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I broke up with my boyfriend of two years this past beginning of summer though we were together my sophomore, junior, and senior year with a small breakup in between. When we broke up I handled it very maturely and nicely - more than I should have been but I wanted to leave it on good terms because I genuinely care about him as a person and I told him that and explained everything for why I felt as I did. The main reason I did this was because I didn't want to leave something out in this way or handle it with anger that would make me want to reach out and get "closure." I've already realized that's pointless and stupid. So we talked it through and he was hysterical and so upset but I still went through with it because I know he's not right for me and he didn't treat me right and I deserve better. We havent seen each other since amazingly even though we live in the same town very close and go to school together. I reached out to him once for his bday which was four and half months later just to say happy birthday and hope youre doing well. Since then I hadn't talked to him and I could tell from his response that he missed me and still cared. That was the first and only time I've ever reached out to him because I went cold turkey which I don't regret. I heard from him two months later for Christmas which I was very surprised about and then the following month for my birthday which I woke up to a text from him. He repeatedly said hope your doing well, i'll always be here if you need me, hopefully i'll speak to you again, i'll see you when I see you, and if you ever need to talk and I know him too well that this is his way of saying I miss you and I want you back but is too scared to say it because I dumped him. Not that any of this matters because I do NOT want to get back with him at all i've moved and am happy. But I wonder is it so weird to ask to meet up for coffee and just chat? I mean he was a big part of my life for so long and my best friend. Not about the past or anything I dont need any answers about anything Ive come to terms with it all but I still genuinely care about him as a person. I dont want to be friends cause I know that would give him the wrong impression. Is it unrealistic to catch up with an ex? I've been having this thought of catching up just for the hell of it for like ever. Should I just forget about it? I know he would say yes but im not sure if it would do more harm than good... I dont love him anymore but I still care and I know he does too maybe more than me. Is it dumb to ask to meet up for coffee after so long or no? (link)
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You shouldn't meet up with your ex. For the sake of your own and his own well being. Friendship isn't an option, you'll hurt him in the process, and it is very difficult to care about someone, yet treat them like an acquaintance. Five years from now, he'll be a distant memory and you'll be glad you ended that chapter. No more texts or communication that keep the door open for hope. Keep the can of worms closed.
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I have been with my husband for 19 years. I'm 35. We have two kids (5&9). He is a great guy, wonderful father and tries his best to treat me well. The truth is, I have lost all the fire with him for the past 5 years. I don't think we would be together if it wasn't for our kids. We have grown apart. I do not want to be intimate with him at all. He doesn't feel the same way. We are two different people. Here us a twist: a guy who I have always called "the one who got away" has randomly appeared in my life! I'm ignoring the fact that his makes me FEEL SOMETHING again to try to address what to do with my marriage. Um losing sleep, I'm completely ridden with anxiety all the time about what divorce would mean for my kids. (link)
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I'm answering in order to affirm the responses of the other wonderful advice givers on this column. You have a great guy who treats you well, and is a great father by your own profession- don't divorce him. That in its own right is worth fighting for, even without children. The well being of your children is simply an important aside. Divorce will negatively impact your children.
Love and marriage are an interesting thing. Sometimes, you won't always feel in love with your spouse, but you still love your spouse. Are you still friends with your spouse? If not, work on that. Try new things together. Make it a point to have fun together. Go on dates, and make an effort for him, like new couples do. Treating an old relationship like a new relationship can bring out what you fell in love with in your spouse.
Communicate your feelings to your spouse. Sharing can help promote emotional intimacy, which helps women with sexual intimacy. From there you both can figure out what you both can do to improve the relationship. If he brushes it off because he feels happy, get outside help. Further emphasize how unhappy you feel. Don't threaten "I'm one step away from leaving you for a former flame," but let him know that the spark is lost, and that you truly do need some form of an intervention to feel happy in the marriage. Find a marriage therapist or a sex therapist if you need to. Warm him up to the idea by telling him that it isn't a permanent fixture, but that it would be nice if you both could commit to the process for a few months. Often, once noted improvement is seen, a reluctant spouse will grow to see the value of the intervention.
You were rather young when you met your husband, so I'm not sure you had many, or any serious prior relationships. When break ups happen, it becomes easy to remember all the wonderful things about the person. Then you start wondering why you broke up, you miss them- it is tumultuous. The one who got away is a distraction. Honestly search yourself to see if you would risk dissolving your household if there were no potential prospects around. You may be curious, but don't learn pain unnecessarily by experience. Marriage is a commitment- for better or for worse. Marriage wasn't invented to make you happy 100% of the time. You will feel a lot of regret if you take an axe to a good thing. When you see couples that have been married for 40-50 years, it's not because they didn't have rough patches. The grass is greener where you water it.
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Today my boyfriend hit me, and not just once, and not consecutively...but each blow came from a burst of anger Coming out alongside aggressive words. Right to my head. Now I will say he held back (he is much bigger and if he really wanted to do damage he could have done much more). We have a long history. We dated before. He is the first real romantic partner I had who I was head over heels for. I still am. I'm totally hopelessly in love with a maniac. So the first go around we broke up because we both did not communicate our feelings well and he was also very jealous and possessive and there were problems with substance abuse. He is also or was diagnoses with Being bi polar. I take this seriously, and unfortunately I'm very patient and overly understanding. We spent three years apart...we both are still in love...circumstance reunited us and I have been so happy. I could tell he was making a real effort to change. He does small things to show me he Cares, he really listens when I talk, he has patience now...no more fits of jealousy. We typically avoid alcohol, because it is not good for either of us. Occasionally we have a couple beers...today maybe we had one too many. I didnt do anything to anger him (even if I did I know that's not an okay response).
As you can imagine I am very confused now. He also left me stranded in the dark in a place im not familiar with! In fact another man in his car pulled up and asked me if I wanted to make some money. Sick.
So we have also been going through nicotine withdrawal and that is no joke either ! Once he acted out....it got worse, I think he WAs so shocked and embarrassed that he RAN with it and it escalated from there..
I am feeling pathetic because I do not want it to end and yet I know how bad that was and how this does not sound good...and in most cases these things not only continue but get worse. But I strongly believe we can make things work in a healthy way and that this was due to alcohol and nicotine withdrawal. We have the same views and life goals, and I really love everything...but he hit me in the head and he feels like he is a threat to me. He did research and is now seing the abusive traits in his personality.
If we continue I will remember to tale alcohol more seriously and avoid drinking with him.
Feedback on getting help or moving forward?
He has also always had a temper ...one time I was at his house and he kicked in a table after fighting with his parents, but I've never seen him hit his mom..
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We have been traveling together for a month, car camping and backpacking. (link)
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This man does not love you. That is the most important thing you need to understand from this comment. He does not love you. He does not respect you. There is a man out there who will love you. He will have similar life goals and plans. And he will never hit you. He won't be prone to anger. You need to get to the root of why you don't love YOURSELF enough to believe this. You love this man, who I repeat, DOES NOT love you, more than you love yourself. Don't make any more excuses for him. He is an abuser.
I speak to many women like you, and I can assure you your feelings are normal. Unhealthy, but normal. You need to make a decision and stick to it. As you can assume, the best answer in this situation is to break up with this man and get a safe distance away from him. Easier said than done in these situations, but 100% worth doing. Better to do it now (when prayerfully, you don't have kids with him). I am optimistic that you will heed good counsel the first time around.
Some things to keep you safe. Consider pressing charges. Call the police so there is a record. Even if you don't break up with him, (which you should, as soon as safely possible) a record will be available so that when you decide to seek protective services if you choose to leave further in the future, you can get that help immediately.
Consider getting a restraining order against him. This again will show protective officers that you have a reason to be afraid of him, so that in the event that later on down the line, that you may need greater protective measures, they will help you.
Finally, if you and your boyfriend live together, get a police escort to help you move out your things (once you secure a safe alternative accommodation). There are many places that will be glad to help you, near you. Many churches will happily take you in. Do an incognito google search for help in intimate partner violence situations.
Tell one person you trust what happened. At the very least, tell one person that your boyfriend isn't the nicest guy. They can even live across the country from you, if you don't want to risk them ruining your relationship (that I'll repeat, needs to end, preferably as soon as it can be done safely). I say this in the terrifying event that he did something worse than what has already happened- that individual may be the only person who can help you. Also, make an emergency kit- it can be an emergency purse. Something you can grab and go with in a hurry if it ever became necessary. It can have a blanket and some cash and a list of important numbers you could call in the event you need to flee without grabbing everything you need.
If I were in your shoes, I would break up with him tomorrow. I would tell a friend I was going to break up with him and where I was going to do it (I would pick a public place). I would block him off of everything, and change my number. I would also move as soon as possible, and proceed to get police protection. Finally, I would seek out therapy in order to learn how to properly grieve the loss (because losing a relationship, even with an abuser, is a loss). Therapy will help you navigate these changes in your life, in addition to helping you discover and address the root of why you don't love yourself as much as an intelligent, beautiful, worthy woman like yourself should.
National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233
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what does it mean when your ex has a girlfriend but wants to kiss yoi in the bathroom.he told me he doesn't care if she breaks up with him. (link)
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It means he's a jerk and there's a good reason he's your ex. It also means if you get back with him he'll be trying to cheat on you with other girls. Ignore his advances.
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Well, I'm his first girlfriend ( I'm 14 he is 15, dating for one month) so obviously he's quite unsure and a bit cautious. I really want him to loosen up and feel more open with me. He is also very proud because I am above his league, so he's bragging to his friends which is a bit immature and they tell me it annoys them. What should I do? (link)
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You guys are young and haven't been going out for too long. Give it time, he's nervous because your above his leauge, he doesn't want to be lame in front of you. Tell him very nicely that you guys are equals, that you like him as much as he likes you, so there's no need for him to rant to all his friends. After all you don't want his friends in u guy's buisness later you know? And he will probably understand that. After doing so, if his friends come up to you, say that you've talked to him and now it's their turn. Dudes can tell eachother to shut up and its no big deal uno? Good luck =D
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so my long distance boyfriend broke up with me today.
i kinda saw it coming becuase he wanted a "break" three days ago and didn't talk to me for those three days
but I guess I was expecting him to come back to me like every other time.
im in love with him and I'm completing heart broken.
he wasn't a bad breakup at all actually.
he told me he just couldn't deal with the distance and its just too hard for him right now and he can't do it.
i asked him if we could still be friends and he said that he was hoping we can be, so I'm happy about that. but I just wish we were still together
our distance isn't far at all though if you really think about it. its about 6 hours away at the most. and every weekend if we both drove 3 hours we could make it work.
but he always chose everyone else before me. it felt like everything was more important then me. but he always insists he loves me more and all that.
i understand his decision and I respect him for that but I don't understad why he decided after 6 months this isn't going to work out?
also I asked him if we would ever be together again and he said maybe idk. but I believe that he just said that to be nice.
also I told him to just talk to me whenever he wants to then ( as friends) and he said ok bye.
i really want to say something that would maybe make him change his mind. but a part of me doesn't want to contact him at all. I want to wait and see if we trys talking to me first.
what should I do. or say to him if I decide to talk to him? (link)
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Please don't bother trying to talk to him too much. He's not that into you. "Can we be together in the future, IDK" Thats not a good answer at all. Move on, if he really loves you like he said, he wouldn't have broken up with you. He puts others before you, be happy you didn't waste more than 6 months on him. You guys are long distance already and he needs a break, that makes no sense. You try to call him, he doesn't answer, he won't talk to you- he probably thinks your clingy and he's saying "WE'RE OVER" as "nicely" as he can without hurting you, which has failed. I've read 3 of your posts, and I know it's hard but you'll get over him someday.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We are as different as night and day, physically and mentally (our life views/values are SO off!). When we first met, I did not shave my armpits or legs and had a head full of dreads. I did not wear make-up and wore my own style of clothes. He fell in love with me anyway. Its weird because he really is a hippie-hater and can't stand my friends or random "hippies" on the street. His past girlfriends have been girly girls dressed in pink, make-up, and designer clothes. beautiful girls..but in my opinion fake. Well anyway, in the past few years I have shaved my arm-pits and my vaginal area...wear a tad bit of make-up occasionally, and have been cutting dreads out and combing them out (I'm down to 3 real ones left) By the way, I havent done all this for him...I think I'm just growing up or moving out of that stage in life. My views on life havent changed though, just my appearence. Anyway, my question is, if he has loved me for who I am for this long, do you think he will like it more if I conform fully? or if I stay the way I am which is a combination of what I was then and what I am now (physically). also any feedback on why a "hippie hater" would fall in love with a "hippie" that would be great. thanks (link)
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I doubt he will like you more if you changed, seeing as that his ex girlfriends were girly, and of course, they are no more =D. He shouldn't like you less though, he's been with you for about 3 years, he definetly likes you for you, because trust me, in America, boys aren't so accepting of the hairy kind, and boys talk, so he loves you for you, and you can change or stay the way you were, or be both and it shouldn't make a difference. It may be a pleasant surprise to see you without dreads, he may like it better on you, and maybe he thought he liked your dreads but he likes your natural hair better. He learned to like a hippie despite the differences, so be who you are! That's what you were before, and as time goes on people change, and whatver you are, be it, because I can tell, you're with a great guy, he'll love you all the same. Love grows anyways, so as he changes and you do, he'll love you more.
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okay i met this guy 10 days ago and hes cute,nice and quiet guy i thought he was cute and he was walking on the hallway so 1st time i tried talk to him by saying i saw him on myspace and after that we started talking and he dropped me off to my class, and after that we keep saying hi to eachother and we began hugging and poking eacother on the stomach and now he hugs me really tight and sometimes when he hugs me he puts my head on his chest when we see eachother and he pokes me on the stomach and stuff and he started hangout with me and my friends and when i sit somewhere else he says"sit here" next to him and he was trying to hold my hand by asking whos hand is bigger. and i like him too but the thing is do you think we're going too fast? because i just met him 10days ago and now we're hugging so tight and stuff am i being easy too? what do you think about this question? and do you think he likes me?
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I think hes definetly interested in you. Your not being easy at all in my opinion. Being easy is like if you met him 10 days ago and you guys are having sex but your not even dating. If things keep going the way they are I think your relationship will be great and you'll have a ton of fun together.
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I am a 16 year old female. I like a guy who is 21. What do I do? I've been told he likes me too. But thats a big age difference. (link)
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Right now its a big age difference. Later it wont be. My aunt and uncle are 12 years apart! See how things go with this guy if he likes you. Dont do anything real serious tho, if he respects boudaries, hes a keeper. If things last untill your 18, knock urself out and have fun!
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Ok. I am going to use real names because I don't feel the need to hide this.
I have a friend Taylor. We have been good friends for a while. I also have a best friend Dave.
Dave and Taylor were together, but not going out. They really liked eachother, understandable right?
Taylor "broke up" with Dave, then hated him for the last 4 months. For no reason at all, just wouldn't talk to him and made fun on him constantly. Dave hurt for a while, but finally got over it.
Dave and I have been extremely close ever since we met. Dave and I now are kind of, as you can say, together.
Ever since Dave and I have been together, Taylor has been trying to talk to Dave again, and asks me ridiculous questions about me and him and what we do. She said that him her and can only be enemies, or lovers. So what does that mean? If she is trying to talk to him, that might mean she wants to be lovers with him.
She insists she is over him and does not want him, but why is she constantly asking me about it? And flipping out on me about him. I think she still has feelings for him, which is understandable. But she has hated him for 4 months, and Dave would try to talk to her, but she was just such a BITCH to him that he got over her.
It's not my fault me and him like eachother, we cannot control feelings. I understand where she is coming from because it is her ex, but still, they are over, and she knows it.
I don't know what to do. I do not what to loose either of them. Taylor is just being very immature about this and said she might as well go hook up with my ex boyfriend Justin, so I would know how it felt.
Dave and I have been through A LOT together. Like, a mad amount of stupid shit we have done and gotten in trouble for. Taylor seems like it is right to bring those mistakes up to make me sound like a bad person.
I tried talking to her so many times.
Now I am thinking I should just end it wtih Dave so this whole thing would stop, no matter how much I don't want to.
Someone please help me, I really don't know what to do. (link)
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DON'T LET THINGS GO WITH DAVE. Don't punish him for his stupid ex-girlfriend. Taylor is very jealous of you two and she wants him back, or else she just wants him to be alone so nobody can have him and he'll be sad and still pining after her. She is a very stupid person and I would give her a piece of my mind if I were you. If you are friends with her, stop being friends with her.Tell dave to do the same. If you both have nothing to do with her shes gotta leave you alone. Pretend shes just another random person or stranger you see if you have to. Tell her its none of her buisness what you and dave do together, and dont tell her nomatter what. Avoid all contact with her after that, and if somehow you guys end up talking and shes making you seem like an evil person, spin it back on her, telling her what a good man shes lost and how she looks pathetic trying to take controll over what isnt hers. Tell her hes yours and she needs to back up. Tell her if she wanted to have him, when he wuz kissin up to her trying to be nice she coulda taken the opportuity but she wuz too stupid. Then leave her be. If she wants to take ur ex boyfriend justin tell him now, that she doesnt really like him, that shes trying to get back at you for going out with dave, but that he can do whatever he likes with her. Its her issue anyways. hes your ex and you like dave so when she realizes you arent jealous she'll leave you alone. If she ends up liking him in the end, or ends up liking some other guy she'll forget all about you and leave you alone.
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here are these to really great girls im trying to find out which one i should date, i cant choose!
i need help sooo bad
okayy #1 is Jessica
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5zm2kgl
#2 this is Haley
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5xhrxuw
which one? i dont know, im having a SUPER hard time
ALSO PLEASE TELL ME WHO IS PRETTIER I CANT TELL THAT STUFF IDK WHY BUT IM HAVING A HARD TIME pleasee help
thanks!! (link)
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JESSICA IS PRETTIER!
isnt it obvious =P
that should clear up any confusion.
If it doesnt, chose one, then if you continually find urself liking the other, choose the other
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K ill make this short. My male friend (13) says he is going to have sex with his girlfriend on Friday night. I really really tried telling him all the consequences about AIDS and Pregnancy and how young he is etc. He wont listen to me! I really care for him, and im not shure how to tell him not to have sex so he would listen to me. If anyone can help, that would be great. (link)
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Tell him how to protect himself other then tell him not to have sex. Warn him about the consequences more if he doesnt want to protect himself, then warn his girlfriend. Warn his parents if you have the guts. Otherwise forget it. People our age have sex, and at least the both of us know its not good, but in the end THEY suffer the consequences, their FAMILIES suffer the consequences, and you can say I told you, and avoid them.Who wants friends who dont listen to them anyways? The consequences arent even just physical problems, disgrace, punishment, disownment, death. Who wants friends who dont listen to them anyways?
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he cheated on me. hes with the girl he wanted and wont leave me alone and still bugs me for liking guys. hes really jealous and annoying! is it because he still cares about me and loves me?
16/f
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No not at all he just wants to have his cake and eat it too. He just has weird possesive boy issues that come with their horemones. Steer clear of this guy
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Should I kiss on the first date? (link)
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I'm gonna assume your a girl, sorry if your not.
It depends on how the date went. If the date was borring, there wasnt much to talk about and no chemistry is there, dont kiss. If he looks like he wants a kiss, like hes close to you, leaning in, give him a hug and a peck on the cheek. If the date was great kiss him if he looks like he wants to. Otherwise he should kiss you first in most cases.
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Hi! well i have a probem and i dont know what to do, i like this guy know for a really long time and i think he likes me back because he smiles down the hallway, lookes for me and snd when he finds me he smiles he sometimes goes down the same hallways as me and his frinds somwtime push him next to me and he is all cheking me out and staring at me my friends have seen him. The probelm is that i dont talk to him but it is ovious that he likes me, i want us to talk or to do something that will get us closer u nooo + he is gorgeous and nice i realllly like him and i dont know what to do know my friends say we should go out but i dont know what to say or how ot talk to him so that we will be frineds or get to know each other
i am really confused and i need to know what i should do (link)
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Do you have any classes with him? Do you have the same lunch shift? If so, find a seat as close to him as possible, and ask him questions, borrow his stuff, and flirt with him through class. If you have the same lunch shift, find a table, or a seat and your regular table that you can veiw him, see when he gets up and go where hes going. Talk to him in line. If you can't do any of these, smile back in the hallways. If you have dances,during a fast song, get near him and look him in the eye, and start dancing with him. For a slow song, be around him, if he doesnt ask, or he sits down, ask him. No dances, get your friends and his friends to talk, and if they both have an understanding-you like him and he likes you, they'll definetly tell your crush, and he should step up. If he doesn't talk to him whenever you see him, or slip him a note in the hallway saying anything you want him to know. Some ideas are
-how you think he likes you
-how you like him back
-how you wanna go out with him
-talk to me later about this
but those are just ideas its all up to you. Good luck!
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Well, theres this guy at school, and he's a total geek. He flirts so much with everyone though, and I think I like him. It's so weird! How do I tell if I like him... And how do I tell him I like him? He has all these friends that are girls, and they're really good. I'm in a three-some with him and another girl, and we pass notes in history, but when I came back from my grandma's funeral, they all changed. The girl in my three-some seems so sad, and in her profile it says that she says she's fine but inside she's hurting. She's friends with this guy who they look good together, and she only acts serious to me. And that asian guy who looks good together with her (they're both asians) asked me out (the white girl). Is this a reason for her being so serious?
HOW MUCH DO I MISS OUT WHEN I GO TO ONE FUNERAL...
Also, totally irrelevant... Have you ever lost someone close to you??? Well, if you have is it healthy to not cry? (link)
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Pass him a note that states your feelings for him.
She may have liked the azn boy and he likes you. Now shes your friend and she doesnt wanna be mad at you, so the other emotions will be sadness, seriousness, or she'll ignore you. talk to her.
Now I have, and I'd cry, thing is in general im not a sensitive person so I wont want to cry, but I would afterwards and I feel a bit better. After you've cried alot it feels good to stop
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My ex. boyfriend is getting married in 3 weeks...what do I do? I still have feelings for him but i do not know how to tell him. And i think this is a really bad time to tell him how i feel. But if i dont tell him, i know ill regret it for the rest of my life. And to top it off, he invited to the wedding because he considers me a great friend.What do i do? (link)
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WHATEVER YOU DO DONT RUIN THE WEDDING BY PROTESTING THEM BEING WED WHEN THE PASTOR ASKS "If anyone knows a reason why these two shouldnt be wed" he'll hate you for it, you may get kicked out of the wedding, and even if he likes you back, its way too extreme, feelings will be hurt, and many people will dislike you. I dont even know why weddings even ask that stupid question for many reasons but thats not the point..
YOU MUST SPEAK TO HIM SOON!
You guys are great friends in his head, so he obviously wants you to stay around for support. Im not positive, but to him you may be the friend he'll go to for advice, even about marital issues, so when you talk to him about how you feel for him, you have to make sure you say something along the lines of "even though our relationship hasnt been the way i've wanted it to be, im still here for u, as a friend" and mention something on how ur emotions will never get too out of wack that i'll think of sabatoging your marraige in any way. That way both of you can have full understanding of eachother. It may also be a good idea to be friendly with his wife, if you dont want to be friends with his wife. Btw, you never identified whether your a man or a woman, but i'm assuming your a woman, so please dont take offence if your not. I've had bad experiences with that issue. Good luck!
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well my bf is getting locked up for something he didnt do should i wait for him or find some one new? (link)
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Depends on how long the sentence is, and seeing as the court made a mistake in who to lock up, this crime must not be that bad, meaning the sentence isnt that long, so you should wait for him.
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We'll i have been going out with this girl britney for about four months, but we have been talking for a little over three years. We'll me and her dad ahve become great friends and talk, and sometimes we even hang out with out britney there. Just chill like some sweet ass dude's. lol, we are cool. We'll i have only seen her mom a few times because she is a nurse and is barely ever home. she seems kind of ignorant, but yeah. and we'll personally i think she hates my guts!! when i'm there and she comes home she never says hi or anything to me she just ignores me. sometimes i try to make conversation and stuff,but i just keep thinking she hates me!! what do i do? (link)
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Umm, first i wouldnt call her ignorant. Nobody likes to be insulted, and if she knows you say bad things about her i wouldnt blame her for not liking you.You do know that means she doesnt know something, but a nurse cant be uninformed. Just because she ignores you doesnt mean shes ignorant. Try asking Britney, because if her mom doesnt like you she will surely tell Britney. If she doesnt like you, then you need to talk to her about why. If its a good reason, compromise but if the reason is unreasonable, ignore her.
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hey, I'm 14 years old and i really really realllllly like this boy i met this year at my new highschool. He's super nice and sweet and funny, but rather shy and softspoken if he doesn't really know you. But we've gotten to know eachother over the past 2 months and we are now friends. Recntly it seems to me as if he is prehaps showing some signs he likes me. We have 4 classes together one after the other so often we walk with eachother to our next class and he jokes with me the whole way. Also, i've caught him staring at me a few times, but whenever i catch him or he catches me we hold eachothers gaze for a few seconds before continuing what we were doing. I smile and laugh alot when he's around and he smiles when i talk to him and we always joke with eachother. But besides from school, we don't really hang out much or talk out of school, unless its a school function like a dance which we've had one and he said hi to me and we talked for a few brief moments. I don't ask much, but when i do ask he does favors for me and i do favors for him if he ever asks ( which he doesn't that often)
Now we talk comfortably in school quite often, but does he like me back? thanks for your help.
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I think he likes you, but to be sure you have to see how he acts around other girls. If you feel a bit more special in comparison then you can be sure. Maybe ask him out or dance with him at a dance and see how he reacts.
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