if you dont text me first, i wont text your FIRST. i've always been like that, always will be and he knows that.
any suggestions. i dont want him out of my life, we've been friends for about 4 years now and i can't let all the good memories go, he is or WAS my best friend. (link)
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ok this is going to be hard but there is really only one thing you can do. Stay in his life as much as possibly, make sure he knows you will always be there. Never ever tell him anything bad about his gf because it really is none of your business and if you do he will more than likely turn away from you.
Considering your age there is a big possibility that they will break up (if they aren't meant to be with each other)because of changes and college and stuff.
I know how you feel. When this happened to me the guy and girl weren't dating very long but I know how bad it hurts to think about someone so much and not have him. I believe that you having this feeling is the real thing and if you are meant to be together he will sooner or later realize it.
There is another thing you could do. Tell him you like him, tell him you will wait but if its too long you might not be there for him when he realizes it. I did that but like I said my guy didn't have nearly as much invested in his relationship!
I really hope that it works out and have strength...it will work out one way or another!
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Hi please help
My girlfriend and i are about to get married. This week her ex boyfriend contact her. He needs help. He has been lying to everyone. He is at a stage where he want to end his life. My girlfriend decides that she want to help him. She feels sorry for him. In four years he has had no contact with her. Why now. What should i do. (link)
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your soon to be wife cannot help him. Like a person below me said it is hard to know, not knowing him and all. It definelty is a possibility that he wants to split you guys but he has no real right to ask your gf for help. She cannot do anything because once she thinks she has helped him and leaves him alone it will more than likely happen again. She is jumping into a cycle which will more than likely hurt your relationship. If she wants to help him she needs to contact the ones he is close to and get him into treatment. Now I am not saying it is terrible for her to be there for him but this has a huge opportunity to ruin your relationship and you cannot let that happen.
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26, male.
I've been with my girlfriend for five years. And lately, it just feels like we're killing each other slowly. And she has high hopes about us getting married. But I'm currently unemployed, and struggling just to get back out there. Throw in my low self-esteem, and other issues between us like religion, our families, and it's just so damn hard.
She almost walked out on me crying because she felt stupid for waiting for me. I managed to talk her down, and we're still together. But looking back, a part of me feels like she really would be better off without me.
I always look at my relationships as things to continue working on and trying to make work to the very end. Is it wrong that I keep trying to make this relationship work, or am I being selfish for not wanting to let her go? (link)
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You are not wrong. Relationships are meant to be worked on and if you both still have feelings there is no reason to stop working. What you might want to do to make things better is to take a short break to sort yourself out.
You know you need to get back out into the working world and I understand how hard it could be to get there with low self esteem but go to a therapist. Work on bettering yourself so when you and your girl get back together she can have the best of you and most importantly all of you. When you feel good about yourself and where you are going with your life all relationships will work better.
I tell you this from experience and I hope it helps and makes your relationship better if you choose to follow through with my advice.
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ok i been going out wit my boyfriend for a yr and 2 months.
but now he left to the dominican republic..nd everytime i call him he is never there.i dont know what to think,sometimes i think that he is just cheeting on me.because his brother got a myspace and he cheks it every 4 days,then why cant my boyfriend do that and ask why did i called or something..?
omg im confuse nd sad please give me some really good advice,thank you (link)
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He probably is just busy. Why don't you ask his brother what is going on? You never know he might just be out making friends and seeing whats out there. There are many reasons for a boy to not call you back. Just make sure you don't jump to conclusions and make him angry. Long distance relationships are hard.
I hope I helped!
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months now. And i love him to death. He just does so many things that upset me. I went on vacation and he went to the club, when he knows how i feel about that. He'll invite me over then drive his friends around untill 4:00 in the morning. He barelly ever says nice things about me or to me, but he comments on every other girl. He wont talk to me when im trying to have a serious conversation. He never calls me back when he says hes going too. But.. He does things i like. He can make me smile when im sad, i love the way he holds me, and watches movies with me. I love how he cute he is. But honestly i dont think im happy with him. I know i have to do whats best for me. But i really do love him and i cant let him go. What do i do. Please help me. (link)
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Ok... I have a friend in a similar situation.
You need to do what you think is right. You obviously want to get rid of him right now and I think it would be a good idea. I know you may love him but sometimes to get what you really need in a relationship you have to let him go. He needs to know the reasons and he needs to know that you love him but you can't be with him when he is this way. It might be asking him to change but sometimes things have to change if you are to be happy. If you can't live with what he is doing it has to change or you have to move on.
Hopefully if you do break up with him he realizes what he was doing wrong and changes it so that you can be completely in love with him not just mostly in love with him!
hope I helped, good luck
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I am a 41 year old man. I have been divorced for 5 yrs. I have been dating a woman on and off for the same five years. We had split it off about a yr and a half ago. I missed her very bad and had began seeing another woman. She started coming around my house and kept trying to get me back. Finally I gave in and blew it off with the other girl. We started seeing each other again and I ended up asking her to marry me last year in Feb.
I have a 16 yr old son who lives with me. He has been thru alot since the divorce. His mom not only walked out on me, but also the kids. My daughter is now 21 and on her own. My son is a big concern.
Last year I purchased a home about 30 miles away in the hometown of my fiance and she moved in with me. My son was upset about the move but in the year since, he has come to love our new town.
My fiance and came up with a financial agreement that She'd pay the mortgage of $1300/month and I'd pay the rest of the bills which total about $2000/month.
Here's the big issue. We used to have a pretty decent sex life except for the fact that she will not give oral sex. The rest of the relationship I thought was good enough that I thought I could probably look past it. I love oral, both giving and receiving.
Our relationship, though not perfect, is extremely good and we are best friends. Except, now she is not interested in sex at all and she's decided that we can have sex every other night. There is no flexibility in this with her. And when its MY NIGHT, then she says to hurry up and let her know when I'm ready. There is no foreplay, no arrousal. She doesn't even participate, at all. Now she don't even let me give her oral, though I'm good at it and she orgasm's every time.
She says I have the problem. It's to the point that I don't want to do anything at all or even be around her if it's not MY NIGHT. I long for passion and romance and she gives me none.
I've tried to talk to her but she refuses point blank to talk about it. I'm very unhappy and very unfulfilled in this relationship.
Two things worry me the most. My son, who has been through so much, is finally beginning to feel stable. If I dump her, then he's hurt again.
Secondly, I love my home very much, though, had we not made a plan, I wouldn't have bought it. It takes both incomes to manage the bills.
I really love her. Either I dump her or resign myself to an unfulfilled sex life.
Also, I've been cheating on her with a 29 yr old. (she's 45). The 29 year old is a freak in the sack and satisfies me immensly. I'm not making a decision based on my affair, but I can't take it anymore. I hate drama, and breaking up is big drama.
I see no more use. She just don't satisfy me. I don't like cheating and can and would be faithful to someone who put a small effort into pleasing me. I think a lazy lover who does not even try to please me is in way being unfaithful.
Is dumpsville the enevitable? Or am I being unreasonable and should change my thinking? (link)
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I think that there has to be a reason to her not wanting sex. More than likely she may be going through metapause but is to scared to express it or deal with it in general. Sex is very important in a relationship but I do not think it is something to break up about.
I would like to address your cheating. I know you say you don't like cheating but you know what...then you should stop. I don't care how little sex you are getting at home, if you love the one you are with there is no reason to cheat. You have a hand use it! Think about what will happen if she finds out you have been cheating. I think that is much more of a problem than her not giving you sex.
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Ok well here's the deal. I was with a guy for around like 7 months. Then we broke up, and went on a month break, but we never really stopped caring about each other. I broke up with him because he was really disrespectful and basically took me for advantage. He didn't know what he had at all. Then we got back together because he wanted me back, and i still really cared about him. We went back out for about 1 1/2 months then i broke up with him agian. He totally acted like he didn't care at all...again, and so i wasn't going to put up with that. He even asked me to go over to his exgirlfriends house. This exgirlfriend is easy, and hooked up with him before we started going out. I said i wouldn't like it if he went. He reluctently said ok, but then after that things only even worse. He was a total jerk and stood me up.
I know that i may be making him sound bad right now, but this is all the pain he's caused me. And i mean you know, easy right, if someone causes you pain you don't go back to them. I guess its just that i want to believe he'll change. And for the most part he is changing. Like he is trying harder but maybe its because he knows he can't control me anymore. I don't know. And to make matters worse he is pressuring me to go back out with him when i don't know what i want.
Next problem. I've kinda had another guy stick around for me through all this. He's been there for me through everything, and helped me out all the times i was miserable from my boyfriend (ex now). I really want to give him a chance but i'm scared he'll hurt me like my ex-boyfriend did. Also i can't quite let go of my ex-boyfriend. I want to be with him, but i know it's bad for me. Also, this new guy is kinda pushing me to go out with him too, and i really don't know if i can do that. I mean i feel bad because they both want to go out with me, but i don't know how to say no, so i feel like im leading them on when i just don't want to hurt their feelings.
What should I do in your opinion? (link)
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ok, just bear with me. i am not cassie, who is the one you actually are asking for help. my name is james, and i am cassie's fiance. i was looking over this site because she said how she felt proud of everything she does for others. but then i saw your question, and trust me, i know a lot about this subject. before i calmed down, and found the girl of my dreams, i was exactly like your ex. from how you describe your ex, he is attempting to play both sides of the field. he wants you for the simple fact that he feels that no one should be able to have you, but he feels that he should be allowed to do what ever he wants, like go over to his easy ex's house. the way i used to be, i would have three or four women that i was having relations with, and going out with the one i knew would give in to my demands. it is very good that you are believing in yourself and not putting up with his shit, i am now a firm believer in the power of will. you should never be in a relationship that the other person is neglectful or emotionally harmful. it is best that you stand strong, and believe in what you know in your heart. he is not the one to be with. i know feelings are a bitch, but trust me, it is better not to repeat old mistakes. my father always said "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me." and i think that is a perfect motto for this situation. if you know it wont turn out well, dont let him sway you.
as for the friend, all i can say is follow your heart and mind. if you think he is like your ex and will hurt you, then tell him no. but if you know he is a good person, and if he has been there for you in a kind and understanding way, maybe he is a good person to be with. true, pushy guys probably suck (personally, i have never had to deal with them. lol) but maybe he sees the way that your ex treated you, and is trying to help you in his own way. i dont know him, but if he has been nothing but supportive, i doubt he is like your ex. but then again, i am just the one giving advice, you are the only one who knows what is best for you. i hope that you make the best choices you can, love with all your heart, and find the light in the darkest of situations.
best of wishes,
james
ps. sorry about me answering your questions instead of cassie. i hope that i was helpful.
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Okay why do most girls go for bad guys?? i mean i like guys with a rugged side but also a sweet side too, which is what i mean. Why do some girls want all bad?? I think it is exhilerating...but like others either say No Way or push it further...Im talking to someone who is somewhat of a bad boy, but he is sweet, he just gets into fights, not with me, with others...but every one is all like why do that?? and is all judging him and what not and its completely retarded (link)
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honestly, I don't see too many girls who like bad boys. I think if girls do it might be because they think the boy will protect them if they are ever in trouble. Some girls think that all boys are bad also, either bad or dorks. Which is not true at all. If I were you if you like your bf you would just ignore the judgments. They don't know him and you do.
My boyfriend has done many stupid things and people judge him all the time and I think it is completely retarded because he is also the nicest guy in the world (in my opinion).
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Alright so here's the deal I'm female and 20 years old,
I was with this guy lets say "X" for secrecy. Five months, I really felt a connection with him so deep that when I fell or hurt myself he'd be like ohh my hand hurt today and i don't know why... But things started to get hard and we argued a LOT and broke up. The night we broke up he was IMing my best friend and they had umm phone sex? I found out the next day and was so hurt, that I went straight to this guy who I had been flirting with while i was with "X" we'll call him "Y". So me and "Y" we have EVERYTHING in common from music to food to movies etc etc etc we haven't found anything that we don't both like. He told me he loved me and wanted to be with me and I told him I loved him... but today I just feel confused am I doing the right thing? Who should I choose X or Y???? I have no idea. Has anyone else ever been in this situation? (link)
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I have not been in this situation but you just need to look at who makes you happier.
If I had to choose I would probably give up on "x" because it seems like he has given up on you. In the end it is you and your heart that has to make the choice.
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I've been with me boyfriend for 2 years now and i love him a lot..He has such a hold on my heart and he just doesint know how bad i love him..instead of believing i love him he tells me i dont and gives me so many examples of why i dont..it just hurts when you know you love someone and they just deny your love...ANy way i wanted to know how i should i handle my boyfriends controliveness..he gets mad when i get dresses for school and say that i dont get dreesed for him the reason why i dont get dresses for him is beacuse when i do he says smart things like what! you wear them tight jeans to school or yea you like wearing that tight top to school huh? so i stopped getin dresses for him to prevent his comments..so now he gets mad when i dress for school...what do i do what should i say to him??? (link)
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I know you love him and this might be hard to hear, but he might have a problem that needs attention. My bestfriend is in this type of relationship and I don't see it getting better unless he gets help.
The problem is, is that it will be extremely hard for him to understand it. If this is a huge issue for you, you have to think very hard about what to do.
You could talk to him to try to convince him to seek help, you could have a deep conversation with him and hope it clicks for him, or you could dump him and see if that makes him change. Any way you look at it, it will be difficult.
I am sorry if I didn't help you but that is the way I see it and it is not a cut and dry solution.
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