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Hi please help
My girlfriend and i are about to get married. This week her ex boyfriend contact her. He needs help. He has been lying to everyone. He is at a stage where he want to end his life. My girlfriend decides that she want to help him. She feels sorry for him. In four years he has had no contact with her. Why now. What should i do.
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your soon to be wife cannot help him. Like a person below me said it is hard to know, not knowing him and all. It definelty is a possibility that he wants to split you guys but he has no real right to ask your gf for help. She cannot do anything because once she thinks she has helped him and leaves him alone it will more than likely happen again. She is jumping into a cycle which will more than likely hurt your relationship. If she wants to help him she needs to contact the ones he is close to and get him into treatment. Now I am not saying it is terrible for her to be there for him but this has a huge opportunity to ruin your relationship and you cannot let that happen.
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its difficult because i dont know the type of person your girlfriend ex is but i would be aware because people that are suicidal sometimes arent thinking straight. but try to trust your girlfriends judgement. i think its normal for her to want to help him and he may be contacting her because he needs help from someone that really knows him. again i dont know the type of person he os or the type of relationship that they had but if they havent had contact in 4 yrs i wouldnt be to worried about them hooking up or anything. i dont think shes going to leave her fiance for a suicidal ex who needs help because he has a lying problem.
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My opinion would be to start by alerting the autorities of this/if YOU feel its is a serious issue. Normally, if he is ligitimate, he'll reach out to the people he once knew and possibly loved to see if anyone cares about him. If your gf is really inclined to help her ex I would say stick by her side, try and help her all you can and things will pan out in the end. Hope this could help o^-^o
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