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Yo, the name is Kev. I'ma a sucker for beautiful eyes, a lover, poet, artest, martial artest, writer, gamer and romantic... Need i say more?
I have 17 years of age, Ima guy, and I live in Rockville Maryland and go to Rockville High Skool. I made this thing because I wanted to try and help people... I know that there are few things to help myself... So I try and help people from ending up in a hole that I many never get out of.. So, BlackBatman at your service people

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My boyfriend went to a party and did body shots with another girl. This was the first time he drank any alcohol, and he got really drunk and said he would'nt have done it otherwise. He was the one who told me as soon as it happened. Should I be mad at him or should I forgive him?

Well if he was drunk while he was doing it then I suppose you can forgive him. Although I'd probably advize him not to drink again because after all you never know what'll happen when he gets drunk. I mean, look what happend, and it was only his first time. Plus, drinking isn't good for you in the first place.

-BlackBatman-

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long story short -

i spoke to this guy on friday and spoke to him for a whole week. we made out on saturday (last night) he doesnt want a relationship, but i do. i'm sick and tired of hearing about guys breaking girl's hearts. how can i draw him into me? and play hard to get, but not too hard because i already tried that and it's sooo hard, i can't draw away from him that much without making him think i'm not interested (which might him go away and i don't want that) i know the age difference is a lot, but i know this can work. it's possible. i know it. i'm 14/f, he just turned 17. come on guys don't doubt me! any tips at all?
i really liked how those 4 girls in just tucker must die broke his heart. but i can't do the things they did, because this is a different case. please help!

I can understand the fact that you'd like to get revenge for him leading you on, but the best revenge is to live good. Besides, if you've only spoken to him for one week then you shouldn't be that upset about this whole thing. My advice is to just forget the whole revenge thing and move on.

-BlackBatman-

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ok im a 15 year old girl and recnetly i have been talking to my ex who lives in another state and we're getting back together but my other ex(lets call him Brandon) has been talking to me latly and keeps asking me if i wanna hook up wiht him n stuff. i keep telling him no and that i might get back together with Jake (the first ex) but brandon keeps asking me to be his whore n stuff. i keep telling him no but wat should i say to him to make him stop asking me and just be my friend?

Situations like these are though. Although theres always going to be a solution to them. The best thing you can really do is just keep telling him that you don't want to hook out with him or anything. You could try ignoring him but, that in some cases might not be the best thing. You'll just have to keep trying and tell him bluntly to stop asking you, and that you just want to be his friend.

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So ive been going out w/ my girlfriend for 4 months now and up until about the past 3 weeks eevrything has been fantanstic. the 3 weeks comes into play because thats when she stopped taking her anti-depressant medication. She told me she just ran out and hasnt bother to get the prescription re-filled, but i think she just got tired of them. since then shes been lashing out at me, had unstable moods, and just isnt the same. Ive told her shes changing but she just ignores me. I love her very much but if shes goign to continue like this (it seems like its intentional) then i may just have to call it quits.

I know EXACTALLY how you feel. This same situation happend with me and two of my gfs actually. I think the best thing that you can really do is just talk with her and tell her how you feel about it. Other then that you don't have many options.. I hope everything works out

-BlackBatman-

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So I have these two friends that I'm really close with. We hang out all the time and such, but sometimes it feels like I'm so different from them. You see, they are both always the center of attention and ALL the guys like them. No lie! Like, I always feel secondary when I'm with them. For example, I was hanging with both of them the other day and we were with 3 other guys. Two of those guys likes one friend, and the other guy likes my other friend...but I always feel left out because no guys like me. It's like they're always hanging out with people when I'm there and I'm never really part of their "clique." For example, the guys invited both of my friends over and didn't invite me. It's like I'm invisible. I don't get it; people say I'm really pretty and nice and blah blah blah and it's not like these two friends of mine are devestatingly gorgeous but the thing is, I'm never the center of attention, I guess I'm just too laid back. I kinda wish I was more outgoing and confident like these two friends. So what I'm asking is, does anyone know how I can be more confident and noticed like my friends are? Any tips or websites on how to be more outgoing and noticed and to get guys to like you? Because obviously what I'm doing now isn't working. Thanks mucho.

To be honest, you really shouldn't change yourself just to make guys like you. It's really not worth it. I think that the best thing you can do for yourself in this possition is try to be more outgoing and impulsive. Some people might try and be the opposite but, again: You shouldn't change yourself just to make guys like you. Wait for the guy that likes you for who you really are. That'll be the best guy of all

-BlackBatman-

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16/f

to make a long long story short..
there was this guy (jeff) that loved his gf and they went out for like a year and 4 months they broke up he thought i was really hott and wanted to do stuff with me and we start "talking" then he went back out with his girlfriend now they broke up i had feelings for him and NOW...

tonight jeff was sleeping over at my cousins house with their other friend joe. well my best friend/cousin nikki was there and all of a sudden i get a call from her so im like ok hello? and it was a guy and theyre like hey baby blah blah we gonna do it tonight? like joking and i was like uhhh i dont know who this is! and they're like come on how can you not know baby. and then it ended up being jeff and but was joking! but then nikki wanted me to sleepover and i wish i could of but i have to go somewhere early tomorow morning and jeff wanted me too. ;) i wouldnt have SEX with him though im strong enough to say NO. but do you think he is interested in me? i know he is deff. attracted to me he even said so himself. but i know he wants to do stuff with me! but im glad that he is still thinking about me. i dont know what do you think about this whole deal. hes so nice and everything treats his gf's like queens! and doesnt rush anyone into something they dont want to do. but i know he just wants to do stuff with me and im fine with making out but nothing really more. he said he still loved his girlfriend and wouldnt give up on her but then why is he talking to me!?

Looks like you'd be the rebound girl if you did go out with him. To add: He probably just only wants you because of your body, and I don't think you want a relationship like that. Those are the worst kinds. If I were you I'd stay away from everything that has to do with him and his ex and not do anything with him. Untill he likes you for YOU and not how you look

-BlackBatman-

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age:13
gender:female

ok well this may be a weird question but i wanna know.i am bisexual and i wanna know how it feels to kiss a girl not a guy.i was almost in a relationship with a girl but she moved away.i have a bf but if i ever dated a girl i just wanna know how it feels.i always knew i liked girls more than friends ever since i was in 3rd grade.some of my friends know that i'm bi but my bf doesn't know.so i'm just asking if any of you know how it feels to kiss a girl.so if anyone can give me any info please let me know.
peace up,a town down.

Kissing a girl isn't any diffrent then kissing a guy. A kiss is a kiss no matter what the gender

-BlackBatman-

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hey my boyfriend is in the army and he had to go back to iraq today and he's already been shot twice.,... i just basically need help to keep going... im so scared that he might get hurt or worse ... not come back
thanks

It's always hard thing to see someone you love to off and fight... Seeing that hes already been shot twice you know that war is unpredictable. So, you don't know what's going to happen at any time over there. The best thing you can do right now is just to hope, and have faith that he'll return. Try and occupy your mind everyday so you won't have to think and worry about him so much. Just keep a strong will and he'll carry that with him into battle. I hope everything works out for you two. You have my heart and hopes with you

-BlackBatman-

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Oh no! i have a problem. this boy asked me out like a week ago and he is seriously...like so in love with me. the problem is that i dont think i really have such deep feelings for him. and i cannot break up with him because he keeps on telling me he keeps getting hurt by girls..and that i make him so happy and you know things that would make it impossible for me to break up with him. So any suggestions on maybe how to get myself to like him more?? Or even what to do?!THANKS i need it.

Well, you can't really MAKE yourself like him but, you can try and find out some new things about him. Maybe that would make you realize that hes a even better guy then you thought before. Or, if you just really don't feel like being in a relationship with him, then it would be best if you just told him the truth. It would be better to tell him the turth rather then just lying to him. It would show that you really do love him enough to do that for him, and yourself. Trust me. I just got off the phone with my ex last night. She told me that she was no longer in love with me. It hurt, it hurts like hell but, I would have rather her tell the truth then lie to me. So, do what you think and feel is right. I hope everything works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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I have a boyfriend and weve been going out for a week. I know it doesnt seem like a long time, but he and I liked eachother for a long time. Well he recently is kindof ignoring me, not talking to me (like in short sentances) and he took me out of the first spot on myspace and He doesnt call very much. Its kindof getting annoying and I think he might cheat on me. My problem is, I still like him, but I do want to be happy and get rid of him early so it doesnt get bad. What do I do?

Well, obviously something is going on with him. I'd say that the best thing that you can do is attempt to talk to him about it. Remember: communication is the foundation to a good relationship. So, try to talk to him about it, and see whats wrong. Then, hopefully you can solve the problem issue and you can both be happy. I hope everything works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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well this is your typical, boy falls in love with his best friend. i have loved this girls since high school, and out friendship is the strongest friendship anybody could have. we are like exactly the same.

well, i never told her how i felt, i believed that i had no chance with her. she was always with someone with someone else, and she seemed happy. certain things happened , and i had to tell her how i felt. we had to stop talkin for a couple of years, but we are now talking but keeping our friendship very private and hidden.

i have been in love with this girl for like 6 years, i know it could never be, but something inside tells me that she is the one. :-( i am aware of my situation, i know i should let it go, but i cant. every day i am more and more convinced that she is the love of my life, and i can't do nothing abou it. i really dont talk about this , i have these intense feelings and yet i must pretend that i dont feel anything, so it would help to hear form others. has anyone been through this?

Well, my thoughts on this is that you have to go and tell her how you feel. It's been a long time keeping these kinds of feelings bottled up inside yourself. I just had to call my ex last night and confront her (shes no longer in love with me). So, life is too short to wait around for things to happen, or try and put them out of your mind. If I were you. I'd be on the first bus to her house, telling her EVERYTHING that I feel twoards her. I hope everything works out for you

-BlackBatman-

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okay i'm 14 and female.
i have this guy friend that is really fun, and hot. but there was all this stuff (nothing bad) that went on between us last school year. and of course we hadn't talked for 2 months (summer break) then at lunch yesterday (we were outside), he came up to me and started talking to me (for the first time this school year)and then he started flirting with me BIG time. and i mean he was hugging me and wouldn't let go (and yes i liked that but that's something he normally wouldn't do) and he said something that i liked but i'm not going to say. of course i like him, and i asked him out last school year and he said no because he told me his last gf cheated on him. he's way more outgoing than last year and i think he likes me more than last year too.

but with the flirting...when guys act like that, what's it supposed to mean? and when we start talking more this year, should i ask him out again at the right time if he shows more signs of liking me? or would that not be such a good idea? thanks for the help.

Well, it looks like he changed over the summer. So, I think that you should wait a little into the school year before you try and make any kind of move at all. Though, if he dose still flirt with you into the rest of the school year, I think you should ask him out again if you feel like doing so, and if not. Then you guys can still be good friends.

-BlackBatman-

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I am 14 and my boyfriend reaghan is 16. I really love him with all of my being. But sometimes he gets real mad at me and he gets real mad at me an then says he will call me back after he's done smoking and when he's done he is a loving person jus the way we met. He is as good as passionate gangsters get and he gets real mad when I ask him a question like if he's dark or bright an i thought he said black so I asked him again and he said if I want a bright person I could go look for him. He is also a real jealous person but I really love him and every three minutes that am away from him i literally have to call him. please tell me how to deal with him because i really love him how do I tell him am scared to talk to him without pissing him off .

Well if you're scared of him, and hes always getting pissed off then I think you should run and never look back. Adding onto the fact that you're scared of the person you love, hes a "gangster" which today isn't good. Even if you're just a poser. Also, 16 and smoking is a no no. But if you really want to make your relationship work, try and talk to him about how he makes you feel, and if that dosen't work then you shouldn't be in that relationship

-BlackBatman-

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ok i know this is bad but my bf is 20 and im 13 but im vietnamese and i went over there and thats where i met him apparently age doesnt matter over there but now im back here and he lives over there which sucks but every1 says hes using me but he says he wants to marry me when im 18 which im not sure about yet since im just 13 but i dont know what to believe or what to do about the distance i can only see him once a year and i can only talk to him like once a month i dont know what to do should i keep going out w/ him? and i dont know if hes using me or not but i love him alot ahh im soo confused help!

Well, I dont really know if hes using you. Since you haven't said anything that would really sugest that, and you did say that age dosen't matter there but, if you can't talk to him that offten, or see him almost at all then maybe you should break up with him untill you can. You say you "love" him but, most people your age throw around that word too much. I know I did. Just wait untill you're a bit older. Then try and figure things out

-BlackBatman-

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13/f ok so im 5'6" but im slim and most of the guys in my grade are shorter than me or at least a little short. My height at the most. Would they not want to go out with me or kiss me if im that tall?

Nah, actually, girls grow before guys. So its natural to be a little taller then the boys for a short wile. And no, some guys actually like taller woman. So, you have nothing to worry about

-BlackBatman-

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16/f..
ive liked this kid for awhile..well like about a month and a half we flirted nonstop and i love the attention dont get me wrong most of us do but then he got a girlfriend. yeah i was like ok no more flirting for us but guess what he still does? i love it but i kinda do it back because he does it first =) but he really likes his girlfriend too and i think they will last a long time. i cant get over him no matter what i do and i see him alot and that just makes me fall all over again. i love seeing him but everytime i THINK i might see him i feel like i have to look perfect just for him and i dont know why. he isnt shallow either! i can tell that he most likely thinks im attractive (not to sound conceited or anything) but we always like flirt touchy/feely kinda thing. what should i do? i cant stop thinking about this kid and talking about it will ruin our friendship! we are pretty good friends.. i just wish we could be something more but hes got a gorgeous girlfriend that seems really sweet

its killing me..people are always like aww they're so CUTE! and im just thinking i wish i could be happy for him but i just cant knowing that i have such strong feelings for him..any suggestions for this situation?

Well, I think you should tell him about how you feel. If its really tearing you up inside. Then, if he accepts your feelings then maybe if him and his gf break up then he'll come to you

-BlackBatman-

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15/female. i dont have a boyfriend even though i want one soo bad. i guess i get shy at times and thats why i dont have one. you know that young love kind of feeling i never had that and i think its because i have a father figure in mylife ..hes my protector and i love him very much but at times i cant stand him for the things he does and because i think it's his fault i never had a boyfriend. Dont get me wrong i'm very grateful for him. but when i was younger and boys wanted to go out with me i always felt i didnt need a boyfriend. now that im older and my hormones are doing what they do best i feel like i want a guy that i can be close with. but everytime i'm around a boy i like and he puts his arms around me memories come to me when i was little when my father use to hold me around the waist. or if i lean on a guys chest it's like when i was little when i use to lean on my fathers chest giving him a hug...does anybody know how i feel?? why do i feel this way??
i really want a boyfriend but i dont wanna act weird around him. and most guys usually just want to fuck me and im still a virgin so its really hard to have a good boyfriend unless we're probably friends first. but i have no actual boy friends:(

Well, its kinda obvious that you feel this way because your father has been such a huge influence in your life. If you find a guy, a good guy that dosen't just want you for sex or tries to use you in any way then you could just explain to him your situation with the touching and everything. If they really like you then they'll understand your situation, and you guys will probably be better of because of it. Hope I helped

-BlackBatman-

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A guy asked me out but his not just a guy i always had a crush on him lol && i love him we are going on a double date && i wanna look pretty. what should i wear? how should my clothse look? im so nervous! give me some advice please:D && thank you :)

As long as you act like yourself, the answers will most always be there. I probaly could give you more advice but I don't exactally know the details of the kind of date that you're going on.

-Black Batman-

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I need a creative idea. How do I ask the girl of my dreams out on a date. But first of all, what things should I say to her, just a few tips that will melt her heart? I know that there is'nt that much you can do to melt her heart, but can you honestly think of a way of using body language to attract her to me. What the hell do I do? I rate 5's
Im 15/m and nearly 16.

Well, I always say that being yourself is the best way to attract somone. But if you want some text book way of smooth talking then you could always surf the net for one of those sites with tips for guys like you who are in need of a lil' romantic assiistance. Although I would just sugest that you think of everything yourself. So that it's more meaningful to both of you.

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well i met this guy...and well we kinda hit it off and now we're together, and well all he wants to talk about to me is having sex(with me)...and he says he wants to marry me someday. i dont really know him that well and vice-versa, im not sure what to do about all of this, i wanted to stay virgin till i get married...hes moving alittle to fast for me, idk wat to do?!

Speak your mind and tell him that you'd like to wait. If he cares about you he'll understand. If you can't do that thne that's the sign of a bad relationship. Remember, comunication is the foundation of a good relationship. So, just keep talking to eachother and you'll see these problems occur less and less.

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