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So I was on this website where you kinda find dates. Yes I am of the age. But they usually ask if I'm talking to anyone else. Which I always deny. I am currently "talking" to around 5 guys. Is it wrong to keep my options open or should I just choose one and ditch the others. The problem with that is that I'm not sure exactly who I want to stick with and if it'll be worth it. Because what if i change my mind and then it will be too late to take things back. :/ help..
Its great that you are open, you dont know who these people really are yet and so to make a decision and just choose one could end up in a bad relationship. When you are ready and have found the person you want to try and get serious with, than you can stop getting to know other men, but if you arent serious with anyone than it is your perogative to go ahead and get to know many people. If a guy can't accept that than maybe he needs to step his game up and prove he is better than the others or leave if her cant handle it. If guys you are speaking to are not keen on the idea of you talking to others than they are probably over protective and jealous and that would be the first sign that they may not be right for you. Dont go into detail about talking to other men but you dont need to hide it either. Good Luck finding Mr.Right
How do I get over the one that I love even though I was the one who broke it off. We were together for 4 1/2 yrs. I was tired of the binge drinking and the kids running the house. I never had a say in discipline or ne thing. They are not my kids but we were a family. I still love her and she is with someone. She says she still loves me but wants to give her current relationship a try. We have been broke up for 3 months andshe is all I think about. HELP. I want to heal.
Its hard to get over someone you love and there will probably always be a place in your heart for her, but you need to remember why you broke it off. The situation you were in may of been causing harm to you emotionally and you made the right decision for yourself. Now that you have been away for a while and the feelings you were feeling befor due to the drinking and kids are gone all you can remember is the love you have for her. Try to do things you used to enjoy doing by yourself or with friends(movies, games excercise-which is actually a natural anti-depressent) If you have lost contact with your friends, as that is what tends to happen during a serious relationship, try and rekindle old friendships. We are fortunate to have modern networking sites such as facebook and maybe you can get into touch with old friends. You will definatly make new friends as you get your own single life into gear again. We tend to loose ourselves when we are so into other people and I am confident that if you find your hobbies and interests again you will begin to start feeling love for yourself and even though you may still love her, that feeling wont be so dominant as you will be keeping yourself busy and feeling all these new emotions for new friends or new found interests. Good Luck and stay strong!
She's crying because she had a nightmare last night that her husband didn't love her anymore. She's been married to him for 10 years and they love each other very much. But she's scared to talk to him. I hate seeing her so sad. She's 9 months pregnant too. Due to have their first baby next week. What can I do to make her feel better ?
Well since she is pregnant Im going to say her hormone levels are probably through the roof and what she is feeling is probably alot of worry/stress and she may be self-conscience. I'm not sure how long you have known her but try and remind her of the good times and the times her husband has proved to her his love, if she isnt ready to speak to him about it thats fine but she should be open with him sooner rather than later because he really is the only one that can tell her that he does love her and wants to have a reat future with her. Remind her that it was just a dreama and remind her that her baby needs her to be relaxed and happy and brought into a happy enviroment. Tell her that she needs to remember they are married and having a baby which will probably be the happiest time of her life. Congratulations to her by the way :)
Okay well i am 14 yrs old i am an 8th grader and i love a guy. yah sounds simple but its not.here it goes i need help.
Okay well in february i met this guy and we i guess hit it off and we went out for like two days we didn't know each other so it was stupid.anyhoo he live(d) up the street from me so every weekend we would hang out he would touch my boobs and butt and stuff and i kinda really liked it anyway,,anyway he is a big player but really sweet and always could put a smile on my face anyway we liked each other on and off lots of times over this year of knowing each other. anyway he moved so we don't hang anymore i don't see him anymore i should just move on? I cant i love him so much nobody knows so what exactly should i do? get over him..how?
I know you love this guy and had a good time with him but you said it yourself..he is a player..your in 8th grade go easy on yourself you ahve such a long way ahead of you....its ok if you dont like anybody right now just dont waste so much time thinking about this guy...hang out wiht friends try not to talk about him and slowly but surely he will get off your mind...Good Luck!
Okay. So, I'm 18/f and I want to tell my mom that I recently lost my virginity. If you must know - I'm not technically "with" the guy, but we've been talking for a little while, but she hasn't met him yet. Also, I don't regret it.
My mom & I are fairly close and she knows most things that go on in my life, I just don't know how to bring it up to her because I don't know how she will react. It's not that I anticipate problems with it, I just want to have her behind me and aware of what's going on in case anything unexpected happens. Any positive advice would be wonderful.
Well i give you props for being honest and close with your mother. I'm not sure how you normally talk about serious things with her, some people sit down at dinner, others go out to ease off any tension, some people just get home and Blurt it out, w/e your way is with her, do that. Tell her that you want to always be honest with her and that your relationship means alot to you. let her know that you were seeing a guy and tell her that you guys "did it" or "had sex" whatever the words you want to use. Make sure she knows you protected yourself and that even though you are not dating him you do not regret it. make sure she knows that you are not planning on sleeping around but that your first time was an experience you were ready to handle and glad that you did becasue you learned from it. most importantly be honest and hopefully everyone will be open minded about this! good luck!
well im 16 and i um like this guy and he is 20 and im wondering is that a big age diffrence
Its not about the years inbetween. Its about how much you have growna nd he ahs grown. You may not know it now, but you are not done growing emotionally mentally or physically. He is very close to being there. If you were 21 and he were 25 than that would be fine because you will both be on the same level. Even if you think your on the same level as him now you wont be in 4 or 5 years and your relationship rather good or bad will be suffering. So enjoy being young and wait. If in 5 years you and him are still single and you still talk, than get to know him. But not right now its too early!
17/F
While I was dating my boyfriend (beginning of the school year), I became really close with one of my guy friends, who became one of my best friends. It got to the point where, as my relationship with my boyfriend came to an end, I really fell for him, HARD. He left his date at homecoming to dance with me the whole night (they went as friends so she was okay with it) and I continued to have the biggest crush on him.
However, for the past couple of months it has gotten really weird. We can't be alone together without it being awkward, or quiet. We went snowboarding with some friends and he BEGGED me to sit with him on the ski lift, but when I did he wouldn't really talk to me. It's gotten to the point where, although my friends think he has interest in me, I think I'm doing something wrong?
How do I fix my relationship with him? I miss being able to talk to him about everything, and when I try to bring up how we used to be, he just nods and agrees but doesn't really seem to notice/care.
He is probably so quiet because he doesnt know if he should react to his feelings. your doing anything wrong, if you were he wouldnt want to sit with you to begin with. i say you talk to him and try to act flirty with him to see if you responds to your actions. Hint to him that you think hes attractive and that you may like him. If you comews out and tells he doesnt feel the same you will be embaressed but atleast you will know! And if he says he feels something for you than there will be no reason to be so quiet with e/o. Btw if you guys get together and things dont work out, try to stay friends. Try to end it on a good and mutual note. If you guys can act like adults everything should work out for the best. Good luck1
Okay, so my friends all call me a player. Mostly beacuse I can never stay with a guy for to long, but heres the thing. I started talking to this kid, joe, and i think im really starting to fall for him. its just wierd cause im not used to being this attachted to someone.. usually when i start to get attatched, i end up making up some excuse and leave. I really dont want to do it, it just happens.. How can i overcome being a "player" and give this kid a chance ?
please hellp me, thankkkks (:
You ditch guys because you are afraid of commitment and afraid of where the relationship may lead you. I say go for it, get to know him, if he is really special you will stay with him! Dont see him ALL the time cuz you might get sick of him. Go out with friends instead of just the 2 of you so you can get to know him better and not rush into anything too intimate. And if you do start dating him don't rush things, because you might get scared and leave him adn end up regretting it. Just take things slow and remember that everything happends for a reason so if you do end up leaving this guy its ok! Cuz there will be many other men. I just ask that you treat him the way you want to be treated because KARMA is a B*tch and you dont want it coming back to btie you...lol....Take care hun. Hope all goes well for you!
We know we are not right for each other. There is a tremendous amount of tension and resistance to connect on his part because he is afraid of getting hurt.
He is bipolar on meds, 13 years older, jobless, broke and struggling with erectile dysfunction. I am a single mom with a six years old daughter, working professional who makes a good living supporting me and my daughter.
He is only interested in having sex with me when we meet, he seldom calls me and if he does, he hangs up after one ring, expecting me to call him back.
He tells me he's seeing other girls and then I would be hurt and then he says he was only making it up to test me. He's been testing me for over one and a half years now. I don't feel any progress in his trust level. I am tired of proving myself.
I don't think I have ever connected in such a way with someone before. The connection is deep, I can read his mind and his feelings from the first date. I have never feel that way with anyone before in my life. He's the first.
I just dumped him because of his poor treatment towards me. Plus, I really think he's not into reconnecting anymore after our last breakup which was in april. Ok, this is like the 5th or 6th time, but whenever he calls again...I always go running back. Help me. I want to stop. Those are the only times he calls me.
I need a real boyfriend, a normal one who doesn't play with my mind and emotions like him who feels like he has to in order to feel good about himself. Oh yes, he said:" F*ck, I love you ok?" last week, because he asked me to go over to see him and I said I would only do it if he says I love you.
He said I love you once before and that was in 2007 summer. He said that one unexpectedly over the phone on his own.
Any suggestion will be much appreciated.
Now i`m not sure if his actions are a result of his Bipolar condition but the way he treats you is not healthy for you or you child. If you wont stay away from him for your own phycological ell being do it for your daughter. I say, do not return his calls. Let him know why you left and why you are not going back. let him know you know someone who will return the feelings you feel for him. Tell him it is a two way street and you deserve to have him treat you the way you treat him. I understand that you love hi and that you connect with him but don`t let him put you down. He is making you feel worthless. You are a wonderful mother who can clearly live happy independently. Go out and meet other people, but don`t fall for the same type of man. After he finishes his degree maybe he will realise what he will realise what he lost.
I would like to tell you a story. My father recently left my mother, she is 51 he is 69. She alwasy said she stayed with him for us, they never showed each other affection and the would constantly put each otehr down. My father didnt like my mother side of the family and so she stopped visiting and felt she was trapped with him. Finally for some reason he left him. She was devastated. After being with the same man and picking him up everytime he fell he up and goes. She is in so much financial trouble but now that she knows really what it is like to be without him she will never go back. and he has come back asking to return. She says she loved him but he is not worth the pain he put her through.
Think about your future, think about all the times he makes you cry or yells or disrespects you, is that the kind of man you want to live the rest of your life with. Is that the kind of father figure you want your daughter to be around. Think about your future and do what is right. he has nothing to offer you from what i have heard so just be strong, and dont go back.
okay well im a real tease around my boyfriend, like ill kiss all around his lips but not on his lips. but he wants to know how to do that back to me and he cant thing of anything to do to me to tease me like that...
guys are is there anything you do to your girls to tease them?
or girls is there anything your guys do to you that make you go absolutly crazy?
kissing my back or neck and getting me soo excited that iw ant to kiss him back but he wont let me and will continue kissing me until i get all goosebumps everywhere.
I want to get my boyfriend something
he would really appreciate for x-mas!
he is very into cars!
and things like that...
any ideas????
Well my bf is the same. He likes to "enhance" his car. Depends on how much you want to spend, you can get him a sound system or deck, winter tires, or a gift card to his favorite mechanic or something. You can make him a gift basket of good car cleaning supplies and then have a doy when you guys both clean his car in the summer. car magazine subscribtion or a car calender. I hope i helped. I have ran out of ideas for my boyfriend so if you can think of good 100-300 dollar gifts let me know. My bf is also into electronics so get back to me. thanks!
16/f
Okay, so this guy and i are officially "talking" now. We talked for like 3 weeks just to get to know eachother and just be friends. Well for a week now we have been "talking" as in i like you more than friends but were not going out yet. Anyways, he calls me every night and we talk between 1 and 2 hours each night. I hardly get to see him in school but he never comes to my locker and he knows where it is. He knows where i stand in school before it actually starts. I see him for a second after my 1st period and i guess he never sees me (or maybe he just acts lie it)i'm just so confused on why he won't come see me. If i guy likes you, wouldn't he find time to come to your locker and wait for you or talk to you in the halls? Am i right or wrong? Thanks!
Some guys are different. Is he a "player" or is he known to be a "good" guy? Next time you guys talk ask him if he likes you more than friends. I know you say he does but has he told you himself? Another thing you can do is go up to him, why wait for him to go to you. See whats up and than you can ask him to walk you to class or something and hopefully it will become a routine. hope i helped good luck and be good...;)
OK, I have a question.
Do people flirt with the opposite sex even when they dont like them..?
Definately! Its just in some peoples personality. They do it because they are really outoing and friendly, and it just happends!
so me and my boyfriend are 17 and we have been dating for three years. I really love him and we both think it is time for the next step. I want to give him head, but do not know how. How do i give him a blow job, what is the process? I have a pretty small mouth, is that a problem?
First thing you MUST remember is ReLaX! if you are thinking about what you are doing, neither of you will enjoy it and its gonna suck. Just put it in your mouth and go with the flow. They do like it WET and they like when you use your tongue; not in any perticular way, just use it. don't think that you HAVE to have it in your mouth at all times. its ok if you switch it up and lick him or use your hands in between. Another thing is that if you are grossed out or do not think your ready, don't do it. You'll get uncomfortable and might be too afraid to do it again. So just rememeber, Be confortable and relax. Pretend its a popsicle-literally...good luck, and play safe...
17/f.
bf is 18
hi...i need some advice =].. my whole life i've let my mom intimidate me and control it... when she feels like she loses control of me she goes on a rampage.. a couple of months ago, my bf and my mom had an encounter... she was talking and he just walked out... from that day on she dOESNT want me with him. but i care for him alot.. we been through alot of things even though we've only been dating for 6 months... what should i do? i stood up to her, and told her i was still dating him... she was mighty pissed... but i cant let her run my life forever... any advice?
Well i'm with you, its your life and as long as your not doing anything stupid she should be able to trust you...unfortunately parents arent that easy. If she is stubborn she is going to keep insisting you break up with him. try to keep your relationship with your bf and your relationship with your mom. But do let her know that you care about him and want her to give him another chance on behalf of your happiness. as long as she knows in the back of her mind that you try to respect her as your mother she may still try to control you but in the end (it may take weeks or months) she will realise that you are happy and she is going to have to deal with it. I can't give you advice on how to make her less controlling, shes been doing it for 17 years a couple of words isn''t going to change her mind. But be strong and don't stress out. Just remember she is your mother she will always love you so she kinda has to accept your decisions. You just can't give up and continue to be respectful to her.
warning --this is extremely long =\
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. i duno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much
Well I think that you should tell him EXACTLY how you feel. If its better for you to talk to him online then I guess you can do that but it would be best to talk to him at school. Since I know you're a little shy right now I think you should message him and tell him exactly what you said at the end of your question. Tell him you really care about him as a friend and you want to be able to talk to him again. Tell him that you're sorry that your shy but that he needs to give you time and help you through it in order for you to open up to him. Tell him you regret saying no when he asked you out and you miss talking to him. Then go on from there. If he shrugs off everything you say then you'll find out the whole year you have been obsessing has been a waste. I think that this guy seems sincere and was getting mixed messages from you so he just cut the whole idea of you guys dading off. So i'm pretty sure you won't be upset about comfronting him. After you have talked to him about everything online when you see him at school start off with a smile and a nod then throughout the day you talk to him and he will most liely talk to you too since he should be helping you through everything in order for you to become outgoing. I hope I helped. You should alwasy be honest NO MATTER WHAT so talk to him tell him how you feel and you cant go wrong :] Good Luck!
ok so i really want some help . please. i will rate 5's for anyy.
ok soo. i have a new boyfriend we'll call him jake (of 4 days) and i really like him. i never see him he lives like 20 min away.. different school and stuff and i havent seen him since last year at a batmitzvah where i met him. we talk online a lot and (4 days ago) he asked me out. i said yes because i like him and hes nice and blahh. however i have been in love with this one guy we'll call him chris. (these are not their real names) so i have like loved chris for a year. he was a jerk to me.. and so i TOLD myselfi didnt like him anymore but i still did. so anyways,to get to my point. i still love chris even though im dating jake. i dont want to dump jake but how should i get over chris. and chris is like a good friend. and another thing.. jake ,i feel, is always taking advantage of me and my body.. he always asks if i'm horney or what we would do (how far we'd go) or if i would send "sexy" pics of me. (if you know what i mean) and he says that like every time we talk and ugh its annoying but i still like him a lot. soo yeah id love any advice thanks sooo much and sry if this was sooo long
Well, jake sounds like the real jerk. He is obviously in it only cuz he's a pervert and nothing else. he has no respect for you and you shouldnt be with him. Plus it sounds like you guys don't even know eachother. The chris kid. If you think he is such a jerk it shouldnt be hard for you to get over him. If its sooo hard for you to get over him then he's obviously doing SOMETHING right. Well anyways point is, you and Jake should just like not even be friends. Not worth it. And chris well hang out with him be friends and if you guys hit it off and become something more you do, but if you dont you dont. Im pretty sure you are young so if you dont have a boyfriend for a bit who cares.
I broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago. Since about the week of our break up, I've been hanging out with one of his best friends, and we've become extremely close. I'm beginning to fall for him, and likewise... but whenever this happens, I change my mind. I like the challenge, but once the other person starts to have feelings for me too, I'm bored and don't like them anymore. I really don't want to do that this time... because I really care about him.
I'm afraid to have a relationship, because I know that, being the way I am, I'm going to ruin it and lose an amazing friend.
Help?
You know what, the same thing used to happen to me. What you need to do is make sure that you are serious about this guy. Whenever i went out with a guy it didnt take too long and we'd be breaking up because i would loose interest. I think this happens cuz even tho you like this guy he may not be your type, and even if you dont know this it might be true. I think you should let him know that you cant rush into things and that you wanna be sure about things befor you take it any further. If he sticks around and you dont loose interest you will most likely be positive that you arent going to loose interest for no reason this time, if he doesnt stick around you know he was only up for a little fling thing and that saves you heart ache, but like i said dont do anything until you are completely sure, and dont shrug off any doubt you may have until u are completely positive about your feelings for each other and your relationship and i can almost guarentee that you will not just loose interest out of no where, and if you do i can almost guarentee it wont be untill a long while after you are dating and all the good times you guys will have will be worth it.
well. im 15/f and i like this guy that i KNOW likes me back.. i see him about every week or so.. we flirt and all.. but hes not doing anything about it.. all of my friends say that he told them that he 'adores me' and all.. but hes really not taking anything to the next step.. is there something i can do to show/tell him that i want him to go further? tell me if im doing anything wrong.. or if i should be doing something..
thanks..
Well I think in your position YOU have to take the step further. If you know that he really cares about you, and you really care about him, YOU should talk to him. Ask him where you guys stand, tell him you want to be with him and ask him what is holding you back. Yeah it'll probably be hard to just come out and talk to him about it but it will be worth it. You will find out more about whats happening with both of you, and you wont be wondering anymore. Its obvious that you already waited a while for things to happen, and since he isnt doing anything about it you should. Trust me this WILL work, your not doing anything wrong i think you are just both too shy to talk about you guys as a couple. I asked my bf out and I took the next step all the time, now me and him have been dating for 4 months. You cant go wrong with my advice, even if something is stoping him from goin out with you, YOU will find out and you wont be wondering anymore. All i have to say is do not be afraid of rejection, if you are determined to ask him about stuff you will, just remember that in the long run, only GOOD will come out of you asking him.
Good Luck...
im 15f. im falling for my best friend; weve known each other for 4 years; hes 16m
i dont knoe if he feels the same way about me n im to scared to let him no how i feel
lately hes been saying really sexual things 2 me and he wants to have sex with me; i told him maybe but im not sure
we never hang out n person becuas im always busy so we only talk on comp
do you think he just wants 2 be friends with benefits and thats all nothing more? n do you think i shuld jus give in n have sex with him if thats all hes lookin 4?
I think that hes just being a flirt and yeah....he just wants be friends with benifits. When your on the computer its really easy to just say things you dont mean...and you are buying every word he says, well atleast not if he were a good guy. He just wants to use you and isnt serious, maybe hes joking since you say that you are "best friends" he doesnt know you care about him. Point is you should not give in, and even if you guys do hook up, dont have sex with him untill your sure he isnt using you and always remember things he may of said that would make it obvious that he IS using you. Dont let him get to you, but personally i think he may just be joking since it IS online, why dont you guys go out for a change you'll be able to see if he acts differently or the same.